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Would you wait until your forties to have your first child if you boyfriend wanted to get himself together "financially" first?

What if she waits and they breakup in the meantime? That means she would have waited for nothing.

I personally think your forties is too late - is it me?

Not in a million years, or should I say forty? 

The guy is not serious.

no way 4 me, i cant wait jor.

it is either now or never. i want grow old with my kids and not have them be ashmed to call me their mother in front of their friends just cox i'm old.

how is one sure of even having any kids at 40 i mean while it is possible it carries even greater risks for 4 the child and the mom.

Isn't this sort of an exaggeration? How long is it going to take them to be financially sound? Are they even married?

A fool @ 40.
Ibk wudup?

A fool @ 40.
Ibk wudup?

They are married - initially for papers. But now they are dating seriously.

nalijah07:
They are married - initially for papers. But since then they have dated seriously.

Around what age are they currently?

Jcob:
A fool @ 40.
Ibk wudup?

Hey, I'm cool, u?

Fine thank u!

She is 37. I think he is 34.

I honestly believe it is because she hasn't proven to him that she is wife/mother material. She does not cook, or clean.

She complains that she only sees him on the weekend, but I told her that he would see her more if she became more domestic.

nalijah07:
She is 37. I think he is 34.

she is already 40 so she might as well wait till she is 40,45, or 50. which is even going to make things even more complicated.

she is married and she doesnt clean what then does she do just sit around the house

They don't live together. But I told her she should go over during the week and cook for him, and not just expect him to take her out on the weekends.

Like I said it was initially for papers, but they are in love.

I told her he might be observing her to see if he really wants to take it to the next level.

I am trying to advise her, but I don't know what else to say, except to cook and clean. (Show him some of your skills).

I need advice on what to suggest to her.

are they now married for real, i mean in the church or traditional? is paper marriage of the view now?

they were married here in the states. No church wedding, just court wedding.

4O?

By then,a lady should be prepping for menopause

nalijah07:
they were married here in the states. No church wedding, just court wedding.

she better get more serious cox she aint getting any young. the man is much younger and could be delaying everything just to lay her off with many excuses including, she doesnt cook for him, clean or that she is just too old for him.

so the girl should start acting interested in the marriage, by getting more involved in the relationship, start doing things for the man and also start asking him about their future cox the guy might just be using his financial instabilities as an excuse.

Its not funny, i will be 40 on thursday, still waiting for my first child. hmmm

Your chioce!

deetheboy:
Its not funny, i will be 40 on thursday, still waiting for my first child. hmmm

Kongratz!

If her biological clock will till be ticking at 40, then she could take the chance.

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@post
Nitori kini? kilode? hex no

@deetheboy - how long are you willing to wait

What was she doing in her early twenties?


For me 30 is old talkless of 37,tufia.
Ladies should open their eyes o...not just opening their pusy anyhow...una no get time to waste.

nalijah07:
Would you wait until your forties to have your first child if you boyfriend wanted to get himself together "financially" first?

What if she waits and they breakup in the meantime? That means she would have waited for nothing.

I personally think your forties is too late - is it me?

my sister sorry about that. Life goes on