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Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Essenza01: 6:42pm On May 19
Jobless husband diaries!!

Here are some guidelines for unemployed husbands with working wives.
, when you read through with an open mind, you would see it's not she looking down on you, it's just you being smart to be able to have your sanity and getting some advantages while praying for a change.. Hang in there guys, you are not alone, tables turn... you would be fine.

1 - Never discuss your predicament beyond the normal and never show weakness in front of your wife.. "she dont want to see hopelessness".. grin

2 - buy a lot of noodles, you would be needing it a lot, especially during your strong head periods, you dont win most fights, most fights end with "Oya buy it naa" that's usually when you add the convo to your lost battles .. grin

3 - your meals majorly come in two options if any
Rice or noodles?
Beans or noodles?
Eba or noodles?

Semo or pounds is too stressful, dont opt to make shocked... stress was only the surface reason given to you.. cool

4 - sex is usually delayed, when ever you see one just accept and be ready for maybe max two position change, some styles may be banned.. grin

5 - dont come home drunk, I repeat.. dont come home drunk..you remember the pictures of samloco playing "jobless old drunk" in movie scenes... you look exactly like them to her.. grin

6 - some eatable and chewy chewy groceries stops being in the fridge because you are home most-times and eats to chase boredom.. there is always a secret stash in her room for groundnuts, sharp biscuits, cashew nuts, sweets, etc.. she knows you know, take reasonably grin

7 - you are at your lowest, dont bring friends doing well too close home, otherwise you might get depressed from comparison grin

8 - in your many many ideas, you know broke guys reason business ideas like Warren buffet grin , always sieve out the good ones, because telling her some kind stupid stupid ideas would make you look jobless and stupid also. grin

9 - the best way to dodge Bill's is to watch your words, avoid some topics, you need to be one step or two ahead everytime.. e.g TV shows, movies, food, clubs etc...
- TV shows - dstv bill comes up
- Movies - cinema bill comes up
- Food - restaurant and taking out comes up.. grin

10 - Do house chores, pick mopping... it's easier, you only start when she is done sweeping and dusting, she goes to bath, you zig-zag and get back to watching (how do they do it) grin... use water, avoid bubbles on tiles.. you would redo that work even if its next week.. grin

11 - dont leave the sink messy, especially on work days when you are home job hunting and she is out hustling, bro it's an important rule from a man to a man..

12 - with your many insecurities and the devil trying to use you to bring out your alpha Male, pick your fights... yes they would come, but there is an extent to which a broke man fights and argues.. embarassed

13 - you would owe her cash a lot, she knows deep down that money is not coming back, but be ready to be dragged about it to pay for essentials you cant do without.. she would pay eventually when you have curled away asking God why.. allow her have it, it's one of her high moments. cry

14 - in your midnight cries, yes "midnight cries" is most times once a week or twice sha, depending on the days activities... dont disturb her sleep... embarassed

15 - be transparent, remove password from your phone, laptops etc... if she is being faithful, infidelity is not something you want attached to "cheating jobless old man"... you cant be broke and cheating, they dont work together..

16 - read, read, read... you have to pass her in something, current affairs, global happenings, worlds economy etc... it is an edge when you throw small small insults inside conversations "so you dont know kyari is dead" those are one of your few high moments.. wink

17 - early morning gisting with her while she baths and makes up, makes her happy.. you can lend some money during those hours.. those are your bankable hours, if you want some extra cash, offer to drop her at work, that's if it's not your duty already oo.. kiss

18 - at all, at all, try to provide for fuel for generator, darkness and a man being in the house dont usually go together.. you might start having complex..

19 - always use your car weekends, thats if you have not sold hers and she is using yours. When you use your car weekends for functions not personal waka, she chips or outrightly buys fuel that you can manage during the week for your job hunting activities.. grin

20 - look good, work out and have your CV handy. you need to look the role she currently tells people you are doing.." Frank is okay, he is inbetween jobs, but trying out some ideas with friends".. if the friends ask for your CV, always have it handy, delay is dangerous...

21 - dont be gluttonous, eat moderately like a normal human being, if you finish your meals for the week by wednesday, be ready to fall back to your noodles (refer to rule 2) grin and yes you would come up with different flavours of home made seasonings only you can eat.. grin

22 - try to curtail your mood swings, she is the only one entitled to it, you need to be happy with smiles when she is making conversations..

23 - make business calls or pretend to make business call.. it's important, it gives her hope you are connecting.. "my brother me and you know say na 10k you dey shout like that for" grin

24 - go grocery shopping with her, you get to use the opportunity to throw drinks into the cart and remove face immediately, if your eyes jam.. you would return that drink ooo.. grin

25 - if she sends you a link from work, read, watch or chat her to discuss with her, otherwise "what are you doing, that you didn't reply my message follows" grin grin, what you were doing must have financial gains ooo grin never use "I was sleeping" as excuse... dont even try it..

26 - dont call her family, send text message if you can.. dont let them remember you ooo.. lipsrsealed

27 - during your few chances of sex, dont shoot in, "I repeat", dont shoot in... you may find yourself outside by 1am looking for postinol 2
. grin grin the stress in looking for the drug would surpass whatever you managed to enjoy. undecided

28 - be ready for "mistakes" of giving you cash in front of people undecided, it's not everytime she remembers to call you to the corner or give you her card.. it's one of those moments you want the ground to swallow you up.. but my brother "dem no dey use shame swallow spit".. it wont last forever.

Let's me rest here first and continue later... but in all, I love my wife... she is that woman that has your back 100%..

The table has turned for me and am back to my responsibilities, it was a tough period, I learnt a lot, from Anger management to laws of power, it's not a fun place to reside in for a long time....

Most especially:
Marry your friend,
marry your partner in crime,
Marry your day1 niga,
your Gee... when you do, no matter the circumstance, you have some level of peace, some room to pickup and some encouragement to guide you through.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by festacman(m): 6:54pm On May 19
Hilarious but insightful and practical.
A position no man should be in but a position many men are currently in.

Humility, wisdom and respect for the 'constituted authority' (missus) are necessary for one's sanity

Blessed are men who provide for their families for they shall have food and sex served hot by smiling wife.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by iamadonis2(m): 7:09pm On May 19
OP, you know the game so well o.

Hope it's not what I'm thinking. grin

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by nengibo: 7:18pm On May 19
Mad oh

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by oglalasioux(m): 7:21pm On May 19
You've been there and lived to tell the tale.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Klinee: 7:34pm On May 19
The worst condition a man can fall in is when you're being fed by a woman

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by naija4life247: 7:45pm On May 19
Klinee:
The worst condition a man can fall in is when you're being fed by a woman

It is better to die of hunger and to be fed by a woman.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by DontBullshitMe: 7:55pm On May 19
Experience. . . grin

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by UjuJoan2: 7:58pm On May 19
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by bukatyne(f): 8:05pm On May 19
How would the man actually work on getting another job if he is avoiding egg shells in the home?

If you both are one, you will navigate the challenge of the man's lack of employment together.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by StubbornGENIUS(m): 8:08pm On May 19
UjuJoan2:
cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
OP you tried very much.I can't believe I read this without skipping a word.But a good wife won't allow her hubby keep those rules.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by homesteady(m): 9:29pm On May 19
grin grin grin

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by nihilistjnr: 9:57pm On May 19
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

cc Ishilove Pocohontas

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Ishilove: 10:08pm On May 19
Buhahahahahahahaha!! Op is writing from practical experience cheesy

Very insightful. Dear jobless husbands of Nairaland, take note.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Nephilim: 10:10pm On May 19
This is impressive, I can connect lolz

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by gowonmaharajah(m): 10:15pm On May 19
haha haa...this is front page worthy!!!

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Yustash001(m): 10:23pm On May 19
But some of your point may be difficult to adhere to

Is it a jobless husband that'll be able to buy noodles and fuel generator frequently?

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by KanwuliaExtra: 10:34pm On May 19
. . . . . PHOCK LESS!!! kiss

Save your energy for job hunting.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by ibkayee(f): 10:50pm On May 19
Lol no mention of actually looking for a job? Or maybe I missed it

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Mindlog: 11:30pm On May 19
Insightful and at the same time hilarious.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Plead(m): 11:55pm On May 19
Wtf

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Cocoyamu: 12:01am On May 20
The Hausa man go say... Torr.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Brighfuture: 12:55am On May 20
I laughed all through...

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by BLUELemon(m): 1:48am On May 20
Rule 24
go grocery shopping with her, you get to use the opportunity to throw drinks into the cart and remove face immediately, if your eyes jam.. you would return that drink ooo.. grin

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Essenza01: 3:20am On May 20
Yustash001:
But some of your point may be difficult to adhere to

Is it a jobless husband that'll be able to buy noodles and fuel generator frequently?

You have to try one way or the other... anyway at all.

Jobless does not mean you cant do one or two deals, referral deals etc...

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Essenza01: 4:10am On May 20
naija4life247:


It is better to die of hunger and to be fed by a woman.

Every lifetime comes with downtime, the prayer is to have someone reasonable as a wife, at the same time when you still have the energy to get back up.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Essenza01: 4:13am On May 20
bukatyne:
How would the man actually work on getting another job if he is avoiding egg shells in the home?

If you both are one, you will navigate the challenge of the man's lack of employment together.

You are not avoiding egg shells, you are only being smart to get the Bill's being paid, the process is the navigation..

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Essenza01: 4:17am On May 20
ibkayee:
Lol no mention of actually looking for a job? Or maybe I missed it

Its embedded in the periods he is home, she is telling friends about you and the purpose of the full tank she left you with over the weekend..

Those are signs of "I support you" to go job hunting and network..

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Essenza01: 4:20am On May 20
StubbornGENIUS:
OP you tried very much.I can't believe I read this without skipping a word.But a good wife won't allow her hubby keep those rules.

They are not necessarily rules, just guidelines to keep the relationship healthy and you sane while you hope to get it back together.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by mrblessed(m): 5:20am On May 20
Why not just tell an unemployed man to commit suicide instead of making an unrealistic list about things he should memorise and practice. But no one ever remembers to make such ridiculous list for stay-at-home moms. The best thing an unemployed husband should is to find a means to be employed, he should be able to any job that brings money to his pocket, including what we called menial job. That way, his dignity and self-esteem are protected, and he can get to have his say in the family, even if his wife earns more than he does.

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by Essenza01: 5:58am On May 20
mrblessed:
Why not just tell an unemployed man to commit suicide instead of making an unrealistic list about things he should memorise and practice. But no one ever remembers to make such ridiculous list for stay-at-home moms. The best thing an unemployed husband should is to find a means to be employed, he should be able to any job that brings money to his pocket, including what we called menial job. That way, his dignity and self-esteem are protected, and he can get to have his say in the family, even if his wife earns more than he does.

I understand you perfectly, the least anyone would want when in that period is an unhealthy relationship with so much fights and quarrels..

Your mind is busy with so much insecurities and inferiority complex, if what you bring home could pay the bills, you are not jobless then..

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Re: Guidelines For Unemployed Husbands With Working Wives by aeion: 6:03am On May 20
I chuckled. You're creative to have come up with these points (although I reckon they're from your personal experience), OP. You've managed to find humor in something serious, which is refreshing.

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