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Karlman:
Ok

Let me hear it, on both sexes


Thanks in advance!

Girls are more emotional beings. Its nature. And once they love, they love for real. They dont easily let go of past hurts and they are not very forgiving.

Guys on the other hand handle their emotions better and dont keep malice(very few do though). They also love but not as deep as a girl.

What am i trying to point out? While a guy might see nothing wrong in attending an ex's wedding, a girl sees everything wrong in it. Especially if its an ex she let go painfully.

So u see, d sex of ur ex has a role to play.

beautycrush24:
Girls are more emotional beings. Its nature. And once they love, they love for real. They dont easily let go of past hurts and they are not very forgiving.

Guys on the other hand handle their emotions better and dont keep malice(very few do though). They also love but not as deep as a girl.

What am i trying to point out? While a guy might see nothing wrong in attending an ex's wedding, a girl sees everything wrong in it. Especially if its an ex she let go painfully.

So u see, d sex of ur ex has a role to play.

You're very right!

So then from the ongoing points you raised, I'd surmised you're telling me to inform if my ex is male & not to inform if my ex is female, given as you said that males can cope emotionally while females can't?

Did I represent your thought properly?

Karlman:
You're very right!

So then from the ongoing points you raised, I'd surmised you're telling me to inform if my ex is male & not to inform if my ex is female, given as you said that males can cope emotionally while females can't?

Did I represent your thought properly?

Yep

donholy28:
Invite d b*tch

ur post gave u away.

Karlman:
Lol

Do they still ask that outdated question?

when was the last time u attended a wedding invitation?

beautycrush24:
Yep

Ok
Thanks

beautycrush24:
Yep

Ok
Thanks

Jollyjoy:
ur post gave u away.

WTF!!!

Jollyjoy:
when was the last time u attended a wedding invitation?

That must be last year!





And as I heard, the Catholic Church has thrown that repulsive question into the lagoon.

Or probably a dude just went to a wedding where the Priest forgetfully/intentionally omitted that question, & so ran back to the street with the news that church had done away with it.




Anyway the question don't matter to me at all!

Hmmm... This is how young people make mistakes, and blame the devil. Even the devil is now tired on how young people accuse him. They tend to reason by what they feel, when deciding on future plans. Too egocentrism to let go off their past, all to satisfy their sex urge or desire. What business do your Ex have with you? Is he/she a spare concubine for raining days?. Friend you need to Contemplate on the things that rather needs attention! rather than focusing on what will not better your marital affairs. Comprehend what you should do to better the life of your self and partner, and appreciate what has become yours. Don't give your time away, deliberating on issues that don't need or call for attention. Stay bless. I'll pray you bless days ahead, Amen.

Karlman:
Ok

Thanks

Yw....my ex just told me he's getting married. Lol....so much for coincidence.

beautycrush24:
Yw....my ex just told me he's getting married. Lol....so much for coincidence.

Like Seriously?

Like I mean are you serious or just wanna play some joke?

Karlman:
Like Seriously?

Like I mean are you serious or just wanna play some joke?

Very serious

Dajugba:
Hmmm... This is how young people make mistakes, and blame the devil. Even the devil is now tired on how young people accuse him. They tend to reason by what they feel, when deciding on future plans. Too egocentrism to let go off their past, all to satisfy their sex urge or desire. What business do your Ex have with you? Is he/she a spare concubine for raining days?. Friend you need to Contemplate on the things that rather needs attention! rather than focusing on what will not better your marital affairs. Comprehend what you should do to better the life of your self and partner, and appreciate what has become yours. Don't give your time away, deliberating on issues that don't need or call for attention. Stay bless. I'll pray you bless days ahead, Amen.

I truly understand you!
The need to focus on what really matters, the future & not the past!


Thanks

beautycrush24:
Very serious

Wow!
And how exactly do you feel? Be real pls, like say how truly you feel about being told as it is by your ex

Karlman:
Wow!

And how exactly do you feel?
Be real pls, like say how truly you feel about being told as it is by your ex

I wasnt in love with him. D relationship didnt last. I feel d same way i'll feel if a friend tells me he's getting married.

Karlman:
I truly understand you! The need to focus on what really matters, the future & not the past! Thanks

It a great Privilege Friend. You're wonderful.

beautycrush24:
I wasnt in love with him. D relationship didnt last. I feel d same way i'll feel if a friend tells me he's getting married.

Wow!


But pardon me, I am thinking you aint really pouring out your mind.

Am not saying I don't believe that you might have not been in love with him, but then except the relationship was a kinda one off or you just used him but even at that I am expecting that you would feel something at the news of his getting married, and that's what I want you to tell me, the emotion you feel at the news.

I don't know if I am clear enough, but there is something you felt at the news, pls describe it, just try.

Karlman:
Wow!


But pardon me, I am thinking you aint really pouring out your mind.

Am not saying I don't believe that you might have not been in love with him, but then except the relationship was a kinda one off or you just used him but even at that I am expecting that you would feel something at the news of his getting married, and that's what I want you to tell me, the emotion you feel at the news.

I don't know if I am clear enough, but there is something you felt at the news, pls describe it, just try.

I didnt just use him. We tried, it didnt work out, i walked away.
I dunno how else to say it. No emotions.
Infact he told me on bbm and i just smiled. 1st thing to come to mind was 'Nice. He's getting married'.

MR & MRS FOOD QUIZ

For the man:
You don’t like cooking and you don’t like baby-sitting. Today you come home to meet your wife cooking dinner, and baby is crying. You carry the baby and notice that her diaper needs changing. What would you do?
a) Hold the baby till wife is ready to attend to her.
b) Take over the cooking while wife attends to her.
c) Pick your car keys and head out.
d) Ask wife to put her on her back and continue the cooking.

For the woman:
You love to tie a wrapper while at home because it gives you freedom, but your hubby does not like it because he considers it ‘bush’. Today he comes home with a few of his colleagues unannounced and there you are at the front door- in a wrapper! What would you do?
a) Act like nothing happened, welcome hubby and the visitors and carry on with what you were doing.
b) Quickly run to the bedroom and change into a pair of pants.
c) Apologize to hubby and claim you were just coming out of the bathroom.
d) Call your hubby aside and berate him for not mentioning the visit earlier.

CONTINUE ON www.penchant.com.ng

well all depends on how the split happened and if you guys still communicate but i rightfully feel u should let us ex know ur getting married

beautycrush24:
I didnt just use him. We tried, it didnt work out, i walked away.
I dunno how else to say it. No emotions.
Infact he told me on bbm and i just smiled. 1st thing to come to mind was 'Nice. He's getting married'.

Lovely
That's it, that smile, everything you felt at that moment about that news was in that smile.


Forgive me if I am stressing you but as a writer I am mostly interested in the subconscious.

So tell me what exactly did you mean when you said "nice, he's getting married"
And when I say what do you mean I don't mean what did the words mean, I mean what exactly was going on inside your mind that translated to those words?


And I must say you have been wonderful in this discuss.

oribi:
well all depends on how the split happened and if you guys still communicate but i rightfully feel u should let us ex know ur getting married

Ok
That's good!

But of what good really do you think it would do my Ex in both cases of telling & not telling?
Pls elaborate.
Thanks!

Karlman:
Lovely
That's it, that smile, everything you felt at that moment about that news was in that smile.


Forgive me if I am stressing you but as a writer I am mostly interested in the subconscious.

So tell me what exactly did you mean when you said "nice, he's getting married"
And when I say what do you mean I don't mean what did the words mean, I mean what exactly was going on inside your mind that translated to those words?


And I must say you have been wonderful in this discuss.

I think this is beginnin to b abt u. U're just pushing and trying to make me say i felt bad which is very very far from d truth.
Seems there's something about this ur ex. Its either u dont want to hurt her or u want her to feel bad so u're trying to use my case to justify urself.
Bros (now i'm sure u're a guy) i didnt feel NADA. If u hadnt brought up this topic, i probably wouldnt av remembered dat we dated

beautycrush24:
I think this is beginnin to b abt u. U're just pushing and trying to make me say i felt bad which is very very far from d truth.
Seems there's something about this ur ex. Its either u dont want to hurt her or u want her to feel bad so u're trying to use my case to justify urself.
Bros (now i'm sure u're a guy) i didnt feel NADA. If u hadnt brought up this topic, i probably wouldnt av remembered dat we dated

Lolz!


You're really curious about my sex, right from inception.

Back to the matter....

Ok
Since you said the bolded above, I would want to believe yours with him wasn't really a relationship since you would never have remembered. Its just an encounter at best.


And as to how you felt at the news, you've already made that plain in your defense.


Once more, thanks!

So OP are you decided now?

Karlman:
Ok
That's good!

But of what good really do you think it would do my Ex in both cases of telling & not telling?
Pls elaborate.
Thanks!

i feel it is out of respect for ur ex you want her/him to know and if the split ended in a bad way then no need as it will bring up old sours

oribi:
i feel it is out of respect for ur ex you want her/him to know and if the split ended in a bad way then no need as it will bring up old sours

Yeah!
Exactly, I thought it would be fair on my part to be the one to inform my ex. But people have raised some salient points here suggesting I jettison the idea no matter my intentions for wanting to. They're saying that my ex may not see things from my own perspective. That irrespective of my good intentions, that it is totally uncalled for for me to be wishing to reach out to the past when I should rather focus only on the future, which is my marriage.


Anyway, I simply felt it would have been an honor to personally put my ex in the know. But of course, who knows if my ex would think&take my gesture as an honor?

Gurgle:
So OP are you decided now?

Lolz


I am still sandwiched between my mind & the sound advice people have proffered here.


I would probably wait for more opinions & if the Nays continued in the majority as presently the case, then the Nays might have it in the end

Karlman:
Lolz


I am still sandwiched between my mind & the sound advice people have proffered here.


I would probably wait for more opinions & if the Nays continued in the majority as presently the case, then the Nays might have it in the end

Better.

can you imagine walking down the aisle with your new wife at your wedding and meeting your ex's eyes from across the room?

Whats the meaning of that joor

Gurgle:
Better.

can you imagine walking down the aisle with your new wife at your wedding and meeting your ex's eyes from across the room?

Whats the meaning of that joor

Lolz


The thing is, I didn't really mean to invite my ex, I just thought I could just mention it. But most people have kicked against the idea, while some others like yourself have proffered a two way solution depending on our relationship history.