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VictoriaBee:
Keep giving yourself hope.

glimpse33:
OP, you should be greatful you are handsome!

let the ugly guys tell you their pains first, then you would be thankful to your creator!

note* ugly guys shouldn't quote me

glimpse33:
OP, you should be greatful you are handsome!

let the ugly guys tell you their pains first, then you would be thankful to your creator!

note* ugly guys shouldn't quote me

Teempakguy:
Chai! This will be difficult.
In the same vein, being a mentally gifted person, is a gift of nature, which, by the way is quite desirable and exquisite. People often think that people with advanced cognitive abilities are able to do anything they want just because of their gifts. However, people often forget that intelligence does not make you a God. You are also a weak, frail person with your own setbacks and problems.
We will not analyze these setbacks together.

people tend to objectify brainiacs, . They tend to define you only by your intelligence. They usually do not care about other characteristics you have, whether you are a very romantic person, or kind, pfft. Who cares, you will start hearing, hey! What is 13 squared? Or, hey, I have a date with my boyfriend tonight and I haven't done my homework. Could you do it for me? And oh, make sure about three are wrong, so the teacher doesn't know you had anything to do with it.
Imagine.

yeah . . . in this case, it would be the opposite. Nobody cares about you. Nobody therefore talks about you. They only know you exist when their math textbook starts displaying Greek.

yeah, in this case, the envy comes from other less intelligent academics. They cannot believe you are so smart. Without reading, you top the class. While they . . . spend an eternity with their legs in the water bowl. Only to get behind you. Eventually, envy must come. They will also feel insecure around you. They will also shun you.

if you are intelligent and you are not lonely . . . .
Hardly anyone understands you, the ones that do are green with envy. And usually, brainiacs embarrass themselves in public every time! It's inevitable. No one gets their jokes, or even their grammar sef. they are also clumsy at times.

I remember one time like this when my mom said, "you can even cure cancer!" And I was like . . . ehn
They also expect you to perform at peak levels every time. Whether you are sick or not, whether you are depressed or whatever, they don't care. If you lack behind, they will say . . . he has started moving with those olodos.

one word . . . FRIENDZONE.

this also happens to intelligent guys . . . any girl that gets attracted to you becomes overly possessive and clingy. They are also usually bad mannered and not-that-hot. One is happening to me right now even. She calls me day and night and always wants to know my position and momentum at every point in time.

some peeps are incredibly witty! Myself included. People like this are considered arrogant because they cannot be beaten in an argument. They cannot be corrected, they cannot be coerced. Simply because they have the reply to every statement. Hence they are considered stubborn, ungentlemanly, and arrogant. Even among the girls, no one will want to hold a conversation with you because they know you will eventually embarrass them and make them look like fools. Their excuse? "He is an arrogant sonofab*tch"

some people embrace their gifts squarely. They begin to believe that they are the normal human specimen. However, in the process, they begin to look down on lesser brained peeps. Forgetting that every human has their part in the greater scheme of things. Becoming too confident in one's mental prowess can lead him to view others as objects and animals.

you know, I think that every gift has its own share of problems. Whether aesthetic beauty, mental agility, or sense of humor. It is these strengths and weaknesses that define who we are,

cc yourmain

glimpse33:
OP, you should be greatful you are handsome!

let the ugly guys tell you their pains first, then you would be thankful to your creator!

note* ugly guys shouldn't quote me

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]I can bet you haven't seen any [/color]

naijaboiy: ...

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Yes! We have something like handsome and ugly guys. [/color]

shurlermoz:
Guy, being handsome no dey pay bills, when you get to that stage you will understand.

[color=#1980BC]I don't need to get to any stage to understand.

I totally get what you are talking about but that is not the aim of my thread. [/color]

chudidonas:
No... I learnt from nollywood

And you're not bad either, with the best skin tone.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Well done sir. [/color]

czarr:
.....naijaboiy here's another hater,hu thinks undermining a fine boy is gonna make him any less attractive...

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Loneliness is just part of the points oga.

I didn't say I was lonely. [/color]

vickerz:
brosh ! , my main problem is that i dunno weather im ugly or handsome

nobody has ever called me ugly, also i have never heard anybody call me handsome

im "konfused"

[color=#1980BC]You are probably average then. [/color]

hopeforcharles:
in as much as i will not disprove you, i refuse to be weight down with those lists you mention, every thing has its positive and negative aspect. I have experienced some of the things you wrote. But i am using my handsomeness quite effective, i use to be a bad introvert, but now man i go all out as long as a see some green light or something to talk about with her, and in my business my handsomeness make girl and women love and want to patronise me, alot of times i prefer buying stuffs from women when i use my looks and sweet tongue to scoope and make them sell things exceptionally cheap to me. Advise from me harness ur handsomeness and use it to ur advantage. Dnt mind them when they say you are proud or other shits the conjure. Cheers

[color=#1980BC]my aim was not to put anybody down.

Just wanted to let the world know our experiences. [/color]

runnazz:
chai!! so Op turn gay last last...with very loong essay for the gay book club....like Mrcork says...(no ofeense)

[color=#1980BC]I was never expecting you to make so much sense.

Nice one! [/color]

naijaboiy:
Being a handsome or good looking guy is a very wonderful gift of nature which every body see as a good thing. People who are born good looking are always grateful to be created that way by their maker. The society always tend to think these set of people always get things done easily because of their looks. They are also believed to always easily attract the female opposite sex of any type. They are given some kind of special preference most times.

But one thing people fail to notice is that these set of people are just human beings who encounter some setbacks as a result of their physical features.

Now let's analyse some of these setbacks or disadvantages together.

1) Objectification: People tend to objectify handsome or good looking guys. They tend to define you by only your superficial attributes and fail to read you as a person,,because they miss to see anything in you besides your looks. For example,, they hardly think you are good at anything else other than just being good looking. Your looks will seem to over shadow every other quality in you. This issue has tasked good looking guys to work harder and prove their worth to people that they have other things to offer than just a mere good looking physique.

2) Topic of discussion: To the Handsome guys in the house. Have you noticed that you seem to be a topic of discussion in little groups especially amongst idlers. Those who don't really have anything doing other than gossip. They just settle down to discuss you and say all sorts of things about you. Even the things that you can never do.

3)Envy/insecurity: Sometimes people tend to get envious at you for no reason. Some get jealous by mere looking at you. You'll have your friends whom are less good looking than you being insecure whenever you are around them. They wouldn't let you follow them whenever they want to meet their girlfriend. You try to be nice and they accuse you of trying to snatch their girlfriends.

4) Loneliness: It is a very surprising Fact that some,,if not most good looking guys are lonely. Except maybe the extroverts who defy the odds to make friends themselves. Most people conclude that guys who are handsome already have so many people clustered around them. A girl would see a good looking guy but she will choose to ignore him because she feels he already has a lot of girls at his beck and call,,therefore it would be a waste of time getting to know him. When this keeps happening,,you discover that most handsome guys have little or few friends while some are even single without a girlfriend to call their own.

5) High Expectations: Some times people give a lot of high expectations to good looking guys. Most times they expect you to be the head or leader. They feel since you are good looking you should be able to make decisions and be charismatic. They would want to follow your every step. While this can be very difficult for the guys who aren't outspoken/introverted,,it could work out well for the confident ones. So it's a bit of an advantage and disadvantage. But the problem comes when you do something out of what your followers expect of you. There will now be a crisis between pleasing yourself and pleasing the people that expect so much from you.

6)Pretty girls play hard to get: Now this is a very confusing fact. But it is of a truth that girls who are also good looking will play hard to get and put up a higher wall of defence when you are trying to approach them. Have you wondered why a beautiful girl easily succumbs to the toasting of that your "not-so-good-looking" friend but she keeps posting you whenever you approach her?. It is difficult to get their sense of interest. She feels that her showing of interest in you is a massive conceit of power.

7) Intimidation: The case is not any better with a less attractive girl. When a handsome guy is talking to a girl less attractive than he is she may feel way too intimidated. She may also feel he just wants to use her for sex and she wouldn't want to date someone more attractive than her because she can't use her sexuality power. A guy also has to become careful of this type as they may become really clingy to him after they have gone intimate for a while. And any sign of dis interest shown by him automatically makes him a heart breaker and from there he's tagged a "player".

8 ) Confidence is misunderstood for arrogance: The sub heading has already explained the point briefly. Good looking guys who are confident and not shy of showing off what they have are considered to be arrogant and proud. They are looked at as condescending. It has become so bad that they don't even know of the best way to reply to a compliment again. There is no way a handsome guy will reply such compliments without coming off as proud and ignoring the compliment completely is not even an option.

9) excessive self-confidence might turn into vanity: On the other hand,,we have some set of good looking guys who become over confident and dwell on their looks for everything. They allow the praises get to their head and concentrate on their looks alone. They ignore other important aspects of life and depend on their good looks to get them what they want. They forget that everything is vanity at the end.

10) share yours.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]You are probably average then. [/color]

icedbeatz:
*crying* if say I handsome now I for follow una talk..... your list de LEGIT sha

[color=#1980BC]Lol...but the hustle is still the main thing boss. [/color]

YourMain:
Lol I am ridiculously flattered to be "cc'd"

Well in my opinion intelligent guys are forever winning even before good-looking guys. Good-looking guys are just meh. All them girls will completely regret making you do their homework.

Lol the constant topic of discussion I have is about intelligent guys. Who doesn't want a nerd. Jeez. Except when they're like all snotty with braces.

Well. Haters are motivators. Who cares If they're hating. That is a good thing.

Intelligent people are usually happy not being around people I'd think. My best friend is like a genius. Not them book smart people. But yknow you speak to her and you're like. Woah. Mind. Blown. Anyways she'd never ever ever want to hang out when we ask her. And she's like I don't associate with idiots . She's only joking. I hope.

Haha Awh moms think their kids can do anything. I understand. My mum's the same lol.

Ehm. These girls need to wisen up. Smart guys are the way to go. Then again those types of females usually aren't very intelligent themselves.

Would ya blame them for being clingy. Now they know that intelligence is the way into the future and they've to stay hanging lol. I would anyways . Ehm I think that's cause smart people ( I feel really bad for saying smart people, kinda like I'm assuming everyone else isn't..) sometimes settle for less. Maybe cause of those girls friendzoning them.

Who doesn't like a bit of wit ? Well my friends and I love it. You should just leave them people and come chill with us

Well I'd personally rather have problems being smart than being good-looking... or maybe even both