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This thread was created over a year ago and has been on the front page before.

Well, I'm not complaining cos the post made lots of sense and some salient points were raised. Moreover, ujsizzle is my favourite nairalander by miles.

Caracta:
Ok child. It's no lullaby. We understand it's totally beyond you

haba see as you kuku finish hm nairaland career.

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Some people give their girlfriends N750 recharge cards and accuse them of gold-digging. If a lady is minding her business and a.man approaches her while all indications point that he is not ready to settle down, the dude deserves all the bills thrown at him. What else could he be aiming at? Meaningless relationship? No pay, no play. If you cannot take care of a lady, simple respect yourself.
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I just think the op is trying to defend her gender as a woman but her points is not solid enough to justify the actions of woman subsidizing happiness for money...as for me,gone are the days that men marry the so-called house wives,I think a perfect fit for marriage should be a lady that is in the same field of profession as the man...like a doctor marrying a doctor or a qualified nurse,a lawyer marrying a lawyer or a female court clark.I think marrying someone of the same level of profession as you will be more suited than marrying a lady that is way beyond you(the minds is best being alike).

FrancisTony:
Didn't read it. But i was here!!

Same here

In my own opinion, a woman is a gold digger, when she's only interested in benefiting and not giving anything in return. But a man who falls mugu to a woman isn't a real man. A real man should know when he's nothing but an ATM machine.

UjSizzle:
Figured the title would get your attention This is really more of my opinion than some fact, so I'm hoping we'll be able to discuss 'intelligently'. I'll keep this straight and simple though , so you don't need to worry about reading an epistle.

I'm a strong advocate for understanding why people act the way they do because it is truly the only way to tolerate and deal with them. So lets discuss the over flogged topic of Nigerian women and their supposed love of money .

Why are 'Nigerian women' money conscious?
Really the answer isn't far fetched: They are simply pursuing happiness.

Being happy is really the summary of all a woman wants, but happiness as we know is subject to individuals; what makes A happy maybe different from what makes B happy.

Now while some may say that a woman should be happy with a man who loves her, we might want to ask ourselves: Is love really enough? Can you trust an emotion that can be so easily extinguished just as quickly as it was sparked?
Money is the next best thing after love. Seriously, lets not deceive ourselves here, money makes the world go round. And who says it can't buy you happiness?
To people who are superficial(and that's not a crime), money is happiness. Even to the less superficial ones, it does have the same effect.

Now men, you really didn't think i was going to spare you, did you?
If you believe Nigerian women are gold diggers, it is because consciously, unconsciously or subconsciously you made them so.
I was having a discussion with a friend some months back, and she said she couldn't marry an Igbo man who grew up in Anambra(sorry my brothers). She had a really good reason for that if i may say. Men who go after money with such tenacity believe that it is the only way to please their woman. I don't know who taught you that you could substitute yourself with your wealth, but so far it's worked, and now that the women are following what will supposedly please them(make them happy) you complain. Aren't you the most confused beings alive? We'll leave your confusion for another discussion.

So in essence, every woman wants happiness. Some find it in self fulfilment, others find it in love, and yet others find it in materiality.
You can't really blame a person for what they believe will keep them happy, the best you can do is change their mindset. It is really about orientation, what they have been led to believe. Some believe their happiness is tied to someone(a man or woman) or something(possibly the good things of life that only money can buy), while others believe happiness comes from within. I say to each man his own after all there are those who have trusted in love and your potentials and yet nothing good had come of it that they gradually start to resent you. You really can't blame a person for wanting substance, can you?

If men really believe there is more to them than their money(for the few who have some faith in themselves) then it is time to start showing these women those hidden treasures that can make them happy. Until you can successfully do that, please chase after your money and let the women chase after you, and stop complaining

So in other words you agree that Nigerian women are goldiggers, but you say it's because to you money is happiness after all men use money to woo. Women? Summary yes Nigerian women are gold diggers

@ op..its either u speak for urself or b guilty of hasty generalization @ op..its either u speak for urself or b guilty of hasty generalization

Caracta:
Co-signed! (to an extent)

Seconded like a mafia warrior!

Why won't you second it when your partner in crime is here? In case you don't know it already, you are a gold digger

UjSizzle:
Tyrion you are truly a wise man.
Happiness is the feeling of contentment, and money can buy that. Now whether that feeling can be sustained by money in the longrun is another matter altogether. But can money and all it gets make some people happy even momentarily? Yes it can.

Yes u are right on money buying u happiness but men want u to go and make it yourself. If u can't and still crave for it from men, u may as well prepare to take any packaged deals that come with it. Most of the women chasing men's money are really miserable. They take shiiit...but if u can't help it u take it.

Hmmmm, money is good...makes the world go round and life a lot easier. However, there's always more to life. We all get tickled by different things. While for some its that beautiful house, lovely cars, lovely kids(some have to pay millions to make that happen), beautiful women, cloths, etc...others might just want love at any cost. Whatever it is that makes you happy...groovy!

UjSizzle:
Figured the title would get your attention This is really more of my opinion than some fact, so I'm hoping we'll be able to discuss 'intelligently'. I'll keep this straight and simple though , so you don't need to worry about reading an epistle.

I'm a strong advocate for understanding why people act the way they do because it is truly the only way to tolerate and deal with them. So lets discuss the over flogged topic of Nigerian women and their supposed love of money .

Why are 'Nigerian women' money conscious?
Really the answer isn't far fetched: They are simply pursuing happiness.

Being happy is really the summary of all a woman wants, but happiness as we know is subject to individuals; what makes A happy maybe different from what makes B happy.

Now while some may say that a woman should be happy with a man who loves her, we might want to ask ourselves: Is love really enough? Can you trust an emotion that can be so easily extinguished just as quickly as it was sparked?
Money is the next best thing after love. Seriously, lets not deceive ourselves here, money makes the world go round. And who says it can't buy you happiness?
To people who are superficial(and that's not a crime), money is happiness. Even to the less superficial ones, it does have the same effect.

Now men, you really didn't think i was going to spare you, did you?
If you believe Nigerian women are gold diggers, it is because consciously, unconsciously or subconsciously you made them so.
I was having a discussion with a friend some months back, and she said she couldn't marry an Igbo man who grew up in Anambra(sorry my brothers). She had a really good reason for that if i may say. Men who go after money with such tenacity believe that it is the only way to please their woman. I don't know who taught you that you could substitute yourself with your wealth, but so far it's worked, and now that the women are following what will supposedly please them(make them happy) you complain. Aren't you the most confused beings alive? We'll leave your confusion for another discussion.

So in essence, every woman wants happiness. Some find it in self fulfilment, others find it in love, and yet others find it in materiality.
You can't really blame a person for what they believe will keep them happy, the best you can do is change their mindset. It is really about orientation, what they have been led to believe. Some believe their happiness is tied to someone(a man or woman) or something(possibly the good things of life that only money can buy), while others believe happiness comes from within. I say to each man his own after all there are those who have trusted in love and your potentials and yet nothing good had come of it that they gradually start to resent you. You really can't blame a person for wanting substance, can you?

If men really believe there is more to them than their money(for the few who have some faith in themselves) then it is time to start showing these women those hidden treasures that can make them happy. Until you can successfully do that, please chase after your money and let the women chase after you, and stop complaining

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Nigerian men are not necessaryly cheaters/Unfaithful .... They just crave sexual satisfaction..... "The more the merrier"

"men really believe there is more to them than their money(for the few who have some faith in themselves) then it is time to start showing these women those hidden treasures that can make them happy. Until you can successfully do that, please chase after your money and let the women chase after you, and stop complaining [/quote]Hahahahaha Chai OP u re mean ooo.u girls who come after money becuase they want to be happy must not complain when guys cheating on them.since.u can't say u re d only one that want to be happy,other girls went to be happy too so when u see your boo with another chic,accept your fate.

Who says?

UjSizzle:
Figured the title would get your attention This is really more of my opinion than some fact, so I'm hoping we'll be able to discuss 'intelligently'. I'll keep this straight and simple though , so you don't need to worry about reading an epistle.

I'm a strong advocate for understanding why people act the way they do because it is truly the only way to tolerate and deal with them. So lets discuss the over flogged topic of Nigerian women and their supposed love of money .

Why are 'Nigerian women' money conscious?
Really the answer isn't far fetched: They are simply pursuing happiness.

Being happy is really the summary of all a woman wants, but happiness as we know is subject to individuals; what makes A happy maybe different from what makes B happy.

Now while some may say that a woman should be happy with a man who loves her, we might want to ask ourselves: Is love really enough? Can you trust an emotion that can be so easily extinguished just as quickly as it was sparked?
Money is the next best thing after love. Seriously, lets not deceive ourselves here, money makes the world go round. And who says it can't buy you happiness?
To people who are superficial(and that's not a crime), money is happiness. Even to the less superficial ones, it does have the same effect.

Now men, you really didn't think i was going to spare you, did you?
If you believe Nigerian women are gold diggers, it is because consciously, unconsciously or subconsciously you made them so.
I was having a discussion with a friend some months back, and she said she couldn't marry an Igbo man who grew up in Anambra(sorry my brothers). She had a really good reason for that if i may say. Men who go after money with such tenacity believe that it is the only way to please their woman. I don't know who taught you that you could substitute yourself with your wealth, but so far it's worked, and now that the women are following what will supposedly please them(make them happy) you complain. Aren't you the most confused beings alive? We'll leave your confusion for another discussion.

So in essence, every woman wants happiness. Some find it in self fulfilment, others find it in love, and yet others find it in materiality.
You can't really blame a person for what they believe will keep them happy, the best you can do is change their mindset. It is really about orientation, what they have been led to believe. Some believe their happiness is tied to someone(a man or woman) or something(possibly the good things of life that only money can buy), while others believe happiness comes from within. I say to each man his own after all there are those who have trusted in love and your potentials and yet nothing good had come of it that they gradually start to resent you. You really can't blame a person for wanting substance, can you?

If men really believe there is more to them than their money(for the few who have some faith in themselves) then it is time to start showing these women those hidden treasures that can make them happy. Until you can successfully do that, please chase after your money and let the women chase after you, and stop complaining

Understandable.

Many men want happiness too.

Their own happiness comes from having as many women as they want and they can have. So please don't complain when Nigerian men want a 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th .........wife. And a few concubines outside the home (not worth marrying).

If women really believe there is more to them than their desire for money(for the few who have some faith in themselves) then it is time to start showing these men that you can stay in shape and be attractive till, at least, your 50s and can make them happy. Until you can successfully do that, please expect a junior and more attractive wife to come into the house, and stop complaining .

Bibol:
Why won't you second it when your partner in crime is here? In case you don't know it already, you are a gold digger

I dig diamonds too o. Lol.

Seriously, how many times will this thread make FP? Uj sizzle, I throway cap for you o.

Not only nigeria women.


















What about Oshomole's wife?

This is the 3rd time

No 1 has a problem with women loving money. We just need them to be willing to strive for it and not just sit down believing they have a right to their boyfriend's money!

Ellidude:
One thing we shouldn't do is mistake gold digging for HAUNTING FOR HAPPINESS..
A gold digger craves for a good status and doesn’t have long-term goals, the gold digger walks around feeling entitled to the good life without feeling any need to lift a diamond-encrusted finger to achieve it.
Your ego is boosted when you consider that she’s so much hotter than you are, but bear in mind that this could be a bad sign. No offense, but if she’s miles better looking than you are, you have to wonder what she’s hoping to gain from the relationship. If you happen to have a fat wallet to accompany your great head of hair, it could be a sign that she’s hoping to increase her wealthby association.
She has to get to the front of the line at clubs, so she pops open a button on her cleavage-exposing top. She wants her neighbor to change her car tire so she won’t be late for lunch with the girls, so she walks over to him in a figure-flattering dress to make him drool. The gold digger uses her looks for short-term gain, and she probably charmed you that way too. But she doesn’t use her looks for long-term goals, simply because she doesn’t have any.

Now these few reasons, tells us how most nigerian women chase money and call it chasing happiness..A lady who searches for happiness, neglects her selfish reasons and goes for what she sees helpful to whom she's dating..

Happiness is more than just materiality..Materials are prone to get spoilt..If this is what a lady emulates, it definitely means she's a gold digger..But in some way, THE OP IS REALLY CORRECT..

The OP is largely correct!

Love is the most complex thing to define on earth. Yet, it fades away in no less way than money/material.

If you've been hurt chasing just love, uou would understand the ingenuity and the intelligence of Nigerian ladies.

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Mynd44:
While I agree that what the OP is right and the mentality is that they are chasing, that same mentality has been known to be a colossal failure and has made Nigerian women to be seen as money hungry skanks. Look if you want to chase money why not do it the right way?

Go get a job, get a life and also get a new name while at it. Get money on your terms, get a job to do ask your FATHER for money and stop being a freaking parasite who depends on others for money and livelihood. The same way a man works for money, a woman can also work for it and guess what, she can then be happy.

If you date people or have sex with people for money, you are a what? A LOVE PEDDLER. You might as well get a room in a brothel and wait for customers or share your numbers in hotels around you. At least we know you take it as a job and not hide behind the lie that you want to be comfortable

Chief Mynd44, nicely put together!

Prostitute in disguise.

Keep deceiving yourselves.

If you are not happy within, you cannot get it elsewhere.

If you hinge your happiness on a man's money, you are nothing but a gold digger!

UjSizzle:
Figured the title would get your attention This is really more of my opinion than some fact, so I'm hoping we'll be able to discuss 'intelligently'. I'll keep this straight and simple though , so you don't need to worry about reading an epistle.

I'm a strong advocate for understanding why people act the way they do because it is truly the only way to tolerate and deal with them. So lets discuss the over flogged topic of Nigerian women and their supposed love of money .

Why are 'Nigerian women' money conscious?
Really the answer isn't far fetched: They are simply pursuing happiness.

Being happy is really the summary of all a woman wants, but happiness as we know is subject to individuals; what makes A happy maybe different from what makes B happy.

Now while some may say that a woman should be happy with a man who loves her, we might want to ask ourselves: Is love really enough? Can you trust an emotion that can be so easily extinguished just as quickly as it was sparked?
Money is the next best thing after love. Seriously, lets not deceive ourselves here, money makes the world go round. And who says it can't buy you happiness?
To people who are superficial(and that's not a crime), money is happiness. Even to the less superficial ones, it does have the same effect.

Now men, you really didn't think i was going to spare you, did you?
If you believe Nigerian women are gold diggers, it is because consciously, unconsciously or subconsciously you made them so.
I was having a discussion with a friend some months back, and she said she couldn't marry an Igbo man who grew up in Anambra(sorry my brothers). She had a really good reason for that if i may say. Men who go after money with such tenacity believe that it is the only way to please their woman. I don't know who taught you that you could substitute yourself with your wealth, but so far it's worked, and now that the women are following what will supposedly please them(make them happy) you complain. Aren't you the most confused beings alive? We'll leave your confusion for another discussion.

So in essence, every woman wants happiness. Some find it in self fulfilment, others find it in love, and yet others find it in materiality.
You can't really blame a person for what they believe will keep them happy, the best you can do is change their mindset. It is really about orientation, what they have been led to believe. Some believe their happiness is tied to someone(a man or woman) or something(possibly the good things of life that only money can buy), while others believe happiness comes from within. I say to each man his own after all there are those who have trusted in love and your potentials and yet nothing good had come of it that they gradually start to resent you. You really can't blame a person for wanting substance, can you?

If men really believe there is more to them than their money(for the few who have some faith in themselves) then it is time to start showing these women those hidden treasures that can make them happy. Until you can successfully do that, please chase after your money and let the women chase after you, and stop complaining

Did any guy tell u not 2 chase after him cos of his money?

lazyness yes lazyness thats the answer





girls are just beign lazy they prefer to follow the eazy route get the money from guys


we have guys like that too they extort money from girls claiming to be financially down




all na lazyness




get a job and get your money then be happy



stop lying to us here happiness ko saddness ni


mtscheeeeeew

Happiness no be to wreck a man's life o.

Op you be woman wrapper

Tinkybabe:
Now! I completely agree with this especially the bolded. (with the exception of the gross generalization- "many" may be a better word )

This applies to both gender(beyond money) . People have different source (s) of happiness and the moment your happiness is dependent on another person, you lose your identity, you lose yourself and you become a prisoner to the host.

Your need for a partner is to compliment (that means you have built yourself to a reasonable extent such that you are good in every standard and their presence is just the icing on the cake, you being the cake )

Be the boss of your happiness. One of the greatest fulfillments in life is your ability to create your own happiness.

Who is this lady?

Wow!!

A lady with a thinking head.

post=20793803:
They are either gold diggers or use gold diggers' methods and tactics to pursue happiness.

"Don't you want a man who can spend on you?" is a common line I keep hearing from my aunts and cousins. Sorry, but that's gold digging. Can't convince me otherwise. One can make excuses and/or blame it on environment, conditions, etc., but let's call a spade a spade.

God bless U

Pursuing happiness while digging for gold... This is not peculiar to Nigeria alone... My thoughts are focused on one Cape Verdian that got Nigerians talking.

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I have never heard that ladies take money from their men under gun point. If you cannot afford what she is into, then find someone whose taste is affordable. If what she is doing is intolerable, time will catch up with her. Otherwise, guys should hang their coats where they can reach them.
A guy is only cute and "happening" when he is in the university living off of his parents. Once he graduates, all those shallow attributes go out of the window if he has no positive cash flow. That's when the reality of life sets in. The problem is that some guys do not know when and how to do the much needed transition to manhood. They live under their parents after graduation and spend most of their time on social media blaming ladies for their own laziness.
A well rounded girl will not settle for a loser. Such guys keep hoping they get wealthy in-laws who will give them easy ride. Surprisingly, they will never agree to their sisters marrying losers like themselves.

Better soup, na money kill am. A big shout out to the one and only Oshiomhole. If Oshiomhole's marriage doesn't motivate every guy, I don't know what could.
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