Marriage stops people from pursing their ultimate dream of fufilment, children are brought fought to existence to later feel pain and then die. Most of us are product of marriages some leading to broken homes which has left an horrible scar in our lives, all in all marriages benefits no one since all it supposed benefits can be gotten out of web-lock and its therefore unecessary.

Are there people like and what are your opinions on this issue

pesty100:
Marriage stops people from pursing their ultimate dream of fufilment, children are brought fought to existence to later feel pain and then die. Most of us are product of marriages some leading to broken homes which has left an horrible scar in our lives, all in all marriages benefits no one since all it supposed benefits can be gotten out of web-lock and its therefore unecessary.

Are there people like and what are your opinions on this issue

it's a personal thing. Whether you marry or not, our ultimate goal is to make heaven where we will rest from all our earthly labours.

ITS YOUR CHOICE AND BUSINESS
TO GET MARRIED OR BE MARRIED
ITS YOUR CHOICE AND BUSINESS

"@washingtonpost: Why married men work harder, smarter and make more money http:///ENJrQYVAFt"

I see no reason to get married too. But, if everyone follows the logic you highlighted, don't you think....??

Aand how Do u cure ur sexual urges? Or u don't have them? Just curious

Debeloved87:
it's a personal thing. Whether you marry or not, our ultimate goal is to make heaven where we will rest from all our earthly labours.

Which heaven.

Godownchild:
Aand how Do u cure ur sexual urges? Or u don't have them? Just curious

pay a prostitute or self service

kay1one:
"@washingtonpost: Why married men work harder, smarter and make more money http:///ENJrQYVAFt"

thats what the media wants u to think

swaggzo:
ITS YOUR CHOICE AND BUSINESS
TO GET MARRIED OR BE MARRIED
ITS YOUR CHOICE AND BUSINESS

you could have either contributed something or nt comment at all in the first place

pesty100:
thats what the media wants u to think

Some marriages can make a man successful. Thats the point.

Well single life looks better to me. At least no too much worries, responsibilities and yea distractions! every married person go through that can make them stumble in their christian walk with God.

But marriage, in spite of these cons is worth it. Why:

1. If you have burning desire for the opposite sex, pls GO AND MARRY fornication and all other sexual immoralities are grievous sins and God wont "wink" at them.

2. Marriage contributes to the society. It is lovely, promising and beneficial. A good marriage, and hence good family will produce good citizens and nation builders. Wouldn't you want to be a part of this? i gladly would

3. To be a good and credible leader in your church, community, society, etc you need to have a home as example. Hey, i didn't say singles cant be leaders but married peeps do it better

4. And common, we are human beings. We need people to love and be loved, specially

But if you chose to live and die single, you have made the better choice (as a christian)

My opinion-

Yours is a valid choice
Marriage is not for everyone and nothing wrong in not desiring it

I think with the current consciousness of the world/universe, where everything is more or less about being part of a team - that companionship within a family structure that comes with marriage, is fast becoming a necessity again (things are moving full-circle again). Especially, if you plan to have kids. No sensible person would want to have kids, and raise them via visits. It's better to have them within a proper family structure and raise them based on what you think is the best, while instilling certain values in them. Nothing makes on journey on this planet more fulfilled than having kids and watching them grow to live dream (the look on parents' faces whenever you attain/achieve something should paint a great picture for you). But it's unhealthy to do that as either a deadbeat, or not being wholly in ya kids life, within a natural structure. And as a black person - being part of statistics which represent everything wrong with the black race, shouldn't be what any sensible would want to align with.

However, what I've got a problem with is the fact most folks (especially parents) treat it as an achievement worthy of excessive celebration. Overrated. When it's a work-in-progress based on uncertainty. The institution can either make or break you and, IMO, it's a tad bit silly to engage in premature celebrations of non-achievement - only to end up regretting it on the long run. If you're still in ya 20s, marriage should be the last thing on ya mind - you just need to lead a good life; enjoy what everyday brings; put things in order for ya unborn kids; and let it flow. Like my Uncles always tell me," when you meet the right woman, you'll know after being around her a few times". No need to force things and put unnecessary pressure on yourself - and always look out for conniving, deceptive, and pretentious Jezebels cos their face may look like that of angels, but beneath all that, is evil. When you meet that person, her temperament/personality would be very easily to complement - with the same shared values/outlook-to-life. And that will effectively make whatever adjustments/sacrifices you need to make a tad bit easy. Also, physical attraction has to be a necessity.

Additionally, things are so easy now, even from a cultural stand-point and, co-habitation is widely accepted even by a lot of ultra-conservative African parents. So, when you want to start making babies - you can co-habit with ya partner, and still raise them within the same quasi-family-structure. But make sure it's the right woman.

Moreover, being single for a long time has its own "gift and curse", just like everything else. You get the freedom you want, being as free as a bird. But on the flip-side, it subconsciously makes you more rigid when dealing with people and what you see as ya space. I'm well acquainted with this cos I've been living alone since I was 17. When you're in solitude sometimes, and boredom creeps in, you want people to be around. However, when they're around for too long - you want them to go away, so you can have ya space back. Apply that to being single. You just need to learn how maintain a balance and have someone around from time to time.

Holyshiit, enough epistle for now, what do I know? I'm still a young King to old heads (still learning how to manoeuvre). But to young dons on the come-up, I'm an OG.

SirShymexx:
I think with the current consciousness of the world/universe, where everything is more or less about being part of a team - that companionship within a family structure that comes with marriage, is fast becoming a necessity again (things are moving full-circle again). Especially, if you plan to have kids. No sensible person would want to have kids, and raise them via visits. It's better to have them within a proper family structure and raise them based on what you think is the best, while instilling certain values in them. Nothing makes on journey on this planet more fulfilled than having kids and watching them grow to live dream (the look on parents' faces whenever you attain/achieve something should paint a great picture for you). But it's unhealthy to do that as either a deadbeat, or not being wholly in ya kids life, within a natural structure. And as a black person - being part of statistics which represent everything wrong with the black race, shouldn't be what any sensible would want to align with.

However, what I've got a problem with is the fact most folks (especially parents) treat it as an achievement worthy of excessive celebration. Overrated. When it's a work-in-progress based on uncertainty. The institution can either make or break you and, IMO, it's a tad bit silly to engage in premature celebrations of non-achievement - only to end up regretting it on the long run. If you're still in ya 20s, marriage should be the last thing on ya mind - you just need to lead a good life; enjoy what everyday brings; put things in order for ya unborn kids; and let it flow. Like my Uncles always tell me," when you meet the right woman, you'll know after being around her a few times". No need to force things and put unnecessary pressure on yourself - and always look out for conniving, deceptive, and pretentious Jezebels cos their face may look like that of angels, but beneath all that, is evil. When you meet that person, her temperament/personality would be very easily to complement - with the same shared values/outlook-to-life. And that will effectively make whatever adjustments/sacrifices you need to make a tad bit easy. Also, physical attraction has to be a necessity.

Additionally, things are so easy now, even from a cultural stand-point and, co-habitation is widely accepted even by a lot of ultra-conservative African parents. So, when you want to start making babies - you can co-habit with ya partner, and still raise them within the same quasi-family-structure. But make sure it's the right woman.

Moreover, being single for a long time has its own "gift and curse", just like everything else. You get the freedom you want, being as free as a bird. But on the flip-side, it subconsciously makes you more rigid when dealing with people and what you see as ya space. I'm well acquainted with this cos I've been living alone since I was 17. When you're in solitude sometimes, and boredom creeps in, you want people to be around. However, when they're around for too long - you want them to go away, so you can have ya space back. Apply that to being single. You just need to learn how maintain a balance and have someone around from time to time.

Holyshiit, enough epistle for now, what do I know? I'm still a young King to old heads (still learning how to manoeuvre). But to young dons on the come-up, I'm an OG.

So, for how long have you been living alone?

Wait till old age, when the benefits of marriage can't be acquired!
Too late then!

Marriage is a sacrifice that MUST be made to reap the investments in YOUR OLD AGE, when you are lonely and grey. . . . .with no memories of a steady companion to keep you warm!

You can only worry about YOURSELF and your successes/failures!
Don't use your life as an excuse!

SirShymexx:
I think with the current consciousness of the world/universe, where everything is more or less about being part of a team - that companionship within a family structure that comes with marriage, is fast becoming a necessity again (things are moving full-circle again). Especially, if you plan to have kids. No sensible person would want to have kids, and raise them via visits. It's better to have them within a proper family structure and raise them based on what you think is the best, while instilling certain values in them. Nothing makes on journey on this planet more fulfilled than having kids and watching them grow to live dream (the look on parents' faces whenever you attain/achieve something should paint a great picture for you). But it's unhealthy to do that as either a deadbeat, or not being wholly in ya kids life, within a natural structure. And as a black person - being part of statistics which represent everything wrong with the black race, shouldn't be what any sensible would want to align with.

However, what I've got a problem with is the fact most folks (especially parents) treat it as an achievement worthy of excessive celebration. Overrated. When it's a work-in-progress based on uncertainty. The institution can either make or break you and, IMO, it's a tad bit silly to engage in premature celebrations of non-achievement - only to end up regretting it on the long run. If you're still in ya 20s, marriage should be the last thing on ya mind - you just need to lead a good life; enjoy what everyday brings; put things in order for ya unborn kids; and let it flow. Like my Uncles always tell me," when you meet the right woman, you'll know after being around her a few times". No need to force things and put unnecessary pressure on yourself - and always look out for conniving, deceptive, and pretentious Jezebels cos their face may look like that of angels, but beneath all that, is evil. When you meet that person, her temperament/personality would be very easily to complement - with the same shared values/outlook-to-life. And that will effectively make whatever adjustments/sacrifices you need to make a tad bit easy. Also, physical attraction has to be a necessity.

Additionally, things are so easy now, even from a cultural stand-point and, co-habitation is widely accepted even by a lot of ultra-conservative African parents. So, when you want to start making babies - you can co-habit with ya partner, and still raise them within the same quasi-family-structure. But make sure it's the right woman.

Moreover, being single for a long time has its own "gift and curse", just like everything else. You get the freedom you want, being as free as a bird. But on the flip-side, it subconsciously makes you more rigid when dealing with people and what you see as ya space. I'm well acquainted with this cos I've been living alone since I was 17. When you're in solitude sometimes, and boredom creeps in, you want people to be around. However, when they're around for too long - you want them to go away, so you can have ya space back. Apply that to being single. You just need to learn how maintain a balance and have someone around from time to time.

Holyshiit, enough epistle for now, what do I know? I'm still a young King to old heads (still learning how to manoeuvre). But to young dons on the come-up, I'm an OG.

Marriage is an INVESTMENT for old age ONLY!
In the final analysis no difference between the single and the married!
All about "balance"!

Nice summation!

KanwuliaJara:


Marriage is an INVESTMENT for old age ONLY!
In the final analysis no difference between the single and the married!
All about "balance"!

Nice summation!

Every investment as long as there's a reward on the long run, is a good investment. I think economists will agree with me. So, in as much as the institution is overrated (to me), you can't deny some of the obvious rewards, if managed properly with the right person.

Yeah, the legendary Texas Orchard, everything in life is about creating a balance cos everything is laced with a gift and a curse. And too much of anything has its own downsides.

Yadoctora:

So, for how long have you been living alone?

Almost a decade now, why?

It just gives you this "I don't give a fvck attitude" cos you're ya own man and no one pays ya bills. So, you can't tell me nothing.

Then it makes you grow up too quick/fast. Make a lot of mistakes and might self-destruct a few times. Learn from them and develop steadfastness/become-strong-willed. A young body with an old soul, and wealth of experience some will never attain in a lifetime.

SirShymexx:


Almost a decade now, why?

It just gives you this "I don't give a fvck attitude" cos you're ya own man and no one pays ya bills. So, you can't tell me nothing.

Then it makes you grow up too quick/fast. Make a lot of mistakes and might self-destruct a few times. Learn from them and develop steadfastness/become-strong-willed. A young body with an old soul, and wealth of experience some will never attain in a lifetime.

So you are almost 27. You don try
Your views are more mature too. Are you now considering marriage?

Yadoctora:


So you are almost 27. You don try
Your views are more mature too. Are you now considering marriage?

Lol. I've got no age - just a young body, with an old soul. I don't like counting the number of years I've spent on this planet cos it puts on unnecessary pressure on me, to meet certain standards I set for myself, as a youngin'.

Nah, not really - but if it happens, it happens. Then boom, it's time to start making babies and sleeping next to my Queen, till death do us part. Not too fussy about it. Coupled with the fear of the unknown and seeing the ups and downs in other people's marriages.

How about you?

SirShymexx:


Lol. I've got no age - just a young body, with an old soul. I don't like counting the number of years I've spent on this planet cos it puts on unnecessary pressure on me, to meet certain standards I set for myself, as a youngin'.

Nah, not really - but if it happens, it happens. Then boom, it's time to start making babies and sleeping next to my Queen, till death do us part. Not too fussy about it. Coupled with the fear of the unknown and seeing the ups and downs in other people's marriages.

How about you?

I believe marriage is a necessity. To be in a good one or none.
I am not afraid of living alone and until I find my perceived good match, I'd just live by myself, happily.

Yadoctora:

I believe marriage is a necessity. To be in a good one or none.
I am not afraid of living alone and until I find my perceived good match, I'd just live by myself, happily.

Yes, marriage is a definitely a necessity, if you want to have kids and raise them right within a structure. However, if ya school-of-thought/outlook-to-life is different, then it might be an appendage of sort. It basically depends on what side you're on.

I like that - living alone is fun.

I've had some much fun in my life, got extremely wild, till I decided to fall back before I self-destruct and take my own young life.

However, how about those lonely nights in solitude, and you need a shoulder to lean on? Or when you get hor,ny and need someone to do what it do?

SirShymexx:



However, how about those lonely nights in solitude, and you need a shoulder to lean on? Or when you get hor,ny and need someone to do what it do?

I pray

Yadoctora:


I pray

Goddamn! My Muslim sister, that's some immaculate shiit.

Real men don't do that, we get busy within 'em sheets with someone moaning and asking for more. That's how real bosses move, ask Dame Dash.

SirShymexx:


Goddamn! My Muslim sister, that's some immaculate shiit.

Real men don't do that, we get busy within 'em sheets with someone moaning and asking for more. That's how real bosses move, ask Dame Dash.

How do you do that with just anybody? Isn't there supposed to be some level of trust and affection before you get comfortable enough?
Sex is one of the privileges that come with marriage. It is one major reason I look forward to it. But it's got to be right

Good for you.

Yadoctora:



How do you do that with just anybody? Isn't there supposed to be some level of trust and affection before you get comfortable enough?
Sex is one of the privileges that come with marriage. It is one major reason I look forward to it. But it's got to be right

Lol. Don't tell me you're a virgin. I guess that's why you're on the Mary-esque immaculate thing.

Anyway, I get what you mean from a moral/religious standpoint. And love making is far better when there's affection/mutual-feelings, rather than what's obtainable based on just physical attraction alone (speaking from experience here).

However, as guy, whose existence is more or less mundane, in a society that deems sex as norm based on the current consciousness - it's ritual you have to go through regularly to affirm ya manhood, and relieve ya body of unnecessarily stress. Keeping that ish in the tank can be a pain in the ar.se, I tell ya. And the cruise missile has a mind of its own. So, it's either you use it from time to time, or it might end up doing something that will get you in trouble.

SirShymexx:


Lol. Don't tell me you're a virgin. I guess that's why you're on the Mary-esque immaculate thing.

Well, being one was normal just ten years ago. I grew up seeing my aunts and cousins get married as virgins. It was a thing of pride. That formed our consciousness.

Anyway, I get what you mean from a moral/religious standpoint. And love making is far better when there's affection/mutual-feelings, rather than what's obtainable based on just physical attraction alone (speaking from experience here).

Thanks for sharing

However, as guy, whose existence is more or less mundane, in a society that deems sex as norm based on the current consciousness - it's ritual you have to go through regularly to affirm ya manhood, and relieve ya body of unnecessarily stress.

Bold expresses peer pressure. Does it ever end with men? The constant need to prove something. Where does self-esteem play a role?

Keeping that ish in the tank can be a pain in the ar.se, I tell ya.

I'v never seen scientific proof for this.

And the cruise missile has a mind of its own. So, it's either you use it from time to time, or it might end up doing something that will get you in trouble.

Are all men potential rapi.sts?

Yadoctora:

So, for how long have you been living alone?

OMG did u read all dos tins

Yadoctora:

Well, being one was normal just ten years ago. I grew up seeing my aunts and cousins get married as virgins. It was a thing of pride. That formed our consciousness.

Lmao @ being a thing of pride. Alhamdulillah!

So, is it affirmative, or negative?

Thanks for sharing

You're welcome. Sharing is love and love is sharing.

Bold expresses peer pressure. Does it ever end with men? The constant need to prove something. Where does self-esteem play a role?

I wouldn't call it peer pressure per say - it's more of a mentality subconsciously wired into every guy's mentality based on the society at large. The society embraces it and that makes it a norm (from a guy's perspective).

It's just like living in countries where binge drinking is a norm. Would you call a social drinker in such environment a victim of peer pressure? Also, conversely, I can also make a case that a lot of the pressure also come from females cos if you don't put it and get it popping, you might be tagged a gay-fish.

I'v never seen scientific proof for this.

Science doesn't have answers to everything. You have to live it, to understand it. That's what comes with the male anatomy, just as I, as a guy, wouldn't be able to explain the experiences females go through.

Are all men potential rapi.sts?

Nah. But there's a high tendency of perversion that can creep in over time subconsciously, if there isn't a form of control mechanism on sexual desires.