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edwife:


I thought a christian is a christian regardless of their church?No?

That's why I love Muslim,at least they don't trash a particular Mosque......

Beats me.

edwife:


I thought a christian is a christian regardless of their church?No?

That's why I love Muslim,at least they don't trash a particular Mosque......

Beats me.

Because YOU are a muslim it does not give YOU the right 2 be myopic! Which 1 is @ least MUSLIMS DON'T TRASH A PARTICULAR MOSQUE? So what the "sunnis and the shiites" do or "boko haram, the yoruba islamics of ja'mal or the syrians" do all look like ISLAMIC UNITY 2 U?

bukatyne:
@Bold:

About something totally different to what I posited

edwife:


Another man has spoken.

Again, about something totally different to what I posited.

Truckpusher descibes a man 40+ older than his wife who is actually number wife number 4 - and this is when the man is close to 90. How does that map to or rebut my position? A total strawman

Guys, if you fall for this MOMS - "marry our mature singles" - campaign, you are on your own. They are busy mapping scenarios that have no bearing or similarity to my advice in order to discredit it. Be wise. Think strategically.


TV

Truckpusher:
Adams is in trouble

My people said that a man that plants an apple tree in his compound has simply invited children to disturb his sleep and peace of mind.

He might give her magun so she doesn't cheat

She can also invest in adult toys and wrap herself with her duvet.

Adultery is wrong

I've followed this discussion a little and I understand and agree to a large extent with both sides. But in judging their opinion If we all look at the relative ages of TV01 and most of the women then this argument isn't so deep. I won't add flesh to any side of the argument because generalisation makes for a fools paradise.

This is after all NL where opinions can be as different as night and day.

Truckpusher:
Adams is in trouble

My people said that a man that plants an apple tree in his compound has simply invited children to disturb his sleep and peace of mind.

Please, what age difference are we talking about here?

And Bukatyne, note he has children - her selection was based purely on status. Se you get?


TV

TV01:
Yes it does.

All women, everywhere are first and foremost concerned about a mans status and ability to provide. Are children out of wedlock a consideration, sure, but simply not as high as it is for men, and unlikely to stop the deal if the men score highly in other ways.

Fact!

TV

@ bold:

Then all the bus conductors, beggars et al will not be married.

This myth that all women care about status/pocket sha

It depends on the woman's deal breaker and the value system of the people involved.

I have seen a place where young mature women (early 20s) who have not birthed are mocked. The ones who have kids have higher value in the dating scene.

You do not have the power or authority to enforce your morals/stance on the whole world.

Different strokes for different folks

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Parisfran:
I've followed this discussion a little and I understand and agree to a large extent with both sides. But in judging their opinion If we all look at the relative ages of TV01 and most of the women then this argument isn't so deep. I won't add flesh to any side of the argument because generalisation makes for a fools paradise.

This is after all NL where opinions can be as different as night and day.

So you just wanted to announce to the rest of ouf us that you have an opinion but you choose not to air out your opinion? What's the point in that?

TV01:
Please, what age difference are we talking about here?

And Bukatyne, note he has children - her selection was based purely on status. Se you get?


TV

Are we adding fourth wives to the mix again?

When I talk of marriage, I only take account of the first wives.

Second to infinity does not exist to me.

funlord:





Because YOU are a muslim it does not give YOU the right 2 be myopic! Which 1 is @ least MUSLIMS DON'T TRASH A PARTICULAR MOSQUE? So what the "sunnis and the shiites" do or "boko haram, the yoruba islamics of ja'mal or the syrians" do all look like ISLAMIC UNITY 2 U?

She is a muslim?
Then her ignorance is unacceptable

ok

bukatyne:
TV is obviously talking about 10+ and above age difference or 1/2 your age + 7 yrs rule.

5yrs gap are 'age mates'

bukatyne:
@ bold:
Then all the bus conductors, beggars et al will not be married.

They are married to women who percieve them to have higher status than them. Or do you see many graduates with Bus conductors !

bukatyne:
This myth that all women care about status/pocket sha

It's not a myth Edwife sef said it !

bukatyne:
It depends on the woman's deal breaker and the value system of the people involved.

Empty pocket no potential is always a deal breaker. The potential sef must be obvious ! Reminds me of a great testimony I once heard in church. A woman testifies how she met her husband when he was penniless and how thye've endured, now that he's doing well, he earns so much that she didn't have to work. He's a top consultant in the UK, his wife met him at uni in Niaja, when he was laready in midical scholl and well known as amongst the brightest students .

bukatyne:
I have seen a place where young mature women (early 20s) who have not birthed are mocked. The ones who have kids have higher value in the dating scene.

Please tell us more - a place where men prefer to marry women with kids otver those without? ATBE??

bukatyne:
You do not have the power or authority to enforce your morals/stance on the whole world.
Different strokes for different folks

I enforce nothing, just relaying tried and tested observations. You cannot equalise everything, no matter how much you try to deny reality.

How many bus conductors did you consider . Why not??

TV

funlord:





Because YOU are a muslim it does not give YOU the right 2 be myopic! Which 1 is @ least MUSLIMS DON'T TRASH A PARTICULAR MOSQUE? So what the "sunnis and the shiites" do or "boko haram, the yoruba islamics of ja'mal or the syrians" do all look like ISLAMIC UNITY 2 U?

An ignorant calling out another ignorant.

Please who is a muslim? or you just wanted to make yourself feel better.

Just so YOU and the one who avoided quoting me know,i am a christian,born and raised as one-never had a muslim friend or among muslim.

mbulela:
She is a muslim?
Then her ignorance is unacceptable

Why do you keep referring to others rather than to quote me directly?

What is it with you?i was corrected by bukatyne who is also a human being like you,are you that a genius that you find it difficult to see that not everyone is knowledgeable about some facts?

I thought i was conversing with mature men.

bukatyne:
Are we adding fourth wives to the mix again?

When I talk of marriage, I only take account of the first wives.

Second to infinity does not exist to me.

You have lost track somewhere. My OP specifically states monogamy. And the piece you referenced by truckpusher is a man with 4 wives.


TV

Where did u get this information from ?

Truckpusher:
At 25 a man's libido starts to drop and this is normal though some folks starts experiencing it in their 30s as other things are beginning to occupy your mind unless for some guys with no job responsibilities ,idle and no ambition to push boundaries and this is one common reason poorer folks are likely to birth children like rats even as they do not have the same strength and mental energy to provide for these kids.

After a very hard day at the job and the hassles of life , the last thing on your mind is someone that will disturb your sleep and life all in the name of sex though the urge might just come naturally and it doesn't matter if you're tired too.

Finally , your sexual libido at an advance age can't be like that of a 19 yr old boy that hardly have access to puccy whenever he wants unlike a mature man that is married or has a standing army of girlfriends.
The thing Na food?

pickabeau1:
Where did u get this information from ?

Good spot. It may well be true at the extremities. I certainly didn't notice ! Plus what is the equivalent for women?

If we want to bring outliers into play, it's known that birth weight drops as women hit 28 and menopause can start at 32. We can only speak generally and relatively.


TV

TV01:
They are married to women who percieve them to have higher status than them. Or do you see many graduates with Bus conductors !


It's not a myth Edwife sef said it !


Empty pocket no potential is always a deal breaker. The potential sef must be obvious ! Reminds me of a great testimony I once heard in church. A woman testifies how she met her husband when he was penniless and how thye've endured, now that he's doing well, he earns so much that she didn't have to work. He's a top consultant in the UK, his wife met him at uni in Niaja, when he was laready in midical scholl and well known as amongst the brightest students .


Please tell us more - a place where men prefer to marry women with kids otver those without? ATBE??


I enforce nothing, just relaying tried and tested observations. You cannot equalise everything, no matter how much you try to deny reality.

How many bus conductors did you consider . Why not??

TV

How do people marry empty pockets?

Empty pockets is always a deal breaker for marriage or how do the couple intend to survive?

Anything wrong with the woman's testimony?

I am serious and it was so strange to me anyways. We see life through the lenses of our own experiences and what we know.

You are the one bring equality here and I do not know it fits in.

We are not in the same social circle just how I never considered any governor's son.

Lets see what theories he propounds

TV01:
Good spot. It may well be true at the extremities. I certainly didn't notice ! Plus what is the equivalent for women?

If we want to bring outliers into play, it's known that birth weight drops as women hit 28 and menopause can start at 32. We can only speak generally and relatively.


TV

bukatyne:
He might give her magun so she doesn't cheat

She can also invest in adult toys and wrap herself with her duvet.

Adultery is wrong

Women are already devicing several means on how to neutralize that shiit. You'd be waiting for eternity for your magun to catch her.

pickabeau1:
Its actually the other way round.... men libido is high up till the mid 30s

Then what happens after mid 30s?

What happens when a 35yr old marries a 25yr old?

TV01:
About something totally different to what I posited


Again, about something totally different to what I posited.

Truckpusher descibes a man 40+ older than his wife who is actually number wife number 4 - and this is when the man is close to 90. How does that map to or rebut my position? A total strawman

Guys, if you fall for this MOMS - "marry our mature singles" - campaign, you are on your own. They are busy mapping scenarios that have no bearing or similarity to my advice in order to discredit it. Be wise. Think strategically.


TV

Yes he is talking about a man 40+.

Now my question to you:

Who will a 27 years old marry then?a 19-20 years old girl?

if you are 40 and married a 30 years old woman-that same 30 years giving you pleasure in bed won't be able to give the same pleasure to a 35 years old?

So tv will your wife still look appealing to a 28 years old man?

Truckpusher:
Women are already devicing several means on how to neutralize that shiit. You'd be waiting for eternity for your magun to catch her.

Lols

The Magun actually kills the concubine depending on the type sha.

edwife:
An ignorant calling out another ignorant.

Please who is a muslim? or you just wanted to make yourself feel better.

Just so YOU and the one who avoided quoting me know,i am a christian,born and raised as one-never had a muslim friend or among muslim.



Why do you keep referring to others rather than to quote me directly?

What is it with you?i was corrected by bukatyne who is also a human being like you,are you that a genius that you find it difficult to see that not everyone is knowledgeable about some facts?

I thought i was conversing with mature men.

Unfortunately this is what happens when you meet immature quislings on a social forum! They resort 2 calling unknown people ignorant instead of learning from their mistakes and also to reason! Now listen carefully madam! If you are a muslim or christian it does not matter 2 me, your VIEWS on christianity were myopic and so I pointed it out! Don't go around dsiplaying that kind of logic in the future! it only makes you look like a vacuous and unexposed person 2 the public as regards 2 religion! And by the way I'm neither of them! Sum of us unlike you don't need to chase funky pastors or a bearded imams or concepts in order 2 attain the clarity of God! Some of us are enlightened enough to engage in direct contact!

edwife:
Thank you,we are getting somewhere.

That depends on where you want to go !

edwife:
So if men libido drops with age and not forgetting our brothers who develop protruded belly,because we must admit- today's economy

Of course libido drops with age, but it does so at differing rates and from different starting points for the sexes. Plus, women have additional rigours and potentially more preoccupations that will dampen the emotional component of her libido.

I've noted that the men should stay fit, but if it's about potruding bellies, women are more likely to be unfit than men - another reason to go younger.

edwife:
stress level is getting higher by the day,what will then happen to the younger wife who still very much nubile and actively sexual?

And women are immune to stress or have less stressors? Abi a fat old wife wont add to the brodas stress I snubility is forever and absolute? Her sexual activity does not decrease?

In short, all things being equal, a man will have a better quality and longer lasting sex life with a younger woman. The fitter you are as a man, the more in-shape you'd want your wife to be.

Men are able to retain muscle mass and for longer and shed weight quicker, also having more of the hormones that engender this, which are the same ones that speak to libido


TV

bukatyne:
Then what happens after mid 30s?

What happens when a 35yr old marries a 25yr old?

I don't know
You tell me

TV01:
You have lost track somewhere. My OP specifically states monogamy. And the piece you referenced by truckpusher is a man with 4 wives.


TV

His example was about a fourth wife. I actually quoted him because of the reference to Oshiomole.

pickabeau1:
Where did u get this information from ?

I hope you're not mistaken sexual prowess for sexual libido? They are two different things.

edwife:
An ignorant calling out another ignorant.

Please who is a muslim? or you just wanted to make yourself feel better.

Just so YOU and the one who avoided quoting me know,i am a christian,born and raised as one-never had a muslim friend or among muslim.



Why do you keep referring to others rather than to quote me directly?

What is it with you?i was corrected by bukatyne who is also a human being like you,are you that a genius that you find it difficult to see that not everyone is knowledgeable about some facts?

I thought i was conversing with mature men.

Apologies. As he sounded like he knew you personally.
The rest of your post directed at me was irrelevant.

There’s a lot of discussion about sexual peak, but it’s not measured in any consistent way. In terms of testosterone levels, men peak in their late teens. It’s also true that as testosterone levels decline, it takes longer to get an erection. And it takes longer after ejaculation before a man can achieve an erection again. But the reduction in testosterone isn’t generally measurable until age 30

When does sex drive end? For many men, it doesn’t. The way you make love and enjoy sex will likely change over time, as will frequency. But sex and intimacy can be a pleasurable part of aging.

http://www.healthline.com/health/mens-health/sex-drive#InPregnancy4

Stop using smileys and bring posts supporting your assertions
cc Truckpusher

funlord:


Unfortunately this is what happens when you meet immature quislings on a social forum! They resort 2 calling unknown people ignorant instead of learning from their mistakes and also to reason! Now listen carefully madam! If you are a muslim or christian it does not matter 2 me, your VIEWS on christianity were myopic and so I pointed it out! Don't go around dsiplaying that kind of logic in the future! it only makes you look like a vacuous and unexposed person 2 the public as regards 2 religion! And by the way I'm neither of them! Sum of us unlike you don't need to chase funky pastors or a bearded imams or concepts in order 2 attain the clarity of God! Some of us are enlightened enough to engage in direct contact!

Please go back to romance section,you called me a muslim first without even knowing me,then you called my view myopic after someone more mature and a WOMAN for that matter corrected me.

I ain't what you are looking for,go ask i don't do your type.Meaning i don't discuss with your type.I was even confused when you quoted me.

The floor is yours to drop more abuse.

Well, the issue of age should be individual's preference. I don't think there should be a rule of thumb to that part. Some prefer very young ladies, some age group while others prefer older ladies.

In my early twenties, I initially wanted to follow the footstep of father Abraham but lost the interest before I was ready for marriage. While marrying a younger person is good but I don't think it should be a guideline. Age should be sole discretion of individuals. The younger lady will also become old. The headmaster was once a school boy.

mbulela:
Apologies. As he sounded like he knew you personally.
The rest of your post directed at me was irrelevant.

Apology accepted.

bellong:
Well, the issue of age should be individual's preference. I don't think there should be a rule of thumb to that part. Some prefer very young ladies, some age group while others prefer older ladies.

In my early twenties, I initially wanted to follow the footstep of father Abraham but lost the interest before I was ready for marriage. While marrying a younger person is good but I don't think it should be a guideline. Age should be sole discretion of individuals. The younger lady will also become old. The headmaster was once a school boy.

Bellong bellong