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Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by cyprus000:
teeghurl:
Na who vex Prof Obahiagbon ds early momo, chai prof i'm sorry on his behalf grin
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Need not be dearie.

Me and am just dey discourse...no biggiesmiley


I just dey try curtail em inebriation of juvenile exuberance. Make em unfortunate gift of egotistical tribal imagination no command an interminable and consistent series of stupidity to align with his idiocy

just doing a selfless service to humanity.smiley
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Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by AAinEqGuinea: 11:04am On Aug 31, 2015
Her old man shopping for her new man?? shocked

This is new.

If it ain't Me it can't be He
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Revolva(m): 11:08am On Aug 31, 2015
grin none of my business advice kor..dem de feed me
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by felajazz(m): 11:08am On Aug 31, 2015
ladyF:
shocked she needs wisdom....
Its....again... grin
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by scobyy2007: 11:10am On Aug 31, 2015
LongPennis:
Bros, you too dey worry yourself. Wait mek you witness the marriage first naa.

No be all these obodo oyibos Wey dey confuse our girls since time IMO river?

By the time he comes back, fucck am finish travel back, her eyes go clear.

Guyman just remembered how sweet the punny of his ex was come dey promise her heaven and earth just to get a second round and the gullible girl come dey fall for am.

Ode sorry "Odein" undecided
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Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by cyprus000: 11:13am On Aug 31, 2015
braine:
Your post would have made sense if not for your crappy font. embarassed
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Your opine.
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Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by benswagtt(m): 11:14am On Aug 31, 2015
cyprus000:
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Lol..grin very funny _idiot. This just proved my assertion about your daftness...*spits*

If you aren't an ineffable corpulent microphallus and a cesspool of sub human filth.
You would be able to deduce when a person type in abbreviation
. But being a pyscho/sapiopath you are. All your brain could sum up is shitt.

for the fact that an infinitesimal vapid scum lyk u, is allowed to roam and even have access to cyber space, means that we don't have "animal control" system in this country or dey are not competent for the job.

Wat a brainscooped lummox.


**pity your existance**

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bro, u wicked! All dis vocabs 4 jst 1 person?
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by 2sex(m): 11:18am On Aug 31, 2015
missmary:
I think i just fell in Love with Op... cry
Seems like you truly love her... Let her do her will but with this i think she should be reconsidering
nice set of teeth
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by hustla(m): 11:18am On Aug 31, 2015
cyprus000:
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Lol..grin very funny _idiot. This just proved my assertion about your daftness...*spits*

If you aren't an ineffable corpulent microphallus and a cesspool of sub human filth.
You would be able to deduce when a person type in abbreviation
. But being a pyscho/sapiopath you are. All your brain could sum up is shitt.

for the fact that an infinitesimal vapid scum lyk u, is allowed to roam and even have access to cyber space, means that we don't have "animal control" system in this country or dey are not competent for the job.

Wat a brainscooped lummox.


**pity your existance**

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You have made no sense
Throwing around big words to sound like u have something up there doesnt cut it anymore; its 2015


Ill suggest u read some Wole Soyinka books and see how words are arranged in simple clear English w/o losing any meaning
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Nobody: 11:19am On Aug 31, 2015
Jeromejnr:
Its fate not faith.
It's...
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by hustla(m): 11:23am On Aug 31, 2015
kosplateau:
It's...

It is



grin grin cheesy
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by 2sex(m): 11:24am On Aug 31, 2015
menix:
Hmm..
This OP can hoard enjoyment oo..

Y think u re d rite guy, labeling d other guy bad, jst to keep eating Kpomo.

Free the girl joor, all this girls Luving guyz that travel even if nah Chad u go..
I told him same thing. It's all jealousy. But fact is that he really loves her. I know cos I have acted that way before. I even sat the girl down in my own case and pointed out the errors of the other guy. In even though my worries were genuine and I really didn't want her to get hurt, she NEVER saw it that way and even told me I was being desperate because she turned me down. They will never see it the way you do.
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Jeromejnr(m): 11:27am On Aug 31, 2015
kosplateau:
It's...
"It's..." grin
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by cyprus000: 11:29am On Aug 31, 2015
scobyy2007:
THE LENGTH OF YOUR *P*E*N*I*S* IS INVERSELY PROPORTIONAL TO YOUR LEVEL OF REASONING
gringrincheesy
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by free2ryhme: 11:31am On Aug 31, 2015
stjudas:
Good day people. I am a Corps member of 2015 batch A. I have a girlfriend in her third year in school. Sincerely, I love her but she's hell bent on getting married. I am far from ready and there is this guy she dated few years back for few months before he traveled to India. This guy is really disturbing my girl, promising to marry her as soon as he returns to Nigeria next month. In fact, Dec. 30 has been scheduled for Introduction. Now my problem isn't her leaving me, but for the wrong person. I suspect he's a very bad guy and would make her cry. I tried convincing her to wait for better man even if it wasn't going to be me that all I cared about was her happiness. So, fellow Nairalanders how do I convince her and what way is best to go about this? Below is a message I sent her on Facebook and all she replied was "thank you," and soon she called me and started crying. I inquired why she was crying but she said she doesn't know and hung up. Pls, no insults. Don't tell me I should be thinking of how to get a job or start a small business 'cause it's all in my plans. Your contributions will be appreciated. Thanks.
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JUST BEFORE DECEMBER 30.

Bury this little piece in your heart, I took my time to write it for you. It's no cynicism so don't get it twisted. Marriage is a lifetime commitment; once you're in, you're in. Don't ignore the warning signals, it could be very fatal.

1. COURT HIM AGAIN: Don't assume he's the cool guy you use to know. Try courting him for 8 to 12 months before you tie the knot. Remember, he's been outside the country, gathered a handful of experiences and the resultant of this experiences will greatly determine his new personality, either for better or for worse. Ignoring or failing to take this one step is worst of all things you would ever do.

2. BE SURE OF WHAT HE DOES:
Go beyond your emotions and look with your mind's eyes. Can you trust what he tells you he does for a living? Have you sought an answer to these questions: How does he send his goods to Nigeria? Who receives the bales of clothes he sends in and who sells them and how does he get his money back? Through PayPal, Western Money Union Transfer or what? Investigate to be sure it's true.
When he's not sending clothes to Nigeria what does he do? Does he have a part-time job or own a business in India? If a part-time time job, what's the name of the company he works for and what position does he occupy. What are his job functions? If he owns a business, what kind.
Ask him how much he makes and see if it's in coherence with how much you think he's worth. Ask him these question and many more you can think of in quick succession, with that aura of intelligence of one who works with the FBI. Don't give him a chance to think! Just quickly throw the questions at him.
Observe if he's nervous or cool when giving answers. Compare all the information he provides with your previous knowledge of him and make your judgement. Trust your intuition!

3. PROMISES MAY NEVER BE FULFILLED:
Yes, he promised to make you Manager of his current business so he could move into importation of automobile spare parts. Be sure he will do this. Never you assume or just believe, it's not the Gospel after all. Compel him (though you do not have the right to) to start, maybe, a smaller business for you. If he cheerfully does, it could be an indicator that he will do bigger things. Do you still remember what the Bible says: He that is faithful in little is faithful in much.

4. DISCUSS THE MARGINS:
You are a woman, I believe, with dreams and goals. A savvy young girl poised for greatness, whose primary function as a wife is not to mop the floor, wash dishes, cook good foods and make babies. You've got a career life and a margin should be drawn between it and your marital life. I also believe you got goals to accomplish before you turn 30. Ask him how he intends to help you achieve those goals.

5. NEVER GIVE IN TO PRESSURE:
I understand the pressure by the African society on her girl child in getting married. It isn't your last chance, Baby. You are beautiful, intelligent and people tend to like you. You know this. I remember you once told me, "I no be bad market." Appreciate yourself and never take that step except you are sure you want to. The future holds a lot.

6. YOUR DAD, YOUR COUNSELOR:
I have not had the opportunity to meet with any of your parents, but somehow from what I have learned, dad is shrewder than mum (I'm not a diviner. It's just an opinion. I could be wrong). Discuss your man with him expressing the fears and confidence you have in him (your man), I'm sure he (dad) will have something very useful to tell you. Never ignore his advice.

7. AFTER THE WEDDING:
Don't get married to a ghost who will leave you for another woman in an unknown country for years in the guise of searching for endless business opportunities. I know of a victim, my mum’s best friend, then. She got married to a man, a US Naval Officer, in Owerri, in December 2001. The wedding was the talk of town as cash was lavished. The young man traveled back to the States early February 2002 promising her to come see her once in a while. The lady pleaded to go with him but he insisted that it won't be necessary as he plans to return home and start up a new life with her soon. He traveled back and that's all the lady and my mum saw of him. You think he could be dead? NO! He was seen shopping in Las Vegas in early 2013 by one of the friends of the lady who attended the wedding and had traveled to the city.

8. THE BALL IS IN YOUR COURT:
I don't have anything much to say here. It is your life, your decision. Always be true to yourself and your findings about him. Remember to trust your judgement. Your decision is ultimate.

Consider the eight points critically before December 30. I wish you the best marriage can offer. I love you. Have a nice day.
If u are not ready free d babe.

It has her choice afterall no man was made fo r a particular lady and vice versa
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by dapsonlou(m): 11:33am On Aug 31, 2015
stjudas:
I see the kind of pictures he sends to her. The way he talks on phone like a tout (no beefing). He's even been to jail and she still isnt sure of his crime.
My girl the girl made her Choice, it's time to mind your own business and find someone else. Move on. A girl that's dating you and another guy in absentee is not the girl for you. U need a Woman that will hold down the forth when you are away not one you will be worry about who is keeping her Warm.
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by missmary(f): 11:34am On Aug 31, 2015
2sex:
nice set of teeth
Thanks o
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by otr1(m): 11:39am On Aug 31, 2015
Why waste your time advising your girl- not even your ex yet- who is planning to get married to another man against doing suchhuh

It's not your problem if the marriage doesn't work out.
It's another case if she's your sister.

This is only an opportunity for you to get a better babe. Just grab it.
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Ifyjuli25(f): 11:39am On Aug 31, 2015
Husband for hire... Obodo oyibo husbands
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Topmost2015(m): 11:53am On Aug 31, 2015
Anyway, my own opinion is simple on this matter. It's so common to see good gal fall in love with the wrong guy, i have even seen a lady who is madly in love with a married man thereby ignoring single guys around her. You have done your own part for her so she won't learn from her own mistakes but if she insist let her be and the best thing you can do for her is to pray for her that sge wakes up b4 it's too late for her to make a U-turn (like the name of one area in Lagos). I believed there's nothing prayer cannot do. If you continue to make her see the reason not continue with the guy she will still stay with him, even they arrested both of them together, even if she cry all day for the guy or the way he treat or talk to her. But the only thing that can change things for her is prayer, stop advising her for she won't listen, instead pray for her, there's nothing prayer cannot do.
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by braine(m): 11:55am On Aug 31, 2015
cyprus000:
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Your opine.
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Oyinbo. Keep forming English. cheesy
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by SonOfTheLion(m): 11:57am On Aug 31, 2015
Jhenny:
she is just in her 3rd yr and she is hell bent on getting married this yr?.. Anyway,its her priority. If she wont listen to you,leave her alone. I'm very sure she wont listen anyway. Do all u can to convince her to be patient but if she is still hell bent on marrying d guy then let her be.
That's the spirit jhenny.. good one
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by 400billionman: 12:00pm On Aug 31, 2015
stjudas:
I see the kind of pictures he sends to her. The way he talks on phone like a tout (no beefing). He's even been to jail and she still isnt sure of his crime.
Leave her, she has seen money or signs of money.

Mind your own business. .. Gbam !
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by 400billionman: 12:03pm On Aug 31, 2015
Some girls be like any guy abroad is okay.

Even India. shocked
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by cyprus000: 12:04pm On Aug 31, 2015
braine:
Oyinbo. Keep forming English. cheesy
cheesycheesytongue
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Nobody: 12:10pm On Aug 31, 2015
cheesy
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by 400billionman: 12:13pm On Aug 31, 2015
cyprus000:
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Baba, I am not saying you want to make decision for her.
All I am saying is that. point out repercussions on this issue,then leave it at that.

Cos if you are bent on persuading her,then you are indirectly compeling her. Which ironically means that you are indirectly making decision for her.
You don't have raw fact that this guy is going to mess up,its just a suspicion which may turn out wrong.

On the flipside, I code your worries but don't let it, make you do something that you may regret.

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He has an interest. He should pocket his interest. He has not even experienced much about women. It's obvious he is not very close to his gf, or she is the adventurous type of girl.

I was laughing while reading the story. The girl has her life to live. The facebook message is even as large as a text book. A girl hell bent on leaving her bf because he is not ready will stop at nothing in proving her worth to the bf.

A wise guy sits back and observe things while wishing her well. As I move around and see places everyday, I discover that beauty does not belong to one particular girl. There are many, so many beautiful women, in shades and sizes.
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Jozzy4: 12:16pm On Aug 31, 2015
@ Op

Please let her make her decision , if you influence her and she married you ! Bro , assuming things go wrong later with both of you then she will blame you and say " if not for your silly attitude , she might have gone with the guy from india ," guess what ? She will start day dreaming how life wuld be sweet if she had followed that guy . Whereas in reality following the guy might be the beginning of her problem .

To avoid future regrets , leave her to make her decision and also respect it . Its not easy i know

" but its better to endure the little pain of discipline than the big pain of regret "
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Unluvable(f): 12:25pm On Aug 31, 2015
Erracticminion:
NO ma'aam, "Observation is the best teacher" smiley
That's true...
One might not survive the teachings of the experience to actually learn
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by cyprus000: 12:26pm On Aug 31, 2015
400billionman:
He has an interest. He should pocket his interest. He has not even experienced much about women. It's obvious he is not very close to his gf, or she is the adventurous type of girl.

I was laughing while reading the story. The girl has her life to live. The facebook message is even as large as a text book. A girl hell bent on leaving her bf because he is not ready will stop at nothing in proving her worth to the bf.

A wise guy sits back and observe things while wishing her well. As I move around and see places everyday, I discover that beauty does not belong to one particular girl. There are many, so many beautiful women, in shades and sizes.
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On point bro cool

You viewed from same binocular as me.


The embolded: grincheesy
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Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by MzCorleone(f): 12:29pm On Aug 31, 2015
Felixitie:
NLANDERS, jollificate with me. Today is my birthday,,give me just 100 likes.cheers
Abeg no vex,you want use the likes collect money from bank??
Re: She's getting married to the wrong person. Pls, advice. by Nobody: 12:35pm On Aug 31, 2015
huh
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