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baralatie:
there are good husbands in surplus only that it will take a wise woman to pick him out.
women are easily deceived by flash,flash!

Aitee1:
You're right in a way but then are we gonna say yes to someone that doesn't excite us

baralatie:
that is the problem,how to say yes to the correct excitement!
excitement comes in all colours.the colour of gold is yello but it is yello does not mean it is gold.
the colour of silver is white but it is white does not mean it is silver!
so also that a husband is good is exciting but a guy is exciting does not mean as a husband he is good!

Aitee1:
Dear, this thing you're saying is so easy for you maybe cos you're not experiencing such, now tell me can you propose to a lady that doesn't excite you but has the qualities you need in a woman? Don't just answer for answering sake be real to yourself.

vfactor:
You need to know? Ma'am you already know. You don't need us to confirm. Why do u think he's always broke?

Divorce is never the answer! But before God, infidelity is a valid ground for divorce that allows you to remarry. For a start I think you should separate and if things don't change get a divorce.

Yeah, your baby. But its better a single parent child than an orphan.

Dynamo1:
@ednut1, you are very correct. Its easy to judge without hearing the other side(I mean the guy's). As much as I feel what he's doing is absolutely wrong, people just don't change for no reason. @OP, ask your friend what are the( evil) things she has done to make herself married to this man. It might be karma playing it's turn on her. A good girl( or guy) just don't turn bad. Some ladies would do just anything(I mean anything that you may not even be able to think of) just to get married to a guy even when it is blatantly clear that the guy doesn't love her.
My people, this guy doesn't love his wife at all. You can't feel comfortable hurting the one you love, and still be proud of it. Well, you might be lucky if prayer can change him( which I doubt), or you should get out of the miserable life. That's why it's always good for a woman not to be totally dependent on a man. I bet you most women would choose marriage over a good job of both opportunities presents themselves at the same time no matter how sketchy that marriage is. They want that marriage soo badly more than anything in this world especially if the guy is loaded. Now they start crying when the consequences come. There's hardly any man that cheats without the woman knowing while they were saying if at all they did, the woman will only turn a blind eye hopping that afterall "na me e go marry".
#SHALOM!

sinizia:
You are contradicting yourself with the embolden sentences in your posts. And no, sometimes, divorce is the answer. In fact in many cases sef.

Wifey01:
@ednut1 and @Dynamo1 as much as I'd hate to admit it, you're both right. I was super - desperate when we got married. Growing up, mum put SO much pressure on me to get married. Also, life at my parents was really hard and it 2 as a struggle for them to provide for all 5 of us. They tried the best they could for us but ultimately, mum especially mounted pressure on us. So when I met this guy (my husband). I made it clear that I wasn't going to be a side - chic or "girlfriend" or someone to have sex with. He proposed. We got married and here we are. He's a nice man trust me, just not nice to me any more.

Subom1:
this lady does not want help. Am no longer going to waste my time. She says they need each other. She better not come crying later how she contracted Hiv or any other sob story cos frankly I will tell her it's her own darn fault.

Wifey01:
Forget the truthfulness of my story. Okay, assuming my story is completely fictitious, what would you advice?I just need honest gut - level opinions.

baralatie:
ma'am you already know the answer but what you need is absolution for you and your kids!
1.work on yourself mentally and most especially financial wise.it is important.
seeing how it is now,at least have a job or run a business to cater for housekeeping,children schooling,,and YOUR own private savings.
2.if you are a Christian become active in church activities to keep your mind busy and away from negative thoughts.
3.learn to forgive yourself first and let go of malice and bitterness.if this malice should grow you won't last 6years without a crisis
4.as for your husband,don't put him in negative I.e I hat is don't kill yourself over his actions at all,o lay protect yourself from harm
5.pray!pray!pray!pray very well!