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Lizabeth25:
okay

Gurgle:
But don't you guys pay bride-prices in Yoruba land?? Why should you be dreading it

Happiness87:
ok o, finally i like you

jnrbayano:
It beats me too bro.

The Op with his no 2 point just bedevilled all Igbos.

Gurgle:

Happiness87:
wishing you were in town

Neplusultra:
They shud try harder at painting igbos bad,it won't chnage the fact that they are most sought after and will keep being!

Gurgle:
Lol Igbo warrior, carry go, all the way to the alter in that lovely dress

sinaj:
thread not for me


treks to Phone forum

Toks2008:
I guess you need to assimilate and decipher my point. You will agree with me that there is a general mindset that Igbo ladies are expensive right? So im not saying that is true yet that seem to be the belief in many quarters especially the non igbo tribes so that was why i wrote that it is the duty of the lady to let the guy in her life understand that her case is not so.

Have you realized that Igbo guys now come for Yoruba ladies and some have argued that its because they are cheap but HELL NO.Its a cultural practice and been cheap is very relative.

Is been cheap about bride price or cost of marriage,Nah i think been cheap is about the decency of the lady in question.

iamnemo:
So all the pretty ladies looking for a ready made Dangote.

I offer the following analysis of your predicament.

In economic terms, you are a depreciating asset and I am an earning asset. Not only are you a depreciating asset, your depreciation accelerates! Let me explain: you’re 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next 5 years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35, stick a fork in you!

Your looks will fade and my money will likely continue into perpetuity … in fact, it is very likely that my income increases but it is an absolute certainty that you won’t be getting any more beautiful!

It doesn’t make good business sense to “buy you” (which is what most of them are asking) so I’d rather lease. In case you think I’m being cruel, I would say the following: if my money were to go away, so would you, so when your beauty fades I need an out. It’s as simple as that. So a deal that makes sense is dating(leasing), not marriage.

But rational arguments rarely win the day in dating, love, and marriage.

Good luck in your search.

Teempakguy:
I am so speechless. In fact, I am tall of words.



dude, I know you're an _idiot. We all know, so, we understand this action of yours. However, there is always room fro improvement. Right?
You can start by stopping your tribalism and improving your spelling. I do believe it is "Yoruba" and "south west."


Nice pseudonym, by the way. Unique.

Ngokafor:
....Mr man go and marry and stop disturbing women,are you that jobless or what??.every time women and marriage,abi them swear for you sef?..

...please go and marry and leave women alone..you are a yoruba man yet talking about Igbo women and brideprice like you know what you are talking about.How is it your business anyway??...mscheww two kobo busy body!!!

jaybee3:
Yet again you are going ahead making wrong assumptions even though it's really non of your business

I'm sure she never claimed to be looking for admirers on NL so why can't she be free to post whatever she likes so long as it conforms to forum rules?

You come across as someone very stuck up in old archaic ways

hbpeze:
you are the most beautiful girl on nairaland you have a dope pic

Omotayor123:
Chai... Wetin I do you na No vex for me Biko...

jaybee3:
I'm sure she never claimed to be looking for admirers on NL so why can't she be free to post whatever she likes so long as it conforms to forum rules?

sinestro24:
have seen better.
well beauty is in the eyes of the beholder sha

Gurgle:
yeah I want to get back soon. although I don't usually spend much time in Lagos. you live there?

invinzible1:
U are already begging with style

Toks2008:
Desperate for a husband


For many years i never knew how ladies in their very late 20s,early 30s and late 30s feel when it comes to the issue of settling down with a man until recently when i had the cause to really get close to many of them.

Yes many of them will always insist that marriage is the least of their worries but deep inside,most of them are hoping desperately to have a man to settle down with and my acquaintanceship with some of them made me decide to write this short piece hoping that when they see and read it,they will come to understand that their desperation is self inflicted and until they learn to put themselves at a vantage point,they will only hope and wish for a long time that a man comes their way.

I have witnessed many deliverance session for ladies all in the name of looking for a husband but after a close look i come to realize that they are their own problems and this is as a result of the society that have brainwashed them and rather than dealing with the problems,they end up running from from one prophet to another and from one deliverance service to another and some have become a shadow of themselves as they turn to emergency sister dressing like masquerades,going without earrings,make up and even on low cut all in the name of looking for a man.

Please when next you see such ladies,help me inform them that deliverance won't solve their problems and even when we know that there are spiritual hindrance to getting a spouse,most times what we need is a re orientation of our minds,ways of life and culture.

1.Many ladies will not say yes to a man if you are not ready to do traditional wedding,legal wedding,white wedding,blue wedding... Please tell me how easy you expect to find a man in this harsh economy.

2.As an Igbo lady,you are naturally at risk unless you drive it into your man's ear that in your own family they don't ask a man for crazy bride price otherwise you will only see men come into your life without discussing marriage and you will think its a curse from the village but its only as a result of the funny belief that Igbo ladies are expensive to marry.

3.How many ladies can start a life with a struggling man? I guess part of the prayer point during deliverance is that GOD should bring a ready made man to propose to you.Mumu

4.Funny doctrinal belief is another hindrance and many ladies who run to conservative churches in the bid to have a man end up in more bondage.I had a lady friend in her 30s who i admire so much but she goes to one of this conservative churches and there was a time i was so sick and i was expecting her to visit but she never did and when i told her i was angry,she was so quick to say she can not visit me at home and i was like FOR REAL? Even a sick guy? i even told her that she would have at least come in company of a friend and i lost interest in the friendship instantly and i wonder how she will get a good man with that mindset.

5.Rough past is another hindrance and many ladies just believe that if a man loves them the past does not matter.

6.Lack of wife qualities is another issue and i wonder how a lady who does not have the required quality to be a mrs to a man will be desperate fore a man because even if any man comes,he will eventually leave you until you work on yourself.

The bottom line is that many ladies we see in churches today who tend to be looking for a husband are their own problems. So stop been desperate and work on your mindset and you will be surprised that in no time,a good man will walk into your life and marry you.

sinestro24:

hahahahahahaha

some guys have no chill

ceejay4real:
How can I generate 25000 Euro with zero capital? Pls connect me on @dbigcee4real, my twitter handle. Thanks man!

Toks2008:
Yes you are 100% correct. I am an old soul living in a youn mans body.

This is why im so sexually decent and morally sound.

We need to present ourselves in a way that will not be suggestive and if you dont accept this then peace.

Happiness87:
ok o, finally i like you

Happiness87:
ok o, finally i like you

Neplusultra:
The Igbo expensive bride price is just overrated! Stop saying what you don't know OP, if it were,how come Igbo gals get married everyday!

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Well sometimes you can't blame the ladies.

There are some factors which you listed above that they have little or no control over.

Like the issue of bride price in the east.

I'm not from the east but what I could gather is that this bride price is more like a tradition to them and they can't start changing it. Most of the time the women are not allowed to have a say in the matter and that is how they lose prospective husbands.

The family members don't care about the effect this bride price issue of a thing is affecting their girls.

You see a very beautiful woman who is still single simply because her family has put a very high price on her head and no man is ready to come and pay such an amount to get married to her.

As for some of the other points,,the women who are guilty of it should better change.[/color]

tmann626:
i agree with u naija boy cos i'm dating an igbo gal n she told me dat ha bride list is out of ds world cos wen dey gave d guy dat married ha elder sista d list. d guy removed hs shirt n sat on the floor. i v already told ha dat i wl gv ha belle if dem no reduce d list.

jabojafa:
why wont u like her? No wonder all d ppl following u are only females no male...... Jst knw say na 14yrs if i report u to ekelebe. why wont u like her? No wonder all d ppl following u are only females no male...... Jst knw say na 14yrs if i report u to ekelebe.

wrongnumber:
You deserve a cookie. So on poinr.

Many of them will not take a second look at a conductor yet they will be fasting and praying for husband.

Don jazzy was once a buns fryer