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proxillin:
Until you answer these simple questions, you are just fooling yourself perambulating around.
Yes I posted the issue for people to learn and see traps. Like I told you, this is a public forum where people are educated.

The reason why this tread is going 20 pages is because of people like who know the story more than I do. You wont allow sensible people to learn or comment, you are just here to paint the story wrong so you they wont bash ladies.

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

Please shutup if you cant answer these questions. No need to digress to other things...Jez answer the damn questions. Thats was how the lady was behaving, I asked her the same, question, she started digressing.

proxillin:
Until you answer these simple questions, you are just fooling yourself perambulating around.
Yes I posted the issue for people to learn and see traps. Like I told you, this is a public forum where people are educated.

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

This is clearly going nowhere you obviously want to discuss the problem with no prospects of getting a solution.

Now what he has found out she met the guy without his knowledge, how will pondering on it solve anything? Yes she didn't inform him, but a mature person with the intelligence of a 5th grader will know that you move on to find out why something happened and how to resolve it.

Secondly the DJ was never a secret because the husband knew he was chatting with her on Whatsapp. So why are you concluding that he was a secret?

I only came here to give my opnion not to defend anyone one. If you feel that crying over spilt milk makes more sense than finding a solution to a problem, then i will leave you to it. This has become pointless.

proxillin:
People have proffered solution. You can start reading from page one for sensible comment. None is here arguing that the guy is assuming. The lady too admitted on going for a date, but she is not gonna fck. Every girl that goes on date always think they wont fck. they always say that. The whole world knows how it end up (not all dates sha)



She met the cake woman without his knowledge too, and they did business with the cake woman together. DJ must be an exception



Thats why she will relocate to a secret location to pick the DJ's call. A wife niyen. You are right






Please leave jor. Go with your confusion. The story is clear enough.

proxillin:
People have proffered solution. You can start reading from page one for sensible comment. None is here arguing that the guy is assuming. The lady too admitted on going for a date, but she is not gonna fck. Every girl that goes on date always think they wont fck. they always say that. The whole world knows how it end up (not all dates sha)



She met the cake woman without his knowledge too, and they did business with the cake woman together. DJ must be an exception



Thats why she will relocate to a secret location to pick the DJ's call. A wife niyen. You are right






Please leave jor. Go with your confusion. The story is clear enough.

And you wonder why divorce rates increase in Nigeria when you have 30year-old men with the IQ of a 5year old and the same person has to be trusted as the head of a family?

Please whats the solution that everyone else came up with since you said you will not tell him to cancel the wedding?

proxillin:
And instead of the society to help the 30 year old man, the society is busy trying to justify stinky moral. The guy is wrong on his decision. The lady is not a saint. Atimes our corrupt behaviors doesnt allow us to think like a mentally sane person.





You have problem with reading?


A million dollar question. Who wants to be a millionare

Question:

Do you inform your fiancee when going out on a date with another guy?

proxillin:
And instead of the society to help the 30 year old man, the society is busy trying to justify stinky moral. The guy is wrong on his decision. The lady is not a saint. Atimes our corrupt behaviors doesnt allow us to think like a mentally sane person.





You have problem with reading?

[size=15pt]Lesson of it all is: Only sane people give correct advise [/size]


A million dollar question. Who wants to be a millionare

Question:

Do you inform your fiancee when going out on a date with another guy?

proxillin:
And instead of the society to help the 30 year old man, the society is busy trying to justify stinky moral. The guy is wrong on his decision. The lady is not a saint. Atimes our corrupt behaviors doesnt allow us to think like a mentally sane person.

You have problem with reading?


A million dollar question. Who wants to be a millionare

Question:

Do you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with another guy?

delors:
So you are so dumb to realise you called out my mum whom you don't even know and u see that as 'cool'? You might as well say, " is your mum stupid?" a question and not an insult. No words for you dude/girl. You keep calling out people's parents as suc expect to get disrespected.
I said in my original comment that 76% (my own rrsearch) or did u miss that part of the comment? And that's no condemnation in anyway but if I said your mother must have done this or that, that's a personal attack. Grow up and read between lines. And if u can't figure this out, why the heck are u even on this thread?
Pls human, steer clear abeg Mr Matured

okay now that you have concluded that she is not a saint, why are you not keen on advising him to cancel the wedding then? confusion of the highest order. You are not here for any solution you just wanna play the blame game thats all.

i am dating someone and he doesnt tell me every single thing he does right to when he used the toilet, but if he does something without my knowledge which i felt he should have told me, i will talk to him about it.

I will not be the idiiot who go around the streets screaming all manner of nonsense to whoever listens to care and still go back to the arms of the same person after that. I would sit down with him and communicate to him what i feel and what i think she be the way forward.

I know the meaning and worth of my relationship i will therefore treat it like it means something not plot unnecessary revenge like a 5year old.

I will in return give him the opportunity to explain to me what happened and his explanation sounds convincing to me, we will move forward. If he continues to disregard how i feel after we had agreed on the way forward only then will i call it quits.

I believe in getting a solution and moving forward not making noise over what is irreversible, because it will not change what has already happened.

aoshi:
You are so so dumb. You are the one not reading in between the lines. So because you used 75% means you didnt disrespect them. Way to go the "Undumb" one. When you give internet connections to animals, this is the outcome.
I regret trading words with you. If you cant take "insults" directed to your mum, then you had better not do unto others.
You are so full of yourself, it shows from your comments.
*smh*

delors:
I am full of myself and would strike back at anyone attacking personally but I haven't even called out ur folks o...human being, be careful, I'm restraining from returning the insult u gave but ur dumb brain keeps flashing lights looking for a pin in the dark. Perhaps I should help u a little (hopefully that would help u understand better). U could v easily said something like this :
So if a woman gives birth below 26 or blah blah blah (not mentioning the person's mother)..." don't u think that would v made more sense rather than u opening ur mouth without brains to say "your mother this your mother that?"
How's this hard for u to see human? In my original comment, I didn't call out no one...not your mother, not your father, no one...yet you keep trying to justify that u were right to have called her out...are you stupi.d?
Please human being, pls, let's assume u made an error but arrogant to admit it yet spilling nonsense to justify it, I'll forgive u but let it end there. And learn from it...

Respond to the OP's post and let others live with their opinions...that's not hard. Pls dear human, I beg u sincerely.

#iRespectMothers

proxillin:
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Moana:
you first post says, he asked her why she was hiding things and she claimed that he was being jealous. Then he told her that he read her convo and the she admitted to meeting the guy in person.

Now you want to change the it to she denied it the first time then admitted afterwards. Im sorry, which one is the correct version of the story? Your first post or this one?

We are talking about someone assuming his fiancee is dating the DJ when he has not confronted any one of them about it and you want to compare that with a man that has already cheated where a baby mama and a child are solid evidence that he has cheated. How more illogical can you get? Are circumstances in both cases the same?

proxillin:
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proxillin:
She didn’t tell the DJ she is actually the one wedding.
The DJ started asking her out for date. She agreed to meet the DJ for a date somewhere.

But my friend could not endure the whole thing again when the DJ started calling her repeatedly. They engage in confidential phone calls. She will be laughing…all Yes No Yes No Ok.. Ok hmmmm conversation, so that someone nearby will not understand what they are saying. At times she excuses my guy to go and pick the DJ’s call.

Moana:
so Mr man after proving the lady is not a saint why are you not advising him to cancel the marriage again? If there was an intention of reaching a sensible conclusion apart from proving that your friend's fiance is not a saint?

Moana:
but your friend still wants to continue with the wedding and you dont want to advise him to cancel the wedding either so whats the purpose of the thread again?

proxillin:
madam, I didnt ask for your help. I didnt ask for you advice.

I only ask a big question which is also the title of my post.

My question was:

"Is it normal for a lady to go out on a date with another guy just a month to her wedding?"

I dont know why its difficult for a grown adult to read and digest a simple text passage.

Not my fault jor


So my expectation is for you to say "She is right or not" Doing that will prevent this unnecessary argument.

Keep your advice. Answer the question.

If I need advice, I will say please advice

proxillin:
madam, I didnt ask for your help. I didnt ask for you advice.

I only ask a big question which is also the title of my post.

My question was:

"Is it normal for a lady to go out on a date with another guy just a month to her wedding?"

I dont know why its difficult for a grown adult to read and digest a simple text passage.

Not my fault jor

hotwax:
What happened to all those advice u got on this post?

Plus my own ?

U mean I wasted my time.

Moana:
i already said its normal so long there is no inappropriate conduct and only an insecure man would make a tornado out of a breeze all in a bid to safeguard his fragile ego.

Did you just not say in an earlier post that you have taken advice by others? But now you want to talk about reading and digesting simple texts. Spirit of confusion dey worry you.

Is your friend still not insisting on getting married either way whether you think she is a saint or not. Why don't you mind you own business and go find your own wife?

proxillin:
Thank you for the bolded.
I take it as an advice and not an attempt to rewrite my story
Bye

Moana:
okay uncle, i hope you will not become like the many hopeless cases we see on NL that don reach mid-life crisis without their own wives because they are busy minding everyone else's business apart from theirs.

Bye

proxillin:
Sorry guy,
My post was for opinion and not advice. i want to see what people think.
You didnt waste your time, I will them as your opinion.
But you didnt answer yes or NO.

Moana:
i already said its normal so long there is no inappropriate conduct and only an insecure man would make a tornado out of a breeze all in a bid to safeguard his fragile ego.

Did you just not say in an earlier post that you have taken advice by others? But now you want to talk about reading and digesting simple texts. Spirit of confusion dey worry you.

Is your friend still not insisting on getting married either way whether you think she is a saint or not? Why don't you mind you own business and go find your own wife?

aoshi:
Ok Sir!!!!! I do not need nor want your forgiveness. You should seek it from the 75% of ladies below 26 you carried out "research" on. Learn from this.. It would do you a lot of good.
Cheers

sevule:
Ma'am I do not know where you come from but even in the most permissive societies it is NOT and I repeat IT IS NOT normal for a woman or man to go on a date with another man/woman a few days to his or her wedding! Let us not try to excuse what is clearly inexcusable.

I believe you know what emotional cheating is and the woman in question is clearly cheating on her fiance emotionally (there is not enough evidence to say if she is cheating physically). I would be the first to say that it is true that Nigerian men have pretty fragile egos but this has ABSOLUTELY nothing to do with men's ego.

Moana:
Can you tell me how it is different from a man (married or not) who goes out for lunch with a female colleague or friend?

Does eating out with another person, imply that you have an emotional connection or attachment with such a person?

And how does deciding to physically cheat with numerous women after marriage equal to going out to a restuarant with one guy before marriage in Nigeria?

Im sorry i cannot wrap around my head on why a sensible person would blow something that can be fixed with effective communication out of proportion to the extent that he feels it will justify his behaviour later on.

It is either you choose to fix the problem move on and if your ego can't handle it, you break up with the person. It does not in anyway make sense for a matured adult to retaliate over something so trivial.

What will he do if real marriages challenges to do come? Run to the first exit or take the path of revenge? [

hotwax:
The guy has the right to cheat too. So far nothing wrong in going to meet guys when your wedding is few days. After wedding, the guy has the right to start taking girls on dates too.

Date is not the same as cheating. So no need to fight over spilled milk.