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7. The Feminists
~These are those women that believe in gender equality and uphold the believe that women should be treated equally with men
They normally have high standards for men and wave off men that don't meet their requirements.
Most men are irritated by their ideologies and just chose to stay away from them

missclasssy:
1. The Broken-hearted
~This category of ladies have had countless break-ups in the past so they just decide to stay away from relationships, most times out of fear or just to recuperate.

2. The Dreamers.
~These ones normally have fantasy-like goals regarding the kind of relationships they want to have and the kind of man they want.
You see them saying things like, I want my man tall, handsome, rich, intelligent, with a cute smile, funny, prayerful, good in bed, blah, blah, blah.
Their desires are mostly unrealistic and they remain single trying to find the man of their "dreams"

3. The born Again
~These ones normally have the slogan "I am married to Jesus"
They are mostly virgins and have zero experience as pertaining relationships.
You find most of them in churches with awkward unattractive dressings hoping that a "brother" would look past all that and propose to them.

4. The Independent.
~These ones are single not because they choose to be but just because men are scared and intimidated by them.
Men generally want women who they can have some element of control over and who would want to depend on them so they chose not to approach these ones.
Asides that, most of the women in this category have a grandiose sense of worth coupled with pride and this is a turn-off for a lot of men.

5. Mummy's Pets
~These ones are always at the feet of their mums. They are normally very naïve about relationships and life as a whole.
They are always in their parents house, they don't go to social events, don't make friends easily and people hardly know that they even exist.

6. The Too Good To Be True.
~These ones are so beautiful and dress so attractively to the extent that guys desist from approaching them, not because they are intimidated by them, but just because the have this default mindset that a lady that looks and dresses like that must already be in a relationship.

7. The Feminists
~These are those women that believe in gender equality and uphold the believe that women should be treated equally with men
They normally have high standards for men and wave off men that don't meet their requirements.
Most men are irritated by their ideologies and just chose to stay away from them

8. The Fearful
~These ones just chose not to delve into any relationship because of fear.
Most of them have heard a lot of negative tales involving relationships and so are scared to engage in one.

9. Careers Seekers
~These ones have the principle that they have to have a source of income before getting into any relationship so they don't become liabilities to their partners.
Most of them prefer to finish school and get jobs before thinking of relationships.

10. Lesbians
~Yes, you read correctly.
This ones are just not attracted to men and since gay relationships hasn't been legalized in Nigeria, they just stay off relationships of any sort.

ronald4lif:
Lol! It may come up hilarious but that wasn't the aim. There are many women who do not work and are to lazy to think of something to engage themselves in. I have an uncle in the village whose wife has never worked in the about 30years of their marriage. Whenever she wants to cook for instance and there's no maggi cubes, salt, palm oil etc she'll wait until the husband returns from work. This always get me infuriated then. I think that was what propelled the maggi illustration lol. And I'm sure there are such women out there. Or how else can one explain how a woman who just sit at home all her life get money for groceries from?

LewisO:
[color=teal]Reading... [/color]

LewisO:
[color=teal]Reading... [/color]

Sommyangel:
Proudly miss Independent

[color=#1980BC]For how many years? [/color]

ronald4lif:
Number 9 is spot on. Every woman should work on becoming one. Men no longer want liabilities as a wife. Those women who think they can just seat at home and nurse babies without contributing any income to the home had better have a rethink. Having babies doesn't stop a woman from working and pursuing her career.

Get your ass up, build a career for yourself so no man can push you around. How do you expect a man to respect you when you can't even afford something as common as your own sanitary pads or maggi cubes. Lazy women irks me mehn.

Xiadnat:
Are you done reading, now type something Joor

[color=teal]Modified [/color]

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]For how many years? [/color]

Xiadnat:
I am 4, 7 and 9; but that's not why I am single. I am single because I have not met "the one" yet.

I am a proud feminists only in the promotion of rights of women; this does not necessarily transfer to my personal/intimate relationships with men. Independent because it establishes my individuality and assets that I bring into a relationship. Doesn't mean I don't need men. I sure Do. Lord knows, I DO.

I mostly play feminists out in the world/work place, BUT when I come home; I hang that position/ideology/mantra up and I slip into some my "damsel in distress" seeking my "knight in shinning armor" role (this has so many meanings and implications).

There can never be total equality and with my Christian principles, I don't think it was ever designed to be.

Extreme feministic ideologies are detrimental to man/woman relationship dynamics (or any relationship for that matter). There is always struggle for power and dominion; never a good thing.

MHO.

emusmith:
Nice piece of work

Missclasssy

Sommyangel:
since I left secondary school

[color=#1980BC]Hope you'll not be independent enough not to get married? [/color]

marieolae:
This is the kind of mentality that most men have..
They want hard working, soul driven independent women. A woman that can fend for herself financially.
Examine yourself first. You are what you attract in most cases..
Many people want extraordinary things but their image limits them on what they receive.

ronald4lif:
I don't think it should be whether a man want a woman that can fend for herself financially or not. A woman should fend for herself and be able to take up her own bills whether a man wants it or not. Not every woman needs a man in their life anyways. Life demands that every one should take up their own responsibilities atleast, not expect someone else do that because they are married or in a relationship with them.

Although a man is expected to take up most of the financial responsibilities and the welfare of the home but a woman should be able to assist and take care of some of her own bills.

The complete dependence of a woman to a man can also be really disastrous in a case of a sudden separation or a divorce. How would a woman who hasn't been earning cope with a sudden break up of a marriage?. If one should look at it closely they'll realize that most women who stays in an abusive marriage, be it physical or emotional abuse, are staying put because they don't have any other source of livelihood about from the man.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Hope you'll not be independent enough not to get married? [/color]

missclasssy:

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]That's where you find the gold diggers. They don't have anything doing for themselves. But they'll get married anyway and the next thing,,they look for a way to divorce so they can get something out of the man's property.

I like the way you countered that point.

How can men have a mentality of marrying only independent women. Are they not supposed to fend for themselves too?[/color]

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]These ones will get old before they get married. They will be in the single market for a long period of time. and when they get frustrated they console themselves with lesbianism.

Some of them remain single till old age.

They act like they don't give a fhuuck about men but deep down they actually give a fhuuck.

E.g vickybee [/color]

Vickybee:
Your post is chauvinistic laced with misogyny.

1) I can never become a lesbian because I wasn't born that way. I rather be a celibate

2) Women are not commodity and none of us are in the single market.

3) Feminism doesn't equate singleness-not all single ladies are feminists.

4) There are countless of married women who are feminists.

5) Singleness isn't a curse.
-Some women don't fancy marriage; they give birth and raise their kids as a single parent.

6) Are you insinuating all single aged women are lesbians. What about prostitutes sleeping around?

7) My boyfriend love a feminist.

[color=#1980BC]She don vex.

So what if i'm a chauvinist and misogynist? Will you bite me?

One has to be on one side of the divide. You chose yours and i've chosen mine.

As for your boyfriend,,he hasn't seen anything yet.

Probably because you don't display your "e-feminism" to him. [/color]

ronald4lif:
I don't think it should be whether a man want a woman that can fend for herself financially or not. A woman should fend for herself and be able to take up her own bills whether a man wants it or not. Not every woman needs a man in their life anyways. Life demands that every one should take up their own responsibilities atleast, not expect someone else do that because they are married or in a relationship with them.

Although a man is expected to take up most of the financial responsibilities and the welfare of the home but a woman should be able to assist and take care of some of her own bills.

The complete dependence of a woman to a man can also be really disastrous in a case of a sudden separation or a divorce. How would a woman who hasn't been earning cope with a sudden break up of a marriage?. If one should look at it closely they'll realize that most women who stays in an abusive marriage, be it physical or emotional abuse, are staying put because they don't have any other source of livelihood apart from the man.

LewisO:
[color=teal]Can't u bold the headings of your thread for it to look nice? [/color]

Xiadnat:
I am 4, 7 and 9; but that's not why I am single. I am single because I have not met "the one" yet.

I am a proud feminists only in the promotion of rights of women; this does not necessarily transfer to my personal/intimate relationships with men. Independent because it establishes my individuality and assets that I bring into a relationship. Doesn't mean I don't need men. I sure Do. Lord knows, I DO.

I mostly play feminists out in the world/work place, BUT when I come home; I hang that position/ideology/mantra up and I slip into some my "damsel in distress" seeking my "knight in shinning armor" role (this has so many meanings and implications).

There can never be total equality and with my Christian principles, I don't think it was ever designed to be.

Extreme feministic ideologies are detrimental to man/woman relationship dynamics (or any relationship for that matter). There is always struggle for power and dominion; never a good thing.

MHO.

marieolae:
That's exactly what I'm trying to say. A woman that is financially stable regardless of any relationship is what men seek. At the end of the day, A man who isn't ambitious or striving to be successful shouldn't rant about having a successful/independent women by his side. It works on both ways. Being a 'man' doesn't give you that excuse.

Vickybee:
Your post is chauvinistic laced with misogyny.

1) I can never become a lesbian because I wasn't born that way. I rather be a celibate

2) Women are not commodity and none of us are in the single market.

3) Feminism doesn't equate singleness-not all single ladies are feminists.

4) There are countless of married women who are feminists.

5) Singleness isn't a curse.
-Some women don't fancy marriage; they give birth and raise their kids as a single parent.

6) Are you insinuating all single aged women are lesbians. What about prostitutes sleeping around?

7) My boyfriend love a feminist.

naijaboiy:

marieolae:
That's exactly what I'm trying to say. A woman that is financially stable regardless of any relationship is what men seek. At the end of the day, A man who isn't ambitious or striving to be successful shouldn't rant about having a successful/independent women by his side. It works on both ways. Being a 'man' doesn't give you that excuse.