CloneX:
Stick to the second girl. But what goes around comes around. . . The second girl will also leave you for someone else.

That's the golden rule: Do to others what you want done to yourself.

KashyBaby:
they said tat if u have to choose between the first girl & the 2nd girl, u have to choose the 2nd girl…coz if u truly LOVE d 1st one, u will not think twice to find another one no matter wat...

Mannylex:


I think that's just a normal saying, but in this case it doesn't hold water, coz am very sure I love both, if not I won't be confused.



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Mannylex:


I think that's just a normal saying, but in this case it doesn't hold water, coz am very sure I love both, if not I won't be confused.



Have no fear; Mannylex is here

Mannylex:
Dated this girl for 4 years , while at the university. I am based in lag, while she in Abuja. After I graduated it basically became a long distance stuff, she just graduated last year. But the issue is this year. I fell in love with someone else who is quite younger but at same time love my girlfriend of 4 years. I and this new girl have been dating for close to a month now(though I have known her for 4 months) ... I don't wanna double date, so I made both aware of each other. my Girlfriend as expected got disappointed, mad, deleted everything about me while the new girl asked me to be sure of what I want , though she does stuff to make me stick with her. In the course of my 4 years, I have come across other ladies but none has ever given me course to doubt my relationship like this new girl has. I love both, but I need 1. Help!

Sorry for the long epistle, but am confused and need neutral and mature advice. Don't wanna make a mistake. Thanks





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KashyBaby:


this is not juz a normal saying, this was been proved many times of the 2 timers…in ur case, maybe ur juz scared to lose one of them? i dnt think u really love both of them as in deeply,madly,crazy in love...

Idowuogbo:
She gave you 4 fecking years and you are already in love with ya new azz? Boy, you craaaaaaazy.

realdee44:
the truth is you don't any of them. If you love your 1st girl, u will never think of having the 2nd one & if u love the 2nd, you won't deer say u still love the 1st. You are just being greedy.

Yes I no they say its men's nature to cheat but your case if far more than just cheating.

My advice, decide within two daays who u want to keep & who u want to let go, be very sure of your dicision & let them both no who u are letting go.

What hurts the most about break up is not the break up itself but its when the idiot choose to come back.as for me once u are an ex u remain an ex forever no 2nd chance for ex.

Mannylex:




Sweetheart, it's not about cheating or been greedy. If I was I would keep both and say nothing to any of them. I stopped double dating and don't wanna go back to that, else would have done that. Don't wanna waste the time of any of them, so I won't classify myself as been greedy or a cheat.





Have no fear; Mannylex is here

Mannylex:
Dated this girl for 4 years , while at the university. I am based in lag, while she in Abuja. After I graduated it basically became a long distance stuff, she just graduated last year. But the issue is this year. I fell in love with someone else who is quite younger but at same time love my girlfriend of 4 years. I and this new girl have been dating for close to a month now(though I have known her for 4 months) ... I don't wanna double date, so I made both aware of each other. my Girlfriend as expected got disappointed, mad, deleted everything about me while the new girl asked me to be sure of what I want , though she does stuff to make me stick with her. In the course of my 4 years, I have come across other ladies but none has ever given me course to doubt my relationship like this new girl has. I love both, but I need 1. Help!

Sorry for the long epistle, but am confused and need neutral and mature advice. Don't wanna make a mistake. Thanks





Have no fear; Mannylex is here

CloneX:
Stick to the second girl. But what goes around comes around. . . The second girl will also leave you for someone else.

That's the golden rule: Do to others what you want done to yourself.

KashyBaby:


this is not juz a normal saying, this was been proved many times of the 2 timers…in ur case, maybe ur juz scared to lose one of them? i dnt think u really love both of them as in deeply,madly,crazy in love...

kolawaxxy:

sexkillz! welcome back bro

KashyBaby:
they said tat if u have to choose between the first girl & the 2nd girl, u have to choose the 2nd girl…coz if u truly LOVE d 1st one, u will not think twice to find another one no matter wat...

Mannylex:



I ain't scared of loosing any. I don't need to be madly in love to prove my point. But I sure know am in love with both, though with the emergence of this new girl the love for my 4 years gf has reduced(which hasn't happeened before) but it's still there. And at this stage, I want to pick one that I would go all the way with, making the decision on which is the issue I face now.





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samtol4:
He dated someone for 4solid years and just met another lady few months and he claimed he love both?he can't love two women at a time .Either you lust after one and love the other .I caught him he said the 2nd one is younger that is the reason bro.After 4years of having sex with her he is tired of her and want to "feel" the new babe .You re not confused bro but in discipline

Dotwillis1:
why do you think he should stick to the second girl?

kolawaxxy:

sexkillz! welcome back bro

CloneX:
I'm not him.

Blackett:
I'm amazed at how OP keeps saying have no fear, mannylex is here.

Dude, no one gives a fvck where mannylex is! As far as we are concerned, you're lost and seeking solution. . . You are confused and need help.

Have no fear, we are here to find you. . .

Mannylex is here, my ass.

CloneX:
He has made up his mind already. If he wanted the first girl, nothing the 2nd girl will do will impress him. He's using the word "love" for the second. Do you know how strong that word is?

The 1st girl maybe alright quite alright, but OP had been exercising some doubts about her. This second girl is the option he finally needs to push the first away. In order not to feel like the bad guy, he told both of them of each other, knowing fully well that the first girl will react more negatively, and knowing that, should the first girl decide to go, he already has a replacement, and he won't miss her.

He's playing a game and if he's not careful, he'll lose them both. The first girl is feeling very hurt and betrayed right now. You don't give 4 years of your life to one person, being faithful and all that, only to be told there's another woman. No one would accept that. Right now, if he goes back to the first girl, things will never be the same. He'll keep thinking of what would have been with the second girl. The first girl won't trust him no more either.

Coming to the second girl, the knowledge that he had to end a 4 year relationship because of her gives her an advantage over him. He'll be her mugu because he won't want to lose her as well, so he'll do everything to keep her. The girl will use that fact against him and will try to see if other guys out there will offer her better.

The mistake he made is telling the 2 ladies about each other. But It has happened. He has a higher percentage of ending up with the second girl. The emotions are young and still very new. The momentum might carry them far, but if I were him, I'm not putting my all my eggs in her basket.