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Toks2008:
You have said it all.

Its about choices but though i dont know your age but if you are in your twenties i believe you will understand better as you grow older.

have a great night rest.

Oh well, 'choice' is a more appropriate word for it than referring to cheating as 'nature'.

And irrespective of my age, the fact still remains that infidelity is not restricted to only one gender.

Goodnight to you too bro.

vfactor:
So you be he-goat??

What about penguins wey dey get only one wife till dem die??

You suppose shame say u dey compare yourself to animal wey no even know say em naked!

Look at you, we are all animals. we act like them. You can choose to be he goats or seagull.

onatisi:
and I guess u still remember where I said men aren't equal in terms of controling themselves . If u can abstain from sex for donkey years that is ur problem, majority of men can't and there is nothing u can do about it ,the sooner women realizes this the better for them . The mere fact that a man has sex with u doesn't mean he loves u , he bangs u and get off . If his heart is somewhere else there is no style u can give to him that will make him change his mind.

Unfortunately same applies to women too. A woman can sleep with you without having any love for you. Or do you think prostitutes are in love with their clients whom they sleep with?

Therefore i repeat, 'Infidelity is not gender-specific but applies to persons of all genders (who lack self control/discipline like lower animals ). End of Story!

amanikondo:
Look at you, we are all animals. we act like them. You can choose to be he goats or seagull.

Hope if I call you ewu, u wont pick offence

Toks2008:
Just tell him to use protection and do it far far away from you.

Please whatever i post on nairaland concerning relationships are unbiased facts and if the reader can try to consider my assertions,it will be of great advantage.

A lady should not even have that bother her even when we know how difficult it may be and its like a reasonable man knowing that he has to fend for his family so in same manner every married lady should zero her mind that that man will and i Mean WILL CHEAT ON HER and if he never does,all well and good.

This is how to be happy in marriage.

BE submissive

Be romantic

Be an excellent cook

Be financially independent

Be happy with yourself

Love your husband and care for him.

Expect him to cheat on you but tell him that incase he ever decides to be crazy with his dick, he should do it far away from you and be sensible enough to use condom

Then don't bother your head about his fidelity but live your life and dedicate you love to your children or something productive.

in other words,I should give my all to my husband, and be cool if he doesn't do the same?....I should keep being the good wife while he continuously fvcks round?...and what if he doesn't listen to me if I tell him to use protection, or I should always be at his cheating venue to actually ascertain he is using protection?........ since he is a man.....

You are right, in modern world infidelity is a daily reality. Of late women don't want to be left out, but nevertheless they are still trying to catch up with their men counterpart in the game. Our society still accepts it far better when the gender in question is male. To be truthful, it is extremely difficult as a man to stick strictly to one Vagina.

limamintruth:
Unfortunately same applies to women too. A woman can sleep with you without having any love for you. Or do you think prostitutes are in love with their clients whom they sleep with?

Therefore i repeat, 'Infidelity is not gender-specific but applies to persons of all genders (who lack self control/discipline like lower animals ). End of Story!

u guys still dey on top dis matter!!!!! Una get time oooo.

BABE3:
didn't he though? Those polygamous men of God in the old testament? David, Solomon and Co.

Monogamy is a direct result of civilization. Religious values change as a result of change in societal values; not the other way around. No one got punished by God for having more than one wife in the bible. But nowadays, polygamy is a sin.

If you look at it from a purely biological point of view, men's biggest sexùal problem is to inhibit themselves from èjaculating too soon.
Women biggest sexùal problem is èjaculating at all. The single most sexùal organ, clitòris, malfunctions like no man's business.

So did God want men to enjoy sèx more? Leading to having multiple sexùal partners?
#justasking.

Deep

Estimates say 80% of married men all over the world cheat on their wives.

It's a bad thing that is so common.

Women should just learn to live with it, pray hard for the man to become born again.

A wife should pray hard that the man should quarrel with everyone of his strange women, ask God to scatter then by fire.

Women should also be wise enough to ask their husband why he cheats, maybe the wife at home does not satisfy him, she may need to make herself more tantalizing, neat, fresh, clean, and seductive at home.

Some men are born cheats and need to be born again to stop cheating.

Me, when I marry a wife, I will NEVER cheat on her, and may God help me keep my vow of faithfulness when my time comes to marry.

Guys, men, please stop cheating on your wives, they deserve better, but if she is a bad wife, find another solution to that problem, not cheating

Bad wife? You were blind when you dey marry am ? Abeg, find another excuse for your cheating mister sinner ! One day you go carry mammy water girl with that your tongolo stick that has no control. Na dat time ya eye go clear ! Cheating is a dangerous game spiritually.
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I find it quite telling how many men are all for cheating, unless the wife is cheating too. The husband can bang any Babe he wants, but if the wife is a cheat...God forbid!! Not that I want to cheat. I'm just wondering why it's ok for the husband but not the wife. It's just sex...remember?

texanomaly:
I find quite telling how many men are all for cheating, unless the wife is cheating too. The husband can bang any Babe he wants, but if the wife is cheat...God forbid!! Not that I want to cheat.

I'm just wondering why it's ok for the husband but not the wife. It's just sex...remember?

It's like you asking..."Is there anything wrong in a woman choosing prostitution as a career ?" It's just sex...remember
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I hope the advice rolls for men too. Don't be pissed when your wife cheats, it's just sex.

agaugust:
It's like you asking..."Is there anything wrong in a woman choosing prostitution as a career ?" It's just sex...remember
.

So you are saying that a woman who cheats is a wh.ore. A man who cheats is just the way it is?


That is the point I'm making here. They are both whoring adulterers. In my not so humble opinion.

Ladies I hope you are taking notes in case any of these guys agreeing with the op try to PM you.

texanomaly:
Ladies I hope you are taking notes in case any of these guys agreeing with the op try to PM you.

hmmm , pls can I send u a pm ?

onatisi:
hmmm , pls can I send u a pm ?

Are you a cheater first of all, and second of all, why?

texanomaly:
Are you a cheater first of all, and second of all, why?

let's just say I am a normal man . Women !!! Na wa na wa for una oooO.

onatisi:
let's just say I am a normal man .

If you mean adultery is normal, no thanks. I'm sure there are plenty of women here who would be glad to get a PM from you. Have a nice life.

all these back and forth argument.there is a natural need for a man to perpetuate his line.its the way we have been created i think.over the years men have been conditioned to stick to a woman through marriage and we have done quite well leading on our families-its so much responsibility (interesting as it is)added to the competitive demand of society to always be ontop.nobody makes any sort of excuse for us.if a man in marriage decides to get a rump outside every now and then (while i do not encourage it) i dont suppose the world should come to an end.though key things involved is the level of self control/principle and the amount of love/peace/contentment in his home.but a man even with all that and no principle/self control will try out some fun outside.

Archie30:
To think that it's ok for men to cheat is ridiculous. And that coming from a woman is really sad. Any woman who accepts infidelity as given or norm is absolutely lacking in self esteem. Why would you stay with someone who cheats on you? Sex is like eating? U 're a joke! Sex is everything about intimacy, it's your own sanctuary. Men would never condone partners cheating either and that's how it should be. Your opinion is very misleading. And I want to let young people coming on here to be mindful of individual opinion. You definitely deserve someone who respects your love and sanctity. Don't be taken for a ride. There's no justification for cheating...for a man and a woman!

You miss my point completely. If you're part of the 5% that wouldn't cheat even where there's ample opportunity then kudos to you.

Now, let's leave hypocrisy aside for a minute, I'm sure some of the men who hastily condemned my post had cheated on their wives or will cheat when the opportunity arises. My opinion is not why men cheat. So I'm not justifying a cheating man. My opinion rather is on the womenfolk and how they shouldn't raise their husband's to godlike status so as not be disillusioned much later.

I was raised to always expect the worse and always lower my expectations in everything. It makes you a happier person and in whatever situation you find yourself you'd never be sent careening in disappointment and bitterness. It has nothing to do with self esteem rather it's the way I manage my situation and it's made me be at absolute peace with myself at all times.

A story. My big sis got married 11 years ago to this nice guy. In her eyes he could do no wrong. To anyone who cared to listen, she told of how her husband is the best in the world cos he doesn't drink, smoke nor womanise. She even bragged about lt to her friends. I remember telling her at that time that she wasn't being wise raising him to godlike status as humans are infallible and can never be perfect, and the earlier she knows this the better it would be for everyone. she dismissed it as the rantings of a small girl. 3 years later, he started drinking, keeping late nights and had a girlfriend by the side. My cheerful, bubbly sister became sad, disillusioned and filled with disappointment.

I hope you now get where I'm coming from.

Poverty follow they cause am.
Just 100naira recharge card one sisi go follow you like fly.


*****funny,but true.

Amya:
You miss my point completely. If you're part of the 5% that wouldn't cheat even where there's ample opportunity then kudos to you.

Now, let's leave hypocrisy aside for a minute, I'm sure some of the men who hastily condemned my post had cheated on their wives or will cheat when the opportunity arises. My opinion is not why men cheat. So I'm not justifying a cheating man. My opinion rather is on the womenfolk and how they shouldn't raise their husband's to godlike status so as not be disillusioned much later.

I was raised to always expect the worse and always lower my expectations in everything. It makes you a happier person and in whatever situation you find yourself you'd never be sent careening in disappointment and bitterness. It has nothing to do with self esteem rather it's the way I manage my situation and it's made me be at absolute peace with myself at all times.

A story. My big sis got married 11 years ago to this nice guy. In her eyes he could do no wrong. To anyone who cared to listen, she told of how her husband is the best in the world cos he doesn't drink, smoke nor womanise. She even bragged about lt to her friends. I remember telling her at that time that she wasn't being wise raising him to godlike status as humans are infallible and can never be perfect, and the earlier she knows this the better it would be for everyone. she dismissed it as the rantings of a small girl. 3 years later, he started drinking, keeping late nights and had a girlfriend by the side. My cheerful, bubbly sister became sad, disillusioned and filled with disappointment.

I hope you now get where I'm coming from.

Requiring your spouse to remain faithful is not an unreasonable expectation after all you both took oaths to be faithful. However it is true that we should not allow humans to dictate our happiness. I think that both are mutually exclusive for a well balanced person. It is just like not needing a car to be happy but a car most definitely increases your quality of life.

it is either this op is canvassing for more people to have open marriages and patiently wait to be cheated on, or she sef get plans 2 cheat at some point in her marriage! Na only death worse pass any marriage problems and no one marries in order to die early na! Cheating is right up there with domestic abuse, neglect, irresponsibilty etc! All na twins!

texanomaly:
So you are saying that a woman who cheats is a wh.ore. A man who cheats is just the way it is?


That is the point I'm making here. They are both whoring adulterers. In my not so humble opinion.

Both are committing adultery, but society will easily turn a blind eye to the man and open eye to the woman for stigmatization.

You go try it when you are married, commit adultery and let your husband know you did it because it's just sex, go try am na
.

agaugust:
Both are committing adultery, but society will easily turn a blind eye to the man and open eye to the woman for stigmatization.

You go try it when you are married, commit adultery and let your husband know you did it because it's just sex, go try am na
.

I don't do adultery, and sure as hell won't sit back and accept it from my husband!

Nonso23:
You must accept oo! no option for you
Afterall he is a virile man

I don't have to accept anything. I don't live in your hypocritically society. Supposed "Christians". At least the Muslims make their side chicks wives. They don't hide behind society's lax morals. This society is more moral than the West?

*I laugh in Navaho*

You and your a-moral buddies are what's on offer? *spits*

Nigerian society is the one forcing women to accept their philandering husbands. Fortunately more women are standing up for themselves.

Thankfully they don't HAVE to accept dripping dicks and leftovers anymore. They can stand up and "castrate" societal norms.

*spits again*

@bold is the bullpoo many nairalanders spew. I don't know how it makes sense to them.

I've never seen a more morally inept people like we NIGERIANS and what makes it worse is that we are the most judgmental when our sins are black like charcoal.

texanomaly:
I don't have to accept anything. I don't live in your hypocritically society. Supposed "Christians". At least the Muslims make their side chicks wives. They don't hide behind society's lax morals. This society is more moral than the West?

*I laugh in Navaho*

You and your a-moral buddies are what's on offer? *spits*

Nigerian society is the one forcing women to accept their philandering husbands. Fortunately more women are standing up for themselves.

Thankfully they don't HAVE to accept dripping dicks and leftovers anymore. They can stand up and "castrate" societal norms.

*spits again*

Nonso23:
You are very inconsiderate.
We didn't ask to be made this virile. The least you can do is accomodate our excesses, that's all

You are an ass. You don't deserve my consideration. I have no more time for a pig like you.

vfactor:
Hope if I call you ewu, u wont pick offence

You are yet to because your statement is conditional.