Teempakguy:
are you a feminist?

I am a woman who don't conform to the mass idea of how one's should live their life because society say so.

I am a feminist of gender equality. Most females have their father 's name and if feminism has to do with surname..we will be advocating for women NOT to take their father's surname which is NOT the case.

My stance is women do not have to take their husband's surname if they don't want to and taking surname doesn't prove ANYTHING.

who cares, if u like add all ur fore-fathers name, im still the man of my own house

MrsChima:


if the father doesn't take the bride price..she doesn't have to take your surname?

How would you like to be sold like a cattle?

kpomkwem

donbenedict:
kpomkwem

Thought so!

boynigeria:
who cares, if u like add all ur fore-fathers name, im still the man of my own house

That's right.

The stress of changing names on all documents and trying to explain to doofuses everytime. I don't care, just give me punny.

Ill also do same

I believe those doing it is just a sign to show that their husband not finally pay up all the due to her parent, as for me I can't allow that never

She can include her father's name in abbreviation. As in the first letter of her father's name can be included.

She must not put the full name except she wants to go back and marry her dad.

In my place where I come from, infact in d yoruba land as a whole d bride price is usually returned back to the groom nd his family right there @ d wedding in d front of every guests

donbenedict:
what do u tink d bride price was for? Ur bein sold sister. Deal wit it.

yorubaboiy:
nibo....to ba fe je oruko baba e ko kuku duro sibe....loju temi iranu ni

iranu patapata gbaa

I totally camp with the ladies on this.... She can keep her surname and add the husband's own. It doesn't take anything away from the union... And Please Africans should not start with their traditional Rantings... I can't stand that pulease

this one everybody dey type in yoruba, e bi like say na yoruba ladies dey do am pass 'cuz such thing is rare in igbo land.

truthalways:
I recently noticed that our newly wedded ladies are retaining their fathers name after marriage. You hear names like Bisi Johnson-Adekunle, Evangeline Ojukwu-Chukwuma or Halima Haruna-Ciroma. Guys can you allow this and ladies why are you doing this?

abi na joke or jjookkyy meanwhile e no fit apen for ma area

I don't see anything wrong with that.

African men and their Egotistical reasoning.
Should you retain the name?
Shouldn't the name be first if you need to hyphenate it?
Should women dance naked around a bunch of crabs sunbathing in Ibiza?
Crap!

no wahala naa, its cos she's not from Bayelsa bearing Tamunonengiofori Alawakevwenesigha and did not marry Mr. Ditonmenekevwe in her town.
When she bears Tamunonengiofori Alawakevwenesigha-Ditonmenekevwe on her passport, she'll see whether they won't refuse her visa.

Did the MEN not retain their fathers' names?
Say NO TO SEXISM!!!!

truthalways:
I recently noticed that our newly wedded ladies are retaining their fathers name after marriage. You hear names like Bisi Johnson-Adekunle, Evangeline Ojukwu-Chukwuma or Halima Haruna-Ciroma. Guys can you allow this and ladies why are you doing this?

not new. it started from the generation of GRACE ALELE WILLIAMS........... I have nothing against it as far as my name appear next to her name or her father name.
It favors women that came from influential families and its also good for personal + family identity.... dont expect Obama children and future grand children to change their surname till 5 generations to come just because of one Mr. wanna be.

sagitarius:
If it's not agreed by both parties, then it's not right. These are some of the 'little' issues that can cause marital conflicts. If you're married, you've left your Father and Mother, then you and your spouse are now one. Stop all these modern-day trends in marriages.

That's great analysis. You see, there are lots of crazy women with crazy attitude here. They copy the west and end up blaming us.

sagitarius:
If it's not agreed by both parties, then it's not right. These are some of the 'little' issues that can cause marital conflicts. If you're married, you've left your Father and Mother, then you and your spouse are now one. Stop all these modern-day trends in marriages.

That's great analysis. You see, there are lots of crazy women with some crazy attitude here. They copy the West and end up blaming us.

yorubaboiy:
agree on kiniiiiiiiii?........nibo ni win tin shey iru e

you can't continue like this when there are people from different tribes and different countries on this forum, it's not a yoruba forum so try to comport yourself. Nobody ask you not to speak your language but do it minimally on a public forum like this. Thank you.

So u're wiser than ur mum? Or ist ur father that asked u to retain his name after he has gave u out in marriage? Civialisation o kuku ni ba aye yii jee

Hollamydey:
B4 nko, am still d daughter of my father. Besides am married 2 my husband nd nt sold 2 him so I still have d right 2 maintain by father's name nd dat of his, ko fa ija rara.....#my opinion

Its no biggie, and it also depends. I ve been working for long bfor getting married and known by my fathers name so changing it completely will be risky. It may not be recognised by ppl dat matters hence my taking on the double barrel names.

My wife answers her father's name by my permission

It is not wrong as Muslim to let your wife answer her father's name.

Her father have right over her...he gave birth to her...marrying her does not erode her father's right on her

Hollamydey:
Bi ose wu emi ni yen o, nigbati oje wipe ma fi oruko e kun oruko mi ko ye ariyanjiyan owaye. Sugbon iwa igberaga ti on be lara eyin okunrin ni o ma n je ki e lodi si iru nkan be

yoruba people stop disgracing yourselves here,

sagitarius:
That's why I said it should be agreed by both parties madam. Why do children bear the man's name as their last name? Because He's the head of the Household (And this is biblical) The wife bears the name of the husband as his wife. If you're married, your name is changed from Miss (which ends with your Father's name) to Mrs (Which ends with ur hubby's name) as a change in status to bear that name of the Head now. Marriage is all about understanding and communication. If that will bring about problems, then the wife shouldn't insist on bearing her Father's name at the detriment of a Peaceful home.

cosign

you mean something like mercy Johnson- okojie ?

As long as she doesn't include her father's name in my children's name...... Ki lo kan mi. If she like let her not include my name in hers. Na who go loose?