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My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by TK0907(m): 1:34pm On Jun 30, 2015
I'm into a relationship which is 4yrs old and the lady is someone that i loved so so much and i even introduced her to my parent as the girl i intend to marry and from the way she treats me also, i have this deep feeling that she even loves me more than how i love her but few months ago, I just wish to tease her and i ask her if she has slept with another guy since we started dating and sincerely, i was expecting her to be angry for even asking her such question but to my surprise after asking her several time and promising her not to use it to react to her, she eventually told me that she slept with somone else and her excuse was that it was due to the fact that we actually parted for like 7months which was due to my NYSC program which the distance was far for her to pay me visit. To cut d story short.

I still love her but their is this second thought that comes to mind once in a while what if work has to take me away from her for some months when we get married, hope there will not be a repeat of such? Pls i need a serious minded person to contribute cos the trust i have for her was not like before anymore.

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by innofyno(m): 1:36pm On Jun 30, 2015
Shit happens but love conquers all... See it as a mistake and forgive her

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Nobody: 1:37pm On Jun 30, 2015
u sleep with another too then 50/50

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Erukumakanaki: 1:37pm On Jun 30, 2015
my candid advice - Don't go ahead with the Marriage plans if u know u cant live with that feeling of not trusting her angry

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Erukumakanaki: 1:38pm On Jun 30, 2015
mrsefan:
u sleep with another too then 50/50
and what will that leads to? undecided

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by kilode100(f): 1:40pm On Jun 30, 2015
I no dey for her mind biko.

Forgive and wife her jare.. It's one of those things.

Or,
Can you swear you didn't yansh another babe for that seven months??
Some women can't stay that long without serious hammering, so she relieves her herself, what is the harm?

Some people sef.

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Nobody: 1:42pm On Jun 30, 2015
Erukumakanaki:
and what will that leads to? undecided
it will lead to 60/60

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Nobody: 1:43pm On Jun 30, 2015
Ur advise is misleading
mrsefan:
u sleep with another too then 50/50

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Erukumakanaki: 1:47pm On Jun 30, 2015
mrsefan:
it will lead to 60/60
very Pointless Point! undecided

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Ragner(m): 1:47pm On Jun 30, 2015
Bro Chill Jor..... What if she Just said it to Really Know if you Trust her?
Take this From me ' she's not Cheating until You Catch Her'
#Peace

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Nobody: 1:48pm On Jun 30, 2015
Hmmm
Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Nobody: 1:49pm On Jun 30, 2015
Guys self,it nt like u didn"t sleep with anoda gurl during those months. See beyond her flaws and let go. But if u knw u cn"t forget it, just end the affair becos u may neva trust her again. What is love without trust!

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Nobody: 2:00pm On Jun 30, 2015
Heart breaking. I would lose trust for my partner too except we were broken or something. So what will you do with this information?

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by kendrick9(m): 2:03pm On Jun 30, 2015
kilode100:
I no dey for her mind biko.

Forgive and wife her jare.. It's one of those things.

Or,
Can you swear you didn't yansh another babe for that seven months??
Some women can't stay that long without serious hammering, so she relieves her herself, what is the harm?

Some people sef.
senseless post.

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by kilode100(f): 2:07pm On Jun 30, 2015
kendrick9:
senseless post.


It seems you are in a similar situation?
Wife and forgive her biko. cheesy

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by IamLEGEND1: 2:10pm On Jun 30, 2015
so now if we tell you to break up with her..

you go do am?


And don't rule out they huge possibility dat she just made it up to stir up some emotions in ur (probably) stale relationship.


it might seem counter-productive but.....



never rule out the possibility.

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by rawtouch: 2:17pm On Jun 30, 2015
Kini big deal
Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by kendrick9(m): 2:19pm On Jun 30, 2015
kilode100:



It seems you are in a similar situation?
Wife and forgive her biko. cheesy
i have no idea what u are saying.... i just thought ur advice was trash.

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by vizkiz: 2:53pm On Jun 30, 2015
if you know that you can continue without being a jerk, then continue...but let me warn you, that feeling will forever stay in your heart expecially if you travel even for 1week. You will start visualizing another dude straffing your girl tongue

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Atlantian: 3:09pm On Jun 30, 2015
Its not the last time she will sleep with someone, and its not the last time you will sleep with someone. These things happen in marriages a lot but people simply refuse to talk about it. Marriage is human invention to claim ownership of women. Nature didnt invent marriage. Humans did. And anything created by humans, arent perfect, so is marriage. How many times do married women and even people's fiancee play karma sultra on my bed ? Uncountable!

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Bigcake: 3:11pm On Jun 30, 2015
Although I can't tolerate cheating either from the man or the woman.... I advice you to do what your mind tells you. But on the other side, if you know you love her so well and can handle that distrust with ease then you can go ahead. You can't have a hundred percent perfect lady... have in mind that over a thousand people are also seeing her and are heads over hill to sleep with her. women generally loves patronage not minding the consequences. this doesn't mean she is not in love with you. if you break up now you both will regret. Take things easy and explore better avenues in building trust once again in her. Don't fail to invite me to the wedding proper.

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by bbeckky: 3:29pm On Jun 30, 2015
We all know whatever we say here wouldn't make a difference in ur relationship/decision dude.
But dn d best advice had bn doled out 2 u, if u knw u can't ever wipe dat confession off ur memory it's best u quit(ur choice tho) because it will defo constitute a beta part of ur thought abt her whneva u r away in ur marriage(if eventually u marry her)...In as much as u still get 2 think abt, u cant eva trust her again no mata ao she tries 2 redeem hersef. She might even b pulling ur legs sef

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by AsanwaKC(f): 3:39pm On Jun 30, 2015
Somethings are better left untold wink

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by mira4u: 3:48pm On Jun 30, 2015
See why the truth hardly comes by these days If she wasn't truthful to you, the trust u had in her would have been intact, now she's truthful to you, no more trust.









At least you should respect her for being honest to you and not break up with her cos she told you the truth.
Btw were u also honest to her by telling her how many you slept with? I doubt. Put yourself in her shoes and treat her the way you will like to be treated if it were u.
Respect that lady jor, her kind is rare, besides she knows it was wrong, that's why she opened up to you. Who knows, She might have cheated because she thought you were no longer into her like before, considering the distance and time interval. Don't judge or distrust her cos she told you the truth.

#truthShouldBeEncouraged

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by mschubby: 3:50pm On Jun 30, 2015
no one is 100% perfect. forgive her and wife her jare




btw. don't forget to invite nairaland o for the wedding

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Nobody: 3:53pm On Jun 30, 2015
Dump her...

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by dubylhover(m): 3:53pm On Jun 30, 2015
Jollyjoy:
Guys self,it nt like u didn"t sleep with anoda gurl during those months. See beyond her flaws and let go. But if u knw u cn"t forget it, just end the affair becos u may neva trust her again. What is love without trust!

im not sure there was anywhr he said he slept with another girl,from his write up,we have to assume that he didnt

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by dubylhover(m): 3:59pm On Jun 30, 2015
but on a more serious note,d girl wasnt smart..what did she xpect by telling you that,knowing yu wont take it well...well im not supporting lying in a relationship,but discretion shud b used at times..over stretch d truth a little grin,well op yu cant get over it..its trully a testing timv for ur relationship..but for d fact she cud tell yu sth like that means that she feels yu wud forgive her..mayb you are d docile and gentle type..thats y she feels yu wud b a gentleman nd yu wud understand nd forgive her

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by Nobody: 4:26pm On Jun 30, 2015
she definitely slept with more than one guy.
be wise bro and use your head more than your heart. cool cool

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by OmoEziokwu: 4:45pm On Jun 30, 2015
Dude, quit this your so-called relationship. What are you waiting for?

I'm beginning to understand why lots of men get the crap they get.

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Re: My Fiancee Slept With Another Man. by iPopAlomo(m): 5:15pm On Jun 30, 2015
So... so fucking what...?!
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Get out of the kitchen if you can't handle the heat... besides... Nah you go find trouble... what if she's joking... But I hope she's not... But you as a guy.... you Bleep up...
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what sort of question is... babe... How many guys have you slept with...?!
.
You guys nowadays take fucking too seriously...

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