coogar:


are you not the tall lady that sells bottled-kerosene on lewis street? you sef don dey post for forum?

it's a miracle working God.

Shut up
it's me, alutacontinua
how is your bald head?

coogaluta:


Shut up
it's me, alutacontinua
how is your bald head?

no way!!!
na aluta be this? we all thought you were married to senator yerima when you suddenly disappeared. it's nice to hear from you? how work?

cococandy:
You and coogar have kind of cemented my point. Most of you believe women aren't created to be sexual. And the ladies have believed it too.

And we still wonder why?

Yes you,coogar and others like you are to blame for this catastrophe. You're here saying a lady does not need orgasm as a priority, coogar is saying we are only made as vessels for men to reach orgasm and our parents helped us believe that being a woman has everything to do keeping your sexuality in check because chastity is a virtue only women should primarily possess, YET you want us to take the responsibility for not achieving orgasm? Really? The blame is all on yous not us. So pls.....

what has coogar done this time?

coogar:


no way!!!
na aluta be this? we all thought you were married to senator yerima when you suddenly disappeared. it's nice to hear from you? how work?

I am very good, thanks....
work is going great, senator yerima sends his greeting
so, did you miss me?

coogar:


no way!!!
na aluta be this? we all thought you were married to senator yerima when you suddenly disappeared. it's nice to hear from you? how work?



what has coogar done this time?

lol you know what you did.

When I saw aluta's new moniker, I thought " did coogar and aluta get married?"

cococandy:
I do appreciate that they looked out for us the way they knew how to. My whole point is you can be sexually free without being irresponsible. It has to be seen as something to be done and enjoyed in the right way with proper protection. Not something to feel bad about.

You and coogar have kind of cemented my point. Most of you believe women aren't created to be sexual. And the ladies have believed it too.

And we still wonder why?

Yes you,coogar and others like you are to blame for this catastrophe. You're here saying a lady does not need orgasm as a priority, coogar is saying we are only made as vessels for men to reach orgasm and our parents helped us believe that being a woman has everything to do keeping your sexuality in check because chastity is a virtue only women should primarily possess, YET you want us to take the responsibility for not achieving orgasm? Really? The blame is all on yous not us. So pls.....

And yes, Having an orgasm is a priority to me in addition to the other pleasures that life offers.
Why should I limit myself?

See ya mouth.
Can you live your life without sexual release? Why on earth do you think my own life should be ok without it? Nna park very pls well in one tight corner. After you said all those nice things about sex being give and take and helping your partner get there, you're spoiling it with that line.
If orgasm is not a priority why have sex then?
Only to make babies? That's so Puritan. Bleh

*On the other issues, being cautioned about bringing a pregnant lady home is no way the same thing as being made to believe you've been defiled by the intercourse or your value as a person is reduced by number of times a man has penetrated you. Don't act like you don't know.

Anyway I was not fighting with you. I even agreed with the other parts of your post. So where's the fight?

I won't ask about your gf.

Wow.

I guess I was wrong.

Having an orgasm is your priority in life.

Who would have thought

Cococandy i have learnt something new about you today.

5minsmadness:


Wow.

I guess I was wrong.

Having an orgasm is your priority in life.

Who would have thought

Cococandy i have learnt something new about you today.

if you dunno, now you know.
cococandy loves her bed-breaking orgasms!

cococandy:
lol you know what you did.
When I saw aluta's new moniker, I thought " did coogar and aluta get married?"

it shows how much she holds me close to her heart.

It is one of mine.

Just as it is yours. Probably your number one on the list.

5minsmadness:


Wow.

I guess I was wrong.

Having an orgasm is your priority in life.

Who would have thought

Cococandy i have learnt something new about you today.

coogar:


if you dunno, now you know.
cococandy loves her bed-breaking orgasms!



it shows how much she holds me close to her heart.

cococandy:
lol you know what you did.

When I saw aluta's new moniker, I thought " did coogar and aluta get married?"

He is short and bald-headed with a big tummy

coogar:

it shows how much she holds me close to her heart.

In your dreams

http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/2012/02/29-days-to-great-sex-day-14-when-you-dont-want-to-make-love/

My little contribution to the topic....

A solution really

coogaluta:


He is short and bald-headed with a big tummy

my ribs.

I knew it.

coogar:


women should just accept the fate nature dealt them. orgäsms are a rarity in women. only about 25% of the female population can reach orgäsm via intercourse.....women who have experienced it are in the minority.

no amount of education or mommy talks can liberate a woman whose anatomy would never allow orgäsms. it is what it is - i don't think nature ever intended for women to get orgäsmic feelings. their primary role is being a vessel for a man to reach his orgäsms.

This is not about mommy talks more about the miseducation of many women and men to believe their primary role is to satisfy a man in bed without deriving any satisfaction from the act because all that matters is the man's satisfaction.

I don't think it's nature that didn't intend women to enjoy sex I feel it's nurture that did that.

Yeah a woman is designed to help a man reach orgäsm same way a man is designed to help a woman reach orgäsm naturally he has to go beyond self and explore the work of art a woman is and you know how badly men feel when they can't make their woman happy 5mins post drives home this point.

@5mins...

You like This kind of threads sha

@Cococandy: I remember when I was around 14... my mum always gave me marriage books to read... for whatever reasons, I do not know

Unfortunately, she bought one and just gave me to read without reading it first.

O gal, that book had one whole chapter on sex and even take home assignment .

Na So I read and learnt that variety is the spice of sex.

Needless to say, I picked up the phrase

One day, she read the book and felt it was over my head and told me never to read it again...I told her I glanced through it and all was well till...

One beautiful day, we were gisting with my younger sis and I said variety is the spice of...my mom gave me a withering look and said 'spice of'.... I thought hard and said 'spice of life '

That was How I was delivered that day

5minsmadness:


Wow.

I guess I was wrong.

Having an orgasm is your priority in life.

Who would have thought

Cococandy i have learnt something new about you today.

it has been my suspicion that most nairaland avowed feminists are a different specie altogether offline.

who would have thought a notorious feminist would prioritise orgasm. hehehehe.


after all those your sweet lectures of sexual interactions of giving selflessly, some feminist will still fail to reach orgasm when it is appllied, why: because most of them do not know the doctrine of sweet surrender and giving yourself to their man.


the act of selflessness and desire to please most be foremost in the mind of the man, while the woman should let go completely to the sweet abandonment of surrender.

coogaluta:


He is short and bald-headed with a big tummy





In your dreams

Hi aluta, Why the prefix coog?

Thought you were someone else.

Welcome back.

andromida:

This is not about mommy talks more about the miseducation of many women and men to believe their primary role is to satisfy a man in bed without deriving any satisfaction from the act because all that matters is the man's satisfaction.

miseducation?
which woman was told anything sëxual by her mom? the anatomy of both genders are different. the most sensitive part of the male gënitalia is directly involved during intercourse, it's not the same with women. which means - a man would almost always get there & same cannot be guaranteed for the woman.

I don't think it's nature that didn't intend women to enjoy sex I feel it's nurture that did that.

it's nature.....
orgäsms via vaginal sex depends on how close the clitöris is to the action. if it's too small & far away, the woman won't get nada even if she's raised by a pörn actress.

Yeah a woman is designed to help a man reach orgäsm same way a man is designed to help a woman reach orgäsm naturally he has to go beyond self and explore the work of art a woman is and you know how badly men feel when they can't make their woman happy 5mins post drives home this point.

i agree with this to some extent.
women who cannot readily reach orgasm through intercourse should be pleasured via other means necessary before penetration.

once she's had her feel then the man can proceed to get his own pleasure. the caveat here is that some women are so selfish or should i say sensitive.....once they get their orgäsm, it's difficult for them to carry on.

it's a lose-lose situation for the man.

bukatyne:
@5mins...

You like This kind of threads sha

@Cococandy: I remember when I was around 14... my mum always gave me marriage books to read... for whatever reasons, I do not know

Unfortunately, she bought one and just gave me to read without reading it first.

O gal, that book had one whole chapter on sex and even take home assignment .

Na So I read and learnt that variety is the spice of sex.

Needless to say, I picked up the phrase

One day, she read the book and felt it was over my head and told me never to read it again...I told her I glanced through it and all was well till...

One beautiful day, we were gisting with my younger sis and I said variety is the spice of...my mom gave me a withering look and said 'spice of'.... I thought hard and said 'spice of life '

That was How I was delivered that day

You know I've been suspecting for a while...
Reading thru your experiences and posts kept striking a familiar chord.
This your last post did the trick.

Bukatyne.
I know who you are.
Hi Sis.

You people should talk about Jesus more often...

5minsmadness:


You know I've been suspecting for a while...
Reading thru your experiences and posts kept striking a familiar chord.
This your last post did the trick.

Bukatyne.
I know who you are.
Hi Sis.

Hahaha

Are you a spirit?

You have the ability to know everyone

Hello bros (and no, don't know you)

So How do I know who you are

bukatyne:


Hahaha

Are you a spirit?

You have the ability to know everyone

Hello bros (and no, don't know you)

So How do I know who you are

Sis.
Sister.

Don't call.
How's Dave?

5minsmadness:

Sis.
Sister.

Don't call.
How's Dave?

This is getting intereting

You could have picked Dave from my siggy

Tell me one unique incidence So I can make a guess

Bellong I thought you were a priest

This topic reminds me of an Episode of 'Desperate Housewives' when Bree went to see her doctor after she had an orgasm for the first time She actually thought she was having fits from a strange ailment

Cococandy .... What practical ways would parents be open(or like you said not made to feel shame at being a s.exual being) about their teenage daughters se.xuality without also being seen as encouraging teenage se.x? I know someone who took her 15 year old to get contraceptives and I know that I can never be that open because to me (note I am not condemning her ) that's saying I know you are having s.ex please just don't get pregnant. Believe me it's a dicey one for parents. I hated the restrictions as a child but now I soooo understand it.

I know our parents were a bit OTT but thinking about it now teenage pregnancy often tends to affect the girl more than the boy as she is often left with a child while the boy can just carry on like nothing happened.not fair I know but is the reality.

bukatyne:


This is getting intereting

You could have picked Dave from my siggy

Tell me one unique incidence So I can make a guess

.
True.
Didn't see that.
Hard Cover sex book

coogar:


miseducation?
which woman was told anything sëxual by her mom? the anatomy of both genders are different. the most sensitive part of the male gënitalia is directly involved during intercourse, it's not the same with women. which means - a man would almost always get there & same cannot be guaranteed for the woman.



it's nature.....
orgäsms via vaginal sex depends on how close the clitöris is to the action. if it's too small & far away, the woman won't get nada even if she's raised by a pörn actress.



i agree with this to some extent.
women who cannot readily reach orgasm through intercourse should be pleasured via other means necessary before penetration.

once she's had her feel then the man can proceed to get his own pleasure. the caveat here is that some women are so selfish or should i say sensitive.....once they get their orgäsm, it's difficult for them to carry on.

it's a lose-lose situation for the man.

I was told plenty sexual things by my Mom.
The thing about the nature is if you don't even know what could possibly give you pleasure how do you even know what to ask for or how to loosen up and actually enjoy the act not just make yourself available to be availed of? So maybe the man's Instruments is all out there but the woman can make the act pleasurable for herself if she knows what she needs? but since she has been schooled that all is well when the man is done she may never ask for more for herself or even be ashamed to ask for what she wants since somewhere in her mind only "bad gals" enjoy sex.

Poor man.

andromida:

I was told plenty sexual things by my Mom.
The thing about the nature is if you don't even know what could possibly give you pleasure how do you even know what to ask for or how to loosen up and actually enjoy the act not just make yourself available to be availed of?

her man can teach her the things she is yet to discover about herself.

So maybe the man's Instruments is all out there but the woman can make the act pleasurable for herself if she knows what she needs?

water would eventually find its level.
the early days might be boring & unfulfilling but one day she would get to her promised land. i wouldn't worry about that for a daughter.

but since she has been schooled that all is well when the man is done she may never ask for more for herself or even be ashamed to ask for what she wants since somewhere in her mind only "bad gals" enjoy sex.

Poor man.

hehe!

You're just funny.

So being a feminist has nothing to do with wanting to have orgasms.
Is there any topic you guys won't bring feminism into.
Well if you really look at it, that's part of it.

Freedom to be what you want to be without anyone (e.g coogar) telling you it's not what you're created to be.

Now you know

lezz:
it has been my suspicion that most nairaland avowed feminists are a different specie altogether offline.

who would have thought a notorious feminist would prioritise orgasm. hehehehe.


after all those your sweet lectures of sexual interactions of giving selflessly, some feminist will still fail to reach orgasm when it is appllied, why: because most of them do not know the doctrine of sweet surrender and giving yourself to their man.


the act of selflessness and desire to please most be foremost in the mind of the man, while the woman should let go completely to the sweet abandonment of surrender.

bukatyne:


Hi aluta, Why the prefix coog?

Thought you were someone else.

Welcome back.

Who did you think I was?
@question, ask phema

Honestly it is dicey like you said and if you think about, who are we really to tell anyone how to raise their kids.

I'm just musing out aloud the things I wish someone told me when I was growing up.
I know I never heard the word orgasm from my mother's mouth before
Now that I'm married, she gives me bashful sex talk over the phone. #myribs

Too late mommy.


When I do have a daughter, I know the things I was taught that I won't teach her.

1) keeping yourself for a man will add value to you as a woman. That sex makes her dirty and stuff like that. Nope.

I'll teach her to take her time and do what she wants when she gets to adulthood without feeling judged for it. If she's in a relationship then and wants to hold on for marriage, let it be because that's what she wants and not something she's taught to do in order to be a prize for some man out there who didn't think she was worth keeping himself for.

2) I'll do my best not to be bashful with sex talk and private body part names. From the moment they begin to speak. There will be no euphemisms for intimate talk and body parts. It just helps create that shame related to sex as if there's something wrong with it.

I admit there may be things you probably can't say to your daughter especially if it will give them images of you and their daddy in a .....

But I'll do my best not to instill guilt in them as a precaution against teenage sex.(I know that is why our parents did it)
I'd rather they know it all word for word and act for act and also present the possible consequence of each choice.

Let making the right choice guide them instead of guilt.

damiso:
Bellong I thought you were a priest

This topic reminds me of an Episode of 'Desperate Housewives' when Bree went to see her doctor after she had an orgasm for the first time She actually thought she was having fits from a strange ailment

Cococandy .... What practical ways would parents be open(or like you said not made to feel shame at being a s.exual being) about their teenage daughters se.xuality without also being seen as encouraging teenage se.x? I know someone who took her 15 year old to get contraceptives and I know that I can never be that open because to me (note I am not condemning her ) that's saying I know you are having s.ex please just don't get pregnant. Believe me it's a dicey one for parents. I hated the restrictions as a child but now I soooo understand it.

I know our parents were a bit OTT but thinking about it now teenage pregnancy often tends to affect the girl more than the boy as she is often left with a child while the boy can just carry on like nothing happened.not fair I know but is the reality.

cococandy:
You're just funny.

So being a feminist has nothing to do with wanting to have orgasms.
Is there any topic you guys won't bring feminism into.
Well if you really look at it, that's part of it.

Freedom to be what you want to be without anyone (e.g coogar) telling you it's not what you're created to be.

Now you know

i just made a passing observation. and i have met most of you females in most other posts with your feminist crusades.

after reading some of your posts on feminism, ughrr, men, i never thought you'll ever come to the full realization of the power of the male's prick.

I mean, you guys will jump and scream at the sight of spiders and house rodents, but treat the male erect prick with so much less fear. lolzzzz.


you will shed the last garb of feminism after experiencing a body quivering , breath hissing and diaphragm spasm orgasm caused by a man's penis.

and as your breathing begins to take its normal rhythm, and your spasm subsides and you lay spent of energy, the sweet sensation of being a true woman fills the void.

damiso:
Bellong I thought you were a priest

Yes, the priest is watching out for his clans...

@Cococandy,

I believe most parents teach chastity not necessarily telling the girls to keep themselves pure for their men but for religious reasons.

Being chaste doesn't stop anybody from reaching the peak of pleasure, things are learnt. There are enough good materials available to aid it.
And I agree with parents who teach chastity because the benefits outweigh the cons. I only do not agree with the methods adopted. There are other ways to teach your children and be open about sex while not compromising sanctity.

Like someone said a lot of wives need to free themselves to their husband to enjoy it. Some are too frigid and it is a big hindrance.

Sex education may be a good idea in the schools and homes,but I don’t believe the kids should be given homework.

aflyingbird:
never had one too , still a v

Make me ur Adviser, then it ll be ur everyday xperience