softapple:
A friend of mine had sex with a lady that he has been wooing for days now, "so she now finally agree to go on a date with him, "so after the meal and all that, they end up having sex. so he has been thinking whether he should take her serious? or just forget about her? what should he do?

softapple:
gud girls gon bad

ronald4lif:


When one considers the fact that women are on mostly on the receiving end in a relationship and are the ones who are more vulnerable to get hurt then her action is a relationship killer.

True, they both had sex, enjoyed it so they are responsible and culpable for whatever the outcome is. And like I said earlier having sex on a first date means nothing but it scares most men away. You can call them irresponsible and immature men that won't be bad. But you see, a man can keep moving from one woman to another without bating an eyelid but same can hardly be said of women. As they age faster it affect their looks too. So they ought to behave in a manner that won't put men off.

Lest we forget, it's a man who proposes to a woman and not the other way round. Should women not act a bit responsibly it affect them more in a relationship, not the man who can pluck his m*nhood to just any bleeding hole

mizkeleke:

Nahhhhhh......still a gud gurl

whizqueen:
Maybe she likes him too much or she is jes like that.

Your friend should take his time n found out if she is really interested in him or she jes did it for the fun of it. One can never tell maybe the feelings controlled her thinking.

ronald4lif:


When one considers the fact that women are on mostly on the receiving end in a relationship and are the ones who are more vulnerable to get hurt then her action is a relationship killer.

True, they both had sex, enjoyed it so they are responsible and culpable for whichever the outcome is. And like I said earlier having sex on a first date means nothing but it scares most men. You can call them irresponsible and immature men that won't be bad. But you see, a man can keep moving from one woman to another without bating an eyelid but same can hardly be said of women. As they age faster it affect their looks too. So they ought to behave in a manner that won't put men off.

Lest we forget, it's a man who proposes to a woman and not the other way round. Should women not act a bit responsibly it affect them more in a relationship, not the man who can pluck his m*nhood to just any bleeding hole

LewisO:
The decision is yours between u and her.

If both of u love each other, u are both good to go...



I don't deduce to this your post at all, if a lady have sex with u on a first date that doesn't make her cheap and that doesn't make the man cheap as well.

They both have wild fantasy for each other, not everybody.

InZA:



Well cool.... Personally speaking, it makes them cheap...Super cheap. This whole box would be too small if I wanted to start giving my submissions about getting laid while dating, so there's really no need I go further... I can't have sex on a first date, I can't even have sex on the 50th date, so that should give you a peek into my perspective about sex and dating.

LewisO:

@bolded so when will you have sex with her?

InZA:


After the date with the ring.

berylLOL:

your statement is contradictory but that is just a part of the problem, my biggest worry with what you just said is that you obviously think every action of a woman should be meticulously planned so as not to drive potential Men away because her greatest aspiration in life should be marriage, now as a young girl, because of people like you who make up this patriarchal society, I have to pretend not to want/like sex because a Woman who embraces her sexual nature has no regard for herself but Men on the other hand are free to do whatever they want to do because? oh that's true there's no logical reason asides the fact that you are Men.

InZA:

I don't think you're being objective here... Your opinion reeks of thick misogyny. If it's a man that proposes to a woman, doesn't the woman deserve the best possible man? That a man can jump from bed to bed without any real consequences to him, his life or his personality, is an absolutely flawed idea... It's bad for a man to be a bed hopper just as it's bad for a woman to do so.
Please let's stop all these double standards abeg, this is 2015, we ought to be more liberal objectively and less subjectively archaic.

LewisO:

U mean after marriage or before marriage?

InZA:


Lol

Does a woman wear the ring before or after marriage, ofcourse I mean after marriage.

ronald4lif:


Do I take it that you both are oblivious of the fact at least 60% of nigerian girls have marriage as one of their main priority in life? That to them life is all about getting married. Or the idea that most of them portrays themselves in a mannerism that will appeal to potential suitors? Do I also take it that you're oblivious of the African man mentality of tagging girls cheap at the slightest opportunity. If this is not one of those action that drives the cheap girls mantra then what else.

I have said earlier in some of my previous submission on this platform that I don't consider sex or first date sexual encounters to determine a homely girl, as the hard to get ones might be worse off. But you lot fail to understand that in Nigeria; a religious, judgmental and hypocritical society people will always shrug off at such actions.

This debate has nothing to do with misogynism and if anyone is perceiving it to be so its wrong and it should be dismissed. Let's be pragmatic here and narrow this discuss on the average Nigerian man mentality towards women and relationship. Not what should be right or wrong. For like I said it's wrong to judge a woman based on the fact that she has sex on a first date.

LewisO:

U can propose with a ring, but that doesn't mean u are both married yet.

InZA:




I understand your use of the African man mentality thing, but as much as I may want to accede to your suggestion of not placing wrong or right markers, on this issue of the African man mentality, I just have to pick a side. Yes... The African man mentality has eaten deep into our societal belief system and standards but is it right?... Is this African mentality really right?..I'm sure you agree that the fact that a notion is widespread doesn't necessarily make it right. If it's an African man mentality to think that because 60% of women have marriage as their life goal, he then has the right of way to behave unruly with ceaseless flirting and cheating on his partner - Is this right?.

I think we should shift our gaze from the African mentality thing, because it's an umbrella that has become too small to accommodate objective and reasonable submissions. Instead we should tow along the parts of what's right and wrong according to good conscience.

Ultimately what I want you to take from this, no matter how convoluted I may have sounded in this reply, is - Let's treat women with respect, with as much respect as we also want to be treated, and the suggestion that it's remotely okay for a man to ask the question the OP is asking gives little or no respect to the woman folk.

InZA:


Anyways.... I'm sure you get the idea. I don't do premarital sex.

Lanretoye:
dont take her serious o,your bone go soon rise again.

redhook:
Kai! Naija couples and immaturity? So him dat is wondering now if she is cheap, was he raped? He shud hav said "not tonite babe" And by the way who says that girls who play hard 2 get end up having fantastic relationships wit the corpers dat wait 4 dem? Tell your guy 2 wake up abeg! Sum girls r playettes too! If peolple like each other dey smash! Simple!

softapple:
hm hm i dnt c ur point.

softapple:
A friend of mine had sex with a lady that he has been wooing for days now, "so she now finally agree to go on a date with him, "so after the meal and all that, they end up having sex. so he has been thinking whether he should take her serious? or just forget about her? what should he do?

firstEVA:
She should be the one considering whether to take him seriously having proven he is a dog.