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My Lady Takes Me For Granted by gentle1010: 10:13am On Mar 11, 2015
I'm 29, in love and have been dating a lady of 25, we met during our NYSC, we love each other and plan to get married. The problem here is that I've not gotten a job but I've been making little money through my hard work as a technician, both in computer and electrical, I got her a small job where she earns 20k, rent house for her and still manage to give her small small money for her up keep. I give her all the natural respects a woman deserves. The problem now is that she doesn't respect me, she take me for granted, doesn't care about how I feel. If she offend me and I try to talk to her about that, she'll ignore me to the core. I'm confused, I don't know what is happening and I've built my life all around her. Please advice me on what to do
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by vjsmiles: 10:15am On Mar 11, 2015
angry
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by falconey(m): 10:15am On Mar 11, 2015
Bro she doesn't deserve you dumb her ass!!!!!

*she doesn't care about how you feel.

*she disrespect you.

Damn it!!!! Despite all the things you did for her?

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Cutehector(m): 10:16am On Mar 11, 2015
Take her to a nice restaurant, buy her a good food or u can take her somewhr nice, den later bleep her and just after, tell her to get out of ur house.

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by georgementday(m): 10:22am On Mar 11, 2015
Are u she is not seein someone else?

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 10:41am On Mar 11, 2015
gentle1010:
I'm 29, in love and have been dating a lady of 25, we met during our NYSC, we love each other and plan to get married. The problem here is that I've not gotten a job but I've been making little money through my hard work as a technician, both in computer and electrical, I got her a small job where she earns 20k, rent house for her and still manage to give her small small money for her up keep. I give her all the natural respects a woman deserves. The problem now is that she doesn't respect me, she take me for granted, doesn't care about how I feel. If she offend me and I try to talk to her about that, she'll ignore me to the core. I'm confused, I don't know what is happening and I've built my life all around her. Please advice me on what to do

No money YET. I guess that's why. grin.
Or is there something you consciously excluded from your post above, OP?

because I know a lady simply cannot start to disrespect you out of thin air. Something must have gone wrong somewhere. It's either she doesn't love you and it's her fault or you are REALLY doing something that is SERIOUSLY pissing her off.

questions for the OP:

1. Did this her disrespectful behaviour start when you newly started dating or just recently?

If Yes, then you saw the bad character but decide to ignore it. Probably that's her character.

If NO, then you need to sit her down and strike a heart-to-heart Conversation with her. Try and get her to reveal why she suddenly developed this behaviour that's giving you heartaches.

2. How do you behave around her? Do you have an habit she hates or can you recall anything that might have made her lose TOTAL respect for you?

If your habits or behaviours aren't good, then that could be the problem.
If you can remember something that could have triggered this character of hers, then definitely you've solved it too.

But I sincerely believe the best way to know what's wrong is to talk it out with her when she's obviously in a good mood.
Do this: take her out to lunch, or do something that you know normally makes her happy, and during that period of happiness you can go ahead to slowly get her to talk.

Bro, call it quit if after several attempts to get her to talk doesn't work out.

Believe me:

It's better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn't respect you.

My two cents.

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Hazardd(m): 10:42am On Mar 11, 2015
she dont value you simply because you are too much nice to her.

Am sure another guy is patrolling her.

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 10:45am On Mar 11, 2015
Cutehector:
Take her to a nice restaurant, buy her a good food or u can take her somewhr nice, den later bleep her and just after, tell her to get out of ur house.

Calm down. Calm down

grin grin
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 10:45am On Mar 11, 2015
Rape Alert 101! lipsrsealed
Cutehector:
Take her to a nice restaurant, buy her a good food or u can take her somewhr nice, den later bleep her and just after, tell her to get out of ur house.
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Cutehector(m): 10:47am On Mar 11, 2015
handsomeness:


Calm down. Calm down

grin grin
what insolence grin she chop winch? After all d guy did for her, if na me I go gang rape am. Nonsense.

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Cutehector(m): 10:48am On Mar 11, 2015
OGAofBOSS:
Rape Alert 101! lipsrsealed

quiet.

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 10:51am On Mar 11, 2015
Okay boss! lipsrsealed
Cutehector:
quiet.
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 10:54am On Mar 11, 2015
Whip some sense in her brain, show her who's boss. Am not asking you to beat her, but beat her emotionally. Love is nothing without respect.

No matter how much you love a woman don't allow disrespect.

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 11:00am On Mar 11, 2015
Cutehector:
what insolence grin she chop winch? After all d guy did for her, if na me I go gang rape am. Nonsense.
Hahahahahaha
Guy, but sincerely, do you think the girl is after the money? Abi ungrateful?
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Cutehector(m): 11:05am On Mar 11, 2015
handsomeness:

Hahahahahaha
Guy, but sincerely, do you think the girl is after the money? Abi ungrateful?
she is highly ungrateful.

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by JayKayMaybachz(m): 11:06am On Mar 11, 2015
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by CloneX: 11:10am On Mar 11, 2015
gentle1010:
I'm 29, in love and have been dating a lady of 25, we met during our NYSC, we love each other and plan to get married. The problem here is that I've not gotten a job but I've been making little money through my hard work as a technician, both in computer and electrical, I got her a small job where she earns 20k, rent house for her and still manage to give her small small money for her up keep. I give her all the natural respects a woman deserves. The problem now is that she doesn't respect me, she take me for granted, doesn't care about how I feel. If she offend me and I try to talk to her about that, she'll ignore me to the core. I'm confused, I don't know what is happening and I've built my life all around her. Please advice me on what to do
There's another man in her life who is better off than you, and now you have become a nuisance to her life. . . Start letting go. It's the only thing you owe yourself. Once a girl you are not married to starts behaving this way, it signals the end.

Brace da fuq up!

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by izaray(f): 11:29am On Mar 11, 2015
Cutehector:
Take her to a nice restaurant, buy her a good food or u can take her somewhr nice, den later bleep her and just after, tell her to get out of ur house.
Cha!!!...See advice, bros u bad oohh
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Cutehector(m): 11:34am On Mar 11, 2015
izaray:
Cha!!!...See advice, bros u bad oohh
izaray lol I no bad anythn. Enough is enough. D tin wey u girls dey do dey vex person and time don reach wey person gas teach dem lesson. I swear any babe wey try dah kyn nonsense for my side eh, say I suffer for am finish she come dey do yanga for me, she go hear ween

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 11:35am On Mar 11, 2015
Cutehector:
she is highly ungrateful.
Maybe.

Or she didn't even love the guy to begin with.
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 11:37am On Mar 11, 2015
georgementday:
Are u sure she is not seein someone else?
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 11:37am On Mar 11, 2015
Dump her ass halfway across the universe

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by izaray(f): 11:43am On Mar 11, 2015
Cutehector:
she is highly ungrateful.
Dis guy d vex, bros calm down ok, dat's woman for you. U can never predict dem, no matter how she claimed to be nice to her man. I sense she is seeing another guy somewere. Let d poster call her inorder and sought things out.
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Cutehector(m): 11:47am On Mar 11, 2015
izaray:
Dis guy d vex, bros calm down ok, dat's woman for you. U can never predict dem, no matter how she claimed to be nice to her man. I sense she is seeing another guy somewere. Let d poster call her inorder and sought things out.
calms down.....
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 11:49am On Mar 11, 2015
it may continue in marriage so run for your dear life.
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by gentle1010: 11:51am On Mar 11, 2015
rokiatu:
Whip some sense in her brain, show her who's boss. Am not asking you to beat her, but beat her emotionally. Love is nothing without respect.

No matter how much you love a woman don't allow disrespect.

Frankly speaking I excluded so many things in that post because I'm too ashamed of myself. I help her wash her clothes some times, cook for her or help her cook. That same job I got for her I back her up too, I don't let work to be much on her, I help her almost in everything, emotionally and otherwise. I pleaded with her to tell me she is tired if she is than maltreating me.
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by HIGHESTPOPORI(m): 11:57am On Mar 11, 2015
gentle1010:


Frankly speaking I excluded so many things in that post because I'm too ashamed of myself. I help her wash her clothes some times, cook for her or help her cook. That same job I got for her I back her up too, I don't let work to be much on her, I help her almost in everything, emotionally and otherwise. I pleaded with her to tell me she is tired if she is than maltreating me.
If you show a woman too much love,she would take u for granted,just ignore her a little,she would come to her senses someday!

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Nobody: 11:58am On Mar 11, 2015
gentle1010:


Frankly speaking I excluded so many things in that post because I'm too ashamed of myself. I help her wash her clothes some times, cook for her or help her cook. That same job I got for her I back her up too, I don't let work to be much on her, I help her almost in everything, emotionally and otherwise. I pleaded with her to tell me she is tired if she is than maltreating me.
I understand. Some women mistake a man's love and care for weakness. You just have to man up stand up to her. She gotta respect you or go seriously.


Here's an advice from a woman to you, never ever show a woman that without her you can't live. Love her but also show a different side of yourself to her. The part that don't tolerate bullshIiiiiiiiiiiit. ..I.


Don't let a woman ride on you like this mate, its a shame to your manhood. She should treat you the way she wants to be treated simple as that.

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Cutehector(m): 12:00pm On Mar 11, 2015
rokiatu:
I understand. Some women mistake a men's love and care for weakness. You just have to man up stand up to her. She gotta respect you or go seriously.


Here's an advice from a woman to you, never ever show a woman that without her you can't live. Love her but also show a different side of yourself to her. The part that don't tolerate bullshIiiiiiiiiiiit. ..I.


Don't let a woman ride on you like this mate, its a shame to your manhood. She should treat you the way she wants to be treated simple as that.
kiss
Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Thinkr(m): 12:07pm On Mar 11, 2015
You built ur life around her?? Wtfk does that even mean? sad OP behave urself, I know you feel "you can't live without her" that's so trashy and false, your feelings are playing games with your head. Control your emotions and see outside the butterflies around you. F^ck her off while its early... Never let your emotions take control wink

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by Thinkr(m): 12:10pm On Mar 11, 2015
gentle1010:


Frankly speaking I excluded so many things in that post because I'm too ashamed of myself. I help her wash her clothes some times, cook for her or help her cook. That same job I got for her I back her up too, I don't let work to be much on her, I help her almost in everything, emotionally and otherwise. I pleaded with her to tell me she is tired if she is than maltreating me.
aaah them don jazz you. You dey wash cloth sef. Your case is in limbo grin

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Re: My Lady Takes Me For Granted by klark3: 12:20pm On Mar 11, 2015
gentle1010:
I'm 29, in love and have been dating a lady of 25, we met during our NYSC, we love each other and plan to get married. The problem here is that I've not gotten a job but I've been making little money through my hard work as a technician, both in computer and electrical, I got her a small job where she earns 20k, rent house for her and still manage to give her small small money for her up keep. I give her all the natural respects a woman deserves. The problem now is that she doesn't respect me, she take me for granted, doesn't care about how I feel. If she offend me and I try to talk to her about that, she'll ignore me to the core. I'm confused, I don't know what is happening and I've built my life all around her. Please advice me on what to do
U're indeed a gentle man.

Bane of being a gentle man, women can use their head!

U caused d disrespect, u lavished too much love on her, d moment a girl knws that u're crazy abt her, she'll start to misbehave, it's natural, It's like giving a gun to a toddler, she can't handle it.

Is she ur first love? Have u even slept with her? does she even reciprocate d little effort u're putting into d relationship? Is like she's taking u for a weak fellow & a fool, how can u be straining urself to give her money for her upkeep, yet she does not appreciate it, when u're even jobless? My brother pls ditch her, I know it's gonna be hard, but u need to do it.

When a girl begins to get sullen at every little thing, just know u're no longer incharge, d only option is to let her go, & more importantly, if she comes back pls don't accept her again o!

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