i remember regina,she used to squeeze me there....was about 4..
oh well..

cococandy:
[b]the only people stopping the male victims of rape from getting justice is the men themselves. How many of you laugh at a fellow man who claims he was raped? How many of you make mockery of them and call them not man enough.

How many fathers are teaching their sons to be protective of their sexuality? In fact the way they raise the boys, at the age of 14, if he's able to sleep with a lady older than him which technically is rape because he's underage, he instead of feeling victimized sees it as an achievement.

The change has to come from how you raise your sons. Let them know their sexuality is not to be toyed with. See those ones on front page asking ladies to please rape them. You don't think such things rub off on the smaller boys and make them see rape as nothing bad to them.
So how will they speak up when molested?

We need to change our approach on how we train small children differently because of their gender. The earlier these boys are taught that they can also be victims of rape, the sooner they can start speaking up when molested and the sooner the perpetrators can be brought to justice.

People who are speaking up against female sexual molestation aren't your problem. You're your own problems because you make light of the offense. How will you be aggrieved if something you don't consider terrible is done to you. You must first genuinely consider rape a terrible offense to be able to impart that knowledge in younger growing boys.. [/b]

Thank you!

Achilies:
Mine was at the age of 11
She was a family friend close to 45 years old. We're alone in the house.( she came to visit nobody was at home except me. In the pretence of waiting for my parents to return) She asked me to come and touch and suck her boobs, while she do same with my little johnthomos and so on. The emotional and mental effect is still with me even till this day. when I reported the matter to my elder brothers and some uncle they were like so? Are u not happy about it? No body took me serious.

Till today at my age I still find it hard to stay in a room alone with an over age woman.

Sorry....Now that woman is despicable! And to think your uncles said such shows the deep rooted decay from the home. Very humiliating.

wisdomguy4u:
Recently, as always the media have create a high level of public awareness on girl child rape/molestation by adult male, this is good. But, I keep wondering, why is nobody talking about the male child rape/molestation by adult female going on everyday ? Maybe, because male child do not suffer physical injuries/pain like female child, but that doesn't mean we should overlook the psychological harms such child is put to go through. Due to high level of awareness promulgated on female child rape/molestation, most parents don't feel comfortable leaving their female child under the care of an adult male who is not a relative, but same parents wouldn't think twice leaving their male child under the care of an adult female who is not a relative. Woman are seen as saints , while men are seen as evil. But the true is that women are only good at comporting themselves in public better than men, and the ugly fact remains that their are many perverts and pedophile among the adult female gender like we have in male gender. What amazes me is that , upon all the male child molestation by adult female going on, no adult female had been prosecuted and sentence in court for such hideous crime. It's either the parents feel reluctant reporting such cases to the police, or that the society doesn't feel it worth making case out of and simply sweep such under the carpet because it involves a male child. It's only in the western world that you hear of adult female standing trial or being sentence to imprisonment for molesting a male child.

From my personal research, I can vehemently tell you that 40% of every adult male was once a victim of molestation as a child perpetuated either by an adult female neighbor, teacher or nanny/maid. This molestation is done mostly by forcing the male child to suck/touch their nipples, touching erotically the child's joystick, forcing the child to give her mouth action etc, this is in the sense that such child is practically use as a intimacy gadget. This child often do not tell their parents due to fear, coupled with the fact that they physically sustain no pain like in female child. But the level of psychological problem caused by such molestation is same with the one sustain by a female child. The parents need to start doing more for their male child like they are already doing for their female child. Male child molestation is on the increase due to the fact that it being neglected. No child molester should be speared be it a male or a female. Emphasis should also be put on a male child rape/molestation like it been done in the case of a female child, after all they are all "child" with innocent mind.

Below are some sign which may signify that your male child is being molested.

1. Constant reflex touching of the joystick: this often occur whenever you are bathing him or dressing him up. Such moment remind him of the incident of his molestation.

2. Sudden dullness: this is caused by fear. The child suddenly prefer staying alone rather than play with his peers. This often bring about poor grades school.

3. Sexual awareness: you can observe this from some of his words and actions.

4. Unusual likeness of an adult female who is not a relative.

5. Stubbornness

6. Rapid growth

As a parents, anytime you observe a caprice in your child, don't hesitate to ask him if anybody is molesting him, and on your own, make him tell you the true; you might be surprise to hear that he had given a mouth action several time to that Aunty next door.

Thanks Op for bringing this up.

Bsc:
Na so one lady rape my guy.. My guy run outside unclad..d lady follow am up drag am bk inside room. Na so my niggi dey shout.. Pls am ok ,am ok. Lol. That was in 2012@ gariki , enugu.

that one nor be rape nua.... Na him find trouble

@bold, it's like you're in my head.

These guys need reorientation ASAP.

shaybebaby:
So someone has opened a thread about rape/ paedophilia perpetrated by females on young male children and it appears to me that the victims themselves are trivialising the horror of such happenstance.
How can the gravity be communicated when the victims themselves are making light of it rather than being honest about the emotional and psychological havoc it wreaked and is still wreaking in their lives. We know such experiences becomes part of what shapes their relationships with females in adulthood. Unsuspecting females then suffer as result of this and it continues, a vicious cycle where everyone loses in someway because someone took advantage of a child.
The same education about awareness given to female children should be given to boys as well. I have a son and I shudder to think such could happen, that woman/ man had better be prepared to forfeit future use of any sexual parts they have but they will be fvcked up by me.
Guys, don't make light of this issue, what is wrong is wrong irrespective of gender. If a young boy happens to read the jokes and questions that are being asked on here such as " did you enjoy it?", pray tell, how would ever feel comfortable to speak up when the same people of his gender are making light of his ordeal.

Was a victim too at the tender age of four.....

Creamish:


Is the punishment gender-specific?

not really, just saying the ones caught so far and punished are the male criminals. I dont wanna bridge a gap here, cos its not my thing. But so far, more efforts should be made to ensure All get the cup of coffee they deserve

shaybebaby:

Thank you!

Like minds I guess

It's not biological.

This is a clear result of social conditioning.

Teempakguy:
Okay, so I guess this means one thing . . . men and women can never be equal . . . like seriously, look at the number of guys here confessing to molestation, and it-s like we're sharing jokes.
In the end, the difference is biological. Our biological differences which grant men partial superiority.

Okay fine.I'm being a male chauvinist here. But come on! Give a guy a break Na. I've got this huge ego to maintain.

shaybebaby:
So someone has opened a thread about rape/ paedophilia perpetrated by females on young male children and it appears to me that the victims themselves are trivialising the horror of such happenstance.
How can the gravity be communicated when the victims themselves are making light of it rather than being honest about the emotional and psychological havoc it wreaked and is still wreaking in their lives. We know such experiences becomes part of what shapes their relationships with females in adulthood. Unsuspecting females then suffer as result of this and it continues, a vicious cycle where everyone loses in someway because someone took advantage of a child.
The same education about awareness given to female children should be given to boys as well. I have a son and I shudder to think such could happen, that woman/ man had better be prepared to forfeit future use of any sexual parts they have but they will be fvcked up by me.
Guys, don't make light of this issue, what is wrong is wrong irrespective of gender. If a young boy happens to read the jokes and questions that are being asked on here such as " did you enjoy it?", pray tell, how would ever feel comfortable to speak up when the same people of his gender are making light of his ordeal.

Well, let me just say this is how our society had been engineered , its how the world have been programmed to look at us and how we've been designed to look at ourselves as the masculine. The society believes we are alpha positives and expect us to live up to that title. It's saddening but what can be done? Nothing for now!
A typical nigga don't know or isn't trained to shed tears or show pains. Some of us don't even know how to beg for help when we are down emotionally financially or what have you.
We fear we would be tagged weak and effeminate, We fear we would be looked down upon, We don't want our ego to be marred and tarnished by yelling and crying out loud! That should be the responsibility of women our fathers have taught us. So we keep mute and keep struggling till we either die struggling or make a headway somehow.... That's what's up and I can't say its unfortunate cos it has its own merits and this the op has raised being an apparent de-merit that can't be wiped but could be guarded against if parents could wake up and gear up and be more watchful and protective of them wards. One can't be 100 percent but at least one's gotta give it a top shot!
Furthermore, training us to be big strong and resilient like the Iroko tree is not unokay just that we need to be thought how to express pain and discomfort when it comes so we could get help ASAP so we won't end up self-destroyed!
These I feel should be the campaign.

PAIX!

ronald4lif:


True to that. And the women rights advocates wouldn't find their way to this thread. Let the gender be reversed and see how here turns out an abattoir.

of course!
It's actuay quite funny though. That the very people advocating for gender equality, are the very ones that react most unequally to gender issues.

I was a victim at age 6

Truth is, i am not surprised by the fact that many underage guys are molested. Funny so many are speaking up ONLY online .More reason there will be no house girl in my home.I rather be a full time house wife for sometime till my sons get to 13 yrs.Need no bittch sucking my son's tiny "wee wee" , I suggest they wait till its strong , massive and vengeful.

cococandy:
It's not biological.
This is a clear result of social conditioning.

And the women that has been raping us...?

Can I just point something out to the fellas on here.. the matter being discussed is being dissected without rancour or malice by the few women posters on this thread. When we talk about other forms that affect women/girls as victims, can the same sensitivity be extended without name calling or alluding that we are responsible for our own abuse.
This thread is eye opening because it reveals that even some of us women are predators. Indeed standing up for my gender's rights means that the equality we seek should come with full responsibility.
Ladies on here, if you have male siblings, family members, younger sisters.. have this talk with them. Chances are that these predators are known to you as well. Call them out on behalf of your loved ones.
The ones that are married now, call them out too, who knows, the abuse might have shifted to their biological children.

I was going to create a thread about this and how gender stereotypes hurt men too.
Then I remember the last time I tried to bring that up on someone's thread, how 'alpha' males shut me down.

So basically it's ok for men to suffer some things in silence because of the few who think their pride is the most important thing in the world.

God help the ones who are in touch with their emotions and don't consider ego that most important thing in life. They can't even complain without being called effeminate.

Sabrwahaqqo:

Well, let me just say this is how our society had been engineered , its how the world have been programmed to look at us and how we've been designed to look at ourselves as the masculine. The society believes we are alpha positives and expect us to live up to that title. It's saddening but what can be done? Nothing for now!
A typical nigga don't know or isn't trained to shed tears or show pains. Some of us don't even know how to beg for help when we are down emotionally financially or what have you.
We fear we would be tagged weak and effeminate, We fear we would be looked down upon, We don't want our ego to be marred and tarnished by yelling and crying out loud! That should be the responsibility of women our fathers have taught us. So we keep mute and keep struggling till we either die struggling or make a headway somehow.... That's what's up and I can't say its unfortunate cos it has its own merits and this the op has raised being an apparent de-merit that can't be wiped but could be guarded against if parents could wake up and gear up and be more watchful and protective of them wards. One can't be 100 percent but at least one's gotta give it a top shot!
Furthermore, training us to be big strong and resilient like the Iroko tree is not unokay just that we need to be thought how to express pain and discomfort when it comes so we could get help ASAP so we won't end up self-destroyed!
These I feel should be the campaign.

PAIX!

EggovinMma:


Well, we in no way giving such reasons. This is what I read from guys on here.They love to be raped by pretty ladies.

that one is just mouthmaking. These set of guys look at the actual victims as "dulling" so they brag etc, but its facade.
its this crew that like two-threesomes....

iPopAlomo:


And the women that has been raping us...?

Ask that straight forward pls.

You mean what should happen to them?

almost 85% of the guys posting on this thread are victims... including me...

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EggovinMma:



Sorry....Now that woman is despicable! And to think your uncles said such shows the deep rooted decay in the home. Very humiliating.

It has nothing to do with families.
There's this general mentality that men can not be raped by women.
but if a woman rape u, then u are very lucky.

I have seen a situation where a man was raped by a woman when he raised alarm, no body took him serious. Some people were even calling him fool and woman wrapper that he should have just relax and enjoy the rape.

Can you imagine

Achilies:
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It has nothing to do with families.
There's this general mentality that men can not be raped by women.
but if a woman rape u, then u are very lucky.

I have seen a situation where a man was raped by a woman when he raised alarm, no body took him serious. Some people were even calling him fool and woman wrapper that he should have just relax and enjoy the rape.

butanep:
Miss natural...

I salute you...

Oga,,hwfa na?

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Kachisbarbie:
Everyone knows that male kids get raped too.

But nobody takes it serious as they do that of a female child.

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cococandy:
Can you imagine

Such is the world we live in.

cococandy:


Ask that straight forward pls.

You mean what should happen to them?

no... it's easy to preach to guys to speak out... I've read all your comments... not once have you bashed a female rapist... but you advice us to teach younger male child to secure their sexuality... that's what the female folks do... and how well has it worked out for the girl child...?

My heart breaks for most of the stories I'm reading here. I had to create a nairaland account to share. As a girl who was molested by a male adult, I recognize some of the symptoms posters have described. By God's grace, I was able to heal and eventually forgive. I realize it may not come so easily for a lot of rape survivors, especially when people ignorantly spew the garbage that 'men cannot be raped' or 'you must have enjoyed it' etc. because it sounds exactly as foolish as people asking 'what were you wearing' to women as if rape, either of men or women can ever be justified.

I'm so thankful and proud of my brothers here for having the courage to tell your story. I pray that God in Christ Jesus grants you peace and the grace to forgive. Rape is a horrible experience that no one, man/woman should ever have to go through. My prayers are with you.

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JeffreyJamez:


@bolded it is because of the widespread belief that guys are programmed to enjoy sex irrespective of age.....it has to change.

Thank u.
That was the same thing I was told by my uncles when I told them that I was molested by OUR FAMILY FRIEND Their response was LUCKY YOU. DIDN'T U ENJOY IT?
Even the police people that were supposed to handle the case were like. See enjoyment

cococandy:
It's not biological.

This is a clear result of social conditioning.

oh really?
And you don't realize that social configuration is a direct consequence of biological make up?
Do you think the Ego men possess just pops out of nowhere? No it doesn't. it is caused by testestorone. Which . . . the last time I remembered, was biological.
Men being bigger, stronger . . . okay, that was also social? Come on!
Men's brains are wired to feel only pleasure from sex. Whether forced or not. It's women and the effeminate ones that feel "used" or hurt. The guys here are just posting their stories here to spite female rape victims. Some can't even help themselves. They turn it into jokes.
And that is not a consequence of social whatever. It's directly biological.

The social traits you so dearly criticize do not pop out of nowhere. They're strictly consequences of biological make up.

On the issue of male rape, I strongly condemn it. It is morally wrong, and ruins a man's life. In some cases, these victims grow up and start raping women. So, it's just so bad.
However, the victims of this gender specific case find it hard to see themselves as victims. and even if they do, they are promptly waved away by their peers. So, the evil acts continue unabated. And nothing can be done by advising these men to come out as victims. That,s basically asking them to contradict their own personal values. Some people are too proud to play the victim. So, what can be done?
External action is what I advise. Parents should constantly keep up with their children. I've noticed the vigorous journalism on female rape nowadays. The same can be done for the male version.

But in the end, neither male nor female rape will ever be eradicated till the end of time. Kind of makes all of these rather pointless.

Achilies:
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It has nothing to do with families.
There's this general mentality that men can not be raped by women.
but if a woman rape u, then u are very lucky.

I have seen a situation where a man was raped by a woman when he raised alarm, no body took him serious. Some people were even calling him fool and woman wrapper that he should have just relax and enjoy the rape.

Now that is the decay I am talking about-This is a clear case of patriarchal nature of the home defiling that which is rational. Here, things that supposed to be questioned are left unquestioned, victims are rather rebuked or seen as cowards/effeminate.Until men understand that they are as vulnerable as the women when it comes to both physical and sexual abuse, we still have a long way to go in this country.

iPopAlomo:


no... it's easy to preach to guys to speak out... I've read all your comments... not once have you bashed a female rapist... but you advice us to teach younger male child to secure their sexuality... that's what the female folks do... and how well has it worked out for the girl child...?

Are you kidding me? Have you ever seen a woman accused of rape and I supported her? Where when? I don't like people like you who deliberately (and I know it's delibrate) try to misunderstand others. So in other words, I support female rapists and think they should continue molesting young boys?

I'm kind of tempted to ignore your trifling post and the insinuations that it carries because it's plain silly.


I probably need to break it down bit by bit for you.

Why do you think we hear of male rapists more than female rapists? Because the female victims speak up more. And why is it so? Because we've focused so much on telling the girls to speak and totally neglected the boys that some people until this day can't still believe males can be molested.

How many women have been jailed in NIGERIA because they raped boys, probably a few compared to men who have done. And how will they be jailed if the boy victims don't point at them and say she did this to me. At least the perps have to be caught first before justice can be done to them isn't it so? How will they be caught if these boys don't even know something bad has been done to them and run to report when it happens.

So tell me how teaching the boys to be protective of their sexuality instead of seeing it as one of those things isn't a good idea.

Ok female rapists are the devil and derserve to be drawn and quartered.
That's satisfies ipopalomo.

Yet the boys don't see rape as a bad thing and these Devils who do it will still get away with it.
Problem remains but your need for bashing has been satisfied so I guess that's ok.

Was a victim of this, at the tender age of 4