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happyjuliet:
Well with ur last paragraph, its well within my right to do this : You are a very big fool and a round duns...


And as for ur question ... Bro believe me if you don't have a lady before making it in life you will not find a good girl o... Especially if you live in lagos... Nigerian girls only care about money and guys who have made it... So looking for a true companion is very dificult at this time. No matter how decent they look, they are succubusses.

However my advice will be for you to think back if there has ever been any girl in ur life who once loved or cared for you, even if you guys didn't date or have a relationship. If there has been any lady in ur life you once admired for their decency and modesty or a female best friend or a lady who was with you through a difficult time... I suggest you start tracking them down now and praying they are still single.
Its a risk as well but trust me you rather sleep with the devil you know.

Another advice would be to meet ur mum to help you be on the look out or if there is any girl she knows that's good, you guys could get intoduced and date for a while to see if things work out.

On ur own I suggest you go to church more regularly or mosque as the case maybe and always go alone and do ur things alone, don't try making friends and don't cat like u need a wife and don't go with ur car or expensively dressed,becos decent ladies are usually attracted to decent and modest looking guys, usually not extravagantly dressed or guys with expensive cars.
You could also go to beaches or any where you think you could meet ladies.... Always keep a low profile so ur not easily noticed,that way you can monitor them from a distance to know how they act and react.

When u eventually find anyone you like just walk up to her and make her ur friend.try getting close to her knowing her, and ur good to go.

And finally; I believe ur in ur late 20s or early 30s so you could just pick any girl from any where date her,u both go for an HIV and STDs test and if she is clean impregnate her when she puts to bed you re a father so anytime you eventually find love(even @ 40) you know you already have a child,and the child is about a year old,take ur child and start raising him.
Or you look for a beautiful tall well built lady and offer to pay her some money(you two will bargain) for her to have a child for you and when the deed is done u pay her off and when the child is big enuff you take him/her and you keep hustling till u find love.


U tink money can buy a child, no matter d amount u payed 2 his/her real Mother she will definitely come back 2 looking 4 her Child, and der are Decent ladies out der...stop saying der are not. Ok just assume dat Beautiful well built lady is ur Sister and she came 2 tell u a Man is offering 2 pay her a very huge some of MONEY 2 bear him a child and after dat he will take d Child away, How will u feel? Won't u feel Bad huh! Pray u never be in dis type of Situation.

People have different approaches and desires in life. If that's what he wants, he just has to find a lady who is willing to agree to his terms.

Timrho:
I appreciate your response kathykathy.

I'm not the type of person to discriminate based on social status. I look at who you really are deep inside and not whor your social status is. Hence my not specifying what kind of woman I want other than the basics, God fearing and educated. I prefer young cos it gives us time to know each other without a ticking clock attached to it.

And maybe in the past, I may have met people who would have suited me. But then I was in a much bigger city, I had time to go out and meet people, but I was in a relationship. I believe in respecting ones relationship, so I always stay true to mine. The good ones don't stay single for long, so those opportunities are long gone.
But you are right in some aspects,it's hard to find what you are looking for.

jst chill u wld find one,,,bt hey! dont u av friends u like deir personality and everything u want in a woman?,,,for dat person to be ur friend dat means u like her,,,look round dere shld be a friend u are so compatible with,d best relationship most times are whom we aint jst lovers with bt friends,,,try and be more observant,,one of ur good friends might be the one for u,,try nd see,,good luck.

kathykathy:
jst chill u wld find one,,,bt hey! dont u av friends u like deir personality and everything u want in a woman?,,,for dat person to be ur friend dat means u like her,,,look round dere shld be a friend u are so compatible with,d best relationship most times are whom we aint jst lovers with bt friends,,,try and be more observant,,one of ur good friends might be the one for u,,try nd see,,good luck.

Maybe, I might need to shine my eyes some more. They were friendzoned for reasons. I'm chill about it though.

Timrho:
People have different approaches and desires in life. If that's what he wants, he just has to find a lady who is willing to agree to his terms.

at some point the woman will return and ask for the baby back, its going to cause a lot of problems