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JeffreyJamez:
@bolded it is because of the widespread belief that guys are programmed to enjoy sex irrespective of age.....it has to change.

Teempakguy:
oh really?
And you don't realize that social configuration is a direct consequence of biological make up?
Do you think the Ego men possess just pops out of nowhere? No it doesn't. it is caused by testestorone. Which . . . the last time I remembered, was biological.
Men being bigger, stronger . . . okay, that was also social? Come on!
Men's brains are wired to feel only pleasure from sex. Whether forced or not. It's women and the effeminate ones that feel "used" or hurt. The guys here are just posting their stories here to spite female rape victims. Some can't even help themselves. They turn it into jokes.
And that is not a consequence of social whatever. It's directly biological.

The social traits you so dearly criticize do not pop out of nowhere. They're strictly consequences of biological make up.

On the issue of male rape, I strongly condemn it. It is morally wrong, and ruins a man's life. In some cases, these victims grow up and start raping women. So, it's just so bad.
However, the victims of this gender specific case find it hard to see themselves as victims. and even if they do, they are promptly waved away by their peers. So, the evil acts continue unabated. And nothing can be done by advising these men to come out as victims. That,s basically asking them to contradict their own personal values. Some people are too proud to play the victim. So, what can be done?
External action is what I advise. Parents should constantly keep up with their children. I've noticed the vigorous journalism on female rape nowadays. The same can be done for the male version.

But in the end, neither male nor female rape will ever be eradicated till the end of time. Kind of makes all of these rather pointless.

cococandy:
This is false.

But it will take us away from the issue if I try to debate it with you.

izeeqpotter:
no but my stuff went in. And she did it until my stuff slowly died down

Teempakguy:
I love how this thread is now two pages and no female has given a reasonable contribution.

It gives me the audacity to put the grinning smiley on female rape threads.

Kachisbarbie:
Everyone knows that male kids get raped too. It's just that female rape is more common. I don't think any normal human being or parent would neglect the fact that his/her male child was raped/molested. Men are here trying to put the blame on female folks being more vocal and feminist. It's up to the guys to be vocal too...but no, they tend to act like they enjoy it.
You even hear jokes like 'let women come and rape me'...no woman say such

(Nairaland)Feminist won't come to your house to protect your male child or give him orientation on molestation and sensitive body parts. So, why call feminist into this?
What's the correlation, please?

Take a look at this topic, how many guys have said something 'sensible'. Some are making it seem like a joke, like they enjoyed it. Waiting for females to comment...lols #oniranus.
You can never see females react that way to a rape topic.

camaraderi:
The year was 1988, I was 6 and my aunt will be in her 20's m. Just came to Lagos for the first time from akure. Was staying in Pedro area with my Dad's step sister and she made do all sorts to her. It was years later that I realised the effect of what she has done. Still trying to understand why my aunt will do such a terrible thing to me, one day I will confront her

IceDude:
I was molested when i was about 12yrs old by our neighbours younger sister. The babe was about 17 or 18 then........She taught me kerewalogy from year 1 till i graduated. After my graduation i started terrorizing gals in my neighbourhood

oloyede252:
who has nairaland feminist helped,protect,or given orientation in term of rape and other social vices.infact you will hear them say its impossible for a male to get raped,,,wtf any way I don't blame them it the society that I blame because we haven't seen this act as an urgent social problem compare to that of females.its of recent that male victim's are given a voice which is long overdue to address the issue,but our society still see those victims as jokers because they believe men cannot be raped,what the society need is orientation,the need to see thing in a different POV including feminist

which feminism are u even talking about self ...OK nairaland feminism ...you can continue

Teempakguy:
honestly.
They forget that before puberty, males and females are essentially very similar. Little boys hurt too. But then when they grow up, and they get sexualized, they wave it off . . . it hurts far less than it should. In fact, on some people, it becomes just "one of those memories,"

Which is why I strongly advocate that we blow the flute/trumpet while the kid is still young. When the emotions are still strongly felt! All of these aggressive reporting on female rape, can it not be halved to accommodate male ones?

Teempakguy:
I'm sorry, what?
Anyway, you're right in that we will derail by attempting to debate on the subject.

However, I still maintain my stance. Just like in the cases of female rape, the best mode of action is one from the outside. Drawing the victim out is a hundred times better than hopelessly expecting the victim to take the initiative and come out. Which seems to be your suggested technique.

Kachisbarbie:
And where did you see me say feminist has helped give orientation? You might have to read my post again.

Your fellow males were the first to start calling feminist instead of addressing the issue on ground. Please channel this exegesis to them.

Yes it's about orientation.

craziebone:
I do not tink the out cry we are seeing here is genuine. I think it is coming from men so as to tell bully feminists that men have got issues to.

Anyway, i am not going to call it rape, really. But that i cannot call it rape doesn't mean it is not serious and shouldn't be dealt with.

The whole involves an older lady cajoling a boy into sexual activities with her. A boy, who by legal implications, cannot be seen as capable of consent. While there are no physical injuries (not all times a female victim of rape sustains a physical injury), there are orientational and possibly, psychological implications.

When you introduce that kind of child to sexual activites at that age, he may be liking it. Afterall, it is sweet and in the end, the lady gives him chin chin etc. But the truth again is...the only lesson he is learning is that sex is basically for pleasure and nothing more. When he grows up with this mentality and orientations, he tends to see the woman as nothing more than a person you can just have pleasure with. He sees sex as not something you have to be deeply and heartily involved with a woman before you can have it, but as someting you only need to have the urge in order to be able to have.

Also, these ladies only use these boys and when they are leaving him, it is always in a harsh way. Maybe the lady has found a guy she wants to settle with and have a meaningful relationship with, and when the boy comes around for the usual pleasure, she shouts him out and warns him she is not his mate. At that point, the boy feels psychologically rejected and he may begin to visit that hurt and pain on other ladies in diverse form, one of them is rape.

cococandy:
Maybe the bold is quite true.

It's possible some of you guys complaining here still don't see rape as a bad thing but just using the thread to try discourage people from speaking against rapists because in your mind, since men aren't complaining why should women complain.

oloyede252:
niaraland feminis t won't come to your house?wtf is this suppose to mean

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vislabraye:
. Sorry Oh.

I started getting erection very early and I was looking for such opportunities. Then we had a house girl that dresses any how. She was giving me serious erection. .

shaybebaby:
Yes.

cococandy:
Loads of misunderstandings going on here today.

Drawing the victim out.

How's that different from 'encouraging' the victims to see that they've been victimized and to speak up instead of taking it for granted when such is done to them.

Are you one of those people who even when they are saying the same thing the other person is saying like to make it seem that they on opposite sides of the fence just because

Omo I don't have power to do pointless roundabout argument today.
Have a good day.

Kachisbarbie:
Uncle, please read the thread from the beginning.
Thanks

EggovinMma:
This nairaland na very funny place.
Some dey complain say women rape them, while some dey pull boxers dey beg women to come rape them. Nna mehn! Nzuzu!