As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

Try to spice up your relationship

And figure out what attracted you to him in the first place

If you still don't feel nothing, call of the wedding.

Happiness is of extreme importance, my dear.

Why the heck did you agree to get married to him in the first place??
Is it about the 'good paying job'??

sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

why d fvck did u agree to his proposal dan?

MzNelly:
Try to spice up your relationship

And figure out what attracted you to him in the first place

If you still don't feel nothing, call of the wedding.

Happiness is of extreme importance, my dear.

Seriously, have tried all I could to spice up this relationship..not just working out...

sprinkles14:

Seriously, have tried all I could to spice up this relationship..not just working out...

Why did you wait till after 4 years then?

vizkiz:
marriage is overated in Nigeria!

I'm a victim of the overrated marriage in our society.

It is very normal.
Don't allow anyone tell you otherwise.

Not many Are this lucky. Why did u keep punishing the guy for 4 yrs and now u are planning to shatter his life, after spending his life saving to marry u, and u are already planning how to run away u are wicked. Since u have pushed on till this time why not slow down and relax for the guy and with the guy, there is no greener pasture elsewhere. Stop playing games with a human heart

Women are evil and source of pain.

Be careful who you adopt into your live as wife.

Imagine the unthinkable by this evil minded lady capable of crippling her hubby's wheels of progress.

Please see your pastor for real deliverance.

You need God my dear.

DonX001:
Why the heck did you agree to get married to him in the first place??
Is it about the 'good paying job'??

Not at all...met this guy when he earns less than 20, 000 monthly...

Seriously
How did you get to this stage in the first place? . So you found nothing interesting about this guy & you were with him for 4years?. Haba!!!!!!
All the same a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. It won't be fair on your part to continue with the marriage when you know it @ the back of your mind that you'll divorce him.

sprinkles14:

As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

first and foremost when next you write a letter always date it n also include the recipient address : as for ur relationship I don't have any advice for you because I can see from a distant that you are so much interested in the guy's pay. Thanks.

Yours faithfully

......................
Lacomus

sprinkles14:

Not at all...met this guy when he earns less than 20, 000 monthly...

When I appellate some females as traders in deception , they get up in arms screaming blue murder.
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wait..hw did dis lead to marriage...nawa ooh.

And all these years you have been leading him on. Or did this start suddenly?

Lol,u aint interested in a guy and u wanna get married,who does that?

I only have pity for the guy who is probably thinking you love him as much as much as he loves you.


Please hurt him now than to hurt him later when children are now involved

what are you doing with him since 4years if you are not interested in him. I wonder for some girls.

For the sake of that innocent young man, you can quit the wedding so that you wouldnt cheat on him in the future and give him heartbreak

so the earlier the better. . Smh

some girls like you dont deserve to be treated 'nice' if i may say

nawa o, i pity dat guy. signing up to his doom.

Bisi so this is ur plan. You plan to leave me after all ive done for you. Thank God for nairaland for helping me figure out this . You would have told me directly and not plan to destroy my life after marriage.

85% of girls don't no wat dey want. Break up wif him n c if u can find a guy as caring as d 1 u ve now..wish u all d best

sprinkles14:

Not at all...met this guy when he earns less than 20, 000 monthly...

Still doesn't answer why you agreed to marry him.

Hmmm. Truly, Marriage is the main cause of divorce.

Nonsense talk!. Your problem is obvious.. You're a frigging gold-digger.. It's been the money keeping you all along.

You dated someone for four good years, you felt no connection.. You didn't breakup. He then engaged you... You still didn't breakup. Now he's about to get married to you but you still wouldn't let go..

Are you related to Lucifer?

Have some good in you... Save that poor guy's soul.. Tell him you feel no connection whatsoever.. It best you do so before the marriage.. Tell him he's free to divorce you after the marriage..

This is one very horrible story

U had better do the needful girl. A lifetime isn't a short time