Justfollowit:


Says a man whose whole existence is devoured to woman-bashing . You shouldn't hate the man you see in the mirror, what you have assumed that I represent is exactly how you seem to other posters.

Swallow your own bitter pill graciously if truly you are man

Lol. I think I've humoured you enough. The man of your dreams isn't fit to untie the lace of my sandals. I'll leave it at that.

The only pill in my possession is one to cure of your desperate spit-spraying.

Beface:

The bible is talking about the significant of women changing their surname's to the husband's name. Am not talking about quality of life here rather am talking about WHAT OUGHT TO BE DONE. Talking about women's right is retaining your father's name part of it?

If you can accept that it is talking a woman taking a man's surname only to signify that she is married...why can't you accept that being married back in the days was a mean to quality of life for married women?

Taking the surname was the only way to show that the woman is wife to the man. It was about status and class which is the same thing the bible speaks of!

A quick question.

Dropping your dad's name and taking your husband's name after marriage, is it our culture? I don't think so.

Its just one of those things everyone is doing because everyone has been doing it, so if some people decide to hyphenate both names or not adopt the hubby's name, why are we bothered? (Change is constant anyway.)
especially when both parties agree to it.

Y'all should stop making marriage seem like rocket science.

Timbuktou:

Lol. I think I've humoured you enough. The man of your dreams isn't fit to untie the lace of my sandals. I'll leave it at that.

The only pill in my possession is one to cure of your desperate spit-spraying.

The woman of your dreams would be made of screws and bolts.

Hollamydey:
B4 nko, am still d daughter of my father. Besides am married 2 my husband nd nt sold 2 him so I still have d right 2 maintain by father's name nd dat of his, ko fa ija rara.....#my opinion

Thank You!!!!!!!!...I do not see a problem with a lady who chooses to retain her father's name.

MrsChima:


I am a woman who don't conform to the mass idea of how one's should live their life because society say so.

I am a feminist of gender equality. Most females have their father 's name and if feminism has to do with surname..we will be advocating for women NOT to take their father's surname which is NOT the case.

My stance is women do not have to take their husband's surname if they don't want to and taking surname doesn't prove ANYTHING.

are you a feminist. That was all i asked. The sermon was unnecessary and boring. Meanwhile, NOT taking surname doesn't prove ANYTHING either. So . . . Your point is . . . Pointless, i guess.

boynigeria:

hold on with all the feminist load of crap
u wanna be feminist, start paying for meals and drinks on dates
u wanna be feminist, start doing ur own heavy lifting
u wanna be feminist, stop waiting for the man to step up to the challenge all the time
u wanna be feminist, be the alpha in the relationship
its not just the society its how it is dear
ive dated a so called feminist and at d end of the day, she just went to being a woman dat she really is
feminist ideology is just like lil kesh tryna speak british english on tim westwood, we all kn its all decoration and fake

Stop with all that mysognistic _crap! I don't know what kind of women you have been with but it wasn't me!

I have no issues with women paying for food and drinks on dates.

I have no issues with women supporting outside the home.

I encouraged it but will you let your pride turn you into a whining boy if women were to do what you said above?

Justfollowit:


The woman of your dreams would be made of screws and bolts.

Even if she were, she'd still trump you in the land of the living. Hehehehe. You've got no value, missy. . You're apparently a waste of flesh and blood.

lampardizik:



Talking of culture,if you were a Mexican then I would say that using your father's name is allowed,so what does a Nigerian culture have to do with using your father's name instead of your husband's

My oriki would be primarily that of who who begot me.

Justfollowit:


I reject the mentality that would make me proud to forsake my father's name and bear a name of a being that could dispose of me however and whenever he chooses! I reject that mentality in God's name.

If i got you right 1)you are not married 2)you are already insinuating your future husband might dispose you (I REJECT THAT MENTALITY IN GOD'S NAME). I hope you say amen? Anyway i did on your behalf!

mostly when their father is a very wealthy and popular man, if her dad is poor and she gets married to a man frm a wealthy family like babangida's family she will even add general to her surname

Timbuktou:


Even if she were, she'd still trump you in the land of the living. Hehehehe. You've got no value, missy. . You're apparently a waste of flesh and blood.

God! Are you that lame?

Screws and bolts= a being who is so worthless to get an opposite sex created out of flesh. Regardless, I don't pay to ever be of value to a boy-man.

mmsen:


How is what you different from this?

"A feminist idea that a woman should be able to retain her identity after marriage."

You do your cause no good by arguing for the sake of it.

Feminism is about women have the right to choose to do what they want in life. It is not focusing on surname and that other shit people ranting about.

That's the difference. I suggest you don't argue for the sake of it as well.

Beface:

If i got you right 1)you are not married 2)you are already insinuating your future husband might dispose you (I REJECT THAT MENTALITY IN GOD'S NAME). I hope you say amen? Anyway i did on your behalf!

My use of the verb 'could' expresses a possibility. And if you were smart enough, yo would know that it is the unfortunate reality. Futhermore, Dispose is a relative word. Married women can be disposed yet be married.

Teempakguy:
are you a feminist. That was all i asked. The sermon was unnecessary and boring. Meanwhile, NOT taking surname doesn't prove ANYTHING either. So . . . Your point is . . . Pointless, i guess.

I said what I wanted to say and your dumb ass didn't have to read the "pointless" response and it was so boring that you had to respond to give me your review.

Next.

Justfollowit:


God! Are you that lame?

Screws and bolts= a being who is so worthless to get an opposite sex created out of flesh. Regardless, I don't pay to ever be of value to a boy-man.

Screws and bolts=robot. A robot would have more value than you who is supposedly made of flesh. You're a disgrace and a waste of space. You don't even have enough value to be a cumbucket.

This man is of utmost value. Then again, what would a crab know about value?! Such a sad existence.

Yes is not a big deal, she can still retain her fathers name after I married her.. provided her dad answers the same name as myself...

Hollamydey:
B4 nko, am still d daughter of my father. Besides am married 2 my husband nd nt sold 2 him so I still have d right 2 maintain by father's name nd dat of his, ko fa ija rara.....#my opinion

continue o. I smile for you. Are you a Christian?

Na 2much copy copy dey kill our galz.....dem don 2 copy white finish so they dem don follow dem dey misbehave.....
Ma name b4 ha father's name noni....if not make she dey houz old wid ha p.man

MrsChima:

if the father doesn't take the bride price..

she doesn't have to take your surname?

How would you like to be sold like a cattle?

But at least I brought the bride price and it was publicly seen that I brought, which they refuse, reasons best known to them

No reason for her to remain her father's alongside mine, name unless reason best known to me

MrsChima:


Feminism is about women have the right to choose to do what they want in life. It is not focusing on surname and that other shit people ranting about.

That's the difference. I suggest you don't argue for the sake of it as well.

Where did I say that was all feminism was about?

Your reading comprehension skills are atrocious if that is what you took from my comment.

The question was about surnames. The reason why feminists argue for double-barrelled names is because they believe that women should not be forced to lose their own identity - that is a choice that should be available to married women.

If you re-read what I wrote you will see how silly you have been.

Timbuktou:


Screws and bolts=robot. A robot would have more value than you who is supposedly made of flesh. You're a disgrace and a waste of space. You don't even have enough value to be a cumbucket.

This man is of utmost value. Then again, what would a crab know about value?! Such a sad existence.

It is official, you are no longer a boy-man. YOU ARE A SUBHUMAN. Congratulations! You should be happy. If you were intelligent, you would know that robots parts and its software can be replaced yet stay true to its original BUT a piece of a man can never be.

Congratulations once again , You have succeeded in winning the Dum.best SUBhuman of the century.

simdam500:



But at least I brought the bride price and it was publicly seen that I brought, which they refuse, reasons best known to them

No reason for her to remain her father's alongside mine, name unless reason best known to me

Who are you? You are not God or some deity known to other religions. You can't dictate what another human being does to their name and it doesn't matter if you paid bride price ...that's on your own stupidity.

parkeration:


Before I got married to my wife she raised this issue saying she wanted to retain her father's name. I asked her a simple question: do you want to get married or not? She understood and arranged herself.

bruhahahahahaha. i really dont give a damn though

in fact, she can retain her fathers name and refuse to include mine sef. i dont care. i could be concerned if her reasons for keeping it is hinged on the new wave of "feminism/equality" thinking. then i would ask her to logically explain her rationale to me but it would still unhappily accept her choice. it is her name after all.

If the bride changing her name is the norm in ur society/community then you must have good reasons to doing otherwise.

There is usually exception to the rule though

Understanding lo wa important

she can retain her father's name as long as we share all the responsibilities of a man ..simple!

vivaciousvivi:
African men and their Egotistical reasoning.
Should you retain the name?
Shouldn't the name be first if you need to hyphenate it?
Should women dance naked around a bunch of crabs sunbathing in Ibiza?
Crap!

chai! egotis.... if I fit blow grammar like this!