Homes a point in just about everyone’s life when we
accept we cannot make it through this life alone — that
we need a partner in order to make it out alive.
Different people come to accept this at different points
in their lives, but regardless of who you are, how or
where you were raised, or what your current living
situation is, you will realize — sooner or later — you
can’t make it solo.
Moreover, you’ll come to accept that you don’t want to
make it alone.
There’s a difference between knowing or being told you
need someone in your life and feeling you need someone
to share your life with.
We are told different “truths” throughout our lives and
although we often believe what we are told, we rarely
find the motivation to do what is recommended without
first experiencing the need to act, to change.
One of the greatest motivators for settling down and
partnering up is realizing you already let an ideal
candidate get away.
Just about everyone is searching for the next best thing,
but only once you realize that finding better is mostly
impossible will you truly appreciate what you once had
and what you were once too immature to hold on to.
Only once you understand how good you once had it
will you understand how bad you have it now, and only
then will you be capable of turning your life around and
turning it in the right direction.
In a sense, you need the one that got away in order to
find the one that stays by your side forever.
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1. Realizing that loving and being in love aren’t the
same thing.
When two people who are perfect for each other end up
not working out, it’s usually because one of the two
feels that he or she is no longer in love with the other.
Relationships can be incredibly intense in the beginning
— even more so when you’re dating someone who could
potentially be the one. As the novelty and excitement of
it all die down, however, so do the corresponding
emotional responses we experience.
Not feeling your heart flutter when you see your partner
doesn’t mean you’re no longer in love. It just means you
are no longer worried you may lose him or her. Sadly,
this is a deceiving feeling as you can always lose
anyone at any time.
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2. Realizing that finding someone to love is a lot easier
than finding someone to love you.
You can fall in and out of love weekly if your mind is
open to it. Of course, it would be a very shallow sort of
love and surely wouldn’t last, but nevertheless you
would still feel many of those emotions most closely
related to the phenomenon. The hard part is finding
someone to love you in return.
A lot of factors come into play when considering
whether or not a person is even capable of loving you —
so many factors that, in the end, it all comes down to
luck.
If he or she happens to be in the right place in life, in
the right mindset, then he or she may fall for you. Such
windows are small, however, and are missed more often
than not.
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3. Realizing that you’re capable of treating people
horribly.
Love brings out the best and worst in people. When
things within our relationships are going the way we
wish them to, we’re the nicest individuals in the world.
But because we put so much on the line, open ourselves
up and put great trust in another individual, when we
feel threatened, we lash out with horrendous fervor.
There is no better person than a person in love and no
more horrible a person than a person feeling he or she
may lose that love. You need to accept how horrible you
can be in order to realize how much it takes to avoid
being that person.
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4. Realizing that your emotions can play tricks on you.
What most people don’t realize until it’s too late is that
our emotions aren’t good indicators of reality. First, we
have the reality that exists outside of us, that isn’t
subjective, but entirely objective — a reality that exists
only in the physical sense.
We then add a second layer to this reality by perceiving
and interpreting what we perceive. Only then do we
experience emotional responses — but not in response
to reality itself, but in response to our interpretation of
it.
Feelings are the third, and furthest removed, layer that
make up our personal reality. If we misperceive,
misinterpret or misunderstand something then our
emotions will reflect the errors we make, not what
actually exists.
Most relationships fail because of just this —
misinterpreting reality, drawing the wrong conclusions
and then allowing our misleading emotions to get the
better of us.
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5. Realizing that although forever is scary, it can also
be comforting.
Fear of commitment is a real thing. Every time we
commit, we are simultaneously rejecting all other
possible alternatives; there are always opportunity costs
associated whenever we make a decision.
Most decisions don’t worry us too much as we feel that
we can reverse them if necessary. When it comes to
love, however, most of us believe that it is or, at the
very least ought to be, forever.
Making a decision that you believe you need to stick to
for the rest of your life is scary. What if you make the
wrong decision? What if you’re going to miss out on
something better? These will always be possibilities —
you can’t wrestle with them because these questions
will never go away.
Instead, focus on all the positive things that having a
special someone in your life allows for. The truth is that
you are never stuck when it comes to relationships…
unfortunately most people don’t realize this until they
let that special someone get away.
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6. Realizing that missing someone can hurt indefinitely.
Most physical pains are temporary. Emotional pains, on
the other hand, have the ability to last for decades.
They may not be constant, but they have the ability to
resurface again and again for years to come.
All that’s necessary is for one experience, one thought,
one memory to trigger another painful memory. Because
we’re only human, we learn from experience. The only
way to understand how much it’s possible to miss
someone is to miss that someone that you now know
you could spend your life with.
You will never miss anyone the way you miss the one
that got away. I can say this with certainty because if
you do manage to find another special someone to
spend your life with, you’ll sooner die than let him or
her slip away.

Ok

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True talk

Yeah I can relate but then again if something is not yours you let it go

I love dis write up
nice one op

@OP, were you not taught summary in school. This is just too long for my liking

Op some persons are worth letting go no matter how special they might have been to us....

gabazin080:
@OP, were you not taught summary in school. This is just too long for my liking

Bros 4 sec school dem no teach u how to read passages?

Jollyjoy:
Op some persons are worth letting go no matter how special they might have been to us....

u jst said "SOME" not all!

Jollyjoy:
Op some persons are worth letting go no matter how special they might have been to us....

URE WRONG

@OP ure very very correct.

The poster above is a well known fool and a habitual bleacher! Beware of it!

Its true especially 1 & 2

TheUmmah:
The poster above is a well known fool and a habitual bleacher! Beware of it!

Nawa

I can relate to dis very well

blackboy92:
I can relate to dis very well

Relate to it very well as hw?

wenson:

Relate to it very well as hw?

I let someone special go and I felt everything thing written about

blackboy92:
I let someone special go and I felt everything thing written about

Eya bros u go dun pass 2ru hell

Jollyjoy:
Op some persons are worth letting go no matter how special they might have been to us....

exactly

One thing you realise is that everyone has a better replacement if you decide not to cry over spilt milk..

Hmmmmmmmm............. That,s a nice one. But what,s not for u is not for u, is better to let it go, and don,t keep trying to raise the dead. It could be that that persons part in ur story is over. So let it go..............

philcupid:
One thing you realise is that everyone has a better replacement if you decide not to cry over spilt milk..

Mah dear some people r irreplaceable no matter how u try

tessywithsexy:
Hmmmmmmmm............. That,s a nice one. But what,s not for u is not for u, is better to let it go, and don,t keep trying to raise the dead. It could be that that persons part in ur story is over. So let it go..............

Hmmm agreed buh some people r too special 2 jst let go like dat. Especially d ones dah made an impact in ur life

KINGSAMURAI:
URE WRONG

He is right and deserves one orijin