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Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by epelumi42(m): 8:36pm On Jul 01, 2015
liquidmetall:
Online small boy rants

What I just did was to check your pics and just shaked my head

I bet you if I come in contact with you, your parents won't see you for 5 years

Simple statement that I made u started throwing insults,

Mtchewwwwww
Was that insult? I dont insult people, cause my mum warned me not to. Just a few curses here and there. Was just playing with ya. Big uncle. Sorry hen. I will forgive you for not putting my age and marital status into consideration before calling me a 'small boy'. That alone is punishable by hanging (on a lettuce plant).

Its actually 'shook'. All I did was check your comment and shook my head. Lol. Seriously, Im just kidding.
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by MrBasketball: 8:36pm On Jul 01, 2015
domopps:
Op pls send me your bank account number you really deserve a chill botle or can of ORIJIN and SHAWAMA!



You just nail it on the head! Screening Is what I detest so much in a lady! Some babes have turn themselves to Gulder Ultimate Search,Mtn Project Fame, Glo Naija Sing,and Maltina Dance all screening agent with the help of their parents




Please find copy of the application form below!




WAHALA DEY!

I asked for a lady's hand in marriage and her father gave me this form to fill. After reading the form, I told my potential father-in-law that I need to use the rest room which he obliged.
Immediately I got to their toilet, I just scaled through it's window and ran out of the
compound....!

DID YOU JUST ASKED WHY?

Read the form and tell me what you would have done if you were in my shoes !
Over to you !

APPLICATION FORM FOR INTENDING GROOM FOR MY DAUGHTER.

FILL THE FORM IN YOUR OWN HAND WRITING AND IN BLOCK LETTERS.
I ________ hereby apply to marry your daughter
Miss __________. I am _____
years old.

Please answer the following questions honestly.
1. Do you go to Church ? Yes/No
2. Do you have a degree or diploma? Yes/No
3. Are you still a virgin? Yes/No
4. Are you working? Yes/No
5. Is the range of your income within a month between five hundred thousand and a million? Yes/No
6.Do you have a credible car? Yes/No

If your answer to any of the above questions is NO, do not continue. Leave my house immediately and don't look back. If all your answers are YES,

Then continue...

1. In 50 words or more, Describe the disadvantages of cheating in marriage.
_____________________________________________
_____________________________________________
_____________________________________________
_________________________
2. With the aid of a diagram, Explain how you can give respect to your father in- law and mother in-law.
_____________________________________________
_____________________________________________
______________________________________
3. Suppose your wife says "Honey, I need money to fix my hair at the saloon", what would be your answer ?
________________________________
4. Explain any TEN causes of divorce.
_____________________________________________
_____________________________________________
______
5. What does the term 'good husband' mean to you?
_____________________________________________
______________________________________
6. Are your parents living together? Yes/No
If No explain why?
________________________________
7. Are your parents legally married? Yes/No.
If YES for how long?
_______________.
If the time of their marriage is less than your age, explain why you were born out of wedlock.
_____________________________________________
___________________
8. Explain the meaning of ''COME HOME EARLY" As used by women (100 words)
_____________________________________________
_____________________________________________
______
9. Give any THREE reasons that can cause a man
to sleep outside his house.
_____________________________________________
_____________________________________________
______
10. In case of divorce, who do you think is the owner of the kids between the father and the mother?
________________________________
Answer the following with Yes or No.
1. Do you drink alcohol? Yes/No
2. Do you smoke? Yes/No
3. Are you short- tempered? Yes/No

LAST PART - BUT EQUALLY IMPORTANT
1. When can you be free for interview(s)?
______________________________
2. When is the best time to interview your dad?____________________
3. When can I interview your mum?
______________________________
4. When can I interview your church Pastor?
_________________________
5. Please attach your passport sized photograph below which will be used as advertisement in a popular national newspaper to cross check if you have other girlfriends.

Sign here: ________________

Confirm your signature:_______________

Thank you for showing interest in my daughter. 

Your application will be
processed within a year and you will be acknowledged "only if you are successful".

As you wait for my response,
*Please don't call me!
*Don't visit me!
*Don't contact my daughter!

If you do, you will be disqualified! Leave your other details in case I need to ask you more questions;

Postal Address: _________________________
Email:
____________________
Phone:
______________
Home:
_________
Facebook:
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Cheeeeeers
Real wahala dey oh. grin cheesy cry huh angry sad

Wetin happen na? huh
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by redsun(m): 8:38pm On Jul 01, 2015
Everybody shouldn't be married for the sake of marraige
Sometimes it is just nothing but living up to peoples expectations and enduring hell just to remain married.

Some people are not fit to be parents and their twisted fundamental thinking that it is their God given rights to be married and they end up bringing up children into the world with the fundamental faith of miseries. Incapable of taking care of themselves,talkless of children.
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by ideykwum: 8:39pm On Jul 01, 2015
You chat like a babe I had a crush on some eons ago! cheesy! I won't mention her name, it's haram!

LadyBoss1:
I have taught u well smiley
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 8:39pm On Jul 01, 2015
naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]
But after all these points listed we'll still have women who will be single.

Is it that they don't know these things or they don't care?

Because these facts are visible to the blind and audible to the deaf. undecided[/color]
Exactly my thought,..did you know i lost the only lady i trust to other but unfortunately we both haven't ment before she actually callit off,..she lives @abuja while i stay in Lagos here,.I beg dis girl to bear with me but no to avail,.she said i should prepair 40,000..just for her visit when am busy on how to secure an apartement and mum had a hand dislocation @that period,..she finally erase my contacts two weeks back,.my God are serve will surely bless me with stressless lady
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by BeeCool15: 8:41pm On Jul 01, 2015
Interesting that this was written by a female. I wonder what you make of the #BeingFemaleInNigeria cause going on on Twitter. It was actually analyzed here - http://thenakedconvos.com/conversations-female-nigeria/ but I'd want to know what the ladies think.

misssclassy:
There are a lot of single ladies out there who are supposed to have been married but still remain single. Most have had relationships and for some reasons such relationship failed, with them being the primary cause of such failures, while some haven't even had the any.
Most times this is as a result of certain reasons that these ladies may be ignorant of

So here are some of those probable reasons why a lot of ladies who seek to marry still end up remaining single.

*Displaying Bad Attitudes
Some ladies tend have very repulsive attitudes that most men can't tolerate. Such attitudes might include being rude, being arrogant, being too hotheaded, not being able to heed to advice and basically not to carrying theirselves in a fashion that is morally acceptable.
Some ladies display egocentric characteristics and believe that men should worship the floor they walk while they are free to act as they like and most men are repelled by such
And most of the time, when all this bad attitudes are pointed out to these ladies, they still don't take heed and still continue in them.

*Ignorantly Joining The Feminist Band Wagon
The cause of feminism is growing rapidly during this our time and a lot of ladies just ignorantly claim to be feminists without even having a complete understanding of what feminism really entails.
These ladies, due to the certain standards they set and their requirements of the opposite sex, they tend to repel men instead of attract them.
Because of their lack of understanding of the concept of feminism, some even begin to grow a gradual dislike for men which they display through certain characters which cause men to pull away from them.

*Placing Too Much Emphasis On looks
A lot of ladies see their looks as their ultimate charm for attracting men. They see it as the only thing men want, and become oblivious of the fact that physical appearance is just a part of the requirements of wife, and they pay less attention to other parts of themselves that might need development.
Instead of them to build on their other qualities, they put all the effort and place too much attention to their looks and ignore certain aspects of themselves that need improvement.

*Not Putting Themselves Out There
There are ladies who sit around whine day to day about being single, waiting for fate to step in or magic to happen.
These ladies forget that life doesn't owe them anything, and that they have to strive and take the bull by the horns if they want to get what they want.
Of course it might be difficult for a lot of ladies putting themselves out there, as there are a lot of hindrances such as the nature of job, certain personalities traits and all that,
but that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to bring themselves out of their comfort zone.

Also, a lot of ladies fear rejection because they might have tried some relationships in times past but failed, and they let this fear creep into them and they become hesitant in wanting to commit to any new relationship.
They fail to understand that they a husband isn't just going to appear at their doorsteps They have to go out, meet people and engage in certain activities aimed at broadening their social circle.

*Being Too Desperate
Due to the fact that most ladies are so eager to marry, most show so much desperation and they end up putting too much pressure on their partners.
Some become to pushy and they constantly pressurize their partners into marrying them quickly, and this can be too demanding.
Men see that overly persistent attitude as a red light and some might even start placing meaning to it and at the end loose interest in the relationship.

*Making Themselves A Burden To Men
A lot of ladies, especially during dating tend to be too financially dependent on their partners for everything and this results in them becoming a nothing but a burden to their partners
They fail to realize that most men want women that can support them financially, not women that would just stay lazy around and expect men to just throw everything on their tables.

*Having Overly High Expectations
A lot of ladies set unrealistic expectations of the kind of man they want. Most of these standards tend to be absurd and unreasonable and it ends up limiting their choices.
You see ladies wanting their "dream' men to have particular physical characteristics, have certain educational status, attain a certain financial height, belong to a particular social class, and more often than not, they don't find men who possess all this qualities in one and keep on searching and searching until it becomes too late.

*Being Too Critical About Everything
A lot of ladies are too critical and judgmental about issues and they tend to always look at things from a pessimistic point of view.
They always tend to see nothing good in anything and they always look for someone to blame their predicaments on. All this can be really frustrating for their partners
Some are not even appreciative of little and always expect more.
They even go all the way to blame their partners for their own wrongs and most men just can't live with them.

*Not Taking Good Care Of Themselves
Although ones physical appearance isn't the most important thing men seek, but definitely, it's the first thing they see.
A lot of ladies tend not to pay too much attention on how they look, or how they dress.
They don't take care of hairs, their shape, their weights and generally, the way they look, some even dress shabbily and tattered and at the end wonder why men don't approach them.
Men are generally attracted to ladies that are attractive and if a man doesn't see a lady as such, he doesn't pay attention to her.

Giving Up Too Easily
A lot of women who might not be having it good in a relationship just tend to throw their hands up in the air and say, “I give up, there’s no point continuing"
But they fail to realize that not every guy they meet is the perfect guy
They forget that each experience be a learning experience, and they get discouraged easily.
They fail to understand that there are always trying times in every relationship and patience and perseverance is needed for things to work things out.

Written By Misssclassy
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by sonnyudoh(m): 8:42pm On Jul 01, 2015
Congratulations guys am so happy

Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Richman15: 8:43pm On Jul 01, 2015
Antoinne:
That's not an attack. It's an opinion. Write-ups like this are the reasons Nigerians stay ignorant. Any Tom, Diiick or Harryc wakes up, grabs a pen and begins making verdicts on other people's lives. Tell me, what's wrong in "joining the feminism band wagon", if that makes a lady satisfied? Is marriage the pinnacle of a woman's achievement? Do you know how many poor souls will read this and begin inferring things that are not actually wrong with them?

I beg to disagree with articles like this that paint subjective issues with a color brush. They certainly don't encourage a lady to keep her head up and hold her shoulder high. There's more to living than marriage. And behavior should be by themselves and not fashioned to nick a husband.
I sense ENVY in you. U are one of d Ledies she is referring to. Without marriage a Woman looses high degree of Honour and Respect in d society, unless she is a Rev. Sister. Pls, Take d Advice and stop writing NONSENSE
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Machiny: 8:43pm On Jul 01, 2015
Nobody has the monopoly of knowledge.The op dropped serious points..for those not comfortable with it shld just relax and stop the hate.As a lady when you read a piece like this you try to adjust yourself.whichever you think falls in your characteristic or close
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 8:45pm On Jul 01, 2015
BeeCool15:
Interesting that this was written by a female. I wonder what you make of the #BeingFemaleInNigeria cause going on on Twitter. It was actually analyzed here - http://thenakedconvos.com/conversations-female-nigeria/ but I'd want to know what the ladies think.
[color=#000050]That topic is already on front page.[/color]
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by ronald4lif(m): 8:45pm On Jul 01, 2015
freecocoa:
As expected.

You really should be happy that I quoted you, you should actually not be taken seriously.

Believe me, I won't quote you again, your ignorance is nauseating.
Although I'm not a rep of the OP but I think this piece was designed from realism not idealism, in view of majority of the Nigerian populace. While she has asserted to be a feminist this piece didn't justify her feministic stance. However, the targeted audience are Nigerians who mostly believe there are principles and societal norms a woman must adhere to for them to be considered marriageable. It doesn't necessarily dispel her resolution and declaration to feminism avouches.

There are times one have to look beyond their high held principles and address issues based on the happenings on ground and in this case she's right because that's the way it goes down in Nigeria. For a woman who seek to be married and serious about it she must conform with certain standards established in a patriarchal setting. Her claims is evidently clear from the comments herein.
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 8:47pm On Jul 01, 2015
misssclassy:
[color=#000050]I should be happy that you quoted me? Who the fvck do you think you are?
Just Listen to yourself. Who the hell are you?

If you should think for a single moment that i give a fvck whether you or anyone takes me seriously or not, then you must be more clueless that our former president.

Arrant nonsense![/color]

Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 8:47pm On Jul 01, 2015
Sveen:
I'd love to hear/see you prove your assertions about the factual existence of reincarnation.

Though you cannot claim not to see my previous post.
[color=#000050]I have heard and read about real life accounts both here in Nigeria and abroad.

I could share them with you if you want.[/color]
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by ipreach: 8:48pm On Jul 01, 2015
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Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 8:48pm On Jul 01, 2015
In my opinion,the original post applies to both male and female.
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Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 8:49pm On Jul 01, 2015
NIGERIA WOMEN ARE WORST THAN ANIMALS angry


THERE WILL FOREVER REMAIN SINGLE STILL THEM DIE,

PARASITIC SET OF WOMANBEINGS WHO ONLY THINK ABOUT THEMSELF AND NOTHING BUT THEMSELF angry

I RATHER REMAIN SINGLE THAN TO MARRY A NIGERIA WOMAN
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 8:54pm On Jul 01, 2015
Richman15:
I sense ENVY in you. U are one of d Ledies she is referring to. Without marriage a Woman looses high degree of Honour and Respect in d society, unless she is a Rev. Sister. Pls, Take d Advice and stop writing NONSENSE
True though, in nigerian society,.....but it shouldn't be so
Not every one intends to get married..the fact that everyone else gets married shouldn't be the reason why everyone should get married.

This just ends up putting pressure on single ladies and even guys that they "must" settle down one day

Imagine if half of nigerian "marriageable" populace were unmarried, do you still think singles out there would be under the pressure of tying the knot as fast as possible?
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by iPopAlomo(m): 8:56pm On Jul 01, 2015
Misssclassy account has been hacked... lipsrsealed
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by littlemistress: 9:03pm On Jul 01, 2015
Toktee:
ladies like you that do compete with their partners are the type that do suffered disappointment in the end,stay there,dnt amend ur characters cos there is no counter thread,one day a lady with humble and well cultured will take ur man from you b4 you will learn how to swallow ur pride.
dnt even argue with me cos their is too much pride in you,change.
O.M.G!!
Bros, u sabi me from somewhere before before??
why u dey attack me nah?!

Excuse me, i didn't say we're perfect bt men ain't perfect too either.
And what gives u d impression that I'm nt well-cultured? undecided
again, how does my post indicate being proud?? *smh*

F.Y.I. any man that's capable of being stolen isn't meant for keeps in d first place!!
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Toks2008(m): 9:08pm On Jul 01, 2015
misssclassy:
*Being Too Desperate
Due to the fact that most ladies are so eager to marry, most show so much desperation and they end up putting too much pressure on their partners.
Some become to pushy and they constantly pressurize their partners into marrying them quickly, and this can be too demanding.
Men see that overly persistent attitude as a red light and some might even start placing meaning to it and at the end loose interest in the relationship.

*Making Themselves A Burden To Men
A lot of ladies, especially during dating tend to be too financially dependent on their partners for everything and this results in them becoming a nothing but a burden to their partners
They fail to realize that most men want women that can support them financially, not women that would just stay lazy around and expect men to just throw everything on their tables.

Written By Misssclassy
A lady friend was chatting up another friend and was like i have a friend who is looking fore a decent lady and the first question she asked her friend is "is he rich?"

When the lady told me this i just asked her to stop chatting her up that im no longer interested. It may interest you that the lady in question is 29years and have been asking her friend to preay for her to get a husband.

Can we all see how hopelessly sold out our naija ladies are when it comes to money.I taught her first question will be any other thing asides from being rich or not.

As per been desperate i honestly got baffled when i met a sweet sexy looking 30yr old chic so desperate for marriage and i was like OMG! this babe is so hot yet can't wait to be a mrs and this opened my eyes to the fact that indeed our ladies are going through hell just to have a man to call their own.

GOD HELP OUR LADIES
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Acidosis(m): 9:10pm On Jul 01, 2015
Are you married? @OP
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by popcykaylah(m): 9:10pm On Jul 01, 2015
greedy and self-centered chicks out there..always looking for Mr perfect and at the end they end up getting Jonny bravo..
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 9:10pm On Jul 01, 2015
iPopAlomo:
Misssclassy account has been hacked... lipsrsealed
[color=#000050]Why do you say so? [/color]
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Toktee(m): 9:11pm On Jul 01, 2015
nacosprof:
Exactly my thought,..did you know i lost the only lady i trust to other but unfortunately we both haven't ment before she actually callit off,..she lives @abuja while i stay in Lagos here,.I beg dis girl to bear with me but no to avail,.she said i should prepair 40,000..just for her visit when am busy on how to secure an apartement and mum had a hand dislocation @that period,..she finally erase my contacts two weeks back,.my God are serve will surely bless me with stressless lady
That was a corporate ashi,check her family background,you will puke,such girls dnt really care if you steal or robb to satisfy them.
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 9:12pm On Jul 01, 2015
misssclassy:
[color=#000050]I have heard and read about real life accounts both here in Nigeria and abroad.

I could share them with you if you want.[/color]
I also believe in it, but what I just have is believe. No factual proof.

Please share the accounts with me.
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by IsaacBuchi(m): 9:13pm On Jul 01, 2015
OK, I think that was classy from misssclassy

You were making a lot of sentence making sense

Good brain ur mama gave u.
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 9:14pm On Jul 01, 2015
misssclassy:
*Ignorantly Joining The Feminist Band Wagon
The cause of feminism is growing rapidly during this our time and a lot of ladies just ignorantly claim to be feminists without even having a complete understanding of what feminism really entails.
These ladies, due to the certain standards they set and their requirements of the opposite sex, they tend to repel men instead of attract them.
Because of their lack of understanding of the concept of feminism, some even begin to grow a gradual dislike for men which they display through certain characters which cause men to pull away from them.


Written By Misssclassy
For those of you women attacking mrs classy about feminism, you should read before posting

She was obviously talking about misandrists, ppl who don't understand what feminism entails and end up hating men

Any body that attacks this babe again will chop cyber koboko dis night
#Ihavesaidmyownooo!

Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 9:15pm On Jul 01, 2015
Sveen:
I also believe in it, but what I just have is believe. No factual proof.

Please share the accounts with me.
[color=#000050]Okay, I will hit you up on the derailers thread.[/color]
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by funlord(m): 9:15pm On Jul 01, 2015
Ishilove:
I'm still undecided about reincarnation, but yes, Incubus exists. You don't have to believe. That you don't believe in a thing doesn't subtract from the reality of it's existence.
grin
Ishilove:
I'm still undecided about reincarnation, but yes, Incubus exists. You don't have to believe. That you don't believe in a thing doesn't subtract from the reality of it's existence.
Since you strongly believe in the existence of "incubus"? Then do you also believe in the "easter bunny, the tooth fairy, santa claus or griffins? Belief is a state of mind caused by our various interactions within the X factor we call life!
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 9:16pm On Jul 01, 2015
misssclassy:
[color=#000050]Okay, I will hit you up on the derailers thread.[/color]
Aiit.
Re: Reasons Why A Lot Of Ladies Who Seek To Marry Still Remain Single by Nobody: 9:16pm On Jul 01, 2015
oseod:
For those of you women attacking mrs classy about feminism, you should read before posting

She was obviously talking about misandrists, ppl who don't understand what feminism entails and end up hating men

Any body that attacks this babe again will chop cyber koboko dis night
#Ihavesaidmyownooo!
[color=#000050]Cc
Freecocoa [/color]
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