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Rapmoney:
Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! . This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that . In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! . If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' . The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' . Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept

Good morning everyone!

omoharry:
All you guys complaining here, abusing women....thank you very much...yes we agree we like security, comfort and care...on the other hand you guys like beautiful women as well as those that has all the qualities of a wife...abi? now why are you guys complaining? Get a job and make your self and your woman comfortable and stop coming to Naira land to start abusing them. Yes we like money...what about you...wont your love be put to test when you become a millionaire tomorrow? will you remember that woman that stayed with you when you had nothing and still married you. would you still use that same eyes to look at her after her body must have weakened due child birth and working round the clock to keep the home front running smoothly... would you? you are here lashing at us when your fellow men's sins are expose for all to see...what will be your excuse then..that you are an African man and your wife is no longer as attractive as the young olosho girls you are now abusing..these are the ones you will be running after and spending your money on because you want some variety added to your sex life....women are selfish just the way men are selfish...SO YOU GUYS SHOULD GO BACK TO WORK AND BE THE PROVIDER AS IT WAS DESIGNED INSTEAD OF LAMENTING AND ABUSING US.

Rapmoney:
Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! . This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that . In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! . If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' . The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' . Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept

Good morning everyone!

Kennedyiheme:
what about you are you working? Or waiting for smeone to cme and liberate you frm poverty? Oprah winfrey didn't wait

markmira:
U can only find true love while u re broke,and for the text and calling stuff a lot of girls love it.make's dem see they man as a very confident and social active guy if u dnt call or txt frequently they tag u boring then move on to anoda guy who aint boring lyk u. Funny how u guys tink u can play God truth is u dont know women at all even wit ur cash if a woman dont luv u..men u a waste cuz she will jst drain ur 40,000 mah bat3 then move on to someone dat will make her happy . Keep tinking u know all why others are pulling stunts wit the little they know..as cute nd successfull as drake wit lota award nd international recognition nicki minaj still see's a beta man in meek mill who acts lyk a child on twitter dissing drake 4 no reason, wise up u cnt predict women else u will commit suicide someday.

Captainswag225:
o.p and finditng, great points but i think its not always abt money in the relationship, its abt how u treat her, making her value u and the little u have. Making her think and feel u are irreplaceable. Why is that some women marry rich dudes and still have affairs with their old broke lovers? Some ladies even leave their rich husbands for poor dudes coz at the end of the day its abt how u make her fall for u...... Power belongs to u not money.

omoharry:
I am working and not online complaining about men who cannot provide for their family..or men looking for women that have money to date..we see them every day..so Mr man...i am working and provide for my need myself.

Atlantian:
Not all women are money conscious 'at the beginning' but eventually, you will see the wisdom in seeking ye first the "kingdom of money". Mark my words "money is the oil, that lubricates relationships", the generator can run smoothly until the oil dries, and the pistons will jam the crankshaft and the engine will knock. Go and make money my brother. Without money, you can not 'experience' true love. My oh my, trust me, what you are experiencing now is nothing compared to what is in store for you, when you 'hold real pepper'. I thought I was experiencing 'true' love when I was living in a rented flat when 2 cars, but when I started buying houses and live in my partial home with pools and G-Wagon. Guy, the angels worship me. I do not have to go to heaven and worship the angels. They come right here to Earth and worship me. Just work hard, I beg you. True love is real, with money.

Horlufemi:
Its more like, she loves the guy first but has enuf of love and need for money comes in then she goes all out to find men with money and discovers that love is more important than money. She den goes back to the former boyfriend for the love.

Nigerian ladies are poverty minded.

My advice is get a girl who is a bit richer than you and show her beta love.

adorable29:
Some black men especially our Naija guy's mentality sucks, I tell you....

Firstly "who is a struggling guy"?

Cos in this country, at least 90percent of the men are struggling if you ask me. So when does the struggling end that you now decide you want a woman who you can use ur "struggled money" to finally settle down with... This writer thinks he knows women!

The women who even accepts to date you in the first place when you are dirt poor is probably and highly likely the one who LOVES YOU FOR YOU....

So much bull crap on the internet this days...

If you can't find a woman to love you when you are a broke ass niccur, its probably because your attitude su_cks untop your poverty... Funny enough, some girls still fall in love with broke assss niccurs with bad attitude and abusive tendencies. They are so many of them on campus here.

Its not necessary I post a personal experience on a public forum but for the first one year I dated my boo, he could only give me #500 which I rejected. Lol . Ironically, even tho he is doing well now, I loved him more when he had nothing cos of course, his attitude has changed now God has blessed him and he thinks he can get all the women in the world.

Just live life as it presents and stop all this hard and fast rules rubbish you come up with based on YOUR OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE of a girl dumping you
. OTHER STRUGGLING GUYS STILL FIND TRUE LOVE. Infact, they are likely to dump the "true love" when they dive into big cash for a more beautiful gold digger. #FACT

Kennedyiheme:
"eyaaah I'm crying"...... Wow I just met a foolish man that believes AC will bring love, I hope you don't die a miserable death from stroke when you find out your wife is being smashed by smeother cute guy...cos I knw pple like you are ugly, thts why u depend on swimming pool and AC to win a ladies love, how foolish can you get broda?

Kulas:
hahhahahaha,d guy believe money answereth all.Make him carry him believe dey go.This kind person i think cant even toast woman.Na d type that believe that with my money,make all babes run to me

donsteady:
You are still a baby

Rapmoney:
Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! . This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that . In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! . If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' . The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' . Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept

Good morning everyone!

cyprus000:
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With what I can deduce from your post. Struggling guyz don't deserve to have GF's that will believe in their hustle and urge,complement them to keep strong in their endeavors.

it is ironically sinful,cos they can't meet up with the quest of pleasing women by your analogy.

Are you for real bro?..so your lady is a kind of zombie or a car which wouldn't work if you don't have money to buy petrol.
you must take her to all those nice places, eatery etc bfor you can get her love and loyality.


I don't have strenght going back and fort on this. I just pray you marry those kind of lady.

But ama tell you little about my persona.

if my woman can't stay with when I was hustling,then she is has important to me as _whore that I pay for service..that's the reality. Mr realist rapmoney.

I will _fuck her left right centre then dump her for the fun of it.
Especially those galz championing you. unfortunatly I don't do their type.


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muh4lyf:
Deceit!!!! Aint no love in the city.. Hustle hard,get money... They'd run after you.... Ladies been forming loyal on social media since 1800..

donsteady:
You are still a baby

Rapmoney:
Ignore this post if you are too lazy to read, please!!!

In life, there are two types of people as regards human reasoning; the idealist and the realist. People who hold idealist view of life see events that happen around them as 'how things ought to be but are not' while people who hold realist view of life see events that happen around them as 'real facts or occurences' and should be accepted without pretending as if we didn't know that this is how things truly are!!!

With deep thoughts, I write this post. I am not afraid to face criticism; neither am I afraid to express my thoughts. I am a realist. I believe that events that happen around us as humans are real!!! Often times, things 'ought to be' in a particular way but in reality, they are not; so it becomes necessary to accept bitter and painful facts! Especially, when they are real!!!

We live in a material world and whether you like it or not, material things play a lot of important roles in our everyday life. As a struggling guy, loving only one girl whole-heartedly might end up leaving you with numerous emotional scars! . This is due to the high level of emotional pressure you would put in the relationship and the possible outcome of getting dumped, especially, when you don't have the resources to spice up the relationship. A struggling guy with low funds would find it difficult to spice up his relationship even when he has the intention to do that . In order not to lose the girl, he might start being too protective/desparate and pester the girl with phone calls, texts messages and numerous 'I love you's' in order to be assured that he is still loved! Common!!! That's trash! Are you begging to be loved? After displaying all these, she would dispise you and might even dump you because the truth remains the same...relationships without trips, surprises and outings are as boring as hell!!! Pretend at your own risk!!! . If truth be told, all young ladies want the good things in life, even those that put up what I call 'social media good face'. You cannot obtain total loyalty from a girl when you are lacking! Don't make the mistake of trying to force her to be loyal; you cannot!!!

Women, sometimes need to feel jealous that their man could be taken anytime by another woman. This can put them back on track when they 'backslide' romantically...but this can only be made easy when you have the resources. She knows fully well that ladies will not flock around you if she leaves you today or tomorrow. Don't love just one lady if you are still on 'struggling mode' . The love pressure you would mount on the relationship might make her get fed up quickly with you and eventually get your ass dumped painfully! Again, I am a realist and I am telling you that sooner than later, your ass will be dumped if you don't have the resources to 'oil' the machines of relationships!

As a struggling guy, you should buckle or lace your shoes and tighten your belt very well. You must set your priorities right. There is what economists call 'scale of preference'. What is on top of your scale of preference? Is it your education or career? Or is it trying to please a girl with your meagre earnings all in the name of seeing her pleased with you? Do you want to waste your youthful years trying to please a girl that might end up being married by another dude, who was probably hussling seriously, while you were doing your usual lovey-lovey? Book of Ecclesiastes says 'Money answereth all things'. Take note, 'all things' and not 'some things' . Take the pains now and strive to be comfortable and you will avoid the painful experience of trying to please a girl!!! The love between a man and a woman is not AGAPE LOVE, let us stop deceiving ourselves!!! It is not the type of love described in the Synoptic Gospels and in the Epistles of Apostle Paul...it is called EROS and it costs something!!! Yes, the eros love goes for something; it doesn't come with nothing and that's the bitter truth we all need to accept

Good morning everyone!

markmira:
God bless u sister,smart guys dnt reason like diz op and his followers. Lack of oppurtunity brings silly excuses lyk diz. So my reason to make money should b because i want to spend on a woman Well d reason 4 my struggles is to evict poverty from my family nd change d life of those around me not spending it on a lady.sister keep loving ur man no matter wat he will put a ring on ur finger someday.

tukane:
OP your post doesn't make sense in anyway, rather it shows a case of low self esteem, people like you use things to boost your confidence and self esteem. Guys that use money or material things to woo ladies only get a particular class of girls: the broke wretched and slutty girls with no self esteem and are always looking for hosts to feed on. and once the the source dries up they leave because whatever you use to win a lady, same you'll use to keep her. money can't buy love.

adorable29:
Some black men especially our Naija guy's mentality sucks, I tell you....

Firstly "who is a struggling guy"?

Cos in this country, at least 90percent of the men are struggling if you ask me. So when does the struggling end that you now decide you want a woman who you can use ur "struggled money" to finally settle down with... This writer thinks he knows women!

The women who even accepts to date you in the first place when you are dirt poor is probably and highly likely the one who LOVES YOU FOR YOU....
LOVELY....I agree with you as well. We guys have this problem of abandoning the one that stood by us when we were nothing. I dont blame some of these ladies .
So much bull crap on the internet this days...

If you can't find a woman to love you when you are a broke ass niccur, its probably because your attitude su_cks untop your poverty... Funny enough, some girls still fall in love with broke assss niccurs with bad attitude and abusive tendencies. They are so many of them on campus here.

Its not necessary I post a personal experience on a public forum but for the first one year I dated my boo, he could only give me #500 which I rejected. Lol . Ironically, even tho he is doing well now, I loved him more when he had nothing cos of course, his attitude has changed now God has blessed him and he thinks he can get all the women in the world.

Just live life as it presents and stop all this immature hard and fast rules rubbish you come up with based on YOUR OWN PERSONAL EXPERIENCE of a girl dumping you
. OTHER STRUGGLING GUYS STILL FIND TRUE LOVE. Sadly, they are likely to dump the "true love" when they dive into big cash for a more beautiful gold digger. #FACT

Captainswag225:
o.p and finditng, great points but i think its not always abt money in the relationship, its abt how u treat her, making her value u and the little u have. Making her think and feel u are irreplaceable. Why is that some women marry rich dudes and still have affairs with their old broke lovers? Some ladies even leave their rich husbands for poor dudes coz at the end of the day its abt how u make her fall for u...... Power belongs to u not money.