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TV01:
And you are welcome to it - it's still parochial.


TV

@Bold: Your business

Re: Baby fathers are more appealing...

You must be reading a lot of Celeb stories and believing all the theories built up in your mind.

An average Nigerian lady WILL NOT marry a baby daddy if there are other unattached prospects.

TV01:
I'm not having the discussion alone am I? And while I may have a personality disorder, it's not the "multiple" type !


Not the answer, but anyway...any polish or sophistication an older woman has can be aquired by a younger woman.


10+ years younger than me . Distractingly nubile and I'll expire before she does !

What is the age diff between you and your wife?


TV

You were responding to my post, were you not? Were you doing it alone or did anyone here ask you to respond on their behalf? So who is us?

You can deceive the lil girls here that are feeding from your negative energy, not me. A 21-year-old girl (example) can NEVER achieve and acquire what a 35-year-old woman can. You must be joking.

My wife and I are age mates. I am too demanding to surround myself with people who due to lack of experience cannot meet me at my intellectual level.

Since you are 10+ older and since men die earlier and also are at risk of impotence with increasing age, your wife must have been quite desperate to have married you.

I thought a christian is a christian regardless of their church?No?

That's why I love Muslim,at least they don't trash a particular Mosque......

Beats me.

bukatyne:
@Bold: Your business

Re: Baby fathers are more appealing...

You must be reading a lot of Celeb stories and believing all the theories built up in your mind.

An average Nigerian lady WILL NOT marry a baby daddy if there are other unattached prospects.

Nope, I don't take references from celebs.

Whether you like it or not, the fact is that men with children have little problem acquiring wives - and good ones if they have even a little bearing. Women with Kids are not as well situated.

When your "average Nigerian Lady" will marry a man with kids and other wives if he has sufficient prospects.


TV

I talked to a married colleague yesterday,he is going trough rough time in his marriage.(his younger wife kicked him out according to her he has been smoking for years and for 4 years she has pleaded with him to stop,he was better off smoking out....but he said those are excuses because she went back for her masters and he has been struggling financially,she was advised by her girlfriends that she will be better off as a single parents(benefits) than staying with him.)

He said;for me when it comes to sex an older woman might not be active or that flexible but they have the experience.

They know how to make a man feel like a man and pleasure him whereas a younger woman has the energy to "grind" or "ride" the man,more
than the older woman will.

It's like a man with a large joysticks who has no idea on how to use it and a man with an average one who will make a woman reach high grace because of experience.

So my question here is this,if you are 40 and married a 30 years old woman-that same 30 years giving you pleasure in bed won't be able to give the same pleasure to a 35 years old?

So it means men performance also reduce with age?

bukatyne:
I believe there is one perfect will of God for you and several permissive wills while others just jam themselves and try to work it out.

For example, God's perfect will was for Balaam not to respond to Balaak's call to curse Israel, when he insisted on going, God told him to bless the Israelites.

Also note that even if God gives you your perfect will, you both still have to make it work.

So, how do you know which is the perfect will of God?
What are the characteristics of His Perfect will?

innervoice:
You were responding to my post, were you not? Were you doing it alone or did anyone here ask you to respond on their behalf? So who is us?

Yawn - your post queried those who were expending unecessary time and energy on this matter - I responded on behalf of us all. Including you now that you've joined us. Welcome !

innervoice:
You can deceive the lil girls here that are feeding from your negative energy, not me. A 21-year-old girl (example) can NEVER achieve and acquire what a 35-year-old woman can. You must be joking.

Are you regretting your choice ! A 21 year old girl can achieve and acquire way more than a 35 year old - and before she is 35. Or did the 35 year old have all she has at 35 at 21? See your fuzzy thinking. Not that I actually said, anyone should go and marry a 21 year old!

innervoice:
My wife and I are age mates. I am too demanding to surround myself with people who due to lack of experience cannot meet me at my intellectual level.

My bad, I didn't realise that intelluct is a function of age or experience - or that is the main ingredient of a successful marriage.

innervoice:
Since you are 10+ older and since men die earlier and also are at risk of impotence with increasing age, your wife must have been quite desperate to have married you.

You are struggling !
Yes I am 10+ older, and an extremely fit, fully functioning male. I should be potent well into my 70's and beyond. As for dying earlier, that was part of the deal . How can the one who cleans up after you die before you !

Impotence will come - I will welcome it sef. Even if it doesn't, by the time my wife gets menopausal, I will be willing to relegate sex to a smaller role as appropriate.

And of course my wife was mad desperate to marry me - I'm a catch, and she didn't want to lose me to the hordes of other women that were looking to shunt her from pole position .

I don't need to ask about your situation, but I trust your wife is in great shape after kids and you are a pretty fit bloke yourself. Otherwise my thoughts and prayers are with you .


TV

edwife:
I talked to a married colleague yesterday,he is going trough rough time in his marriage.

He said;for me when it comes to sex an older woman might not be active or that flexible but they have the experience.

They know how to make a man feel like a man and pleasure him whereas a younger woman has the energy to "grind" or "ride" the man,more
than the older woman will.

It's like a man with a large joysticks who has no idea on how to use it and a man with an average one who will make a woman reach high grace because of experience.

So my question here is this,if you are 40 and married a 30 years old woman-that same 30 years giving you pleasure in bed won't be able to give the same pleasure to a 35 years old?

So it means men performance also reduce with age?

At 25 a man's libido starts to drop and this is normal though some folks starts experiencing it in their 30s as other things are beginning to occupy your mind unless for some guys with no job responsibilities ,idle and no ambition to push boundaries and this is one common reason poorer folks are likely to birth children like rats even as they do not have the same strength and mental energy to provide for these kids.

After a very hard day at the job and the hassles of life , the last thing on your mind is someone that will disturb your sleep and life all in the name of sex though the urge might just come naturally and it doesn't matter if you're tired too.

Finally , your sexual libido at an advance age can't be like that of a 19 yr old boy that hardly have access to puccy whenever he wants unlike a mature man that is married or has a standing army of girlfriends.
The thing Na food?

Truckpusher:
At 25 a man's libido starts to drop and this is normal though some folks starts experiencing it in their 30s as other things are beginning to occupy your mind unless for some guys with no job responsibilities ,idle and no ambition to push boundaries and this is one common reason poorer folks are likely to birth children like rats even as they do not have the same strength and mental energy to provide for these kids.

After a very hard day at the job and the hassles of life , the last thing on your mind is someone that will disturb your sleep and life all in the name of sex though the urge might just come naturally and it doesn't matter if you're tired too.

Finally , your sexual libido at an advance age can't be like that of a 19 yr old boy that hardly have access to puccy whenever he wants unlike a mature man that is married or has a standing army of girlfriends.
The thing Na food?

Thank you,we are getting somewhere.

So if men libido drops with age and not forgetting our brothers who develop protruded belly,because we must admit- today's economy

stress level is getting higher by the day,what will then happen to the younger wife who still very much nubile and actively sexual?

TV01:
Nope, I don't take references from celebs.

Whether you like it or not, the fact is that men with children have little problem acquiring wives - and good ones if they have even a little bearing. Women with Kids are not as well situated.

When your "average Nigerian Lady" will marry a man with kids and other wives if he has sufficient prospects.


TV

Last I remembered, you are not here abi?

The fact men have kids has a huge bearing on women's decisions except if the men are celebs (the celebrity world is clearly an outliner) or they hide that fact.

I know someone who did not marry a guy with a kid even when her sis had a kid outta wedlock.

Theory is world apart from practical when it comes to marriage and human relations

edwife:


I thought a christian is a christian regardless of their church?No?

That's why I love Muslim,at least they don't trash a particular Mosque......

Beats me.

They do.

Infact they usually do not intermarry and the Islamic boards is filled with their fights.

Hausa Muslims also think they are 'better'/ 'purer' than Yoruba Muslims who are more accommodating.

bukatyne:
They do.

Infact they usually do not intermarry and the Islamic boards is filled with their fights.

Hausa Muslims also think they are 'better'/ 'purer' than Yoruba Muslims who are more accommodating.

Wow didn't know this.Because it difficult to see-i do visit their section here and i hardly see it.Thanks for informing me.

Bizarre world.....

bukatyne:
They do.

Infact they usually do not intermarry and the Islamic boards is filled with their fights.

Hausa Muslims also think they are 'better'/ 'purer' than Yoruba Muslims who are more accommodating.

I saw her comment and laughed.
I am non-denominational and see her point but saying muslims are different is ignorant.

TV01:



TV

Get in touch with your village or childhood group

There is a reason they have 0 -5 yrs; 5 - 10yrs etc.

I have forgotten where I saw it however ages mates are within a 5yr range

mbulela:
I saw her comment and laughed.
I am non-denominational and see her point but saying muslims are different is ignorant.

Yes very ignorant of me,because i don't know much about them except on NL.

Thanks for seeing my point though.

mbulela:
So, how do you know which is the perfect will of God?
What are the characteristics of His Perfect will?

Through prayers, spiritual sensitivity etc. amongst others.

Characteristics? Inner peace etc.

edwife:
Thank you,we are getting somewhere.

So if men libido drops with age and not forgetting our brothers who develop protruded belly,because we must admit- today's economy

stress level is getting higher by the day,what will then happen to the younger wife who still very much nubile and actively sexual?

There was a time my Grandfather eldest brother's wife had an affair she was 49 and the man in question was 87 and peeps starting trash talking her during that family and I hard a different opinion which shocked everyone.I simply ask them that which one among them would be sexually active and their wife is prolly sick and can't do anything with them and still maintain their sanity - they called me a small boy but a particular Aunt got the message.
Why would a man get married to a woman almost his daughter's age? Mind you she's not his second or third wife she's the fourth.
The lesson here is simple , I sincerely feel that the age difference between intending couples shouldn't be more than 10 anything above this is a special call for infidelity in the future and remember women's sexual urge bounces back at 50 when they are prolly done with child bearing and are likely to be economically stable yet people expect her to kill her urge just because oga is tired and retired?
In fact Oshimole would be a victim of this particular scenario - the kain Fucck wey boys go fucck that him wife 10 yrs from now eh, himself go confirm say yes truly truly Jesus is Lord.

edwife:
Wow didn't know this.Because it difficult to see-i do visit their section here and i hardly see it.Thanks for informing me.

Bizarre world.....

Very Very

Just how Deeper Life & MFM thinks wearing earrings, trousers, makeup, etc. are sinful and Christ Embassy thinks it is alright.

Different strokes for different folks.

bukatyne:
Last I remembered, you are not here abi?

Do you think it's any different here or anywhere else ? And the same obtains there. In fact men can have kids out of wedlock before and after marriage sef.

bukatyne:
The fact men have kids has a huge bearing on women's decisions except if the men are celebs (the celebrity world is clearly an outliner) or they hide that fact.

Face facts. It's easier for men with kids to marry women without than vice-versa. Why, because women prioritise other things more highly when choosing a mate. All the men I know with kids out of wedlock are married. If any of the women are, I don't know about it. I am not referencing celebrity lifestyle.

bukatyne:
I know someone who did not marry a guy with a kid even when her sis had a kid outta wedlock.

Bukatyne, discuss logically. An individual case does not change the generic fact - it's an exception. I would never have married a woman with children. Does that mean some men won't?

bukatyne:
Theory is world apart from practical when it comes to marriage and human relations

Face facts - no matter how ugly. Why the desire to "equalise" everything


TV

bukatyne:
Through prayers, spiritual sensitivity etc. amongst others.

Characteristics? Inner peace etc.

It is the will of God as revealed in His Word that brings inner peace. Not some specific will for a specific individual.
I am actually narrowing it to the context we are discussing (choosing a partner)

Truckpusher:
There was a time my Grandfather eldest brother's wife had an affair she was 49 and the man in question was 87 and peeps starting trash talking her during that family and I hard a different opinion which shocked everyone.I simply ask them that which one among them would be sexually active and their wife is prolly sick and can't do anything with them and still maintain their sanity - they called me a small boy but a particular Aunt got the message.
Why would a man get married to a woman almost his daughter's age? Mind you she's not his second or third wife she's the fourth.
The lesson here is simple , I sincerely feel that the age difference between intending couples shouldn't be more than 10 anything above this is a special call for infidelity in the future and[b] remember women's sexual urge bounces back at 50 when they are prolly done with child bearing and are likely to be economically stable yet people expect her to kill her urge just because oga is tired and retired?[/b]
In fact Oshimole would be a victim of this particular scenario - the kain Fucck wey boys go fucck that him wife 10 yrs from now eh, himself go confirm say yes truly truly Jesus is Lord.

Another man has spoken.

vague:
Stop mentioning me, use unclear joor

..

You should have thought about that before using an English word as username.

TV01:
Do you think it's any different here or anywhere else ? And the same obtains there. In fact men can have kids out of wedlock before and after marriage sef.


Face facts. It's easier for men with kids to marry women without than vice-versa. Why, because women prioritise other things more highly when choosing a mate. All the men I know with kids out of wedlock are married. If any of the women are, I don't know about it. I am not referencing celebrity lifestyle.


Bukatyne, discuss logically. An individual case does not change the generic fact - it's an exception. I would never have married a woman with children. Does that mean some men won't?


Face facts - no matter how ugly. Why the desire to "equalise" everything


TV

There is no discussion of 'equality' here

People would prefer spouses who do not have outta wedlock kids. Whether that is enough to deter them from going through is a different thing altogether.

The same things does not obtain everywhere.

mbulela:
It is the will of God as revealed in His Word that brings inner peace. Not some specific will for a specific individual.
I am actually narrowing it to the context we are discussing (choosing a partner)

@Bold, that is the context I am referring to.

Truckpusher:
There was a time my Grandfather eldest brother's wife had an affair she was 49 and the man in question was 87 and peeps starting trash talking her during that family and I hard a different opinion which shocked everyone.I simply ask them that which one among them would be sexually active and their wife is prolly sick and can't do anything with them and still maintain their sanity - they called me a small boy but a particular Aunt got the message.
Why would a man get married to a woman almost his daughter's age? Mind you she's not his second or third wife she's the fourth.
The lesson here is simple , I sincerely feel that the age difference between intending couples shouldn't be more than 10 anything above this is a special call for infidelity in the future and remember women's sexual urge bounces back at 50 when they are prolly done with child bearing and are likely to be economically stable yet people expect her to kill her urge just because oga is tired and retired?
In fact Oshimole would be a victim of this particular scenario - the kain Fucck wey boys go fucck that him wife 10 yrs from now eh, himself go confirm say yes truly truly Jesus is Lord.

@Bold:

edwife:


Another man has spoken.

Adams is in trouble

My people said that a man that plants an apple tree in his compound has simply invited children to disturb his sleep and peace of mind.

bukatyne:
@Bold:

Hehe, my sister no be small thing o.

All those small upcoming politician and money bags will teach him a lesson he will take to his grave.

bukatyne:
@Bold, that is the context I am referring to.

So, if you pray, are spiritually sensitive and have inner peace, the spouse you choose is God's perfect will?

bukatyne:
Get in touch with your village or childhood group

There is a reason they have 0 -5 yrs; 5 - 10yrs etc.

I have forgotten where I saw it however ages mates are within a 5yr range

Proudly Ijebu !

The "Regberegbe" are "age grade" associations and typically range from 3 to 5 years. They are constituted for social cohesion and activity - not because they serve as a reference for marriage or any other relationship.

There are still associations of people born within a year of each other, and there is still the sense of age hierarchy. I call my brother egbon and he is barely 2 years older than me. Do I drag title or headship with him because we are in the sam regberegbe?


TV

bukatyne:
There is no discussion of 'equality' here

People would prefer spouses who do not have outta wedlock kids. Whether that is enough to deter them from going through is a different thing altogether.

The same things does not obtain everywhere.

Yes it does.

All women, everywhere are first and foremost concerned about a mans status and ability to provide. Are children out of wedlock a consideration, sure, but simply not as high as it is for men, and unlikely to stop the deal if the men score highly in other ways.

Fact!

TV

Funny views!