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hahaha only you badt guys yes ooo, i didnt waste my time pushing her ass out crying like a fool

menix:
Broz!!! U re d man, abeg take diz money nd lavish on ursef nd com bak 4 more..

Seriously u said my mind...

Ordinary repeating mysef to a normal gal fwend gets her a red card.

Som1 lik mii datz hates nagging, talkative nd d worst insultive partner wont even last 2 month under my roof cous she go go long vacation to her parents house...

Bros I sympathise with u so much,but they say watever u couldn't stop in courtship u can never stop it in marriage. U knw quite alright that she has anger management issue ,and she didn't show d sign that she will change and you still went ahead with the marriage,my dear u are to blame on this. U allowed ur emotions and feelings to dictate for u instead of ur head, now the die is cast, just two months. Well my advice for u is to seek cancelling from ur pastor,expert etc. Goodluck

coogar:
•forming
•storming
•norming
•performing

you are at the storming stage in your marriage. endure it, persevere it and you would soon get past this phase. at least, she's decent enough to apologise whenever she says things that are bang out of order.

there's light at the end of the tunnel.

I can bet my lunch that Coogars account has been hacked.

Dyt:


Well I dunno
Cos I am quite troublesome too
It's all love for me
I am very troublesome
*truethat
And when its distance?
I fucking need u remind me how much u fucking love n miss me every of the time
I pick fights with lil things o
Don't read or reply?
Don't pick on time
Hmmmmm
Who u bn chatting with
When I love, its obsession
I can do same thing OPs wife is doing
I won't lie
But same time I can give him best of love

.....lol...... In other news,where is my @ aminat508?

coogar:
•forming
•storming
•norming
•performing

you are at the storming stage in your marriage. endure it, persevere it and you would soon get past this phase. at least, she's decent enough to apologise whenever she says things that are bang out of order.

there's light at the end of the tunnel.

hhhhhmmmmmmm endure it? i dnt think so, things need to be corrected, i had thesame experience!when i got tiredof the whole stuff, i started my verssion of malice,it became became worst than hers i was expecting the worst,i'm no longer seen her as a wife again, it was soo fraustrating! if i need sexx,i will have to start beging my wife,if she eventualy agree!my joystick is tired. what a nonsence!after i abandon her, she negotiated for peace we sin peace accord and we live happily ever again.

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.

You can't fix stoopid bro. Sure you must have thought while courting that those despicable traits of hers would change after marriage. Nah man, they hardly do. I was in such relationship a while ago. No sense of respect for you, you feel depressed every now and then, pour your heart out & she promise to amend only for her to do worse two days after.

It's unhealthy living under such conditions in dating not to say a marriage if you want to age well. I dropped my ex for stuffs like these and even though I felt the hurt more, because one of the most painful thing is the inability to rationalize why your partner is such an a$$hole, it was the best thing to do. I checked on her a few months later to see if she was sober, apparently not. It was officially a wrap ever since.

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.

Bros I feel for you cos I once dated a lady that had the same attitude like u mentioned above. She complains(nags) and quarrels at every slightest thing. Sometimes she make the whole house look like hell to me and I will leave and come back late at night. This was just dating o. It makes a man to lose focus and can sometimes make u sick. But she had a lot good sides too like taking good care of the house, she's a gud cook ,intelligent and hardworking. But d other aspect of her was killing me slowly and all my efforts to change her came to a dead end. Mind you, I ve my own problems too. I almost took this lady to the alter cos I was blindfolded by her outstanding beauty and social class. But after seeking for counselling, it was obvious to us that we can't leave together as husband and wife even though we love ourselves. We decided to break up our 5yrs relationship. But as you bros, you are already in. Only prayer and endurance can restore things to other. Keep loving her and stop doing those things she complains about for the sake of ur marriage. That institution is not somtin one rushes in and rush out.

Chigold101:
honey you are right. But i wasnt talking based on the said woman, am talking about SOME other women.

So how are u doing this morning?

and i know that all pregnancies are not the same even for a particular woman. Anyways, since am 13yrs old, where should i be? Am in the class. Second period, pregnancy and childbirth. Later babe

To be candid with you, she is just taking you for granted simply because you love her or you show her too much of love which is not bad.

My Advice

1. You have to be courageous, strong-hearted, and be man enough to relate with her by ignoring her childish behaviour in such a way that you will do your right at home and be less bother about her attitude by zeroing your mind on it as if you are not bugged.

2. Do you know this life is full of ups and downs? So, you are facing the down side of it now just be hopeful that you are going to triumph, because you are a man any challenges that come your way you have to tackle it squarely. It is not time to be sober, but time to trust in God. Never give up, the battle has an expiry date.

3. Finally, pretend as if nothing bad is happening to you by not giving a chance to think about it each time it comes to your mind find another thing to think about such as how am I going to pass this exam? How am I going to make extra income? etc.

It is well with you and your marriage, God bless you and your wife, may she repent from her unruly behaviour, Amen.

One love!
tayolumide@gmail.com

Bro, I understand your problem
But first, let me debunk this popular saying that people dont/cant change. People do change partially or completely. it all depends how serious the individual is about changing. People quit smoking for good, people quit drinking and patronizing prostitutes. people change when they grow up. Its possible. it happens. so dont give up on her. You're exacly who she needs to help her grow up. What do you think those gifts of yours are for? Those gift of patience, tolerance, understanding, humility. Your FATHER gave you those gift on purpose with the intention you rescue your darling wife. HE armed you adequately for this purpose.
But you may the lacking in one thing --- going on your knees on her behalf. Fighting from the spirit not the physical. What is against her is stronger than her, but not you. Its that old accient enemy of man that hates marriage. With all these precious gifts GOD has given you, go on your knees regularly and fight from the spirit and be patient, you'll start seeing results.Dont abandon your wife.

egbaguy:
.....lol...... In other news,where is my @ aminat508?

I dunno where she is lol
Seek n find her

multicast:
she was a little bit of a stubborn and volatile person but its worse now.

Don't you think,she feels insecured?when was the last time you took her out to have a nice times?something might be bordering her! introduce something different into the marriage spice it up ......

So so touching,buh poster we only heard ur side of the story,anyway the only place i believe ur marital issue can be genuinely &maturedly tackled for u to enjoy a blissful relationship/marriage is AMARA VANLARE'S PAGE ON FACEBOOK,search for it there and table ur challenges then thank me later

My man, simply give her space. People never know what they have till they lose it, so threateningly distance urself from her for some weeks n return n c if she missed u n determines to change.

helen4:
and i know that all pregnancies are not the same even for a particular woman. Anyways, since am 13yrs old, where should i be? Am in the class. Second period, pregnancy and childbirth. Later babe

i thought we have gone beyond the age thing mylove.

Okay sha see ya later then

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.

Your wife needs something from you that you haven't figured out yet.

When she starts her nagging just listen to all the rants she has to make and then respond with some TLC. Say some nice things to her. There are women who just want attention. Usually they don't come out saying "Give me attention". They do it this way.

Maybe she is from an environment where she is used to people doting over her and she is grabbing all the attention. Just give her plenty of it. Find something about her to compliment and say some sexy sweet words. Compliment her sexy body, or the way she moves or her smile or whatever else she has that you can compliment.

2 months and you are already complaining. Guy you be gbef o!

Chigold101:
i thought we have gone beyond the age thing mylove.

Okay sha see ya later then

sweetheart, unless u apologies or are u too big to do that?

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multicast:
thank you very much, i know a lot of women say men dont like settling down this days but i must confess, this experience is enough to pack the bag and leave, if you love a woman and all that u get is a recurrence of what u abolish, its not worth it. but i love her so much, its why her manners and ways are affecting me so badly. i have an exam on the way and i cant focus. i told her about this and she dint say a word...still on malice episode

you sound like you are not listening to these advices YOU ASKED FOR... as much as i empathise with you, i dont know the whole story, am sure if she were to tell her side of the story, it might be different from this..my point? agreed you seem like a good husband, what will make you a better husband?is not to give up, this is a phase as someone up has told you,if you value marriage and your home plsssssssssssssssssssssss let it pass, i believe she is stil acting childish, i understand the weight of pressures when you have exams, am going tru that myself, much as you need her now,take your mind of the issue and concentrate on your exams....... A REAL PERSON OF WORTH, DONT GIVE UP TOO EASILY, IF ANYTHING, NOW IS THE TIME TO PERSIST N PERSEVERE. PLS DONT JOIN THE TEAM OF FAILURES. GOOD LUCK BRO.

multicast:
thank you very much, i know a lot of women say men dont like settling down this days but i must confess, this experience is enough to pack the bag and leave, if you love a woman and all that u get is a recurrence of what u abolish, its not worth it. but i love her so much, its why her manners and ways are affecting me so badly. i have an exam on the way and i cant focus. i told her about this and she dint say a word...still on malice episode

wow and she didn't say a word on ds or stop d malice to help u concentrate, she seems non chalant abt ds, I hate malice personally, it brews bad blood, if after talking to her she doesn't yield or continues d same trend, I think u should seek help, look for someone she really respects a lot, explain to him/her, hv her tok to her and see if she will change, I'm not married but from evryfn I see in relationships marriage takes a lot of patience, U married dt woman despite her temper issues, pls don't give up on her just yet, a change might be around the corner. Cheers! Wishing you a happy home.

Multicast don't worry. It is normal in a new marriage. The two of you are now getting to know each other very well now. I experienced excatly the same thing when I got married to her almost 7years ago and now we have overcome all those challenges. Perhaps, there is a wide age difference between you and your wife such that you will expect her to think and act like you. Women really don't think like that. All the same take things easy with her and be ready to absorb a lot of things from her. There is an adage in yoruba that says 'suru lafi n se oko obinrin' meaning you have to be patient to be a husband to a woman. If you need more advise you can call me on 08035506818. Cheers!

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.


i cant make any justice on judge the wife because we need to here the wife point of view, why she change her ways toward the husband...

multicast:
I am a fervent reader on Nairaland and i dont miss this forum in 1 day, i have seen people share their concerns here and a lot of people have contributed through their comments, though some are hillarious while others are on point. i will appreciate matured responses.

I did not marry a stranger to start with and its why i am very pained cuz i come here on nairaland and see how people get frustrated about their marriage based on cogent reasons but mine is different.

first of all, I got married in february and am already very tired of my wife, not because she isnt very sexy or good in bed as other may experienced but because my wife starts arguments from little things as little as why did u miss my call, even if its a BBM call thats dependent of network, after hours of begging i have to end up with uncountable "am sorry".

secondly, my wife find it very easy to engage in malice for days without bothering to reconcile, and i have to talk to her over again and make her see reason why such act is not good in marriage, for which she will later apologize and the next day or same day she is back again in another episode.

thirdly, every man love to be respected, when my wife starts her drama about missed call or other flimsy excuses, she starts talking to me like am her junior brother, calling me names and after noticing how mad i am with her, she will apologize but always repeat such act.

i feel the amount of love and attention she gets from me is too much and i am beginning to think i should make her understand what it feels like to have a frustrated marriage. though am yet to do that.

i honestly am not perfect but i have never used any harsh word while addressing her even when she is obviously wrong, i dont do so because i know the feeling when she use them for me. i wish i could anyway.

i grew up in a place where women are highly regarded and well treated and maybe its affecting me because i also help her do chores and i dont push all the house work to her as most men do.

i noticed i am always very unhappy and depressed the moment she comes up with this episodes and it may be because i love her so much and this is beginning to affect how i study and i might be forced to push her away first by not giving her attention as i used to.

My fellow Nairalanders, i respect ur opinion, hillarious ones and reasonable ones, marriage is not a bed of roses, i love my wife and i am not cheating on her, i am 100% married to her alone but her attitude is frustrating and i might have to leave her in the end. i hope i get lucky and this make FP so i can learn from experienced members before i take a decision, as we speak she has began the malice episode with me and if i dont apologize to her in 3 days, she is ready to go that far too.

Be prayerful maybe she has a spiritual husband ....she doesn't actually knows when she does all that...

Lol ur marriage na 2months n e don dy crash?
Ok o

i cant make any justice or judge the wife because we need to here the wife point of view, why she change her ways toward the husband...

qbd2:
I think ur wifehas temperissues, and umadea mistakein dfirst instanceby beingthe reciepinet (can't find wordstodescribe what I mean).
U jusst have to talk to her and let her know howhurt uu feel whenever she acts that way to u, and u can maybe buy her some books orr recommend her to videos that tell how onemanages ones temper. She mostly needs ur help.

Don't u ve a space bar button on ur system or phone or whatever it is ur typing from? Or are u a 10yr old girl? pls type with space btw each word. Thnks

Dez a lot i wud like to input, i totally understand where u are in ur marriage, and how ur wife feels now, av been married 4 3yrs and it was like dat in d beginning too 4 us, dou am not malicious, i contained and repressed my anger till it exploded, most tins my hubby did or said den annoyed me den we started dis ur approach of "we are tired of talking bout same tin over and over again". We eventually got over dat phase dou but after a lotta hitches. Ping me so i can enlighten u more and perhaps ur wife 53021AEB

jauntty:
Op...its nice that you are acting maturely by not joining issues with your wife and keeping malice. Its always an honorable thing to say "sorry" just to avoid quarrels.

I've discover people don't really change...they get better or worst at who they are. So if she was stubborn @ Dating...she will continue with that attitude especially if you have overlooked it before marriage...(when u were still 'Love Blind"

Way Forward:

To be a Man you just have to be the man. Women are like Children, to be @ peace with them YOU MUST use the "Carrot and Stick " approach.

Be Firm and yet gentle with her.

Lastly communication is the KEY.

Firrst and foremost, understand that that is your own cross. It is the interpretation of that ''for worse'' part you answered ''I do'' to in your marriage vow! Now, back to the matter, be firm in your conviction and correct her always and pray, one day she will grow out of it if you remain firm.

I understand wot u r going thru,love doesn't mean u shldnt address issues properly,I ws havin such problems before,buh my husband tammed me,n now we respect eachoda.wn next she starts kipin malice,ignore her n pretend she isn't in d background,na she go tire.n wen she cums to apologise,tell her dt her sorry doesn't mean anytin to u anymore,u too tell her sum painful tinz so dt eventually wn u sort urself out she won't repeat such again.u v to b d man here,she knows u love her so much dtz y shez actin dt way,u guyz dint date for long I suppose,wot shez doin now is wot bf n gf go thru during courtship.pls dnt get tired to leave her,u both ill ovacum ds stage.God bless ur marriage

coogar:
•forming
•storming
•norming
•performing

you are at the storming stage in your marriage. endure it, persevere it and you would soon get past this phase. at least, she's decent enough to apologise whenever she says things that are bang out of order.

there's light at the end of the tunnel.

Agreed. It's a stage I believe you will pass through

IMO u should all go for counselling, we often under rate the relevance of counselling in our marriages and or relationships .

jauntty:
Op...its nice that you are acting maturely by not joining issues with your wife and keeping malice. Its always an honorable thing to say "sorry" just to avoid quarrels.

I've discover people don't really change...they get better or worst at who they are. So if she was stubborn @ Dating...she will continue with that attitude especially if you have overlooked it before marriage...(when u were still 'Love Blind"

Way Forward:

To be a Man you just have to be the man. Women are like Children, to be @ peace with them YOU MUST use the "Carrot and Stick " approach.

Be Firm and yet gentle with her.

Lastly communication is the KEY.

On point! You hit it right on the head!