greatestboss:

Dont mind the fool... laughingop anoda person matter??
That guy needs change... Am quite sure he's a pdp member

.Sure he needs it.

You and Madame should ensure you see a gynecologist ASAP. Don't waste your time going to all those stupid deliverance sessions as advised by some here they will only worsen your wife's case by filling you guys with enough NEGATIVITY through dumb stories about spirits e.t.c You and your wife need all the positives you can get.

prayers,faith,believe,hold on tight,there is nothing the almighty cannot do,

Ruthiegeorge:
I Ǻ♍ a licenced nurse nd presently in midwifery programme in Abia state university. Pls tell ur wife to go for rhesus factor test. If she is rhesus negative then she needs to take a drug called.Rogam. Its sold for like 18k or more. I don't know if its the trade name of the drug but that's what she needs.

Imagine, nurses and their educated ignorance. Seee how she is confidently giving dumb information. Rubbish!!!

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

I am so sorry to hear of your misfortune. You are not alone I am sure. I am not a gynecologist, but I did have brief training in it.

There are a number of factors that could be contributing to recurrent pregnancy loss. You need to go to a fertility specialist or just a plain gynecologist and get a thorough workup. Factors range from hormonal imbalance, anatomic/structural, autoimmune. About 40% of all recurrent fetal loss are idiopathic or unknown. So, there might never be a medical solution for you. In this case, pray and wait. OR just try adopting or try surrogacy.

Have you heard of lupus anticoagulant? Antiphospholipid syndrome? Anticardiolipn? Just go and see reproductive specialist (or perhaps a GP): your doctor needs to get a thorough history from you wife and perform workup/exam/lab evaluation for her.

Best wishes. I say keep trying and believing though, albeit the cycle of pain is something else.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

Visit the SCOAN, Lagos.

worriedhusband:


Thanks pweetixcandy. we have been seeing different doctors but they seem not to understand what is going on. they always suggest Progestrone which she has been taking but no result yet.

even doctocrs seem not to understand what is going on, u said (nothing fetish)




hmmmmn.....

Prayer is d way out op. Ur challenges might not defer 2 medical solution but it ll yield 2 fervent prayer of deliverance. Its well with you, dont be discouraged.

prayers,faith,believe,works wonders,may the lord give u the strength to hold on tight,tho not easy..

@worried husband,buy enough megabytes.
U and ur wife should go tru from page one to the last of trying to conceive thread here.
There r cases like urs there and how they were treated and by whom.

Also,i suggest u give it a break for like 2yrs.
Let her body heal properly.

There is nothing spiritual about this abeg.
With competent hands u r good to go but first,stop trying.

Most people advocate allowing miscarriage to flow normal than evacuation cos some of our health professionals have rendered some women barren thru unhealthy evacuation.
There r things one take to induce labour and after that,go to hospital for proper antibiotics and scan. That way,u r sure d womb is not tampered with.
All d best.

Where men fail is where God steps in to claim the Glory!
Sir, I'm touched by our story!
I want to tell you convincingly that its God that can solve this issue!
Where I served in Benue State; ♍γ̲̣̣ pastor shared his testimony of how his wife was diagnosed of having masculine hormones and as such cannot take in!
As a man of faith that he is, he knew twas Gods battle and handed it over to Him!
By the grace of God, to cut the long story short, I attended the baby dedication in Edo State!
Sir, hand it over to God! Its high time you st0p worrying.....!
I can give you the pastors number to speak to him over the fone and arrange a meeting with him if need be!
I'm Seeing you testify in due time!

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

bluedaze:

Imagine, nurses and their educated ignorance. Seee hiw she is confidently giving dumb information. Rubbish!!!

Shes's saying the truth. The wife's rhesus needs to be checked. if she's negative and the husband is positive, it can lead to the problem they are currently having.
Also Op ur wife's immunity needs to be checked. its possible she has Natural Killer cells and other immunity issues. A simple drug like prednisolone of N900 takes care of it but it needs to be ascertain that its part of the root cause. Also blood thinners like aspirin works wonders with early pregnancy up to 12weeks hence most IVF Drs use it during routine IVF procedure. Read more on the TTC group and IVF group.
Secondly when your wife takes in again try to see a fertility expert, they are very good in managing early pregnancies. The fact that your wife can get pregnant on her own means half of your problem is solved. The only issue is managing the pregnancy and with a good Fertility Dr who can check her immunity, rhesus factor and adding aspirin to her protocol in addition to progesterone injection you should achieve results this time around. All the best. Above all pray.

OP I feel your pains and agony. I will say that you seek the face of God diligently.

Medically, I advise you see a better Gynea and a fertility expert. Some of the doctors we have around don't know their work, all they are after is money. I heard a story of a lady who had this same issue and there was a hospital where she was admitted somewhere in Ibadan, I was told she was admitted for months as the doctors were monitoring the baby's growth, to cut long story short she is a happy mother today. You can ask and make more inquiries about this. I will also get in contact with the person who told me the story about the name and location of the hospital and keep you abreast. Once again you must visit fertility experts and hospitals for proper treatment.
Be positive and everything will fall into place.

Op try and take your wife to a teaching hospital so that she can be properly examined because that was were I got my medication

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Sorry to hear about this. You might want to read about mitochondria disease.

As others have said focus on Jesus the greatest physician, you also need to look at the issue of Rhesus compatibility for examples if you are A+ and she is A- she will need to take an injection called D'rogam failure to take the injection by women with Negative Rhesus may lead to such issues and having deformed babies

Op,
It is well. Take heart.

Has either of you by any chance taken any vaccinations in the past 3years?
If so this may be your problem. Avoid taking any medication including malaria meds unless it is absolutely necessary.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

Blendy77:


Shes's saying the truth. The wife's rhesus needs to be checked. if she's negative and the husband is positive, it can lead to the problem they are currently having.
Also Op ur wife's immunity needs to be checked. its possible she has Natural Killer cells and other immunity issues. A simple drug like prednisolone of N900 takes care of it but it needs to be ascertain that its part of the root cause. Also blood thinners like aspirin works wonders with early pregnancy up to 12weeks hence most IVF Drs use it during routine IVF procedure. Read more on the TTC group and IVF group.
Secondly when your wife takes in again try to see a fertility expert, they are very good in managing early pregnancies. The fact that your wife can get pregnant on her own means half of your problem is solved. The only issue is managing the pregnancy and with a good Fertility Dr who can check her immunity, rhesus factor and adding aspirin to her protocol in addition to progesterone injection you should achieve results this time around. All the best. Above all pray.

she said the fact not truth..a quack wouldnt miss out Rh incompatibility..@worriedhusband u got mail sir

Ruthiegeorge:
I Ǻ♍ a licenced nurse nd presently in midwifery programme in Abia state university. Pls tell ur wife to go for rhesus factor test. If she is rhesus negative then she needs to take a drug called.Rogam. Its sold for like 18k or more. I don't know if its the trade name of the drug but that's what she needs.

Good answer. But a Rhesus negative woman pregnant by a positive male would likely lead to this kind of problem. It is unlikely she can correct her problem if the medication wasn't taken during the first delivery

But its a good place to start, by checking her Rhesus factor

worriedhusband:



Amen. If God can do it I will surely comeback here with full pictures I promise.

Oh ye man of little faith! Declare that WHEN God does it and not if!!!

EggovinMma:
Op, you are about to be a father.

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!

9jatatafo:
OP I feel your pains and agony. I will say that you seek the face of God diligently.

Medically, I advise you see a better Gynea and a fertility expert. Some of the doctors we have around don't know their work, all they are after is money. I heard a story of a lady who had this same issue and there was a hospital where she was admitted somewhere in Ibadan, I was told she was admitted for months as the doctors were monitoring the baby's growth, to cut long story short she is a happy mother today. You can ask and make more inquiries about this. I will also get in contact with the person who told me the story about the name and location of the hospital and keep you abreast. Once again you must visit fertility experts and hospitals for proper treatment.
Be positive and everything will fall into place.

Ok. Thanks I will be expecting.

pweetixandy:
I feel so sad for u....u shld go and see a good doctor,I know that there must be an underlying medical factor that's causing this thing. All I can suggest is that u see a very very good gynaecologist. My prayers are with u and wifey

kingtom

GogetterMD:

OP, sorry about your situation. The progesterone injection was given when it was suspected that the possible reason for your wife's recurrent miscarriages is corpus luteum insufficiency to produce the hormone in early pregnancy until the placenta takes over, but as you must have figured out, this isn't the scenario. I might have suspected an anatomical anomaly but it is also unlikely since you said it's being the same story in all pregnancies (small for age, absent fetal heartbeat @ 8 weeks). My take is that it is an autoimmune condition that is the problem here. You need to see a specialist in a good hospital (preferably a government tertiary hospital) where you would be seeing both an obstetrician and a rheumatologist. And pray to God for the best

@ op, of all the advice I see on this forum, this is the most informed. The problem is possibly autoimmune. See a rheumatologist.

Ruthiegeorge:
I Ǻ♍ a licenced nurse nd presently in midwifery programme in Abia state university. Pls tell ur wife to go for rhesus factor test. If she is rhesus negative then she needs to take a drug called.Rogam. Its sold for like 18k or more. I don't know if its the trad name of the drug but that's what she needs.

Be strong OP, help is on the way..the situation is very redeemable.
Forget this Rhesus factor crap as its only if your wife is Rh -ve and has given birth to Rh +ve baby or carried such baby to term before.

There are various causes of unviable pregnancies. In a layman's language, an unviable pregnancy is a pregnancy that cannot form a normal baby and will ususally abort spontaneously (itself) and so is better terminated earlier so it doesnt cause grave complications.

Your wife needs a specialist (A doctor that has specialized in obstetrics nd gynaecology) for full medical workup and she needs to be as truthful nd detailed as possible in the responses she'll be giving.

Common causes of abnormal or unviable pregnancies in this environment are herbal concotions, drugs, diseases like diabetes mellitus (v. important), molar pregnancies etc so she really needs a complete workup.

call me on 08100392181 and i will help you. its a small thing. its an infection

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

Visit a decent doctor.

Sadly not all women can safely give birth.

It's not her fault, it's not your fault - just a biological quirk.

Hello worriedhusband,
I'm so sorry about what you're going through.
Firstly prayers are the most important thing.
I'll suggest you keep on in your search for the best gynaecologist. Also you can research online yourself as sometimes, it might just be a little thing that you may both need to adjust in your lifestyle. Knowledge they say is power.
Adopt a healthy lifestyle and try not to be stressed because that's another bad factor.
If you were in lagos, would have recommended Smiths Medical @ surulere. I hope this helps.

worriedhusband:
Dear Nairalanders,

My heart is very heavy as I write this. I'm a member of this forum but I purposely created this username for this issue as I want to remain anonymous. Im not the type that discuss my problems in the public but what is happening is beyond me and I need your help.

My wife and I got married May 2012 and I was the happiest man on earth on that day. Many prayers were offered concerning our fruitfulness and not in our slightest imagination did we think that we will have problem with having children. As God will have it my wife missed her period the following month and did pregnancy test to confirm and it was positive. Our joy knew no bound. I immediately gave her “holiday” from any form of domestic activities. She immediately registered for ante-natal. She has been attending the ante-natal for about 8 weeks when the doctor decided it was time to do the ultrasound. The ultrasound was done and it was discovered that the fetus was measuring a lesser length than it should measure, 5 weeks or thereabout. Also the heart beat was not seen. The doctor said the pregnancy was not viable.

It was a very sad day for both of us but I managed to console her, we even went to another hospital to confirm but the same result was given. She later went to the hospital for evacuation of the pregnancy.

To cut the story short, we have had four other pregnancies that the fetus did not develop. The fetus will always develop to maximum of 7 weeks and stop developing. She has taken Progesterone injection so many times without any significant result. I’ve researched a little bit and the result I found was recurrent miscarriage. This has been a great concern for us and I'm always afraid whenever wifey is pregnant that the same thing will happen (what should be a thing of joy for us has now become a nightmare).

The pain she goes through at each evacuation is something that brings tears to my eyes and I sometimes wish she is not even pregnant so we will not go through the same cycle.

My fellow Nairalanders, please help us out, any medical advice or other things we can do to overcome this challenge will be appreciated. Please if you have gone through this before or have any information that can help kindly offer it, don’t just read and go on. We belief in our God and we focus on Him as the doer of all things but we need medical or any other advice (nothing fetish) that can help.

We live in the Southwest (Not Lagos).

My wife is now 30 while i'm 34 Years old.

Your post touch me, i think you should visit the SCOAN.