MrCork:


F****NO..... My last name or she gets tha f***** out... B!tch!! (No ofeeensce)

she be MrsCork

MrsChima:
I don't think that it's an issue to take husband's surname and keep maiden name. It won't change anything if you do and your marriage shouldn't suffer because of it.

Men likes to feel in power and important so they requires women to take on their name. I don't see women going around shouting "take my father's name" so why are the men shouting?

There are more important things to worry about than surname. It won't strengthen or kill your marriage. . Stupidity will!

A man told me that he left his wife because she didn't take his surname and felt she didn't love him so. People nowadays don't have a clue what marriage is and why it was created in the first place!

I am waiting for the day women will began to pay groom price, this subject will not be an issue. Don't turn culture upside down cos of education. It will only increase the number of unmarried women.

I pity some ladies here. I just didn't want to mention names. Its quiet simple everyone has a choice and no one is forcing you to get married. If you think you want change and you want to create your own experimental family as long as the man agrees that's your cup of tea. The OP question said what do you think? In my opinion my wife MUST have my name without argument. We can only talk about this issue if her mom retained her name (LOL)
Some people may wonder why I said MUST.... I respect women, and my wife has all the freedom and liberty any woman can ask for. I give her the best thing in life and we live in civilized society. But she must understand that there are difference between watching reality shows and movie to real life. I have always cautioned bringing in all this crazy fake reality show to my home. That is a no no.
Someone said if she had a wonderful father... I am a wonderful man!!! Some said if her father is rich... I am rich in my capacity!!! Some say because of her document.... There has always been a legal and easy way to do change of name and I have never heard someone being denied of positions and right because of change of name.
So ladies if you want to retain your fathers name partially and completely that should be a discussing for your man. As for me.... There is no camera in my bedroom and I am not on tv. I am a real man that wants a real home and family plus the simplest things in life.

Its also not a bad idea for our children to bear their mothers name. We want change take it all.

baibijay:



But she actually have the right

I said she has the right but it should not be approached as a matter of right. Pls read my post again.

legendsilver:
oga o! e mi o'lese sha, ko jo rara

Chairman mi, ko si big deal ninu e now. O kan maa fi oruko ti oko kun ti baba re ni

MrsChima:


Stop with all that mysognistic _crap! I don't know what kind of women you have been with but it wasn't me!

I have no issues with women paying for food and drinks on dates.

I have no issues with women supporting outside the home.

I encouraged it but will you let your pride turn you into a whining boy if women were to do what you said above?

sweet to say with mouth
it all comes down to the practical
my dear thats what u all say till the trailer ends and the real movie begin
ive noticed that females with this ideaology are tryna prevent going through the same maltreatment their mum or aunt or sista went tru but it doesnt have to be dat way though
u still need a man to be the alpha male, doesnt mean he is above and beyond, its just hes duty to take charge
feminisim is just like dwalfs tryna play basketball, they will look very cute but no one will take dem serious

Micktoxin what's your view on this

It's really not a big deal to me. Personally I wouldn't allow my wife use my surname. She is not changing anything. She would still bear her father's name while I bears mine. No need for any addition of my name to hers. She doesn't need to necessarily change her name so far that doesn't stop us from being husband and wife.

It's really not a big deal to me. Personally I wouldn't allow my wife use my surname. She is not changing anything. She would still bear her father's name while I bear mine. No need for any addition of my name to hers. She doesn't need to necessarily change her name so far that doesn't stop us from being husband and wife.

Chiam55:
Micktoxin what's your view on this

It's a normal practise in England innit... . I don't mind, as long as my name is the main surname . At that rate tho, the grand children will have more 4 surnames.

It's not Craze, it's Choice!!!

micktoxin:

It's a normal practise in London innit... . I don't mind, as long as my name is the main surname

Naaaaah I can't do that.... I want a prenuptial agreement everybody keeps what they came in with

That's modern day slavery ( marriage)

AAAkinyemi:
It's really not a big deal to me. Personally I wouldn't allow my wife use my surname. She is not changing anything. She would still bear her father's name while I bear mine. No need for any addition of my name to hers. She doesn't need to necessarily change her name so far that doesn't stop us from being husband and wife.

Correct!!!! But please, allow her if she wants to.

Justfollowit:


If you were smart enough you would have never bothered about what I have written or about what it insinuated and we won't be wasting our time

Nope, I used 'dispose' bearing in my mind lots of likely situations for example a man who marries another woman or hold his mistresses in higher esteem over his wife

If you were smart enough you would known when you try to make another look silly it's only natural for the person to proved otherwise. Well i understand your point of view but next time try to be positive whenever you are saying anything regarding yourself.

my huzy dont see anything wrong with that

Chiam55:


she be MrsCork

lol
cant stop laughing
niggga wants his bae to take up his name and he bears MrCork
i think it will be beta if u take her name

Beface:

If you were smart enough you would known when you try to make another look silly it's only natural for the person to proved otherwise. Well i understand your point of view but next time try to be positive whenever you are saying anything regarding yourself.

Yes sir

What is your definition of postivism? If you meant rejecting what is 'bad' and identifying with what is 'good', then we have different interpretation of what is positive and what is negative.

Hmmm,which craze? Its a welcome development. Atleast after all the investment ones' father has done over the years in making one a better and marriageable person,she will finally get married and U expect her to just leave everything and be ur wife. I think keeping her father's name is away of saying "am still my father's daughter and he made me what I am".

See dictator general aka I am the man of the house. Omo I no envy your wife 1 bit

urchmanx:
I pity some ladies here. I just didn't want to mention names. Its quiet simple everyone has a choice and no one is forcing you to get married. If you think you want change and you want to create your own experimental family as long as the man agrees that's your cup of tea. The OP question said what do you think? In my opinion my wife MUST have my name without argument. We can only talk about this issue if her mom retained her name (LOL)
Some people may wonder why I said MUST.... I respect women, and my wife has all the freedom and liberty any woman can ask for. I give her the best thing in life and we live in civilized society. But she must understand that there are difference between watching reality shows and movie to real life. I have always cautioned bringing in all this crazy fake reality show to my home. That is a no no.
Someone said if she had a wonderful father... I am a wonderful man!!! Some said if her father is rich... I am rich in my capacity!!! Some say because of her document.... There has always been a legal and easy way to do change of name and I have never heard someone being denied of positions and right because of change of name.
So ladies if you want to retain your fathers name partially and completely that should be a discussing for your man. As for me.... There is no camera in my bedroom and I am not on tv. I am a real man that wants a real home and family plus the simplest things in life.

yorubaboiy:

iwo na gbo nkan to jade lenu e.......awon oyinbo gan,kosi bi baba won shey fe lowo to oruko oko ni won je....bawo wa ni ti yin se je ma.....

Y must u always compare urself to the white man? Wat kind of slave mentality is this? There was nothing like surname in our culture b4 sef, so y r u giving urself unnecessary headache?

agarawu23:
for sure , but your hubby name shld b first even if your dad na dangote

Nufin like change of name in d holy books

It is not a problem as long as both of you agreed on it.
Again, it doesn't change your children's name. I wanted my wife to keep he's but she decided otherwise. She is the first of five girls, all girls. I would not have seen it as a problem at all.

MrsChima:


My mother has her maiden and married name on her documents.

It is not a new trend obviously.

How many women had their maiden name and married name on their documents then? Let's stop deceiving ourselves, we love coping the whites and that's why there are so many divorce cases in the land.

micktoxin:

It's a normal practise in England innit... . I don't mind, as long as my name is the main surname . At that rate tho, the grand children will have more 4 surnames.

I think the children will carry their father's name not the wife.

Hollamydey:
B4 nko, am still d daughter of my father. Besides am married 2 my husband nd nt sold 2 him so I still have d right 2 maintain by father's name nd dat of his, ko fa ija rara.....#my opinion

So your mum's dad wasn't her father that she didn't use her maiden name with your dad's surname abi??

A man and a woman once married will become ONE and not one whole number,one over two (1.1/2)...

Na gradually d tin dey start..later nw someone wud suggest that men should move to wife's house afta marriage...igberaga ni mo kaasi jare...

Dragonking:


How many women had their maiden name and married name on their documents then? Let's stop deceiving ourselves, we love coping the whites and that's why there are so many divorce cases in the land.

If you leave the village maybe you will see it is not a new trend. Secondly, I don't worry about what other people do....I don't run their life. Try it.

Justfollowit:


Yes sir

What is your definition of postivism? If you meant rejecting what is 'bad' and identifying with what is 'good', then we have different interpretation of what is positive and what is negative.

Positivism to me is when you hope/anticipate for something good not necessarily denying reality. Is like faith (the substance of things hope for,the evidence of things not seen). For instance, you can always hope to get marry to the man of you dream.

Thats how it should be. You will be identified with your father's name on judgement day.

boynigeria:

sweet to say with mouth
it all comes down to the practical
my dear thats what u all say till the trailer ends and the real movie begin
ive noticed that females with this ideaology are tryna prevent going through the same maltreatment their mum or aunt or sista went tru but it doesnt have to be dat way though
u still need a man to be the alpha male, doesnt mean he is above and beyond, its just hes duty to take charge
feminisim is just like dwalfs tryna play basketball, they will look very cute but no one will take dem serious

I don't run people's relationships and don't want people to run mine. I don't care if women want their men to be alpha males...I don't care. What I am concern with is misogynistic bulls hit spewed on this thread and many others. Why do YOU and other people worry about others relationships and how they like to live it?

Why are Africans so judgemental but yet preaches the bible every chance they gets not knowing judging someone is a sin!

Every relationship isn't the same and what YOU LIKE doesn't have anything to do with the next couple. People should focus on their own relationship if they have one!

Beface:

Positivism to me is when you[b] hope/anticipate[/b] for something good not necessarily denying reality. Is like faith (the substance of things hope for the evidence of things not seen). For instance, you can always hope to get marry to the man of you dream.

That sounds better however I think I would rather do both. I like having options. , I enjoy being in control.