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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Nicepoker(m): 10:03pm On Apr 05, 2015

Ur mum is on naira land.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by UGLYS: 10:06pm On Apr 05, 2015

Adamllen, I will advice you do not tell Mum about it. You can discuss with dad if you so eagerly want to, but its irrelevant. This is from my experience as a 12 year old child. I have outgrown this and ever since, I felt this satisfaction knowing I saved my family by being "silent".

Its very possible your mum knows about this but wonder what her reaction would be if she realizes that you also know about it.
I would recommend SIlENCE.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Dinhodinho(m): 10:06pm On Apr 05, 2015

adamilen:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am a 26 year old lady and will be getting married in June. Unfortunately for me I found about two months ago that my dad is cheating on my mum. I didn't say anything cuz I do not want my family to break up. Before it was one lady but now I have found out that they are two. It seems like as the days go deeper he gets more and more into it.

Yesterday he told me to put a password for him on his phone. I tried avoiding doing it but he was persistent and at the end I ended up putting it for him but my conscience has really started disturbing me. I dont know if I should tell her because I don't want my family to break up and at the same time I don't want to see my mother hurt. She loves and adores him, although everyone has his/her shortcomings.

He is a well respected man and my fiancee respects him more than anything. I feel like I am suffocating.

Please what should I do? I really need good advice

Thanks

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by canalily(m): 10:13pm On Apr 05, 2015

Weah96:
My teeth are strong enough to remove a piece of that dog from the dog, especially in anger. I will chew on that canine like I'm high on bath salts. The dog go no say no be one woman wey born every mad pesin who dey for market. My problem plenty pass im own.

i de fear that teeth. Whetin be ur problem?

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by olatunjin(m): 10:16pm On Apr 05, 2015

In these kind of situation you have to apply wisdom in handling it. Don't tell your mum about it for now because if you do,you are not helping her and she will be down emotionally. Call your dad and talk to him as a father to daughter discussion,I'm very sure your dad will listen to you and he will be ready to amend his ways because it will be a shame to him if he didn't change.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by chinweobianwa(f): 10:18pm On Apr 05, 2015

confront him let him know that you know what he is doing and might expose him if he does not stop.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Emmahunk(m): 10:45pm On Apr 05, 2015

major466:
We are dealing with adultery here. Matters of infidelity and adultery are beyond Children to handle especially when it involves one of the parent. Her
best bet is to get a respected member of the community to talk to the father in a diplomatic manner.

The only thing the lady can do to help her father overcome adultery is prayer.

Sir, am sorry I don’t buy your idea. A lady who is about to getmmarried and start a family of her own is an adult and no longer a minor. She is well positioned to meddle in the issues of adults and adultery even when one of the adulterers is one of her parents.

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Boss13: 11:00pm On Apr 05, 2015

[quote author=elantraceey post=32376596]Save your mom, honestly she's going to get terribly hurt but its better before he infect your mum with a deadly disease, her life is important , but in all dear apply wisdom, this is really a tough situation.[/quote

All these stupid immatured people are here again. So she should go and break up her home or cause a fight. Both parents would never forgive their daughter. People should know that marriage is more than sex and love. Don't let the white man fool you.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by temlex: 11:17pm On Apr 05, 2015

sme topics on nl dis days... bsides smepple wu dnt know jazz in marriage 2 will start talking abt ur dad nd mum. well op, God help u nd every1 of us.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by koyyess: 11:21pm On Apr 05, 2015

Op. Just as one person rightly said, your mum already knows. Trust me on that. If you-his daughter got to find out, do you think that your mum who shares a room with him doesn't huh

? There is a disease claiming the lives of women called cervical cancer(which can result from series of stds). If you love your mum, you'll let her know that her husband is becoming a 'public husband' so she can protect herself in anyway possible. Don't mind all these 'beings' telling you to look the other way. If your mother was the cheat, they wouldn't give this same advice. Good luck and HML in advance.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Krisddon: 11:46pm On Apr 05, 2015

In wizkid's voice, just sit in the corner, advice dad to stop but.... Shhhhh..... Don't let your mother know!

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by toprealman: 12:03am On Apr 06, 2015

adamilen:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am a 26 year old lady and will be getting married in June. Unfortunately for me I found about two months ago that my dad is cheating on my mum. I didn't say anything cuz I do not want my family to break up. Before it was one lady but now I have found out that they are two. It seems like as the days go deeper he gets more and more into it.

Yesterday he told me to put a password for him on his phone. I tried avoiding doing it but he was persistent and at the end I ended up putting it for him but my conscience has really started disturbing me. I dont know if I should tell her because I don't want my family to break up and at the same time I don't want to see my mother hurt. She loves and adores him, although everyone has his/her shortcomings.

He is a well respected man and my fiancee respects him more than anything. I feel like I am suffocating.

Please what should I do? I really need good advice

Thanks

I want to believe you have the phone numbers of these slags. Make an anonymous call to them informing them that the man they are sleeping with(your dad) is a HIV patient and that your clinic is responsible for his treatment. Also tell them that this man (your dad) is on a mission to infect as many women as possible because according to him, he got the virus from one of the daughters of eve!
Sit back and watch the enemy take his flight.
Tips:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cB5OJwlTunQ

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Originalsly: 12:13am On Apr 06, 2015

Be careful...or you be opening a can of worms. The only person you need to talk to is your dad....anyone else it would become a scandal...your dad lose respect....mother lose her trust in him and trust is the foundation of any relationship...so you know the marriage would begin to crumble...all because you told the wrong persons. Let him know you have a serious personal issue you would like to discuss with him urgently. Find a plqce away from home...at a restaurant..in the car...wherever. Let him know what you know...don't get into why he is doing it....but instead let him know he can never imagine how you feel and how much it is tearing you apart. As a dad....no babe or babes would stand in the way between him and the happiness of his daughter...especially at this point of your life...when he is most proud of you. Let him know that you are afraid that your husband may do the same to you. Then ask of him one favour... for him to promise you that he shall bring those relationships to an end ...in two days time. Insist on an answer .....then promise that your lips are sealed on the matter. Trust me....that will be the end of it.

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by djbazz(m): 12:33am On Apr 06, 2015

falconey:
leave daddy alone, don't tell mummy.

It doesn't matter where daddy is geting his motor running as long as he park in the right garage.

I luv dis comment
@op free d man cos u never can tell if those ladies hav being d ones making ur dad and mum live in peace all dis years? Now ASK ME WHY I said so b4 nairalanders. Stone me 2 death........
1)Every Women have wot I call big wahala including ur mum, my mum and you.... Now wen d wahala starts d guy man leaves d house 2 any of d available babes and maks himself happy and buys suya 4 ur mum wen Coming back 2 her and she luvs him more...
2)women luv calling there lovers useless man wen de get upset... u knw na? Wen ur mum calls Ur dad dat and he wanna beat her up and remembers his runs outside he cools down and says 2 Himself na true oooo .. I be useless man ooo and dat ends it all....
Free d man he knws why he made dem two.... ASK ME WHY AGAIN....
incase ur mum and one of dem wahala starts @ d same time..him go still get where 2 go and be happy..

Add me 4 More tips 3321DCA4

Don't mind people advising u 2 tell elders, elders way get 5 babes outside go just Link ur dad to extra 3 babes.....

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Ximenes45(m): 12:55am On Apr 06, 2015

Billyonaire:
My advise, is as follows;

Your mother is NOT aware of his escapades, you do not have to be the whistle blower, you wont forgive yourself when wahala starts.

You are aware of his escapes;

Plan A:

you need to find a diplomatic way of whimsically, jokingly, respectfully saying "Daddy, I am aware oh, but I swear, Mamma will NOT hear this from me, this is our little secret, but you just have to STOP, if not, things will get ugly.", be firm, be assertive and be his daughter.

Again, do not tell your mom, and be sure your Dad gets the message. In the event that your Dad does not listen, then move to Plan B.

Plan B: Get a new phone, new sim and send this text, purportedly from a guy to him; "Old man, you have succeeded in ruining my relationship with my girlfriend because you have cash. You will not see me coming, I hope you love your wife and your kids, If this heart-break continues then I will send any of them 6ft.

Escalate Plan B, after a week, by lying that a certain boy was chasing after you with a dagger and nearly killed you if not that you ran into someone's office, and that the boy was shouting "Your Dad will pay for his actions".

Hahahahahaha Manipulation saves time and effort.

Nice One!! Works Most of the time!! Trust me

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Lexusgs430: 1:11am On Apr 06, 2015

Have a private conversation with your Dad and voice your concerns.
Telling your Mum is not the best option, yet!!!!!

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Nobody: 3:36am On Apr 06, 2015

Let me turn this around.
So u guys will start thinking with your brains.
And not your balls.
Sorry.

If you're married to an adulterer, wouldn't you want to know what's up huh

??
If it were your mum that was in the wrong, you'd see them telling you to even cast her out of your house.

Chauvinistic pigs.
Mxwwwww.
Sorry again.

Abeg tell your mum and avoid nonsense bc this issue will surely blow one day.
And where will you be?
Right in the middle of it all.

Fact that he asked you for password setting means he has no plan of changing or stopping the adultery.
I have to be blunt.
Go and tell her now before she hates you for life.
Everyone will be hurt but you can shorten the process by telling her now.
And tell her in his presence.
God strengthen you.

Life is too short for unnecessary drama abegii.

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Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by eyinjuege: 4:22am On Apr 06, 2015

CaptainAmerica1:
All the people here saying you should talk to an elder about it are not wise.

You can never tell what's on the mind of the 'elder'. He might be a bad belle waiting for an opportunity to strike.

I've seen too many instances

Are we even sure the elder is any better than the dad? That one may have 3 or more concubines who have borne him children outside with no one the wiser.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by doja(m): 4:57am On Apr 06, 2015

Your Mum has been married to your dad for over 26 years and you think she does not know about your dad's escapades? She does. The reason you have not heard them fight over this is a lesson you should take with you to your husband's house.

I think you should concentrate on your wedding and your new family instead.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by DeRay98(m): 5:25am On Apr 06, 2015

missclasssy:
[color=#000050]Op, for the sake of your mum and dad's marriage, I think it's best you don't tell your mum or anyone.

From everything you have said, it seems you are really close to your dad.

Here is my advise~ I think the best thing you do is sit your dad down and talk to him in all seriousness and maturity
Tell him that what he is doing isn't right and it's even having a bad influence on you as his child.
Explain to him that him cheating on your mum is total wickedness because she loves him so much.
Tell him that if he doesn't stop that you would report him to a spiritual leader or an elder relation.

If he continues this absurd behavior, Op you have no choice but to do just that.

I know it would be tough being in your condition but don't give up on your dad. Always include him in your prayers and keep on praying that God would continue to keep his union with your mum.

Thanks.[/color]

THIS IS A WISE IDEA, DIPLOMACY CAN GO ALONG WAY. DONT JUST GO AND TELL YOUR MUM GBOSA LIKE THAT OH, CASALA GO GAS AND YOU WILL EVER REMAIN IN GUILT....Billyonaire:
My advise, is as follows;

Your mother is NOT aware of his escapades, you do not have to be the whistle blower, you wont forgive yourself when wahala starts.

You are aware of his escapes;

Plan A:

you need to find a diplomatic way of whimsically, jokingly, respectfully saying "Daddy, I am aware oh, but I swear, Mamma will NOT hear this from me, this is our little secret, but you just have to STOP, if not, things will get ugly.", be firm, be assertive and be his daughter.

Again, do not tell your mom, and be sure your Dad gets the message. In the event that your Dad does not listen, then move to Plan B.

Plan B: Get a new phone, new sim and send this text, purportedly from a guy to him; "Old man, you have succeeded in ruining my relationship with my girlfriend because you have cash. You will not see me coming, I hope you love your wife and your kids, If this heart-break continues then I will send any of them 6ft.

Escalate Plan B, after a week, by lying that a certain boy was chasing after you with a dagger and nearly killed you if not that you ran into someone's office, and that the boy was shouting "Your Dad will pay for his actions".

Hahahahahaha Manipulation saves time and effort.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by sinizia: 7:21am On Apr 06, 2015

falconey:
leave daddy alone, don't tell mummy.

It doesn't matter where daddy is geting his motor running as long as he park in the right garage.

You know one thing I've discovered about your type that condones cheating? They never forgive their partner that cheats on them. This your post might come off as a joke, but it speaks lowly of you. You claim to love your mom, the woman that nurtured and raised you. Breast-fed you and went through hell for you, and yet you don't mind your dad infecting her with STDs as long as he comes back to her at the end of the day. Re-read the sick joke you are saying carefully.

The kind of replies I saw on this thread made me weep for mothers in general. God knows if I saw my father doing that shít, or even my sister's BF cheating on her, I won't waste time to tell them the truth. It's now up to them to handle the truth like adults. Whatever they choose to do afterward is none of business. But I'll never keep quiet and watch my father sleep around without letting my mum know, God forbid!!

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by elantraceey(f): 7:53am On Apr 06, 2015

Boss13:
.

Shhhh , the father should have thought of that before sleeping around .

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by dericardos88: 8:10am On Apr 06, 2015

He is your dad, talk to him first.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Tonason: 8:36am On Apr 06, 2015

adamilen:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am a 26 year old lady and will be getting married in June. Unfortunately for me I found about two months ago that my dad is cheating on my mum. I didn't say anything cuz I do not want my family to break up. Before it was one lady but now I have found out that they are two. It seems like as the days go deeper he gets more and more into it.

Yesterday he told me to put a password for him on his phone. I tried avoiding doing it but he was persistent and at the end I ended up putting it for him but my conscience has really started disturbing me. I dont know if I should tell her because I don't want my family to break up and at the same time I don't want to see my mother hurt. She loves and adores him, although everyone has his/her shortcomings.

He is a well respected man and my fiancee respects him more than anything. I feel like I am suffocating.

Please what should I do? I really need good advice

Thanks

Don't be a fool , don't wreck your family. Don't ever tell your mom.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by falconey(m): 8:40am On Apr 06, 2015

sinizia:
You know one thing I've discovered about your type that condones cheating? They never forgive their partner that cheats on them. This your post might come off as a joke, but it speaks lowly of you. You claim to love your mom, the woman that nurtured and raised you. Breast-fed you and went through hell for you, and yet you don't mind your dad infecting her with STDs as long as he comes back to her at the end of the day. Re-read the sick joke you are saying carefully.

The kind of replies I saw on this thread made me weep for mothers in general. God knows if I saw my father doing that shít, or even my sister's BF cheating on her, I won't waste time to tell them the truth. It's now up to them to handle the truth like adults. Whatever they choose to do afterward is none of business. But I'll never keep quiet and watch my father sleep around without letting my mum know, God forbid!!

are you done? Come see me when you turn 18.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Nobody: 9:38am On Apr 06, 2015

adamilen:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am a 26 year old lady and will be getting married in June. Unfortunately for me I found about two months ago that my dad is cheating on my mum. I didn't say anything cuz I do not want my family to break up. Before it was one lady but now I have found out that they are two. It seems like as the days go deeper he gets more and more into it.

Yesterday he told me to put a password for him on his phone. I tried avoiding doing it but he was persistent and at the end I ended up putting it for him but my conscience has really started disturbing me. I dont know if I should tell her because I don't want my family to break up and at the same time I don't want to see my mother hurt. She loves and adores him, although everyone has his/her shortcomings.

He is a well respected man and my fiancee respects him more than anything. I feel like I am suffocating.

Please what should I do? I really need good advice

Thanks

Is your mother a police woman ?

Confront your father face to face. Are you not an adult ? Tell him you know what he is doing. Ask him, does he expect you not to tell everybody ?

Threaten him that if he does not stop, you will call a family meeting on his matter. smh.

What are you afraid of ? You are no longer in his care by the end of the year.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Affable200(m): 9:38am On Apr 06, 2015

Call your daddy first, sit him down make him to know that you knows everything then make him to change first but if he refuses, expose him because nothing is hidden under the sun, if you did not tell your mummy others will do so, by that time if your mummy notice you know about it probably you will also become a victim.

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by ifko: 1:31pm On Apr 06, 2015

Billyonaire:
My advise, is as follows;

Your mother is NOT aware of his escapades, you do not have to be the whistle blower, you wont forgive yourself when wahala starts.

You are aware of his escapes;

Plan A:

you need to find a diplomatic way of whimsically, jokingly, respectfully saying "Daddy, I am aware oh, but I swear, Mamma will NOT hear this from me, this is our little secret, but you just have to STOP, if not, things will get ugly.", be firm, be assertive and be his daughter.

Again, do not tell your mom, and be sure your Dad gets the message. In the event that your Dad does not listen, then move to Plan B.

Plan B: Get a new phone, new sim and send this text, purportedly from a guy to him; "Old man, you have succeeded in ruining my relationship with my girlfriend because you have cash. You will not see me coming, I hope you love your wife and your kids, If this heart-break continues then I will send any of them 6ft.

Escalate Plan B, after a week, by lying that a certain boy was chasing after you with a dagger and nearly killed you if not that you ran into someone's office, and that the boy was shouting "Your Dad will pay for his actions".

Hahahahahaha Manipulation saves time and effort.

hilarious plan, well it may work

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Hawlahscho(m): 1:49pm On Apr 06, 2015

adamilen:
Hi Nairalanders,

I am a 26 year old lady and will be getting married in June. Unfortunately for me I found about two months ago that my dad is cheating on my mum. I didn't say anything cuz I do not want my family to break up. Before it was one lady but now I have found out that they are two. It seems like as the days go deeper he gets more and more into it.

Yesterday he told me to put a password for him on his phone. I tried avoiding doing it but he was persistent and at the end I ended up putting it for him but my conscience has really started disturbing me. I dont know if I should tell her because I don't want my family to break up and at the same time I don't want to see my mother hurt. She loves and adores him, although everyone has his/her shortcomings.

He is a well respected man and my fiancee respects him more than anything. I feel like I am suffocating.

Please what should I do? I really need good advice

Thanks

BEST SOLUTION I THINK

TALK TO YOUR DAD EXACTLY LIKE THIS AND PROMISE HIM IT'LL BE SECRETE BUT HE SHOULD PLS CHANGE. HE'LL LISTEN I PRAY.

SIMPLE

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Nickymezor(f): 4:21pm On Apr 06, 2015

Linqsz:
Girl, when you were growing up, your parent told you to "always mind your business" ...this situation inclusive.you don't have to disobey them now.

This is nt d case of minding onez biz okay... its her family we re talking abt.... such acts shouldnt be ova looked,hence it escalates

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by Bhella5(m): 5:00pm On Apr 06, 2015

If it's not broken don't fix it!

Re: Help!!!my Dad Is Cheating On My Mum by tunnary(m): 5:10pm On Apr 06, 2015

tel ur mum 1st before other authorities but ensure u get married first be4 u settle any issue or else

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