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Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by JERRY1925(op): 10:35pm On Apr 12, 2015

Am in love with this girl, she won't date me..and don't want me to leave her..confused..i'v spoken to her several times but her reply is always No...I knw u will say i'v bin frnd Zoned, but this is more than that, because we have feelings 4 each other and we do stuffs..like hold hands,kiss,cuddle nd plenty more...but the said part is she can't date me...and when I try to ignor her for real, she starts calling and saying hi on social network..

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by falconey(m): 10:36pm On Apr 12, 2015*

you do kiss and cuddle her, what else do you want? You guys are dating dude.

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Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by Cutehector(m): 10:36pm On Apr 12, 2015

Ignore d beech more jor.

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Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by ronald4lif(m): 10:39pm On Apr 12, 2015

You mean a girl cuddles and kisses you and you still went ahead asking her to date you? Like are you serious? Must a girl respond with a yes before you know she's your girlfriend and you both are in a relationship?

Ohh I'm going back to sleep in mrcork voice.

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Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by JERRY1925(op): 10:42pm On Apr 12, 2015

falconey:
you kissed and cuddled her, what else do you want? You guys are dating dude.

Bros no be so o.........dis girl eye strong, the annoyning part is..I dnt really understnd her..its almst two years...I asked if deres som1 else she Syd no..but yet she cnt date me.

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by JERRY1925(op): 10:57pm On Apr 12, 2015

ronald4lif:
You mean a girl cuddles and kisses you and you still went ahead asking her to date you? Like are you serious? Must a girl respond with a yes before you know she's your girlfriend and you both are in a relationship?

Ohh I'm going back to sleep in mrcork voice.

LoLz, in jega voice...Mr ronald this girls hate to be seen in public with me..and she's too secretive and hate m displaying her pix.

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by jamex93(m): 10:57pm On Apr 12, 2015

gals y do u ppl act like dat

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by deniyor: 10:59pm On Apr 12, 2015

Ask yourself what you really want? If you know exactly what you want, and she can't give it to you, leave her. If you are getting what you want without the title, enjoy it till you want more or something else.

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by ghost1718(m): 11:08pm On Apr 12, 2015

;Dbro run with ur already finished life. I was in this type of shoe before but thank God. I pluck all my investment in her before running away with my remin grin

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by ronald4lif(m): 11:11pm On Apr 12, 2015

JERRY1925:
LoLz, in jega voice...Mr ronald this girls hate to be seen in public with me..and she's too secretive and hate m displaying her pix.

Whichever the case maybe don't ask her that question anymore. Expecting to get a yes or no answer from her is irrelevant at this point. She cuddles and kisses you then in my opinion she's already into you. Girls doesn't go about kissing someone they have no feelings for. She could be shy or something. Perhaps it could be her first dating experience or she's had a heart break before and just want to take things slow. Now you don't rush it, be patient.

Keep showing her you care, treating her right always. I believe it's possible to make her feel less uptight and start opening up to you. I think when a girl is certain you care and love her sincerely she'll come around. Not every girl can say yes when one ask them out, some are way too shy to say it. Fact is, she mustn't say a yes before you know she has accept your advances or in a relationship with you. So it'll be nice if you stop asking that question and just assume she's in a relationship with you.

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by arcbay(m): 11:16pm On Apr 12, 2015

What's not made for you can never be yours no matter how hard you try. You've been with her 2years, do u want her to waste 6 more years of ur time? Bro, kill your feelings for her before she gives u the shocker of ur life, move on now that u still can. If she truly has feelings for you, she'll realise she's losing you and she'll come seeking u out.

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Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by Nobody: 11:21pm On Apr 12, 2015

JERRY1925:
Bros no be so o.........dis girl eye strong, the annoyning part is..I dnt really understnd her..its almst two years...I asked if deres som1 else she Syd no..but yet she cnt date me.

Abeg wetin be dating?

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by arcbay(m): 11:21pm On Apr 12, 2015

ronald4lif:
Whichever the case maybe don't ask her that question anymore. Expecting to get a yes or no answer from her is irrelevant at this point. She cuddles and kisses you then in my opinion she's already into you. Girls doesn't go about kissing someone they have no feelings for. She could be shy or something. Perhaps it could be her first dating experience or she's had a heart break before and just want to take things slow. Now you don't rush it, be patient.

Keep showing her you care, treating her right always. I believe it's possible to make her feel less uptight and start opening up to you. I think when a girl is certain you care and love her sincerely she'll come around. Not every girl can say yes when one ask them out, some are way too shy to say it. Fact is, she mustn't say a yes before you know she has accept your advances or in a relationship with you. So it'll be nice if you stop asking that question and just assume she's in a relationship with you.

Did u read the part the OP said they've been together for 2years? You advice him to have more patience even after this whole while. The lady only likes his company, needs him to satisfy her urge but can't bring herself to go into a relationship with him, simple. The handwriting is boldly written on the wall.

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Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by swaggzo(m): 11:27pm On Apr 12, 2015

OGA ARE YOU FROM THE ZOO?

YOU KISS AND SMOOCH AND CUDDLE AND MAYBE FUCCK

AND YOU COME HERE TO POST THIS NONSENSE? ?? undecided

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by ronald4lif(m): 11:28pm On Apr 12, 2015

arcbay:
Did u read the part the OP said they've been together for 2years? You advice him to have more patience even after this whole while. The lady only likes his company, needs him to satisfy her urge but can't bring herself to go into a relationship with him, simple. The handwriting is boldly written on the wall.

Oh well. She should wait until he f*cks him before realizing she's in a relationship with him lol. I fail to believe that a girl who kisses a guy, perhaps not once but many times is not in a relationship with him, sorry. He may not be playing his card well, that I can't tell. My submission was based on his narrative. Yes, 2years is a long time to keep being shy and not to have start feeling free with him. But, if he hasn't been doing things right it's possible she'll still be keeping to herself no matter how long. Maybe she's got another man though, no one can fully trust these girls.

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by sinizia: 11:40pm On Apr 12, 2015

JERRY1925:
Am in love with this girl, she won't date me..and don't want me to leave her..confused..i'v spoken to her several times but her reply is always No...I knw u will say i'v bin frnd Zoned, but this is more than that, because we have feelings 4 each other and we do stuffs..like hold hands,kiss,cuddle nd plenty more...but the said part is she can't date me...and when I try to ignor her for real, she starts calling and saying hi on social network..

She said no but you both kiss and cuddle. Bros, free that babe, she's yet to mature. She acts like a prepubscent teen.

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by Nobody: 11:44pm On Apr 12, 2015

JERRY1925:
Am in love with this girl, she won't date me..and don't want me to leave her..confused..i'v spoken to her several times but her reply is always No...I knw u will say i'v bin frnd Zoned, but this is more than that, because we have feelings 4 each other and we do stuffs..like hold hands,kiss,cuddle nd plenty more...but the said part is she can't date me...and when I try to ignor her for real, she starts calling and saying hi on social network..

My bro, some guys are officially dating and they arent getting all the extras you're getting...kiss, cuddle and PLENTY MORE! You're dating her bro...or what you want is a certificate of occupancy before you know its dating?

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by Baddestguyp(m): 12:08am On Apr 13, 2015

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by Brugo(m): 12:22am On Apr 13, 2015

Give her an ultimatum. 24 hours. If she doesn't say yes you must forget her and move on immediately. She is not proud of you at all. You need someone who adores you. Your life is too important to be kept in one small girl's pocket.

Even if she says yes before the ultimatum, make sure you get a "plan b" girl ready. Don't hide your moves from her. Let her see that you have a replacement. If she wan go abeg make she carry her wahala go. There are many girls out there who are better than her in every way.

Don't settle for rubbish.

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by fxbot: 12:26am On Apr 13, 2015

JERRY1925:
Am in love with this girl, she won't date me..and don't want me to leave her..confused..i'v spoken to her several times but her reply is always No...I knw u will say i'v bin frnd Zoned, but this is more than that, because we have feelings 4 each other and we do stuffs..like hold hands,kiss,cuddle nd plenty more...but the said part is she can't date me...and when I try to ignor her for real, she starts calling and saying hi on social network..

Dude, you got no game... The bro code is that never ask a girl to date you... just act like her boyfriend. Be there for her and all that. If she kisses you, you are dating already. So stop asking her that question. Just play along. xxxtedyxxx's thread should explain better.

Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by Nobody: 12:30am On Apr 13, 2015

Kissing and cuddling doesn't translate to dating, you lot should stop force feeding the op with a myopic notion.

It's one thing to give into a crazy feeling, it's another to accept a dating proposal.

@Op, your friend is so much into you but is certainly not ready to walk down the dating path with you.

Don't pressurise her to speak up her reasons, don't avoid her for deciding to keep mom on the issue. Just bide your time and keep being the amazing friend who's getting some premium benefits.

Mind you, this shouldn't deter you from picking up another Chick to date. It doesn't change a thing!

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Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by Nobody: 12:45am On Apr 13, 2015

Walk away.....shes just putting ur life on hold just in case her love life dsnt work out. u r back up dude. U in love alone, it happens hey

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Re: Confused, Advise Plsss..godbless U. by Nobody: 12:46am On Apr 13, 2015

Friends with benefits thts all it is nd she has u just whr she wants u. U too available

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