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Freest:
It happened this morning oh, was bathing and prepping for work when i heard my dad at the top of his voice, before i knew it i heard mumsy crying, he had slapped her. Am in the same house( Haven't been able to move out yet) and i couldn't just bear my mum crying so i went to my dad to tell him what he did was not right. He is almost 60 and so is his wife, at that age you slap your wife i was trying to use the voice of reason as i was angry but kept my calm (Who wouldn't be angry seeing his/her mum cry?) before i could finish explaining and appealing to him i received from his left hand of righteousness a resounding slap... it got me confused as i didn't know what i did to deserve such. I didn't say anything harsh nor abusive. Am angry but didn't wanna return that slap nor say words I'll regret. I told him I'm moving out and he just lost a son, he replied that i wont be missed. I wanna do something he'll never forget, before i leave, please i need advice as it dented my personality even amongst my younger siblings and neighbors. I really am confused on what to do before moving out. Am so pissed now
pls sincere advice. thanks

Moral of the story?

Go make some money for yourself. How can you be in your late 20's, still be living with your parents and be whining about 'losing a son'? As far as your dad is concerned, you've moved to the 'Parasite' stage. He's probably in church now, doing dry fast to pray to God that you don't change your mind about moving out.

Freest:
please i need advice as it dented my personality even amongst my younger siblings and neighbors.

BWAHAHAHAHAHA!! 'Personality'? You're a freaking grown man in his late 20s that's still living with his daddy and mummy and you think anyone respects you in your area? you're probably the community laughing stock behind your back.

Beloved, you're such a wondewful person. For the fact that u didn't slap ur father back in anger and resorted for an advice shows you are in control of urself.

Please don't do anything further. I completely understand ur feelings but please forgive him. I want you to go to God in prayer and commit every thing into His hands. He will fill u with His peace. God will guide and direct you. You're blessed, my love.

stigman:
Children plenty here

Wetin you come dey find here?

elbinmanny:
you dont earn his respect by behaving like high school gals keeping malice, u get respect when u leave that house and start taking care of them and their bills.. u wab keep malice for person house and dey eat him food

True talk, you know say children plenty for here

Lizabeth25:
Hey kiddo, moving out of the house wont solve the problem. When next he slap or blow your mom, who will comfort her?



All your need is spirit of calmness, and season of prayers for your parents.


It is well with you.!

How sarcastic? calling the OP " hey kiddo" . Girls sef...

loomer:
SURE, WE ARE ALL PROTECTIVE OF OUR MOTHERS, BUT WE NEED ALSO DO THINGS THE RIGHT WAY

So if you see a bus conductor slap a lady,ul ask him what she did first?theres no right way to act when your mum just got a slap right infront of u and the neigbours,haba,the man respects no one,am happy the op gave him back as though he got slapped,it wil even save the mom's face when shes walking on the street!

elbinmanny:
you dont earn his respect by behaving like high school gals keeping malice, u get respect when u leave that house and start taking care of them and their bills.. u wab keep malice for person house and dey eat him food

o'boy abi o'girl, READ, UNDERSTAND before COMMENTING. maybe U can recite the acronym RUC so U dont forget next time.

udz:
I meant what i said, wasnt funny at all. who dey shine teeth with U?

You need your head examined. You better go and continue your job hunting. I will also encourage you to have some respect for your parents.

texazzpete:
Moral of the story?

Go make some money for yourself. How can you be in your late 20's, still be living with your parents and be whining about 'losing a son'? As far as your dad is concerned, you've moved to the 'Parasite' stage. He's probably in church now, doing dry fast to pray to God that you don't change your mind about moving out.





BWAHAHAHAHAHA!! 'Personality'? You're a freaking grown man in his late 20s that's still living with his daddy and mummy and you think anyone respects you in your area? you're probably the community laughing stock behind your back.

You are just a bully sir,did u read him say his mum stopped him from moving out before?so if theres space in his dad's house and hes nt married yet,he should b wasting money for rent?and your kind is usually the one being laughed!

LOL.......I mean no offense abeg!

udz:
How sarcastic? calling the OP " hey kiddo" . Girls sef...

JeffreyJamez:
Na you make mistake na...... if I were you,the moment he slapped my mum,he had lost that respect and na as e dey hot I go yarn am scores.... if e do anyhow e sef go collect anyhow... what non-sense!!....

Anyways..... if he has a car,break windscreen and tear the tire..... and tell him you did it! For every slap your mom collects, damage one personal item of his that is precious to him...e go learn quick.

is that the best you can proffer? Smh.

Freest:
It happened this morning oh, was bathing and prepping for work when i heard my dad at the top of his voice, before i knew it i heard mumsy crying, he had slapped her. Am in the same house( Haven't been able to move out yet) and i couldn't just bear my mum crying so i went to my dad to tell him what he did was not right. He is almost 60 and so is his wife, at that age you slap your wife i was trying to use the voice of reason as i was angry but kept my calm (Who wouldn't be angry seeing his/her mum cry?) before i could finish explaining and appealing to him i received from his left hand of righteousness a resounding slap... it got me confused as i didn't know what i did to deserve such. I didn't say anything harsh nor abusive. Am angry but didn't wanna return that slap nor say words I'll regret. I told him I'm moving out and he just lost a son, he replied that i wont be missed. I wanna do something he'll never forget, before i leave, please i need advice as it dented my personality even amongst my younger siblings and neighbors. I really am confused on what to do before moving out. Am so pissed now
pls sincere advice. thanks

Move out. There are still unaccommodated spaces under bridges where you won't be welcomed with opened arms.
Good luck bro.........

Lumpyy:
So if you see a bus conductor slap a lady,ul ask him what she did first?theres no right way to act when your mum just got a slap right infront of u and the neigbours,haba,the man respects no one,am happy the op gave him back as though he got slapped,it wil even save the mom's face when shes walking on the street!

Wat if a lady rants in front of ur dad, and rains abuses on him, will he be wrong to slap such lady at a point in time where the insult has gone out of hand?

If given the chance... this boy would also slap his father...

The society has gone mental... I've never looked my father in the eye... this is a shitty shitty post...

JeffreyJamez:
Na you make mistake na...... if I were you,the moment he slapped my mum,he had lost that respect and na as e dey hot I go yarn am scores.... if e do anyhow e sef go collect anyhow... what non-sense!!....

Anyways..... if he has a car,break windscreen and tear the tire..... and tell him you did it! For every slap your mom collects, damage one personal item of his that is precious to him...e go learn quick.

U re mouthed

JeffreyJamez:
Na you make mistake na...... if I were you,the moment he slapped my mum,he had lost that respect and na as e dey hot I go yarn am scores.... if e do anyhow e sef go collect anyhow... what non-sense!!....

Anyways..... if he has a car,break windscreen and tear the tire..... and tell him you did it! For every slap your mom collects, damage one personal item of his that is precious to him...e go learn quick.

Funny...is this suppose to be a sincere advice or a joke?

udz:
U are in ur late 20's, then ur Dad FUCKD UP. He doesnt have respect for U yet. try and earn ur respect not by fighting him. Give him a good dose of silent treatment, move out frm his cmfort zone. Bet me, in just 2 months, he will start complaining to every dick and harry to call U and ask why? He wouldnt want to come out open and beg U. Guy am talking from experience.

@op I think this advice is okay.

Memory resetting slaps. Now your mom and you can get things done normally.

Ghadafy:
You need your head examined. You better go and continue your job hunting. I will also encourage you to have some respect for your parents.

Nice try Mr workaholic

Bluetooth2:
@OP

You are a very fooolish boy. Your dad beat your mum and you can't beat the bleeping hell out of him. Infact, God will not forgive you for this.

u r fulish boi...


U want him to beat his dad?

softysparky:
@op I think this advice is okay.

thanx for ur post

SuperSuave:
First of all OP how old are you? Is this the first time your pman is slapping your mum? Did you even ask mom what happened before confronting dad?

Nigerians and their archaic mentality. There is nothing the woman can do to receive a slap.

Freest:
It happened this morning oh, was bathing and prepping for work when i heard my dad at the top of his voice, before i knew it i heard mumsy crying, he had slapped her. Am in the same house( Haven't been able to move out yet) and i couldn't just bear my mum crying so i went to my dad to tell him what he did was not right. He is almost 60 and so is his wife, at that age you slap your wife i was trying to use the voice of reason as i was angry but kept my calm (Who wouldn't be angry seeing his/her mum cry?) before i could finish explaining and appealing to him i received from his left hand of righteousness a resounding slap... it got me confused as i didn't know what i did to deserve such. I didn't say anything harsh nor abusive. Am angry but didn't wanna return that slap nor say words I'll regret. I told him I'm moving out and he just lost a son, he replied that i wont be missed. I wanna do something he'll never forget, before i leave, please i need advice as it dented my personality even amongst my younger siblings and neighbors. I really am confused on what to do before moving out. Am so pissed now
pls sincere advice. thanks

though op I may not know much but my suggestion is you shouldn't pack out but try to resolve it all between Ur dad, mum and yourself. I feel he was still upset the moment u approached him hence the slap u got. Pls, make peace because your younger siblings are looking up to you.

Don't do anything stupid..ur dad was wrong "yes" but they have spent most of their years together..Maintain a silent distance and work your way if the house in your own time..don't rush out .your dad will realise his mistakes and apologise and you will gain your respect back. show him you are matured. Remember to always greet him oh. My dad is stubborn e en at old age..this worked for me. Take care

Freest:
i didn't get him angry as he was angry before i even got there. I only went to appeal to him. by the way am more angrier and wanna move out today. But need to teach him a moral lesson before leaving hence d need for this advice

move out and leave ur mum in the hands of the beast

Now I see why marriages dont last in naija. When our young men think its unwise to first talk to an angry man and advice him against beating his wife. When our young men believe that a son should not try to protect his mom no mater what,
When our young men believe that their wives and moms deserve hot slaps and that her abusers should not be asked any question but rather be seen as head and left to do as he deems fit.

Tomorrow people will come here to post and ask why marriages break up.

Ehm women, I hope you see the kind of men waiting to marry you and your daughters in future o.
They will slap you and slap your sons for daring to ask them why they laid hands on you.

Freest:
It happened this morning oh, was bathing and prepping for work when i heard my dad at the top of his voice, before i knew it i heard mumsy crying, he had slapped her. Am in the same house( Haven't been able to move out yet) and i couldn't just bear my mum crying so i went to my dad to tell him what he did was not right. He is almost 60 and so is his wife, at that age you slap your wife i was trying to use the voice of reason as i was angry but kept my calm (Who wouldn't be angry seeing his/her mum cry?) before i could finish explaining and appealing to him i received from his left hand of righteousness a resounding slap... it got me confused as i didn't know what i did to deserve such. I didn't say anything harsh nor abusive. Am angry but didn't wanna return that slap nor say words I'll regret. I told him I'm moving out and he just lost a son, he replied that i wont be missed. I wanna do something he'll never forget, before i leave, please i need advice as it dented my personality even amongst my younger siblings and neighbors. I really am confused on what to do before moving out. Am so pissed now
pls sincere advice. thanks

Is ds is the first time?

U went in too early while he was still furious and asked him too many questions that made him feels u were taking side. As for moving out, pls never take a decision out of anger. Aproach him when his nerves are calm an apologize then find out wat really happened, he may explain to u and eqaully apologize to ur mum as a result of quilt that may becloud his thought thereafter.

eleko1:
Wic useless moral lesson u wanna teach him?Take thing easy biko.Ur parent are still ur parent.U got slapped cos u jumped to defend Ur mum.Do u ask ur mama why she was slapped?

whatever it is she might have done, you think it is right for him to slap his wife at all? hmmm the way some ppl think sha. OP am nt goin to support u being rude to ur father the bible says honour ur father and mother so that ur days ll be long. leaving the house angrily will only escalate the issue on ground. u are a man, talk to ur father like one and help dem resolve the issue on ground you trying to get your own pound of flesh wnt help at all. God ll give you the wisdom to go abt it in the right way.

dahmie2013:
U're just angry dats y u're asking 4 such. I'll only ask u 2 ask God 2 help u manage d situation, instead of seeking revenge. As 4 ur mum, its so painful such a thing had 2 happen 2 her, console her, but if d thing becomes a repeated actn, I'll advise u find a place 4 her 2 stay so he doesn't kill her. My mum has been in abj 4 over 10yrs nw, cos of work&I thank God 4 dat cos, she might have died 4rm battery. Even now dat she's planning her retirement, we her children are planning 2 get a place 4 her in Akure so our fada doesn't kill her 4 us. I can relate perfectly with ur situatn, just trust God, even myself I'm just begging God 2 get enof money 2 get an apartment&live on my own with my siblings till dey each get married. Staying with him is a nightmare. Urs doesn't sound like its not a constant thing like mine, nywys don't take ny actn nw cos u're angry, ask God 4 peace cos ny actn u take, u might regret cos u did it in anger.

It is well!

wisdom

Freest:
i didn't get him angry as he was angry before i even got there. I only went to appeal to him. by the way am more angrier and wanna move out today. But need to teach him a moral lesson before leaving hence d need for this advice

How do you mean when you say you to leave? To leave permanently? As in, you want to pack out?
But wait, are you people Nigerians because we have traditions and cultures hence am asking. Just for one slap, you want to do what? And that is your father abi? Nor be your fault, na oyibo wey bring this yeye civilization that has turned thing up down.

Bigcake:
Maybe your Dad was on a slapping spree. Moral Lesson.... Next time dont stand close to his left hand while talking to him.

looolzzz the moral lesson dey make me laff ooo