At first glance (or click), spending your time on social media websites can seem like a dream if you aren’t confident in your social skills. You don’t really have to deal with people directly, you have all the time you need to say what you think someone else would like to read, and if you arefeeling uncomfortable, you can simply log off.What is really going on with social media is that you are comparing yourlife to just what is shown to you, and most people only want to show the good stuff. So if you are reading all the positives (and some may be made up), it can end up making you feel that you have no life, because all your “friends” are posting pics from their vacations, their dinners, and their projects.Sure you can join them, but do you really want to live vicariously throughothers, or do you want to experience the joy of living your own life? The truth here is that hiding behind a computer, talking with people you often don’t even know, is not ultimately very fulfilling. You have to bring things and people into your life,not just read about them or “like” what they have to say.Many people have found helpful outlets and websites online. There is even one called “Second Life,” where you create an Avatar of yourself and mix with others in this fantasy online world. I understand that a couple of people who are on this site have actually met and gotten married. Not the first way of courting someone that comes to mind, but it did work for them.However, the chances of you buildingasocial lifethrough social media are very slim. There was a great commercial where a twenty-something is commenting on the fact that herparentsdon’t know how to live (we hear her say this as we see them lifting their kayaks and bikes offtheir new car). She says, “Now this is living,” as she types to her social media friends and questions what they are saying and showing. No, it isn’t really living. It’s hiding from life.I know people who go into their home offices or living rooms every day and get on the computer to the exclusion of everyone else and everything (except perhaps for the TV). When you have real live people to relate to, why would you rather type to someone who is in another time zone? Cherish theloveyou have,and you will find that it will fill your heart. Ignore the people who love you, and you will be a very lonely person who never developed the social skills necessary to lead a full life.Social media has been an amazing thing and mostly positive, but it does have its dark side and part of that is its ability to seduce you into thinking that online you have real relationships with real people and that these will fill your heart. Now, don’t get me wrong: if your loved ones are not close by, social media is a great way to stay in touch, and I’m sure it helps many couples and families stay connected. But if social media is your main way of relating to other people, I strongly urge you to look in your own backyard. Even talking face-to-face with a neighbor ismore heartwarming than receiving an instant message.

You can actually create your own social media life and still maintain your offline persona.

Op, have you heard about this social network called 'second life' ? where you can lead an entirely different life while maintaining your sanity in real life?

Truckpusher:
You can actually create your own social media life and still maintain your offline persona.

Op, have you heard about this social network called 'second life' ? where you can lead an entirely different life while maintaining your sanity in real life?

Lol... buh d post really says a lot...

Teempakguy:
life on social media can be exciting. But, there are many things that social media won't give you. And if you have any goals at all in life, I recommend as little time as possible on them.

as per d social media stuff right.. I concur with u tho... It cud be a distraction at times... also flat out awesome... its a two way tin.. buh I fink one nids to set one's priorities right...

Isaacmacdon:
At first glance (or click), spending your time on social media websites can seem like a dream if you aren’t confident in your social skills. You don’t really have to deal with people directly, you have all the time you need to say what you think someone else would like to read, and if you arefeeling uncomfortable, you can simply log off.What is really going on with social media is that you are comparing yourlife to just what is shown to you, and most people only want to show the good stuff. So if you are reading all the positives (and some may be made up), it can end up making you feel that you have no life, because all your “friends” are posting pics from their vacations, their dinners, and their projects.Sure you can join them, but do you really want to live vicariously throughothers, or do you want to experience the joy of living your own life? The truth here is that hiding behind a computer, talking with people you often don’t even know, is not ultimately very fulfilling. You have to bring things and people into your life,not just read about them or “like” what they have to say.Many people have found helpful outlets and websites online. There is even one called “Second Life,” where you create an Avatar of yourself and mix with others in this fantasy online world. I understand that a couple of people who are on this site have actually met and gotten married. Not the first way of courting someone that comes to mind, but it did work for them.However, the chances of you buildingasocial lifethrough social media are very slim. There was a great commercial where a twenty-something is commenting on the fact that herparentsdon’t know how to live (we hear her say this as we see them lifting their kayaks and bikes offtheir new car). She says, “Now this is living,” as she types to her social media friends and questions what they are saying and showing. No, it isn’t really living. It’s hiding from life.I know people who go into their home offices or living rooms every day and get on the computer to the exclusion of everyone else and everything (except perhaps for the TV). When you have real live people to relate to, why would you rather type to someone who is in another time zone? Cherish theloveyou have,and you will find that it will fill your heart. Ignore the people who love you, and you will be a very lonely person who never developed the social skills necessary to lead a full life.Social media has been an amazing thing and mostly positive, but it does have its dark side and part of that is its ability to seduce you into thinking that online you have real relationships with real people and that these will fill your heart. Now, don’t get me wrong: if your loved ones are not close by, social media is a great way to stay in touch, and I’m sure it helps many couples and families stay connected. But if social media is your main way of relating to other people, I strongly urge you to look in your own backyard. Even talking face-to-face with a neighbor ismore heartwarming than receiving an instant message.

You can't really understand how right you are. Most people nowadays are hooked on social media. Their lives revolve around their qwerty keyboard. They forget that it is like a drug. The more you go online, the more you ache for a connection with strangers who you really don't know in real time. That is why life online is referred to as virtual reality. It is not real but the lure is too strong.
Your piece is a timely warning to all.

Juvante:


You can't really understand how right you are. Most people nowadays are hooked on social media. Their lives revolve around their qwerty keyboard. They forget that it is like a drug. The more you go online, the more you ache for a connection with strangers who you really don't know in real time. That is why life online is referred to as virtual reality. It is not real but the lure is too strong.
Your piece is a timely warning to all.

Thanks... I was a victim... buh am glad am tryna limit it.: D life offline z d real one... I feel as If I got disconnected from d world itself... I miss doing a lot of tins... pple won't adhere to warnings... m glad I did..

Isaacmacdon:
Thanks... I was a victim... buh am glad am tryna limit it.: D life offline z d real one... I feel as If I got disconnected from d world itself... I miss doing a lot of tins... pple won't adhere to warnings... m glad I did..

You are lucky that you observed it early. If some body told you about it, you will think that he is telling you nonsense.
It makes you to be restless, insomniac, and withdrawn from the world around you. Even at work, I am always on wechat, facebook and other social sites. Na God help me. My boss was always complaining. It was the stalker girl that cured me. I learnt it in the hard way.
Live a fufilled life.

Ruggedbaba:


You are lucky that you observed it early. If some body told you about it, you will think that he is telling you nonsense.
It makes you to be restless, insomniac, and withdrawn from the world around you. Even at work, I am always on wechat, facebook and other social sites. Na God help me. My boss was always complaining. It was the stalker girl that cured me. I learnt it in the hard way.
Live a fufilled life.

Thanks man... its a gud tin I discovered on time... I pray I wud b able to defeat it...

Dear mods... can u kindly move dis thread to d celebrities section??