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bosun11:
sprinkles14 or whatever your name is...give joelenesleek the number of the guy straight off........if you cant value him , another lady will

abeg help me tell her. My ex is scared of marriage too and wants to be free I can give her his number. Let's Just swap.

SagePerv:
[color=maroon]What heap of rubbish is this?
If you are not interested, then simply walk away.[/color]

thank you.

OP, please take a walk. I only pray your husband to be knows what's in your mind. that man apparently is too good for you please.

this is the only time where I won't mince words in stating how I feel after reading your post.

sprinkles14:
As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

God of mercy, you know weti you suppose do.

Leave the guy na, breakup with the guy if you no dey feel anything.


Cancel the stup1d wedding.


After now, na you go dey sleep with other men.

Dey disturb single men up and down.



If the poor husband come find out. Na there we go hear say

He Don kill you, carry your body go put for river.


Na one week letter them go recover your rotten body for river.








IF YOU GET BRIAN, TAKE ADVICE OHH. MARRIAGE NO BE BY FORCE.

eOrdinaire:
Hello Unhappy Bride,
What does happiness mean to you?
What you need in a husband is different from what you look out for in a boyfriend?
To me, you have a good man but you can decide to lose him. It is your choice.
Stop comparing your man with what you watch on TV, hear on Radio or read in the newspapers.
They project a skewed perception of marriage.

Marriage takes a lot of work. Everyone you see happily married today has invested heavily to make it work.
There is nothing like someone will make you happy, it only exists in the figment of your imagination.
In all sincerity, you are not ready for marriage.
As a married man I can tell you that the feeling is not always there but the commitment and vows are stronger.
Marriage demands responsibility, accountability and selflessness.
Your husband to be like every other dude is never going to be perfect at all times in the bedroom, boardroom, in looks, in conduct and many facets of life. My dear, love is a decision. There will always be issues but how you deal with it is critical.

Cheating has never been a way out. It takes a lot from you than you think. It never makes anyone happy
Divorce is not an option. It ruins your present and future.

Whatever the issues, communication and teamwork is the way out. Be the loving and supportive wife a man needs.
Let us stop spiritualising things. This is just someone who wants to be married but still remain single.
Marriage will cost you many things and will give you many things.

Be Prepared. I am married and I am loving it. I should have done it earlier but it is never late.
Discuss the issues with your man. He also wants to live in bliss and not ready to compromise his future.

Be the supportive and long-suffering woman. It pays in the long run.

Pardon my rambling but that is just a piece of my heart.

Regards.

Your contribution is highly appreciated . Thank you so much sir . I will call him up tomorrow and discuss all these with him..I hope he understand and we conclude on a way forward.

I know what you need a bad boy that cheats and beats you.Most cool and gentle guy seems boring to ladies below the age of 24.

SagePerv:
[color=maroon]What heap of rubbish is this?
If you are not interested, then simply walk away.[/color]

abi....broken relationship is better than broken marriage. You can only manage a relationship but you can never manage a marriage

ellabooz:
Women are evil and source of pain.

Be careful who you adopt into your live as wife.

Imagine the unthinkable by this evil minded lady capable of crippling her hubby's wheels of progress.

Please see your pastor for real deliverance.

As for all the whole nairaland women.



Na you be the most reasonable woman I don see for now.

My respect

the original poster is suffering from what i call modern day distortion. i just opened up a new thread advising ppl to marry anybody. u marry whoever and grow in love. do u think the man does not have options of ppl way prettier than u and more well behaved? he is probably obeying christianity... i think most who obey christianity regret it in this regard. the church encourages men to treat women with respect, one man to one woman etc - women hate these things at least modern day women. we get stuck with useless women who dont have the same principles.

its ur decision. just know its hard to find interested men depending on ur age.

sprinkles14:
Thank you so much...I will work on this..

no need working on it! You do not feel anything for him and you can't force it. You've been probably cheating on him and boldly made it known that you'll sleep around when you marry him to make yourself happy..smh..please, leave the guy and find another man you'll be attracted to. There are women out there who will appreciate him as a gentle man. No need going into a marriage you are already planning to be a cheat just to be happy. I pray that guy wakes up soon before its too late for him.

maryhaam:
It might sound false,but is true have also pass through this,we have been dating since my uni days,he likes me,like ke love,he can do anything for me,if I offend him, he will be the one to beg,he loves me,he can buy me anything,he over pamper me,wht else can I qualify him with,but I don't love him,i thought with his attitude that I will love him,i try all my best,i never cheated on him,i pray to love him Buh is a matter of the heart,after 3yrs I hurt him eventually with the truth,the truth I should have told him long ago,but he won't accept I can't c him hurt,hes a rare gem,wish him all the best,matters of heart r dicey,op if u can't love him fr 4yrs,u can't

you know...women will say they want a God fearing gentleman who will love them, take good care of them, remain faithful to them and make them their topmost priority. But the TRUTH is..women really doesn't want these men. The kind of treatment these type of men get from their women is heart breaking. Women get bored when they have a good man. prefers bad men, womanizers and abusers. Some of them will carelessly lose a good man and end up with a bad one who will turn them to bitter and maltreated wives. Its really a pity.

sprinkles14:
As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

I have one question for you - does he give you orgasms?

sprinkles14:
As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

girl u had four years to decide wat u want and now u want do wat only happens in hollywood.give it time,love will come,it always will

Most ladies do not utilise good opportunities. That is y I don't pity most of them wen they complain of being beaten by their husband in their marriage. 85% of dem deserve to b married to a careless man. They do not rily knw wot is gud for them. Give ur food to cat to eat, u hear?

1st of all..if u re girl plss dnt let a guy spend his money on u if u knw dat you wnt marry him nd vice versa
2ndly...y is it nw u re starting to av a re-think abt marrying d guy?? Didn't u knw abt ur feelings 2wards d guy b4 accepting to marry him??
Anyway ur happiness comes b4 evry oda thing..bt if u dnt av d courage to call of d wedding I'll advice u go ahead wit d wedding
Nd leme warn u..if u eventuall marry him nd file for a divorce or u cheat on him its a big sin nd if u die u'll end up in HELL FIRE






































Ask God to gv u direction in order for u not to make a very big mistake

I don swear on my mother's land.



Nothing go concern me with naija women





Evil set of species

Chizzy20:
wait..hw did dis lead to marriage...nawa ooh.

...the guy is blinded by "rov" or our dear Sprinkles' is an Oscar winner
When you leave this guy, your eyes go clear
Then you will understand "there are men and there are men"

chimkaire:
...the guy is blinded by "rov" or our dear Sprinkles' is an Oscar winner
When you leave this guy, your eyes go clear
Then you will understand "there are men and there are men"

Word! the real men hv spirituality behind their swag.

This explains why some guys shine their eyes very well nd dont fall in love, they grow in love.They make sure they co-habit wt the lady nd study her properly b4 any serious/lifetime commitment.

Obalende:
Word! the real men hv spirituality behind their swag.

...odoodo/ooto oro

sprinkles14:
As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

And this is why women will always be downtrodden. Speak ur mind and call off d ish instead of leading the poor man on. If the man was me, I would prefer it that way because only God knows what I will do to anyone that wastes my love and commitment.

This explains why some guys shine their eyes very well nd dont fall in love, they grow in love.They make sure they co-habit wt the lady nd study her properly b4 any serious/lifetime commitment. Some even insist the woman gets pregnant b4 marriage after carefully obversing her. These bitches are NOT LOYAL.

Mekzmoney:


Can't wait to watch d movie.
I just read d novel

no be small thing, i been watch am for cassette small o, but i no go lie na picture i just de watch den, as me no know wetin de happen

if the man is not committed now they will threaten him with judeo christian hell.

walk down the streets of london or any US city in summer and see girls. Who wants to waste time with original poster.

these girls r well behaved in character, learning & everything...

My dear to b very candid with u break dat relationship now. A broken relationship is far far better than a broken marriage, even thou d marriage is for one week. If u know u r not in love wit d guy anymore simply tell him n explain 2 ur families n friends. But u ve wasted his time for dis long, dat period would ve produced @least 2kids by now. Say no 2 prolong courtship. Marriage is not something dat u say u will manage, NO. All those options u stated r not it at all. I feel pity 4 d guy, just pray dat it will not affect his future relationship in life.

sprinkles14:
Not at all...met this guy when he earns less than 20, 000 monthly...

I think you may be possessed.

Teespice:
thank you.

OP, please take a walk. I only pray your husband to be knows what's in your mind. that man apparently is too good for you please.

this is the only time where I won't mince words in stating how I feel after reading your post.

[color=maroon]Oh...
Is this a good sign?
Dear, I obviously don't care. And you know that.[/color]

you may have a spirit husband, pls go for delieverance asap!

sprinkles14:
As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

Don't marry because of what people will (or will not) say. Marry for your (and your partner's) happiness. If it ain't working for you now it's never gonna work. All the advice about "spicing" the thing comes across to me as strange. You need to feel it deep in your guts that this is the guy you wanna spend your life with, anything outside that, don't take the plunge. I question your decision to accept to marry him knowing how you feel (or don't feel) about him. Call off the wedding and deal with the disappointment now irrespective of what "people" will say. It's an easier option than dealing with a life of misery.

joelenesleek:
abeg help me tell her. My ex is scared of marriage too and wants to be free I can give her his number. Let's Just swap.

STRANGE THINGS ARE HAPPENING

sprinkles14:
As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

This is really a tough one, but ask yourself this question... What if this guy walks up to me tomorrow and says, "I want to call off this wedding". What will be your reaction? Will you feel relieved and happy seeing him marry someone else while you start a new life, or will you suddenly realise, "I made a mistake"? Your answer will guide you through your decision.

tosyne2much:
Bros you have spoken well.. I have been wondering why on earth a lady will make a dude have high hopes in her for four years when she knowns deep down that she doesn't love him

disappointed man....can't imagine how d dude in question would feel.He\s gonna be drolling over a babe that does gaf about his life and feelings

sprinkles14:
As I write you this letter, I'm not happy and not fulfilled. I'm getting married in less than one month to my boyfriend of 4years, but I must confess that nothing and I mean absolutely nothing interest and excites me about this guy. I don't feel complete with this guy at all..
I've been turning deaf ears to this inner voice but I kept pretending and forcing it on myself hoping I will get along sooner or later.
I must confess, this guy is a complete gentle man with a good paying job, full of ideas, loving and caring and everything about me is his priority. He's loved by all my family members and everybody around me. Calling of the wedding ceremony will be an outrageous thing to do because of the embarrassment to our families, friends and the guy in particular.
Have made a conclusion within me...after getting married, I will convince my the guy to allow me travel out of the country, maybe if I'm away, I can start a new life out of Nigeria chore and if this doesn't work, I will either file for a divorce after one year or cheat on my husband to make me happy.
Please a very constructive critics and advice will be highly appreciated.
Thank you.

unfulfilled bride to be.

My dear call it off now!! Is still early!!

Dnt embrass an innocent guy,if d guy was a bad guy,I culd say Yes!Bt innocent guy,u may end up Nt hvin kids for Eva.

If u Dnt Lik him call it off,1mnth s still far.

Cheating is Nt perfect.xplain to d guy Den call off