Tobilols:

He is not a doctor

Brugo:
Chai. You are not a wife yet and you're stifling the young man like this. Let him breathe, biko!

Why should he tell you everything? Can you handle everything? If a man doesn't give you a particular information then he knows you don't need it.

He didn't tell you about his true age because he guessed what your opinion about dating age mates would be, regardless of the lofty statement you just gave us. Why must you know every detail?

Well, you have even said there's no point in staying. Oya na. Leave him alone. Give him some breathing space.

You'd better be grateful for a man like him who doesn't go about spilling his guts and depending on a lover's opinion two months into a relationship.

precisionindepth:
exactly, I Dont know t pple stress demselves over unnecessary tinz. if he Dont tell u tinz abt hs life, u too Dont tell him tinz abt urs. stop disturbing itself butmk sure u r in a defined relationship .understand wat u guys r really into so DT d story won't become " I dated him for decade and now he said he's out".

lecturerdabo:




He told U, u did not find out urself abi? Maybe he forgot really!







I'm finding difficult to understand what u mean by sleeping over does not ....! If I may ask, are they angels or the guy is castrated?

Yadoctora:


and both of them should not talk about the things that matter even in a defined relationship?

She has every reason to be worried. Anyone not interested in sharing details of their lives should not be getting into a relationship in the first place.

Zi:
Lol. Just exactly what I'm passing through now, although my relationship is older by one month

OP, I understand what you are going through, trust your instincts just like me. Every lady no matter how born-again has an emotional part and her man should fill it. If you feel he is not satisfying your emotions, "that he is not there", take a break. Don't try too hard, don't force it. if he is yours, he will come back for you. If he is not, trust me, someone better is on the way.

Don't compromise your virginity. I have no regrets. My older friends/mentors have no regrets too. Maybe he is taking advantage of your naivety so that you will succumb to him.

I am advising you based on my own experience.
The Lord is our strength

soopamom:

its obvious you lack self control. Its because of your kind that the statement "virginity is not chastity but lack of opportunity " holds water.If you cant "hold body" then your virginity is as worthless as chewed bubble gum on the sidewalk.

soopamom:

its obvious you lack self control. Its because of your kind that the statement "virginity is not chastity but lack of opportunity " holds water.If you cant "hold body" then your virginity is as worthless as chewed bubble gum on the sidewalk.

nairabetguru:



did you see her mention "I AM A VIRGIN"

precisionindepth:
ok

Yadoctora:


Why should she put herself in a vulnerable position? The wisest people avoid all temptations.

If she can hold body, can she trust the other person to do same? If she gets raped, people will ask her what she went there for.

Tobilols:

Okay, but far from what you think, the thought of marriage even scares me. I want to take my time first
I just feel he doesn't want me anymore with d way he behaves in other aspects but does not know how to say it

Zi:


Pls don't quote me again. Thank you.

Tobilols:

Okay, but far from what you think, the thought of marriage even scares me. I want to take my time first
I just feel he doesn't want me anymore with d way he behaves in other aspects but does not know how to say it

Yadoctora:


Why should she put herself in a vulnerable position? The wisest people avoid all temptations.

If she can hold body, can she trust the other person to do same? If she gets raped, people will ask her what she went there for.

lecturerdabo:


self control indeed!

the bible ask us "can a man scoop fire in his lap and not get burnt?

yes I agree with u that virginity should be a thing of chastity but must one put him/herself in harms way to prove chastity?

Anyway, tnx for the attack cos it speaks volume on self control!

soopamom:

If she cant trust the other person to then she has no fucking business being in a relationship with him.

Yadoctora:


But she has every right to stay in her father's house and not sleep in his. Has he married her? No.

But this matter is not even about trust. It is about self preservation, self-respect.

KashyBaby:
Any relationships tat sex is the foundation will not really stay for long...trust ur instincts... If this guy gave u lot of excuses, juz because u dnt wanna sleep with him, Tat is very lame,he is not worth enough for u & besides its only 2months uv been dating and he already acting up like tat.. do not try to fix this Relationship alone coz surely u will end getting hurt...U deserved a better man tat wil go down with u all d way...

soopamom:

She has every right to do whatever the Bleep she wants.
And you have the Fvcking right to quit quoting me because obviously i come from a different planet than you do, a planet where we dont measure our worth by the flimsy things that you do. Cheerio, Mr. Self Righteous Astard B.

Yungwizzzy:
See how Christian parents lead their children astray?

Zi:


Sweetie, if my boyfriend runs into your posts, he probably would think am the one writing. Lol. That's to show you the similarities in our cases
Although I think my boyfriend wants to leave me because I'm not from a rich home (mind you that I'm a parent's-sponsored student abroad) But he has probably seen Ministers' kids where he stays lives. Its not his fault sha.

Cheer up dear, it is well. Lol

chisco82:
You are kidding me, you want to know everything. His in and out just 2months?
He is still trying to know you.

Yadoctora:


I don't know you from Adam but you see the need to be so disrespectful. State your opinion and move on.

I can bet it that I am not in the same social nor economic status as you are. I can't stoop to exchanging words with you.

Do something about your character and stop assuming that our clamour against pre marital sex is an indictment on you.

I hope your baby father pays. there is nothing super about being a single mother.

Tobilols:
I have been dating him for about two months now. I have not been in a relationship for about five years, but I decided to give this relationship a try hoping it will lead to marriage. At first he seems caring and all but I noticed recently that he hardly tells me what happens in his life. I talked to him about this but his response was that I don't expect him to always tell me what always happen in his life but he said will change and that if I was living with him I will know these things. He expects him to always spend the night at his place seems we are always busy at work during the day and I refused due to my Christian beliefs. Recently, he got transfered to another branch at work but he didn't tell until almost a week later even though we talk and chat everyday. I was so weak and hurt. His excuse was that he has been so busy and preoccupied some of which were a naming ceremony with after party and wedding ceremony in another state, SMH.
My parents told me individually that they have prayed about him and he is the man God has chosen for me though they have not met him yet. But I don't want to spend the rest of my life with someone that does not carry me along with the things that happen in his life.
I suspect he behaves this way because I don't spend the night at his place and don't want to have sex until I am married.
I love him but I don't thinks he does anymore. There is no point staying in this relationship.
Your advises please.