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Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by ifeomaekol(f): 3:32pm On Aug 18, 2015
AreaFada2:
But since she has these cramps monthly, she will be using them monthly. Enough to cause drug resistance. I do not really know of any study confirming its efficacy used alone in dysmenorrhea. Metronidazole/Flagyl is an antibiotic that is widely abused.
so in ds case nw, wat ll b d perfect solution?
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by KingTom(m): 4:09pm On Aug 18, 2015
sallysalsa09:



if i get you correctly the time of the month is her period.if its that severe when ever she has it then she need to see a doctor who will prescribe a very strong medication that she will start using a week or two before her period.a more permanent option is if your neighbour don ready to be papa he fit give her belle gbam it solves the issues.most ladies who had this experience (like my mother) it stopped when they started giving birth; for most ladies it more severe than others.medication goes a long to help
People may look at this as thrash, but you have said what I want to hear.. Francizy cool

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Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by ikesim: 4:19pm On Aug 18, 2015
MadCow1:



Did you graduate from UNIBEN or IMSU?

Because you obviously can't tell the difference between a Spouse and a Fiancee
wicked, chai see finishing nah
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by KingTom(m): 4:30pm On Aug 18, 2015
francizy:
Dr. Kingtom, your unreserved attention is needed here...

Op thank me later!!
Martyns303 she is obviously suffering from dysmenorrhea. Many cases of dysmenorrhoea appear with the beginning of menstrual life, and accompany every period. It has been estimated that 5–10 per cent of girls in their late teens or early 20s are severely incapacitated by dysmenorrhoea for several hours each month. Various causes have been suggested for the pain, one being an exces- sive production of PROSTAGLANDINS. There may be a psychological factor in some sufferers and, whether this is the result of inadequate sex instruction, fear, family, school or work problems, it is important to offer advice and support, which in itself may resolve the dysmenorrhoea. Symptomatic relief is of value. What I'm saying is that her husband sitting by her side and consoling her is more effective than you think. When I was a student I used to hold my girlfriends' hand whenever the cramps start. Also I must commend toksbisola for a brilliant comment. She said it all.


Dr. Thomas C. Aworinde speaking on behalf of High Chief. Francizy. cool

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Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Beey(f): 4:32pm On Aug 18, 2015
I had surgery 5 months ago.I had my pain so bad in my abdomen that I was taking 6 tablets of Tylenol at once in attempt to relieve the pain.As a matter of fact, I can't keep track of the number of pills I swallowed at the time, not intentionally but hoping that the pain would go away.All I could open my mouth and say then was "God please take me". It felt as if someone was cutting one part of my lower abdomen with a sharp knife over and over again, not to mention the number of sanitary towels I was using during that time of the month.When I went to hospital, doc recommended an ultrasound and it turned out I had a very big endometrioma( type of ovarian cyst) & needed surgery A.S.A.P. After surgery,the OB/GYN removed a cyst the size of a big orange from my belly.Let that girl go for an ultra sound to check what's going on in her belly.As a matter of fact, prolonged use of pain relief pills that contain acetaminophen, may eventually cause liver damage.Most OB/GYN will put a woman on hormone in the form of birth control pill after surgery, like was in my case,to keep you from having menstrual flow which would cause the likelihood of another cyst forming.

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Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Atokeade: 4:44pm On Aug 18, 2015
it is heartening to know that there are people like martyns303 who care and show compassion in this new 'Lagos life' where neighbours (over)mind their own business. Your act of kindness and willingness to reach out and save a distressed lady fulfills the biblical injunction 'to love your neighbour as yourself'. GOD bless you. The woman needs to see a gynaecologist. I endured this excruciating dysmenorrhea until my gynaecologist worked on my hormones. For me, I would pray for GOD's healing and knock myself out with strong analgesics like Feldene and sometimes Ibuprofen. I finally got the much needed relief after I had a fibroid operation. Don't take chances with your health; see a good gynaecologist and do cut down on sugars.

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Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Ximonak: 5:07pm On Aug 18, 2015
MegMich:
From the little history you got. She's got dysmenorrhea. Dysmenorrhea is the medical term for the painful cramps that may occur immediately before or during the menstrual period.

There are two types of dysmenorrhea:

1).primary dysmenorrhea and
2).secondary dysmenorrhea.

Primary dysmenorrhea is another name for common menstrual cramps. Cramps usually begin one to two years after a woman starts getting her period. Pain usually is felt in the lower abdomen or back. They can be mild to severe. Common menstrual cramps often start shortly before or at the onset of the period and continue one to three days. They usually become less painful as a woman ages and may stop entirely after the woman has her first baby.

Secondary dysmenorrhea is pain caused by a disorder in the woman's reproductive organs. These cramps usually begin earlier in the menstrual cycle and last longer than common menstrual cramps




.
What Are the Symptoms of Menstrual Cramps?

The symptoms of menstrual cramps include:

*.Aching pain in the abdomen (Pain can be severe at times.)
*.Feeling of pressure in the abdomen
*. Pain in the hips, lower back, and inner thighs

What Causes Common Menstrual Cramps?

I won't bore you.

How Can I Relieve Mild Menstrual Cramps?

To relieve mild menstrual cramps:

*.Take aspiri nor another pain reliever, such as Tylenol( acetaminophen), Motrin( ibuprofen) or Aleve( naproxen).(Note: For best relief, you must take these medicationsas soon as bleeding or cramping starts.)

*.Place a heating pad or hot water bottle on your lower back or abdomen. Taking a warm bath may also provide some relief.

To relieve menstrual cramps, you should also:

*.Rest when needed.
*.Avoid foods that contain caffeineand salt.
*.Avoid smoking and drinking alcohol.
*. Massage your lower back and abdomen.

If these steps do not relieve pain, your health care provider can order medications for you, including:


When a woman has a disease in her reproductive organs, cramping can be a problem. This type of cramping is called secondary dysmenorrhea. Conditions that can cause secondary dysmenorrhea include:

*. Endometriosis, a condition in which the tissue lining the uterus (the endometrium) is found outside of the uterus
*. Pelvic inflammatory disease, an infection caused by bacteria that starts in the uterus and can spread to other reproductive organs
*.Stenosis (narrowing) of the cervix, the lower part of the uterus (the hollow, pear-shaped organ where a baby grows), often caused by scarring
*.Tumors (also called "fibroids"wink, or growths on the inner wall of the uterus

Goodluck!

from experience, a lady friend I know that takes those pain reliving drugs you listed stopped taking them because when went to the doctor to complain of irregular circle, the doc said she should stop the drugs that it's not good...

My advice everybody systems is different, ladies go to the doctor and know the right one so as to avoid complications of the adverse/reverse effect of the drugs in respect with female fertility later in life

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Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by LadySophie(f): 5:27pm On Aug 18, 2015
You can tell her to use sanitary pad with ANION STRIP. This can help to stop the painful cramp. It is not sold in the stores, but there are distributors she can reach to can it. A pack is sold for N1,500 . She can google the product from the distributors where she lives.
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Abiababe(f): 5:46pm On Aug 18, 2015
fpeter:
I used to have painful periods until my last two episodes, I stopped taking pain relievers and started watching
my sugar intake. If she eats healthy and abstains from those canned soda drinks,ice-creams,chocolates she will
get some relief, i also use the hot water bottle to support my abdomen and it helps. Above all,prayers can do just
about anything. My husband also told me to make sure i take iron supplements or foods rich in iron, e.g unripe plantains.
Also she should take enough warm water and hot green tea without milk and sugar....my humble submissions!

That's the solution. Too much sugar caused lots of pains
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by MEGA4BILLION(m): 6:03pm On Aug 18, 2015
nothing can be done for now, her cervix is close. the Pain Will Only Stop After Child Birth
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by chigoizie7(m): 6:05pm On Aug 18, 2015
Na tramadol sure pass ooh, I introduced a lady friend of mine to tramadol for her painful periods. I am happy it helped her,my only regret now is that she takes tramadol on daily basis now, weda on menstrual cramps or not, she even have it packs, (she don turn addict).


I would ve suggested "tramadol" but, she fit turn to addict too.
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by peterian: 6:27pm On Aug 18, 2015
Tell her to.try ruzu,,,it takes care of menstrual issues
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Aipete2(f): 7:00pm On Aug 18, 2015
Felvin will heal her. FELVIN AND WARM WATER, thank me later
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Mikwus(f): 7:09pm On Aug 18, 2015
martyns303:
Let me start by giving you guys a brief description of where I stay as it is a vital cue to this story. 


I live in a compound with other flats, where the shortest conversation between neighbours is "good morning" and the longest is "please come and move your car, I want to go out". It is the kind of compound where you go to bed with your generator on, only for you to wake up in the morning to find out that there had been light all through the night, and your neighbours had turned off their Gen without telling you. Don't tell me about the pains of child birth, there is nothing more painful than looking at your fuel gauge like "my precious". By now you guys get the message, in pidgin "nobody send you". 


Now back to me, I had just concluded a professional course and was just sitting at home waiting for something to come up, that is just a fancy way of saying am jobless. But I am not searching for one, so all you NL scammers gats stay off. Without anything to do, I sit at home watching movies, and just lazing around. "My grandma just died and I am the man of the house", actually my grandma died a long time ago, I only just got my own place now. With me staying at home while everyone else in the compound goes to work or a few people that don't, I see everything that goes on, making me the all seeing eye (nope I am not affiliated to the illuminati).


A couple of months ago a young couple moved into the compound, the girl looks 25 max while the guy looks 28, they seem happy and in love, but at least once every month I will hear the girl crying profusely, I would hear her crying and lamenting, saying things like Jesus ooo, God oooo, ehhhhhhh, God please help me, I can't take this anymore, ewoo, etc then I would hear her snapping her fingers. I am probably the most soft hearted male, cos I would be feeling really sad, I don't know what a soul is, but I feel really depressed and saddened in my soul each time. If you have watched titanic, the part where Jack placed Rose on the floating stuff, you can't control the tears rolling down ur cheeks or standing in your eyes, and that's how I feel hearing this girl cry like that. Sometimes her sister would come and this has been going on for months. 


Two days ago, I heard the wife crying again, and since my compound is where no one cares, nobody has ever bothered to go in and ask what's happening, but I have had enough and was ready to confront the guy, i am going to give him a piece of my mind and Damn the consequences, so on this day I walked into their flat, the parlour door was open so I just walked in, on getting in, I found the girl in pants and bra, with wrapper half way her stomach, the guy is sitting by her side with a side stool, on the floor are packs of medication, bottled water, what looks like custard and other stuffs. When I walked in that wasn't the sight I was expecting, I had hoped to see the guy beating the living day light out of his fiancee, and me yelling at him to stop. I may have been frozen for like 15 secs while I absorb what's going on. I managed to say a weak sorry, turned around and walked out. The guy followed me immediately and asked what I wanted, I explained to him how I had heard his fiancee crying and wanted to make sure she is ok. "She is fine, thanks for your concern" then walked away, I know he is pissed at me walking into their apartment like that, and even the worst, seeing his woman like that. Damn what was I thinking sef! 


When I got back to my flat, the movie felt sour, couldn't concentrate on anything, all I could think of is how I am going to compose my words and apologize to the guy and his fiancee. This morning I saw him washing his car, so I walked up to him and started reciting my memorized apology. Planning is the key people, cos with the way I said what I said it hit him cold. The guy started explaining what's going on to me without me even asking. Apparently that's how the fiancee gets into pains whenever it's that time of the month for her, he said the pains could be excruciating for her. He said it's a part of her he's only getting to know as they only moved in together a few months ago, he has advice her going to see a doctor but she rebuffed the idea saying it is a normal thing. He explains how he goes through sleepless nights, boiling water and putting it in a plastic bowl with cover so she can place it on the stomach, buying pain relieves, he mentioned quite a bit of pain relieves, but that they seem to do little. He felt bad cos he is now of the idea that the rest of the neighbors may also have the perception of him being an abusive guy without knowing what's going on, told me he had to take days off from work sometimes to stay with her and when he can't, her sister comes around. 


In my attempt to be nice, I had promised to find a solution to his problem. Don't blame me, at that moment I just want to be nice and get myself out of the mess I got in and appear a good friend. 


So please, if there is anyone out here who knows why this guy's fiancee is going through so much pains, and if it's normal, are there home remedies, herbs or medical prescriptions that could help her situation, please help a brother out. Dankie!!!


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Nothing extra ordinary is wrong with her. Just a small percentage of women suffer from such menstrual pain every month.

Speaking from experience though. My aunty (2 of my dad's sisters) and a cousin of mine suffer from it.

People don't sleep during those periods. Everyone knows its that time of the month. I can't prescribe what they use to relieve the pain because its different medication for different body system.

She needs to see a doctor ASAP. If possible a gynaecologist. Send me a mail if you need a name and number for them especially if you're in Lagos.

Its not a spiritual attack o and self medication clearly ain't helping.
Kindly speak with the man not to relent, I understand how he must feel and he must be commended. Not all men would want to watch her go through that every month.

Another point is, the sooner a baby comes, the sooner she gets natural healing.

Once she has a baby, she will experience the monthly visitor like every other lady wink
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Samandgrace(m): 7:23pm On Aug 18, 2015
l guess you are not married, but if you are, u must be a very terible husband. l pity the unfortunate lady that will marry you.
48noble:
U do same ,take the girl to hospital n d guy to psychiatric hospital on brain check..boiling water every month 4 a woman's mens...bullshit. house boy stunt..men will ride u to Dr.
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by 1miccza: 7:34pm On Aug 18, 2015
Bros you could have summarised this in one paragraph now
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by pragmatistm(m): 8:40pm On Aug 18, 2015
@op, if its menstrual related pain, get a bottle of gangaria asap. Let her take it as recommended for one week. Gangaria is herbal medicine for that condition but is NAFDAC registered. Its highly potent. Thank me later.
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by christygenius(f): 9:09pm On Aug 18, 2015
I felt her pains. I go thru d same thing monthly, may be she should try my own remedies. Most tines, i'll take a short of Brandy, wen its not available, i'll take 2 tablets of Buscopan, 2 capsules of Felvin and 2 tablets of Flagyl. They help in relieving d pains alot, if not i'll be messed up and wont get myself . Hope dis helps
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by fbtowner(m): 9:19pm On Aug 18, 2015
guess I was late


op dat same tin dey do my ex oooo


at that period of d month na war

she wud always refuse to go see a doctor

at some time she started lying she has gone to see a doc


I bliv she knows what d problem is

and I feel it might have bern caused by abortion just thinking oo



I love her so much


she is 100% my match

life is just unfair

she wants to get pregnant badly

she even promised me she will look after d baby and d pregnancy


but I know she is lying and I am a broke ass nigga meehn


she loves me and I love her so much that I av never loved anyone after her about 4 years



life is just unfair my ppl
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by FinNews: 9:47pm On Aug 18, 2015
martyns303:
Let me start by giving you guys a brief description of where I stay as it is a vital cue to this story. 


I live in a compound with other flats, where the shortest conversation between neighbours is "good morning" and the longest is "please come and move your car, I want to go out". It is the kind of compound where you go to bed with your generator on, only for you to wake up in the morning to find out that there had been light all through the night, and your neighbours had turned off their Gen without telling you. Don't tell me about the pains of child birth, there is nothing more painful than looking at your fuel gauge like "my precious". By now you guys get the message, in pidgin "nobody send you". 


Now back to me, I had just concluded a professional course and was just sitting at home waiting for something to come up, that is just a fancy way of saying am jobless. But I am not searching for one, so all you NL scammers gats stay off. Without anything to do, I sit at home watching movies, and just lazing around. "My grandma just died and I am the man of the house", actually my grandma died a long time ago, I only just got my own place now. With me staying at home while everyone else in the compound goes to work or a few people that don't, I see everything that goes on, making me the all seeing eye (nope I am not affiliated to the illuminati).


A couple of months ago a young couple moved into the compound, the girl looks 25 max while the guy looks 28, they seem happy and in love, but at least once every month I will hear the girl crying profusely, I would hear her crying and lamenting, saying things like Jesus ooo, God oooo, ehhhhhhh, God please help me, I can't take this anymore, ewoo, etc then I would hear her snapping her fingers. I am probably the most soft hearted male, cos I would be feeling really sad, I don't know what a soul is, but I feel really depressed and saddened in my soul each time. If you have watched titanic, the part where Jack placed Rose on the floating stuff, you can't control the tears rolling down ur cheeks or standing in your eyes, and that's how I feel hearing this girl cry like that. Sometimes her sister would come and this has been going on for months. 


Two days ago, I heard the wife crying again, and since my compound is where no one cares, nobody has ever bothered to go in and ask what's happening, but I have had enough and was ready to confront the guy, i am going to give him a piece of my mind and Damn the consequences, so on this day I walked into their flat, the parlour door was open so I just walked in, on getting in, I found the girl in pants and bra, with wrapper half way her stomach, the guy is sitting by her side with a side stool, on the floor are packs of medication, bottled water, what looks like custard and other stuffs. When I walked in that wasn't the sight I was expecting, I had hoped to see the guy beating the living day light out of his fiancee, and me yelling at him to stop. I may have been frozen for like 15 secs while I absorb what's going on. I managed to say a weak sorry, turned around and walked out. The guy followed me immediately and asked what I wanted, I explained to him how I had heard his fiancee crying and wanted to make sure she is ok. "She is fine, thanks for your concern" then walked away, I know he is pissed at me walking into their apartment like that, and even the worst, seeing his woman like that. Damn what was I thinking sef! 


When I got back to my flat, the movie felt sour, couldn't concentrate on anything, all I could think of is how I am going to compose my words and apologize to the guy and his fiancee. This morning I saw him washing his car, so I walked up to him and started reciting my memorized apology. Planning is the key people, cos with the way I said what I said it hit him cold. The guy started explaining what's going on to me without me even asking. Apparently that's how the fiancee gets into pains whenever it's that time of the month for her, he said the pains could be excruciating for her. He said it's a part of her he's only getting to know as they only moved in together a few months ago, he has advice her going to see a doctor but she rebuffed the idea saying it is a normal thing. He explains how he goes through sleepless nights, boiling water and putting it in a plastic bowl with cover so she can place it on the stomach, buying pain relieves, he mentioned quite a bit of pain relieves, but that they seem to do little. He felt bad cos he is now of the idea that the rest of the neighbors may also have the perception of him being an abusive guy without knowing what's going on, told me he had to take days off from work sometimes to stay with her and when he can't, her sister comes around. 


In my attempt to be nice, I had promised to find a solution to his problem. Don't blame me, at that moment I just want to be nice and get myself out of the mess I got in and appear a good friend. 


So please, if there is anyone out here who knows why this guy's fiancee is going through so much pains, and if it's normal, are there home remedies, herbs or and and prescriptions that could help her situation, please help a brother out. Dankie!!!


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OP, That lady may be suffering from Endometriosis. My friend had similar symptoms she went to all so called best hospitals in Abuja and they could not diagnose it. She called to inform me last year that she had laparoscope treatment in USA. I do not know if it this treatment can be done in Nigeria but she should go to the hospital because there are many causes of Menstrual pains.

However, tell her to stop eating sugary products, caffeine and fried foods. It help eliminate pains. God will help her.

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Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by chrisblack: 10:05pm On Aug 18, 2015
MadCow1:
Solution..

Tell him to wait for her next ovulation cycle and fhuck her until she carries belle.. Problem solved for 9 Months.

Repeat treatment as often as necessary.




Don't thank me, Thank God..
my guy u funny die
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by chrisblack: 10:05pm On Aug 18, 2015
MadCow1:
Solution..

Tell him to wait for her next ovulation cycle and fhuck her until she carries belle.. Problem solved for 9 Months.

Repeat treatment as often as necessary.




Don't thank me, Thank God..
my guy u are funny but the truth is you are very correct. some ladies have very difficult and painful menstruation period.after child birth it stops. grin

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Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by missmary(f): 10:22pm On Aug 18, 2015
grin
MadCow1:
Solution..

Tell him to wait for her next ovulation cycle and fhuck her until she carries belle.. Problem solved for 9 Months.

Repeat treatment as often as necessary.




Don't thank me, Thank God..
Doctor from birth grin
You are dope True but funny the way you said it
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Ileriahur(m): 11:46pm On Aug 18, 2015
Am close to someone that experience such before, avoid sugar and take shot of dry gin sincerely it works!
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by adesbreath: 11:53pm On Aug 18, 2015
martyns303:
Let me start by giving you guys a brief description of where I stay as it is a vital cue to this story. 


I live in a compound with other flats, where the shortest conversation between neighbours is "good morning" and the longest is "please come and move your car, I want to go out". It is the kind of compound where you go to bed with your generator on, only for you to wake up in the morning to find out that there had been light all through the night, and your neighbours had turned off their Gen without telling you. Don't tell me about the pains of child birth, there is nothing more painful than looking at your fuel gauge like "my precious". By now you guys get the message, in pidgin "nobody send you". 


Now back to me, I had just concluded a professional course and was just sitting at home waiting for something to come up, that is just a fancy way of saying am jobless. But I am not searching for one, so all you NL scammers gats stay off. Without anything to do, I sit at home watching movies, and just lazing around. "My grandma just died and I am the man of the house", actually my grandma died a long time ago, I only just got my own place now. With me staying at home while everyone else in the compound goes to work or a few people that don't, I see everything that goes on, making me the all seeing eye (nope I am not affiliated to the illuminati).


A couple of months ago a young couple moved into the compound, the girl looks 25 max while the guy looks 28, they seem happy and in love, but at least once every month I will hear the girl crying profusely, I would hear her crying and lamenting, saying things like Jesus ooo, God oooo, ehhhhhhh, God please help me, I can't take this anymore, ewoo, etc then I would hear her snapping her fingers. I am probably the most soft hearted male, cos I would be feeling really sad, I don't know what a soul is, but I feel really depressed and saddened in my soul each time. If you have watched titanic, the part where Jack placed Rose on the floating stuff, you can't control the tears rolling down ur cheeks or standing in your eyes, and that's how I feel hearing this girl cry like that. Sometimes her sister would come and this has been going on for months. 


Two days ago, I heard the wife crying again, and since my compound is where no one cares, nobody has ever bothered to go in and ask what's happening, but I have had enough and was ready to confront the guy, i am going to give him a piece of my mind and Damn the consequences, so on this day I walked into their flat, the parlour door was open so I just walked in, on getting in, I found the girl in pants and bra, with wrapper half way her stomach, the guy is sitting by her side with a side stool, on the floor are packs of medication, bottled water, what looks like custard and other stuffs. When I walked in that wasn't the sight I was expecting, I had hoped to see the guy beating the living day light out of his fiancee, and me yelling at him to stop. I may have been frozen for like 15 secs while I absorb what's going on. I managed to say a weak sorry, turned around and walked out. The guy followed me immediately and asked what I wanted, I explained to him how I had heard his fiancee crying and wanted to make sure she is ok. "She is fine, thanks for your concern" then walked away, I know he is pissed at me walking into their apartment like that, and even the worst, seeing his woman like that. Damn what was I thinking sef! 


When I got back to my flat, the movie felt sour, couldn't concentrate on anything, all I could think of is how I am going to compose my words and apologize to the guy and his fiancee. This morning I saw him washing his car, so I walked up to him and started reciting my memorized apology. Planning is the key people, cos with the way I said what I said it hit him cold. The guy started explaining what's going on to me without me even asking. Apparently that's how the fiancee gets into pains whenever it's that time of the month for her, he said the pains could be excruciating for her. He said it's a part of her he's only getting to know as they only moved in together a few months ago, he has advice her going to see a doctor but she rebuffed the idea saying it is a normal thing. He explains how he goes through sleepless nights, boiling water and putting it in a plastic bowl with cover so she can place it on the stomach, buying pain relieves, he mentioned quite a bit of pain relieves, but that they seem to do little. He felt bad cos he is now of the idea that the rest of the neighbors may also have the perception of him being an abusive guy without knowing what's going on, told me he had to take days off from work sometimes to stay with her and when he can't, her sister comes around. 


In my attempt to be nice, I had promised to find a solution to his problem. Don't blame me, at that moment I just want to be nice and get myself out of the mess I got in and appear a good friend. 


So please, if there is anyone out here who knows why this guy's fiancee is going through so much pains, and if it's normal, are there home remedies, herbs or medical prescriptions that could help her situation, please help a brother out. Dankie!!!


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Let him get her pregnant atleast twice.
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by astute07(f): 12:22am On Aug 19, 2015
Well menstryal cramps relieve defers with women.in my mother side we ladies v such but different things ease d pain a little.some might b yoyo bitters or reduction of sugar intake; or contraceptive pills;kacharm but I take felvin 20. That works only for I; d others with d hot water tube faints me.But preferable she see a gynaecologist.
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Idowusalami67: 12:52am On Aug 19, 2015
Tell d lady to see a gynecologist, painful periods is often caused by gynaecological infections.
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by darlenese(f): 1:33am On Aug 19, 2015
Some ladies experience painful menses but the truth is that some ladies are just annoying jor, I used to have this excruciating pains before I got married , but it stopped after i had my first child . although the pain is bearable but some ladies are just drama queens msheeeeew.

If she's going naked for ordinary menses ,then what would she do when she has labour pains ?

These are the kinda ladies u see in the labour room laying curses on on their husbands for putting them in that condition, some even curse God cry lipsrsealed msheeeew


That man has married a drama queen , he should get ready to become an "Akpan" when she gets pregnant
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by Motolank: 4:00am On Aug 19, 2015
martyns303:
Let me start by giving you guys a brief description of where I stay as it is a vital cue to this story. 


I live in a compound with other flats, where the shortest conversation between neighbours is "good morning" and the longest is "please come and move your car, I want to go out". It is the kind of compound where you go to bed with your generator on, only for you to wake up in the morning to find out that there had been light all through the night, and your neighbours had turned off their Gen without telling you. Don't tell me about the pains of child birth, there is nothing more painful than looking at your fuel gauge like "my precious". By now you guys get the message, in pidgin "nobody send you". 


Now back to me, I had just concluded a professional course and was just sitting at home waiting for something to come up, that is just a fancy way of saying am jobless. But I am not searching for one, so all you NL scammers gats stay off. Without anything to do, I sit at home watching movies, and just lazing around. "My grandma just died and I am the man of the house", actually my grandma died a long time ago, I only just got my own place now. With me staying at home while everyone else in the compound goes to work or a few people that don't, I see everything that goes on, making me the all seeing eye (nope I am not affiliated to the illuminati).


A couple of months ago a young couple moved into the compound, the girl looks 25 max while the guy looks 28, they seem happy and in love, but at least once every month I will hear the girl crying profusely, I would hear her crying and lamenting, saying things like Jesus ooo, God oooo, ehhhhhhh, God please help me, I can't take this anymore, ewoo, etc then I would hear her snapping her fingers. I am probably the most soft hearted male, cos I would be feeling really sad, I don't know what a soul is, but I feel really depressed and saddened in my soul each time. If you have watched titanic, the part where Jack placed Rose on the floating stuff, you can't control the tears rolling down ur cheeks or standing in your eyes, and that's how I feel hearing this girl cry like that. Sometimes her sister would come and this has been going on for months. 


Two days ago, I heard the wife crying again, and since my compound is where no one cares, nobody has ever bothered to go in and ask what's happening, but I have had enough and was ready to confront the guy, i am going to give him a piece of my mind and Damn the consequences, so on this day I walked into their flat, the parlour door was open so I just walked in, on getting in, I found the girl in pants and bra, with wrapper half way her stomach, the guy is sitting by her side with a side stool, on the floor are packs of medication, bottled water, what looks like custard and other stuffs. When I walked in that wasn't the sight I was expecting, I had hoped to see the guy beating the living day light out of his fiancee, and me yelling at him to stop. I may have been frozen for like 15 secs while I absorb what's going on. I managed to say a weak sorry, turned around and walked out. The guy followed me immediately and asked what I wanted, I explained to him how I had heard his fiancee crying and wanted to make sure she is ok. "She is fine, thanks for your concern" then walked away, I know he is pissed at me walking into their apartment like that, and even the worst, seeing his woman like that. Damn what was I thinking sef! 


When I got back to my flat, the movie felt sour, couldn't concentrate on anything, all I could think of is how I am going to compose my words and apologize to the guy and his fiancee. This morning I saw him washing his car, so I walked up to him and started reciting my memorized apology. Planning is the key people, cos with the way I said what I said it hit him cold. The guy started explaining what's going on to me without me even asking. Apparently that's how the fiancee gets into pains whenever it's that time of the month for her, he said the pains could be excruciating for her. He said it's a part of her he's only getting to know as they only moved in together a few months ago, he has advice her going to see a doctor but she rebuffed the idea saying it is a normal thing. He explains how he goes through sleepless nights, boiling water and putting it in a plastic bowl with cover so she can place it on the stomach, buying pain relieves, he mentioned quite a bit of pain relieves, but that they seem to do little. He felt bad cos he is now of the idea that the rest of the neighbors may also have the perception of him being an abusive guy without knowing what's going on, told me he had to take days off from work sometimes to stay with her and when he can't, her sister comes around. 


In my attempt to be nice, I had promised to find a solution to his problem. Don't blame me, at that moment I just want to be nice and get myself out of the mess I got in and appear a good friend. 


So please, if there is anyone out here who knows why this guy's fiancee is going through so much pains, and if it's normal, are there home remedies, herbs or medical prescriptions that could help her situation, please help a brother out. Dankie!!!


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Ishilove please steer the wheels, front page is the destination.
Looks like endometriosis, if she can get this Chinese tea....'gui zi fu ling wan,' it's still the only cure for this monster....
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by SunshineNYC(f): 4:27am On Aug 19, 2015
I hope this is serious. If it is there are a few suggestions you can share with your neighbor.

1. See a doctor, a lot of women get severe cramps but when the pain is debilitating it would be wise to get it checked out. Others mentioned endometriosis. It could be, but only a medical professional can say.

2. Stay away from cold drinks during this time. It may sound silly but skip the ice and chilled water and drinks. Have room temperature water and lots of warm/hot drinks.

3. Limit sugar and junk food intake. Like seriously cut back on your intake during that time.

4. Lots of fruit and copious amounts of water. The more water the better.

5. Exercise! Yes exercise really helps with cramps. Most women don't want to go to the gym when they're already in pain but even the smallest bit of cardio can help. If you especially work out the days leading up to your period it helps.

6. GINGER TEA!!! I can't tell you how much this helps the cramps. Just slice up some fresh ginger root and boil it in water with a black tea bag. Add milk and honey. Don't skip the honey.

7. Eat bananas. They have pain relieving properties. Some nuts like walnuts (I'm not sure how accessible that is in Nigeria) has pain relieving properties too.

8. Make sure to take B vitamins, especially B6. Take fish oil supplements. The Omega 3 is helpful.

Good luck to her and all the females with this issue. Men I know u can't relate but be understanding. It's no joke.
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 6:53am On Aug 19, 2015
ikeepitreal:
Eeyah, it can't kill her, it would only make her stronger and btw, you didn't have to write another epistle.
I've gotta admit...... the epistle was fun to read....
Re: My Neighbour And His Fiancee by INDUSTRIALFAN(m): 7:01am On Aug 19, 2015
martyns303:


Bull..shlt!!! You come here with that bull..shlt? Get the fvck outta here, get all the way fvck outta here meyn!!!
LMAO.... see reaction.. grin

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