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misssclassy:
[color=#000050]Why do you say so? [/color]

misssclassy:
There are a lot of single ladies out there who are supposed to have been married but still remain single. Most have had relationships and for some reasons such relationship failed, with them being the primary cause of such failures, while some haven't even had the any.
Most times this is as a result of certain reasons that these ladies may be ignorant of

So here are some of those probable reasons why a lot of ladies who seek to marry still end up remaining single.

*Displaying Bad Attitudes
Some ladies tend have very repulsive attitudes that most men can't tolerate. Such attitudes might include being rude, being arrogant, being too hotheaded, not being able to heed to advice and basically not to carrying theirselves in a fashion that is morally acceptable.
Some ladies display egocentric characteristics and believe that men should worship the floor they walk while they are free to act as they like and most men are repelled by such
And most of the time, when all this bad attitudes are pointed out to these ladies, they still don't take heed and still continue in them.

*Ignorantly Joining The Feminist Band Wagon
The cause of feminism is growing rapidly during this our time and a lot of ladies just ignorantly claim to be feminists without even having a complete understanding of what feminism really entails.
These ladies, due to the certain standards they set and their requirements of the opposite sex, they tend to repel men instead of attract them.
Because of their lack of understanding of the concept of feminism, some even begin to grow a gradual dislike for men which they display through certain characters which cause men to pull away from them.

*Placing Too Much Emphasis On looks
A lot of ladies see their looks as their ultimate charm for attracting men. They see it as the only thing men want, and become oblivious of the fact that physical appearance is just a part of the requirements of wife, and they pay less attention to other parts of themselves that might need development.
Instead of them to build on their other qualities, they put all the effort and place too much attention to their looks and ignore certain aspects of themselves that need improvement.

*Not Putting Themselves Out There
There are ladies who sit around whine day to day about being single, waiting for fate to step in or magic to happen.
These ladies forget that life doesn't owe them anything, and that they have to strive and take the bull by the horns if they want to get what they want.
Of course it might be difficult for a lot of ladies putting themselves out there, as there are a lot of hindrances such as the nature of job, certain personalities traits and all that,
but that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to bring themselves out of their comfort zone.

Also, a lot of ladies fear rejection because they might have tried some relationships in times past but failed, and they let this fear creep into them and they become hesitant in wanting to commit to any new relationship.
They fail to understand that they a husband isn't just going to appear at their doorsteps They have to go out, meet people and engage in certain activities aimed at broadening their social circle.

*Being Too Desperate
Due to the fact that most ladies are so eager to marry, most show so much desperation and they end up putting too much pressure on their partners.
Some become to pushy and they constantly pressurize their partners into marrying them quickly, and this can be too demanding.
Men see that overly persistent attitude as a red light and some might even start placing meaning to it and at the end loose interest in the relationship.

*Making Themselves A Burden To Men
A lot of ladies, especially during dating tend to be too financially dependent on their partners for everything and this results in them becoming a nothing but a burden to their partners
They fail to realize that most men want women that can support them financially, not women that would just stay lazy around and expect men to just throw everything on their tables.

*Having Overly High Expectations
A lot of ladies set unrealistic expectations of the kind of man they want. Most of these standards tend to be absurd and unreasonable and it ends up limiting their choices.
You see ladies wanting their "dream' men to have particular physical characteristics, have certain educational status, attain a certain financial height, belong to a particular social class, and more often than not, they don't find men who possess all this qualities in one and keep on searching and searching until it becomes too late.

*Being Too Critical About Everything
A lot of ladies are too critical and judgmental about issues and they tend to always look at things from a pessimistic point of view.
They always tend to see nothing good in anything and they always look for someone to blame their predicaments on. All this can be really frustrating for their partners
Some are not even appreciative of little and always expect more.
They even go all the way to blame their partners for their own wrongs and most men just can't live with them.

*Not Taking Good Care Of Themselves
Although ones physical appearance isn't the most important thing men seek, but definitely, it's the first thing they see.
A lot of ladies tend not to pay too much attention on how they look, or how they dress.
They don't take care of hairs, their shape, their weights and generally, the way they look, some even dress shabbily and tattered and at the end wonder why men don't approach them.
Men are generally attracted to ladies that are attractive and if a man doesn't see a lady as such, he doesn't pay attention to her.

Giving Up Too Easily
A lot of women who might not be having it good in a relationship just tend to throw their hands up in the air and say, “I give up, there’s no point continuing"
But they fail to realize that not every guy they meet is the perfect guy
They forget that each experience be a learning experience, and they get discouraged easily.
They fail to understand that there are always trying times in every relationship and patience and perseverance is needed for things to work things out.

Written By Misssclassy

ideykwum:
You chat like a babe I had a crush on some eons ago! ! I won't mention her name, it's haram!

misssclassy:
[color=#000050]Cc
Freecocoa [/color]

ronald4lif:
Although I'm not a rep of the OP but I think this piece was designed from realism not idealism, in view of majority of the Nigerian populace. While she has asserted to be a feminist this piece didn't justify her feministic stance. However, the targeted audience are Nigerians who mostly believe there are principles and societal norms a woman must adhere to for them to be considered marriageable. It doesn't necessarily dispel her resolution and declaration to feminism avouches.

There are times one have to look beyond their high held principles and address issues based on the happenings on ground and in this case she's right because that's the way it goes down in Nigeria. For a woman who seek to be married and serious about it she must conform with certain standards established in a patriarchal setting. Her claims is evidently clear from the comments herein.

inkz:
some of them don't even deserve to be married karma is a bitch

epelumi42:
This guy is smart. Chop knuckle.

Richman15:
I sense ENVY in you. U are one of d Ledies she is referring to. Without marriage a Woman looses high degree of Honour and Respect in d society, unless she is a Rev. Sister. Pls, Take d Advice and stop writing NONSENSE

Antoinne:
That's not an attack. It's an opinion. Write-ups like this are the reasons Nigerians stay ignorant. Any Tom, Diiick or Harryc wakes up, grabs a pen and begins making verdicts on other people's lives. Tell me, what's wrong in "joining the feminism band wagon", if that makes a lady satisfied? Is marriage the pinnacle of a woman's achievement? Do you know how many poor souls will read this and begin inferring things that are not actually wrong with them?

I beg to disagree with articles like this that paint subjective issues with a color brush. They certainly don't encourage a lady to keep her head up and hold her shoulder high. There's more to living than marriage. And behavior should be by themselves and not fashioned to nick a husband.

misssclassy:
There are a lot of single ladies out there who are supposed to have been married but still remain single. Most have had relationships and for some reasons such relationship failed, with them being the primary cause of such failures, while some haven't even had the any.
Most times this is as a result of certain reasons that these ladies may be ignorant of

So here are some of those probable reasons why a lot of ladies who seek to marry still end up remaining single.

*Displaying Bad Attitudes
Some ladies tend have very repulsive attitudes that most men can't tolerate. Such attitudes might include being rude, being arrogant, being too hotheaded, not being able to heed to advice and basically not to carrying theirselves in a fashion that is morally acceptable.
Some ladies display egocentric characteristics and believe that men should worship the floor they walk while they are free to act as they like and most men are repelled by such
And most of the time, when all this bad attitudes are pointed out to these ladies, they still don't take heed and still continue in them.

*Ignorantly Joining The Feminist Band Wagon
The cause of feminism is growing rapidly during this our time and a lot of ladies just ignorantly claim to be feminists without even having a complete understanding of what feminism really entails.
These ladies, due to the certain standards they set and their requirements of the opposite sex, they tend to repel men instead of attract them.
Because of their lack of understanding of the concept of feminism, some even begin to grow a gradual dislike for men which they display through certain characters which cause men to pull away from them.

*Placing Too Much Emphasis On looks
A lot of ladies see their looks as their ultimate charm for attracting men. They see it as the only thing men want, and become oblivious of the fact that physical appearance is just a part of the requirements of wife, and they pay less attention to other parts of themselves that might need development.
Instead of them to build on their other qualities, they put all the effort and place too much attention to their looks and ignore certain aspects of themselves that need improvement.

*Not Putting Themselves Out There
There are ladies who sit around whine day to day about being single, waiting for fate to step in or magic to happen.
These ladies forget that life doesn't owe them anything, and that they have to strive and take the bull by the horns if they want to get what they want.
Of course it might be difficult for a lot of ladies putting themselves out there, as there are a lot of hindrances such as the nature of job, certain personalities traits and all that,
but that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to bring themselves out of their comfort zone.

Also, a lot of ladies fear rejection because they might have tried some relationships in times past but failed, and they let this fear creep into them and they become hesitant in wanting to commit to any new relationship.
They fail to understand that they a husband isn't just going to appear at their doorsteps They have to go out, meet people and engage in certain activities aimed at broadening their social circle.

*Being Too Desperate
Due to the fact that most ladies are so eager to marry, most show so much desperation and they end up putting too much pressure on their partners.
Some become to pushy and they constantly pressurize their partners into marrying them quickly, and this can be too demanding.
Men see that overly persistent attitude as a red light and some might even start placing meaning to it and at the end loose interest in the relationship.

*Making Themselves A Burden To Men
A lot of ladies, especially during dating tend to be too financially dependent on their partners for everything and this results in them becoming a nothing but a burden to their partners
They fail to realize that most men want women that can support them financially, not women that would just stay lazy around and expect men to just throw everything on their tables.

*Having Overly High Expectations
A lot of ladies set unrealistic expectations of the kind of man they want. Most of these standards tend to be absurd and unreasonable and it ends up limiting their choices.
You see ladies wanting their "dream' men to have particular physical characteristics, have certain educational status, attain a certain financial height, belong to a particular social class, and more often than not, they don't find men who possess all this qualities in one and keep on searching and searching until it becomes too late.

*Being Too Critical About Everything
A lot of ladies are too critical and judgmental about issues and they tend to always look at things from a pessimistic point of view.
They always tend to see nothing good in anything and they always look for someone to blame their predicaments on. All this can be really frustrating for their partners
Some are not even appreciative of little and always expect more.
They even go all the way to blame their partners for their own wrongs and most men just can't live with them.

*Not Taking Good Care Of Themselves
Although ones physical appearance isn't the most important thing men seek, but definitely, it's the first thing they see.
A lot of ladies tend not to pay too much attention on how they look, or how they dress.
They don't take care of hairs, their shape, their weights and generally, the way they look, some even dress shabbily and tattered and at the end wonder why men don't approach them.
Men are generally attracted to ladies that are attractive and if a man doesn't see a lady as such, he doesn't pay attention to her.

Giving Up Too Easily
A lot of women who might not be having it good in a relationship just tend to throw their hands up in the air and say, “I give up, there’s no point continuing"
But they fail to realize that not every guy they meet is the perfect guy
They forget that each experience be a learning experience, and they get discouraged easily.
They fail to understand that there are always trying times in every relationship and patience and perseverance is needed for things to work things out.

Written By Misssclassy

Richman15:
I sense ENVY in you. U are one of d Ledies ladies she is referring to. Without marriage a Woman looses high degree of Honour and Respect in d society, unless she is a Rev. Sister. Pls, Take d Advice and stop writing NONSENSE

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]
But after all these points listed we'll still have women who will be single.

Is it that they don't know these things or they don't care?

Because these facts are visible to the blind and audible to the deaf. [/color]

toksbisola:
@OP; When I see a nice write-up, I'll always give credit to whom it's due; and for that, I'll say well done. You're indeed a person I use the word “ACE” meaning a person who is very skilled at something. That something I see in you, is a gift you have with words; as well as the subsequent explanation you provide. "KUDOS".

These 6 points below I have copied/highlighted from your write-up and they are what I call “MINT”.

*Displaying Bad Attitudes
Some ladies tend have very repulsive attitudes that most men can't tolerate. Such attitudes might include being rude, being arrogant, being too hotheaded, not being able to heed to advice and basically not to carrying theirselves in a fashion that is morally acceptable. Some ladies display egocentric characteristics and believe that men should worship the floor they walk while they are free to act as they like and most men are repelled by such. And most of the time, when all this bad attitudes are pointed out to these ladies, they still don't take heed and still continue in them.

*Placing Too Much Emphasis On looks
A lot of ladies see their looks as their ultimate charm for attracting men. They see it as the only thing men want, and become oblivious of the fact that physical appearance is just a part of the requirements of wife, and they pay less attention to other parts of themselves that might need development.
Instead of them to build on their other qualities, they put all the effort and place too much attention to their looks and ignore certain aspects of themselves that need improvement.

*Not Putting Themselves Out There
There are ladies who sit around whine day to day about being single, waiting for fate to step in or magic to happen. These ladies forget that life doesn't owe them anything, and that they have to strive and take the bull by the horns if they want to get what they want. Of course it might be difficult for a lot of ladies putting themselves out there, as there are a lot of hindrances such as the nature of job, certain personalities traits and all that, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't try to bring themselves out of their comfort zone.

Also, a lot of ladies fear rejection because they might have tried some relationships in times past but failed, and they let this fear creep into them and they become hesitant in wanting to commit to any new relationship.
They fail to understand that they a husband isn't just going to appear at their doorsteps They have to go out, meet people and engage in certain activities aimed at broadening their social circle.

*Making Themselves A Burden To Men
A lot of ladies, especially during dating tend to be too financially dependent on their partners for everything and this results in them becoming a nothing but a burden to their partners. They fail to realize that most men want women that can support them financially, not women that would just stay lazy around and expect men to just throw everything on their tables.

*Having Overly High Expectations
A lot of ladies set unrealistic expectations of the kind of man they want. Most of these standards tend to be absurd and unreasonable and it ends up limiting their choices. You see ladies wanting their "dream' men to have particular physical characteristics, have certain educational status, attain a certain financial height, belong to a particular social class, and more often than not, they don't find men who possess all this qualities in one and keep on searching and searching until it becomes too late.

*Not Taking Good Care Of Themselves
Although ones physical appearance isn't the most important thing men seek, but definitely, it's the first thing they see. A lot of ladies tend not to pay too much attention on how they look, or how they dress. They don't take care of hairs, their shape, their weights and generally, the way they look, some even dress shabbily and tattered and at the end wonder why men don't approach them. Men are generally attracted to ladies that are attractive and if a man doesn't see a lady as such, he doesn't pay attention to her.

Finally, as the saying goes "A word is enough for the wise"; those who would learn a thing or 2 from your write-up would do so.

By the way, out of courtesy; mind me asking if you're a writer by any chance? You have the talent; and it'll be worth exploring further in that area; just my opinion though.

I rest my case

ronald4lif:
Oga, you teach me work nau.

cvibe2:
There is absolutely no reason why you should not want a great life.
You are totally awesome. Your friends always tell you what a great catch you are. But you have a problem. You’re still single. Not only are you single, you can’t see any good reason why you’re single.
All the bad boys and naughty girls are hooking up and getting married, and here you are: smart, working class, busy professional, relatively drama-free, and alone at night. Again!.

Whenever you’re out in public, you see all the couples or married people, and wonder how and where they met up, and what was said to get the ball rolling.

Now let’s look at it another way…

Imagine yourself having more people romantically interested in you. Imagine that special someone writing you back, accepting your offer of a first date, becoming your partner.

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freecocoa:
You don't seem to know where you stand.

And to make it worse, you are spreading ignorance and proud of it.

How does being feminist stop one from getting married? How does setting standards make it not okay to get married?

You are literally saying any lady that wants to get married, must adhere to certain standards to do so.

jrerico1:
I enjoyed your write up, you'll marry the perfect Man

mima247:
I m sorry but I have to say this.i find a lot of broke ass guys looking for financially stable women to marry....forgeting dat d woman is enduring d rubbish @work so she's not a burden to her husband. Such men get all angry if d woman after marrying them does an expensive hairdo.....as if she's supposed to b his bank account.many women work @jobs deemed suitable for men... They endure all this so as not to b a liability.Ithink its shameful when men turn to gold diggers...

ollah1:
What is this one saying?