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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Ghoxt: 8:12pm On Apr 05, 2015

adamilen:
Hi Nairalanders,

I found about two months ago that my dad is cheating on my mum.

I've been I the same situation, just in my case there was no fiance.
I couldn't keep my mouth shut, so now I'll live to regret it for the rest of my live.
Caution: Be wise!

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by gospi: 8:16pm On Apr 05, 2015

Hmmm people and d way they are so sure the mum knows sha, as if dey liv inside d hous angry

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Nobody: 8:16pm On Apr 05, 2015

What if you are on your way to tell your mom and you find her with another man cheating on him?

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Nobody: 8:17pm On Apr 05, 2015

major466:
You think when the lady confront her father he will simply stop his cheating behavior? Definitely not. Matters of infidelity and adultery are serious matters that requires a tactical approach to deal with, and this is certainly beyond her to handle.

So she should take her father's indiscretions in public, what if this "respected elder" is a gossip?

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by major466(m): 8:19pm On Apr 05, 2015

Emmahunk:
Major 466, that advice though given with good intentions is not right for the family's name and honor. In issues like this, no elder, no matter how close should be trusted.
Confront your dad politely but firmly. Involve your sister/brother that he is so fond of. As in all things be prayerful about the whole stuff.

canalily:
remember not to wash ur dirty cloths outside

We are dealing with adultery here. Matters of infidelity and adultery are beyond Children to handle especially when it involves one of the parent. Her
best bet is to get a respected member of the community to talk to the father in a diplomatic manner.

The only thing the lady can do to help her father overcome adultery is prayer.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by gospi: 8:19pm On Apr 05, 2015

idowuswap:
So u get mind to report me here,ok I know wht to do about u,go and tell ur mama I will send all of una out side bye

Very funny. cheesy

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by fuqua: 8:20pm On Apr 05, 2015

I guess her Kandy is sugarless!

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Austin234(m): 8:21pm On Apr 05, 2015

missclasssy:
[color=#000050]Op, for the sake of your mum and dad's marriage, I think it's best you don't tell your mum or anyone.

From everything you have said, it seems you are really close to your dad.

Here is my advise~ I think the best thing you do is sit your dad down and talk to him in all seriousness and maturity
Tell him that what he is doing isn't right and it's even having a bad influence on you as his child.
Explain to him that him cheating on your mum is total wickedness because she loves him so much.
Tell him that if he doesn't stop that you would report him to a spiritual leader or an elder relation.

If he continues this absurd behavior, Op you have no choice but to do just that.

I know it would be tough being in your condition but don't give up on your dad. Always include him in your prayers and keep on praying that God would continue to keep his union with your mum.

Thanks.[/color]

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Ladycloud(f): 8:22pm On Apr 05, 2015

missclasssy:
[color=#000050]Op, for the sake of your mum and dad's marriage, I think it's best you don't tell your mum or anyone.

From everything you have said, it seems you are really close to your dad.

Here is my advise~ I think the best thing you do is sit your dad down and talk to him in all seriousness and maturity
Tell him that what he is doing isn't right and it's even having a bad influence on you as his child.
Explain to him that him cheating on your mum is total wickedness because she loves him so much.
Tell him that if he doesn't stop that you would report him to a spiritual leader or an elder relation.

If he continues this absurd behavior, Op you have no choice but to do just that.

I know it would be tough being in your condition but don't give up on your dad. Always include him in your prayers and keep on praying that God would continue to keep his union with your mum.

Thanks.[/color]

......exactly....

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by kandiikane(m): 8:23pm On Apr 05, 2015

falconey:
leave daddy alone, don't tell mummy.

It doesn't matter where daddy is geting his motor running as long as he park in the right garage.

yes, people should just go do whatever they want to, sleep around if they want as long as they come home to their partners at night, probably bring home with them some stds to dash give their partners. I gats you man. wink

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by gospi: 8:23pm On Apr 05, 2015

2people:
What if you are on your way to tell your mom and you find her with another man cheating on him?

Simple.Tell mum about dad then go back and tell dad about mum. cheesy

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by frankie4real: 8:29pm On Apr 05, 2015

Op, your concern is legitimate, you need to realise that most men are being hunted these days by those women out there for money and very few for sex. You need to get a good clergyman to talk and pray with your dad. You also need to ask your mum if she starves your dad or have areas she is not meeting up with your dad's expectation, those questions alone would send signal to your mum to examine herself and do the needful. That, in own opinion is the best indirect way to hint your mum that there may be fire on her mountain (home). Also, always tell at home stories when your dad is around of men and women out there getting hiv and other stds on a minutes basis. You can create fearful and imaginary homes shattered via infidelity and the health disaster that follows. Both your dad and mum will get your message right.
Finally, go into prayer and fasting and always have your pray together every morning and night and always pray against spirit of adultery.

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by major466(m): 8:29pm On Apr 05, 2015

wallflower:
So she should take her father's indiscretions in public, what if this "respected elder" is a gossip?

That is why the person in question must be an individual with high integrity, someone like a marriage counsellor to help save the situation. The father needs help because he setting a bad example not only to his children but his unborn grandchildren and you know it. The Op's writeup suggest that her father may have been cheating on her mom for a very long time.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by bot101(m): 8:30pm On Apr 05, 2015

The solution is very easy if you have siblings like i do(3 boys and a girl). We only need to have a private meeting, find out who the two women are, and have a chat with them, the rest they say is history.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Nobody: 8:31pm On Apr 05, 2015

@op; the best approach is to either talk to your father along or both of your parents at the 'family together' time.

whatever your father is doing illicitly, make it a story/a scenario of what a friend of your told you that he heard from an acquittance that his parents are in this situation of a potential mess.

since the mother/wife has not found out, your friend's friend is trying to find a solution to end this evil act before it destroys the family.

as a daughter, you are asking your parents for wisdom, since you would want to save the bad situation by ending it before its known by the wife/mother who is unaware of the evil of her husband yet.

the first thing you should do is turn to your mother to hear what he thinks is a workable way forward. you can tell her to hold the thought of what she will do if she was the lady, until dad has his turn about this matter. each time emphasis the fact that this is evil and no conscientious soul should let a partner be exposed to the potential danger and heartache.

when your father has his say finally, he would have made up his mind, if not before to terminate the evil and back stabbing act.

if he is still pursuing this evil a day after your talk, you have the right to say to him; dad, how do you condemn a scenario that you are actually a full time actor in? sometimes, children need to shame the evil of the parent if it will affect the other parent and will definitely change the peaceful impression of the family.

by the way, this evil act is alway by a gender stigma because mother[s] can be the one cheating.

men are lousy at covering evil.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Venom104: 8:32pm On Apr 05, 2015

Billyonaire:
My advise, is as follows;

Your mother is NOT aware of his escapes, you do not have to be the whistle blower, you wont forgive yourself when wahala starts.

You are aware of his escapes;

Plan A:

you need to find a diplomatic way of whimsically, jokingly, respectfully saying "Daddy, I am aware oh, but I swear, Mamma will NOT hear this from me, this is our little secret, but you just have to STOP, if not, things will get ugly.", be firm, be assertive and be his daughter.

Again, do not tell your mom, and be sure your Dad gets the message. In the event that your Dad does not listen, then move to Plan B.

Plan B: Get a new phone, new sim and send this text, purportedly from a guy to him; "Old man, you have succeeded in ruining my relationship with my girlfriend because you have cash. You will not see me coming, I hope you love your wife and your kids, If this heart-break continues then I will send any of them 6ft.

Escalate Plan B, after a week, by lying that a certain boy was chasing after you with a dagger and nearly killed you if not that you ran into someone's office, and that the boy was shouting "Your Dad will pay for his actions".

Hahahahahaha Manipulation saves time and effort.

You suppose dey write script for nollywood

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by 1miccza: 8:33pm On Apr 05, 2015

Talk to your dad you are of age he would listen but do that diplomatically

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by benedima1990(m): 8:35pm On Apr 05, 2015

adamilen:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am a 26 year old lady and will be getting married in June. Unfortunately for me I found about two months ago that my dad is cheating on my mum. I didn't say anything cuz I do not want my family to break up. Before it was one lady but now I have found out that they are two. It seems like as the days go deeper he gets more and more into it.

Yesterday he told me to put a password for him on his phone. I tried avoiding doing it but he was persistent and at the end I ended up putting it for him but my conscience has really started disturbing me. I dont know if I should tell her because I don't want my family to break up and at the same time I don't want to see my mother hurt. She loves and adores him, although everyone has his/her shortcomings.

He is a well respected man and my fiancee respects him more than anything. I feel like I am suffocating.

Please what should I do? I really need good advice

Thanks

I've seen so many comment up there and shook my head
Dear if I will advice you, telling the third party to interfer is like adding more fuel to the burning fire.
Fir your mum not to get hurt
Fir your dad not to get hurt
For people not to disrespect your dad
Plz, do as if you don't know anything
A time will come wen he will willing drop the act.
Blessed is the man that apply wisdom in his dealings

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Toks2008(m): 8:35pm On Apr 05, 2015

Yes expose him fast and destroy your parents union. mumu question.

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Nobody: 8:37pm On Apr 05, 2015

Venom104:
You suppose dey write script for nollywood

Not even Hollywood. I don die.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by uchestephanie(f): 8:37pm On Apr 05, 2015

Simple blackmail ur dad or his co patener,especially d women involve but b carefully not indenger ur life.I did to ma boss and bingo problem solved dats only if u know u can't tell ur mum but if ur mum is a wise woman whom ursure can handle d mata maturely I tink is best u tell her.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Weah96: 8:37pm On Apr 05, 2015

Let the old man know that you know, and tell him to slow dafukkk down. Show him that you're angry and not only will he slow down, he'll bribe you to remain quiet. Some good can come out of this yet.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by canalily(m): 8:38pm On Apr 05, 2015

major466:
We are dealing with adultery here. Matters of infidelity and adultery are beyond Children to handle especially when it involves one of the parent. Her
best bet is to get a respected member of the community to talk to the father in a diplomatic manner.

The only thing the lady can do to help her father overcome adultery is prayer.

remember, it would cast nd will never spell fun when the fire catchs. Third party shouldn't get involved. She should be bold enough to confront the dad eye embarassed

to eye

or rather remain :-Xsilent. The person you wnt to report to is he better off in his own life style? Remember, its never good to give beauty a mark.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by repogirl(f): 8:39pm On Apr 05, 2015

Billyonaire:
My advise, is as follows;

Your mother is NOT aware of his escapes, you do not have to be the whistle blower, you wont forgive yourself when wahala starts.

You are aware of his escapes;

Plan A:

you need to find a diplomatic way of whimsically, jokingly, respectfully saying "Daddy, I am aware oh, but I swear, Mamma will NOT hear this from me, this is our little secret, but you just have to STOP, if not, things will get ugly.", be firm, be assertive and be his daughter.

Again, do not tell your mom, and be sure your Dad gets the message. In the event that your Dad does not listen, then move to Plan B.

Plan B: Get a new phone, new sim and send this text, purportedly from a guy to him; "Old man, you have succeeded in ruining my relationship with my girlfriend because you have cash. You will not see me coming, I hope you love your wife and your kids, If this heart-break continues then I will send any of them 6ft.

Escalate Plan B, after a week, by lying that a certain boy was chasing after you with a dagger and nearly killed you if not that you ran into someone's office, and that the boy was shouting "Your Dad will pay for his actions".

Hahahahahaha Manipulation saves time and effort.

Nice, great idea for a short story, Abeg allow me plagiarize your idea.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by EreluY(f): 8:39pm On Apr 05, 2015

falconey:
leave daddy alone, don't tell mummy.

It doesn't matter where daddy is geting his motor running as long as he park in the right garage.

YOU REALLY KILLED ME WITH LAUGHTER THIS EVENING. WOW. NA DRAMA YOU READ FOR CAMBRIDGE?

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by canalily(m): 8:41pm On Apr 05, 2015

Weah96:
Let the old man know that you know, and tell him to slow dafukkk down. Show him that you're angry and not only will he slow down, he'll bribe you to remain quiet. Some good can come out of this yet.

dog go bite u for leg o o o shocked

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Venom104: 8:41pm On Apr 05, 2015

Billyonaire:
Not even Hollywood. I don die.

Na because you spell escapades as escapes

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Jahblessme: 8:44pm On Apr 05, 2015

No please don't call your mom and talk to her like an adult she is.
Why don't you wait for her to be infected with HIV,genital warts,herpes, syphilis or gonorroea.

You may likely want your mother to die from diseases instead of arming her with information so that she can protect herself or move on.

You should give her the option so she can make an informed decision,I'm pretty sure she must suspect your father by now but at least solid proof may help her save her life.

The chances that your father is using protection is very very slim because a study has shown that 95-98% of Nigerian married males who have illicit affairs do not use condoms.

Don't be an id iot who perperuates the ignorance is bliss bullshit Nigerians are famous for.

I bet if it was your mother cheating you would've rushed to act righteous or start claiming you are disgusted.

ARRANT RUBBISH!

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by EreluY(f): 8:44pm On Apr 05, 2015

Billyonaire:
My advise, is as follows;

Your mother is NOT aware of his escapes, you do not have to be the whistle blower, you wont forgive yourself when wahala starts.

You are aware of his escapes;

Plan A:

you need to find a diplomatic way of whimsically, jokingly, respectfully saying "Daddy, I am aware oh, but I swear, Mamma will NOT hear this from me, this is our little secret, but you just have to STOP, if not, things will get ugly.", be firm, be assertive and be his daughter.

Again, do not tell your mom, and be sure your Dad gets the message. In the event that your Dad does not listen, then move to Plan B.

Plan B: Get a new phone, new sim and send this text, purportedly from a guy to him; "Old man, you have succeeded in ruining my relationship with my girlfriend because you have cash. You will not see me coming, I hope you love your wife and your kids, If this heart-break continues then I will send any of them 6ft.

Escalate Plan B, after a week, by lying that a certain boy was chasing after you with a dagger and nearly killed you if not that you ran into someone's office, and that the boy was shouting "Your Dad will pay for his actions".

Hahahahahaha Manipulation saves time and effort.

YOU'RE DEFINITELY A STRATEGIST. HOW COME THE CLUELESS EBELE DIDN'T HIRE YOU?

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Weah96: 8:45pm On Apr 05, 2015

canalily:
dog go bite u for leg o o o!

I will bite the dog back. My teeth are still complete and strong.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by grandlexuz(m): 8:45pm On Apr 05, 2015

Let your dad be!! Several years ago a friend of mine was faced with the same dilemma. She could not believe her dad would cheat on her mum. When she found text messages on his phone she was shocked to the bone.. Like I advised her the fight is not hers.. Believe me you are about to get marry and a lot of drama awaits you..99.987654321% of married men have cheated at some point in their marriage.. So get prepared for the drama ahead of you and let your dad be!

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