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proxillin:
She admitted going on date, but you keep defending her. If she comes and meet you and say she cheated, u will still argue she didnt cheat.
Its about feminism ...ladies thing...no need to argue with you. Like I said, we have seen ladies with dignity's comment. No need to fight. Have a nice day.

so if you go meet someone somewhere it means you have gone there to cheat? You have never gone out for lunch or breakfast with a female friend or even female relative without having any sexual conduct of any nature with that person before? You clearly have insecurity issues bothering you as well.

Only a man who is not sure of himself will resort to cheating instead of communicating and trusting his own woman. But then again its your life to destroy not mine. Have a nice day too

Moana:
so if you go meet someone somewhere it means you have gone there to cheat? You have never gone out for lunch or breakfast with a female friend or even female relative without having any sexual conduct of any nature with that person before? You clearly have insecurity issues bothering you as well.

Only a man who is not sure of himself will resort to cheating instead of communicating and trusting his own woman. But then again its your life to destroy not mine. Have a noce day too

Why are you ignoring these?

I have read your post. You are just here to argue and defend.

1. A DJ that will play on your wedding for business, Can you chat eroti_ca and romantic with him? What has business got to do with Romance?

2. The DJ asking her out and she didnt tell him she is engaged and infact about to wed. Can you do that to your man?

3. She was denying having confidential chat with the DJ until my guy presented an evidence before she admitted she is going on a date, but she doesnt love the DJ. Must you love someone before you fck that person?

4. Why cant she pick the DJ calls in front of her husband to be. The same person who will pay for the DJ.

Based on the item above, If you keep mentioning the woord "Assumption" like a zombie, then you have a problem.

hotwax:
Why are you ignoring these?

I have read your post. You are just here to argue and defend.

Pls ignore her. Someone already wrote about her.

He said People like that will read a thread topic and decide in their heart what to comment.

That comment is what they are gonna repeat 100 times, even if you force them to read the story fully.

It says much about the type of person she is. I pity her husband

hotwax:
Why are you ignoring these?

I have read your post. You are just here to argue and defend.

i read all of it, i dont seem to understand why he changed the story to romantic and erotic texts when all he said in the very first post was that he only saw chats of when they were planning to meet out.
I don't know maybe in Nigeria meeting someone for lunch or something is the same as being romantic and _erotic.

She cannot pick up calls in front of him, so whats wrong with him requesting her to stop excusing herself whenever she receives calls or better yet answer the calls himself and make the guy aware that he is crossing boundaries he isnt comfortable with?

She only went out to meet the guy and he concluded that she was cheating from that. I know an insecure man when i see one.

If you are mature enough for marriage you should be ready to look for solutions to your problems, not look for the next lady to _undress everytime you assume your partner is up to something.

proxillin:
Pls ignore her. Someone already wrote about her.

He said People like that will read a thread topic and decide in their heart what to comment.

That comment is what they are gonna repeat 100 times, even if you force them to read the story fully.

It says much about the type of person she is. I pity her husband

you are the one planning on cheating on your wife-to-be before you are even married but for someone reason im the one you pity? how ironic

afolwalex20:
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Moana:
i read all of it, i dont seem to understand why he changed the story to romantic and erotic texts when all he said in the very first post was that he only saw chats of when they were planning to meet out.
I don't know maybe in Nigeria meeting someone for lunch or something is the same as being romantic and _erotic.

She cannot pick up calls in front of him, so whats wrong with him requesting her to stop excusing herself whenever she receives calls or better yet answer the calls himself and make the guy aware that he is crossing boundaries he isnt comfortable with?

She only went out to meet the guy and he concluded that she was cheating from that. I know an insecure man when i see one.

If you are mature enough for marriage you should be ready to look for solutions to your problems, not look for the next lady to _undress everytime you assume your partner is up to something.

He is not confident abi?
He is jealous abi?

Those a the words of a chronic cheat. Stop being a bi**tch. We know a LovePeddler when we see one. But dont derail/corrupt other girls. This is a public forum. Dont let other girls think its normal to go and date their DJ on wedding day. A DJ is a business consultant not a date.

It seems someone has reasoning problem here. What is bad is bad.

He is jealous my foot.
So your husband to be can take one your best ladies out on a date and you will be happy about it. Or he can just go meet your make up artist in a secret location.


Please read the below again.

One day, my friend was going through her whatsapp chat with the DJ. The WifeTB told the DJ that she needs the service of the DJ for her friend’s wedding. She didn’t tell the DJ she is actually the one wedding.

The DJ started asking her out for date. She agreed to meet the DJ for a date somewhere.

My guy saw all that, yet he kept quiet and didn’t want to raise the issue with the lady as their wedding is close, before people start saying he is jealous, he is spying on his girl blahblah.

But my friend could not endure the whole thing again when the DJ started calling her repeatedly. They engage in confidential phone calls. She will be laughing…all Yes No Yes No Ok.. Ok hmmmm conversation, so that someone nearby will not understand what they are saying. At times she excuses my guy to go and pick the DJ’s call.
My guy finally confronted her, why all conversations with the DJ are not business and formal. Why is she hiding things from him?

hotwax:
He is not confident abi?
He is jealous abi?

Those a the words of a chronic cheat. Stop being a bi**tch. We know a LovePeddler when we see one. But dont derail/corrupt other girls. This is a public forum. Dont let other girls think its normal to go and date their DJ on wedding day. A DJ is a business consultant not a date.

It seems someone has reasoning problem here. What is bad is bad.

He is jealous my foot.
So your husband to be can take one your best ladies out on a date and you will be happy about it. Or he can just go meet your make up artist in a secret location.


Please read the below again.

LOL she knows all these...she is just trying to defend her se.x. She sees it as men versus women.

proxillin:
LOL she knows all these...she is just trying to defend her se.x. She sees it as men versus women.

Its annoying when people see the truth and still continue to behave like a zombie...

What point is she proving?

That a husband can secretly take one of her ladies on a date?

If she keeps arguing on this, then she is sick.

hotwax:
Its annoying when people see the truth and still continue to behave like a zombie...

What point is she proving?

That a husband can secretly take one of her ladies on a date?

If she keeps arguing on this, then she is sick.

Take it cool on her. She is a woman. And it shows her moral standard. I believe she is decent, but just trying to defend her female folks. FYI, she is not a bi***tch.

There are some argument you back down when you are arguing against logic.

LOL she will make a nagging wife. When she is wrong she will still continue arguing with her man.

[color=#990000]lt is better to remain single than to go into a SHAMEFUL marriage.Fucking around is a SIN,he can contract HIV. Tell him to postpone/hold the wedding.

He suppose to ENJOY marriage not to ENDURE marriage.

lt is better to remain single than to go into a SHAMEFUL marriage.Fucking around is a SIN,he can contract HIV. Tell him to postpone/hold the wedding.

He suppose to ENJOY marriage not to ENDURE marriage.

hotwax:
He is not confident abi?
He is jealous abi?

Those a the words of a chronic cheat. Stop being a bi**tch. We know a LovePeddler when we see one. But dont derail/corrupt other girls. This is a public forum. Dont let other girls think its normal to go and date their DJ on wedding day. A DJ is a business consultant not a date.

Not that i would expect a bushman to know that she could have been discussing the music to be played and the playlist and how is should be played out. Or you expect a DJ to just pitch up on the day and play whatever comes out of his assssshole abi

How should I stop corrupting your ladies when you don't know how to communicate in a civilised manner without throwing insults at me for not agreeing with you? Your girls are already being corrupted by rogues like you who lack of decorum, i really have no hand in it whatsoever.

It seems someone has reasoning problem here. What is bad is bad.

yes you might have to do something about your reasoning problem.

He is jealous my foot.
So your husband to be can take one your best ladies out on a date and you will be happy about it. Or he can just go meet your make up artist in a secret location.

if my husband-to-be were to meet up wit a female DJ, wedding planner or flourist, i would not foolishly suspect that they ended up in the same bed.

i know how to communicate so i can always him to go with him everytime they have a meeting or better yet have her communicate with me about anything that concerns the wedding so we can all be on the same page.

If you dont know how to communicate or find it easy to prejudge as opposed to finding out what really happening before you make a decision you have no business being in a relationship with another person.

Please read the below again.

for what?

Moana:
Not that i would expect a bushman to know that she could have been discussing the music to be played and the playlist and how is should be played out. Or you expect a DJ to just pitch up on the day and play whatever comes out of his assssshole abi

I should stop corrupting your ladies when you don't know how to communicate in a civilised manner without throwing insults at me for not agreeing with you? Your girls are already being corrupted by rogues like you and your lack of decorum, i really have no hand in it whatsoever.

yes you might have to to something about your reasoning problem.

if my husband-to-be were to meet up wit a female DJ, wedding planner or flourist, i would not foolishly suspect that they ended up in the same bed. i know how to communicate so i can always him to go with him everytime they have a meeting or better yet have her communicate with me about anything that concerns the wedding so we can all be on the same page.

for what?

Guess you dont know the difference between

1. Asking someone out

2. Business meeting?

Business meeting, the husband will know about it, she will carry her husband along.

But asking a lady out is a secret thing.


The more you come for defense, the more stuewpid you sound.

hotwax:
Guess you dont know the difference between

1. Asking someone out

2. Business meeting?

Business meeting, the husband will know about it, she will carry her husband along.

But asking a lady out is a secret thing.


The more you come for defense, the more stuewpid you sound.

My friend told her, he actually read their chats where they agreed to go out on a date.
That’s when she admitted that he actually asked her to meet him somewhere for a hangout.
She said she had nothing in mind for him. She is only going to meet him as friend at a restaurant. Nothing is going to happen. It’s just a harmless date.

See the whole argument is baseless so far she keeps the whole date secret.

They are planning the wedding together, from cake to, wedding gown to event center.

Suddenly, she is keeping DJ case becomes secret and friendly.

The temptation came when she denied she is not the one wedding.

Please Moana, you have no argument here. Its just stewpid defending her

hotwax:
Guess you dont know the difference between

1. Asking someone out

2. Business meeting?

Business meeting, the husband will know about it, she will carry her husband along.

I can go out with a male friend or colleague without ending up on top of him, so how is that hard to believe that she could have done the same thing without being involved in any sexual conduct. Some people are just insecure beyond measure.

Whats wrong with requesting her to take you along next time she meets the guy so that he can add his own input? it is only on nairaland where a breeeze is meant to be turned into a tornado.

But asking a lady out is a secret thing.

so why not ask tell her you feel left out and since its your wedding you should be doing most thing together

The more you come for defense, the more stuewpid you are.

rouges will always be rouges, having manners is completely foreign to you.

proxillin:
See the whole argument is baseless so far she keeps the whole date secret.

They are planning the wedding together, from cake to, wedding gown to event center.

Suddenly, she is keeping DJ case becomes secret and friendly.

The temptation came when she denied she is not the one wedding.

Please Moana, you have no argument here. Its just stewpid defending her

wait so you are telling me that if you go and meet a colleague from work over lunch, automatically means that you are going to shag her right away abi? i already said your insecurity has over clouded your judgement. Why are you running away from the fact that you plan to cheat on your wife because she went out to a restaurant with another guy? To you it clearly is the same thing isnt it?

Proxillin if you are truly a mature and wise adult why did you find it much easier to spend days sharing your problems with complete strangers online as opposed to just sitting with the woman and finding a solution to your problems?
Because clearly you have communicated your thoughts to everyone else but the person you are in a relationship with. Obviously anyone can just think they are ready for marriage these days

Moana:
Proxillin if you are truly a mature and wise adult why did you find it much easier to spend days sharing your problems with complete strangers online as opposed to just sitting with the woman and finding a solution to your problems?
Because clearly you have communicated your thoughts to everyone else but the person you are in a relationship with. Obviously anyone can just think they are ready for marriage these days

I still have a feeling you didnt read the story...

Its my friend. I am just in the loop of their quarrel. Infact he is a childhood friend.

Like I wrote in my story....I will sit them down. But I have engaged her in phone conversation.

I even asked her yesterday. "Why are you shielding the DJ from your husband? You have been organizing the wedding logistics together, why is the DJ secret?"

Any time I ask her that question, she digressed to other things. Thats the way you ignore facts in the story. You sound like her.

She has no answer until now.

They both speak with the cake and decoration woman, but, the DJ is a secret thingy.... So much for your defending.

We will meet face to face tomorrow.

Meanwhile, help her answer the question

Why are you shielding the DJ from your husband? You have been organizing the wedding logistics together, why is the DJ secret?

Moana:
wait so you are telling me that if you go and meet a colleague from work over lunch, automatically means that you are going to shag her right away abi? i already said your insecurity has over clouded your judgement. Why are you running away from the fact that you plan to cheat on your wife because she went out to a restaurant with another guy? To you it clearly is the same thing isnt it?

Why will I ask a female colleague out?

For what ?

In my story, the DJ asked her out and she didnt object.

proxillin:
Why will I ask a female colleague out?

For what ?

In my story, the DJ asked her out and she didnt object.

my point exactly, asking someone to meet you at a restaurant and asking someone out are 2 different things. I can go for lunch with a male friend to a restaurant and not engage in an physical conduct with him. You clearly mixed up on with the other.

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proxillin:
I still have a feeling you didnt read the story...

Its my friend. I am just in the loop of their quarrel. Infact he is a childhood friend.

Like I wrote in my story....I will sit them down. But I have engaged her in phone conversation.

I even asked her yesterday. "Why are you shielding the DJ from your husband? You have been organizing the wedding logistics together, why is the DJ secret?"

Any time I ask her that question, she digressed to other things.

She has no answer until now.

They both speak with the cake and decoration woman, but, the DJ is a secret thingy.... So much for your defending.

We will meet face to face tomorrow.

Its common on NL to share a personal story and claim its a friend in the situation.

Moana:
my point exactly asking someone to meet you at a restaurant and asking someone out are 2 different things. I can go for lunch with a male friend to a restaurant and not engage in an physical conduct with him. You clearly mixed up on with the other.

If you ask someone out, are you not gonna meet?

When you meet, are you going to meet in the air ?
Even a primary school pupil knows dating starts from meeting at fast food joint

Moana:
M Its common on NL to share a personal story and claim its a friend in the situation.

Its also common in real life that I will be wedding and I will be my own man in suit.

And I will also summon myself for peace meeting.

proxillin:
If you ask someone out, are you not gonna meet?

When you meet, are you going to meet in the air ?
Even a primary school pupil knows dating starts from meeting at fast food joint

i have gone out with a lot of my male friends for movies and lunch and surprisingly i have never dated or had a fling with one of them simply because of that. when you are insecure you always psychoanalyse what doesnt need to be psychoanalysed .

Moana:
i have gone out with a lot of my male friends for movies and lunch and surprisingly i have never dated or had a fling with one of them simply because of that. when you are insecure you always psycho-analyse what doesnt need to be psycho-analysized.

Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out with them?

I know you will say yes and in actuality no man will allow his fiancee to go out on a date with another man.

Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?

proxillin:
Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out with them?

I know you will say yes and in actuality no man will allow his fiancee to go out on a date with another man.

Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?

Jesus Christ! So if i were to meet a guy at a restaurant in Nigeria it would automatically make him my date, he just upgrades from friend to date because we entered a restaurant abi?

Like i said she didnt inform him the first. So whats the solution? You bang other women when you get married or do you sit down and talk to her about meeting everyone involved in your wedding together when you are not okay with her going alone?
What would a sensible person do in this case please?

Moana:
Jesus Christ! So if i were to meet a guy at a restaurant in Nigeria it would automatically make him my date, he just upgrades from friend to date because we entered a restaurant abi?

Like i said she didnt inform him the first. So whats the solution, bang other women when you get married?

We have asked you many logical questions here today with no answer.

I wrote in my story that she admitted she is going on a date. She admitted she is going on a date.

Please read my story. You are just hell bent in arguing.

Answer the following again:

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. They planned with cake, decoration woman together. Guess because the docoration woman is a female, so no date is required.
They planned for feeding together, they planned for the hall together. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

Why running away from questions ?

Continue running away from fact...the more you do, the more you sound bias

proxillin:
We have asked you many logical questions here today with no answer.

I wrote in my story that she admitted she is going on a date. She admitted she is going on a date.

Please read my story. You are just hell bent in arguing.

Answer the following again:

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. They planned with cake, decoration woman together. Guess because the docoration woman is a female, so no date is required.
They planned for feeding together, they planned for the hall together. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

Why running away from questions ?

Continue running away from fact...the more you do, the more you sound bias

Op, you are still on it. That girl is dirty. She knows what she is doing

aoshi:
You are so immature. I didnt condemn you, only asked you a question. You just condemned thousands (if not millions) of mothers, ladies below 26 years old, married and with children and you can deal with a simple question. How very sensitive you are.

So you are so dumb to realise you called out my mum whom you don't even know and u see that as 'cool'? You might as well say, " is your mum stupid?" a question and not an insult. No words for you dude/girl. You keep calling out people's parents as suc expect to get disrespected.
I said in my original comment that 76% (my own rrsearch) or did u miss that part of the comment? And that's no condemnation in anyway but if I said your mother must have done this or that, that's a personal attack. Grow up and read between lines. And if u can't figure this out, why the heck are u even on this thread?
Pls human, steer clear abeg Mr Matured

proxillin:
We have asked you many logical questions here today with no answer.

I wrote in my story that she admitted she is going on a date. She admitted she is going on a date.

Please read my story. You are just hell bent in arguing.

im not hell bent on arguing again remind me why its so easy for your friend to decide that he will cheat after marriage than it is for him to sit down with his wife-to-be and DJ and tell them that he is not okay with them meeting without his knowledge?

Why is it easier for your friend to tell you all of this than it is for him to talk with the people he is really having issues with?

Answer the following again:

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. They planned with cake, decoration woman together. Guess because the docoration woman is a female, so no date is required.
They planned for feeding together, they planned for the hall together. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

when he got to know about how they met did she not own up to just meeting him casually? You are the one hell bent on just getting a pity party on a public forum instead of resolving the real issue. So tell me after 13pages on nairaland, and nothing communicated to the wife-to-be how has it changed the situation?

Why running away from questions ?

Continue running away from fact...the more you do, the more you sound bias

i already answered those questions by saying he should sit down with both of them and clear things up. Wifey-to-be and the DJ must be told their boundaries. If that doesnt work he can always break up with her.

Is your intention to find a solution or talk about the problem for the next 20 decades?

Moana:
im not hell bent on arguing again remind me why its so easy for your friend to decide that he will cheat after marriage than it is for him to sit down with his wife-to-be and DJ and tell them that he is not okay with them meeting without his knowledge?

Why is it easier for your friend to tell you all of this than it is for him to talk with the people he is really having issues with?

when he got to know about how they met did she not own up to just meeting him casually? You are the one hell bent on just getting a pity party on a public instead of resolving the real issue. So tell me after 13pages on nairaland, and nothing communicated to the wife-to-be how has it changed the situation?

i already answered those questions by saying he should sit down with both of them and clear things up. Wifey-to-be and the DJ must be told their boundaries. If that doesnt work he can always break up with her.

Is your intention to find a solution or talk about the problem for the next 20 decades?

Until you answer these simple questions, you are just fooling yourself perambulating around.
Yes I posted the issue for people to learn and see traps. Like I told you, this is a public forum where people are educated.

The reason why this tread is going 20 pages is because of people like who know the story more than I do. You wont allow sensible people to learn or comment, you are just here to paint the story wrong so you they wont bash ladies.

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

Please shutup if you cant answer these questions. No need to digress to other things...Jez answer the damn questions. Thats was how the lady was behaving, I asked her the same, question, she started digressing.