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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by streetzdreamz(m): 8:05am On Sep 06, 2015
raayah:


Sigh... we are all going to hell fire.
have always told you to personalize your assertions, same way you said deeper life breeds like rat, when in essence it ought to be a personal statement, now you used the word "we", there ain't no we after death, it's you and your ass alone, OK you do masturbate, so? Who gives a two hot fudge about that? I told you that day, you just one of d numerous back sliders who can't cope with the truth the church preaches and ends up painting the church black, what most people don't realize is that there is a clear distinction betwixt morals and religious laws, @topic this thread is useless, I mean what's the point? Y"al keep pointing accusing fingers at each other, this stuff is wrong, that stuff ain't right, this is a sin, that one ain't, hence you are hell bound....... Getting mortal justifications for some actions are nauseating, once you go through an act and your conscience ain't pricking you, then ion see the need for asking another man if it's wrong or right, either you masturbate or not, a sin or not, should be from your personal conviction and not what others says, between all the Bible frowned at is lust, which begets all other forms of sexual immorality, once you can control your mind from straying, then ion see the need for masturbation, and if you can't, go ahead and masturbate, or go f**k a hoe when you are out of time, you'd know if your decision was perfect or not.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by menesheh(m): 8:05am On Sep 06, 2015
emmanuel596:

Don't shit is a sin pls don't lead people astray


How is it evil
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Tjayjosh(m): 8:26am On Sep 06, 2015
uzolexis:


how did u come to this conclusion that it's not glorifying God N u even said clearly, it's not clearly explained cos I don't see it on this ur bible quotation. Pls expantiate.
The bible never mentions whether or not masturbation is a sin. However, we can infer from the gospel of Matthew 5:27-30. Where Jesus speaks against having lustful thoughts and then says,
“If your right hand causes you to
sin, cut it off and throw it away.”
While there are parallels between
this passage and masturbation, it
is unlikely that masturbation was
what Jesus was alluding to.
While the Bible nowhere explicitly
states that masturbation is a sin,
there is no question as to
whether the actions that lead to
masturbation are sinful.
Masturbation is nearly always the
result of lustful thoughts, sexual
stimulation, and/or pornographic
images. It is almost impossible to masturbate without having lustful thoughts or pornographic images picked out of your subconscious mind. It is these problems that
need to be dealt with. If the sins
of lust, immoral thoughts, and
pornography are forsaken and
overcome, masturbation will
become a non-issue. Many
people struggle with guilty
feelings concerning
masturbation, when in reality,
the things that led to the act are
far more worthy of repentance.
There are some biblical principles
that can be applied to the issue
of masturbation. Ephesians 5:3
declares, “Among you there must
not be even a hint of sexual
immorality, or of any kind of
impurity.” It is hard to see how
masturbating can pass that
particular test.

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Atlantian: 8:38am On Sep 06, 2015
femi4:
The dangerous aspect is that when you get used to it, your satisfaction from engaging in sex will reduce drastically.
Its either you no longer enjoy sex or no matter how great the sex is, you wont be satisfy unless you masturbate

How come you know all these. You have a history of masturbation ? By the way, I dont believe in sin. I believe every action has a reaction. There is no sin, i am no sinner.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by addikt(m): 8:43am On Sep 06, 2015
Na me go still kill this Lady D.... undecided
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by olashas(f): 8:51am On Sep 06, 2015
Ilekeh:
Why are Nigerians so backwards like this?

Kilo ti e de gan? Ta ni a se? Ta lo n binu si wa? embarassed embarassed

Anyway, where in your bible did God mention "self-service"? Who told you Jesus didn't jerk off when Jazabel denied him Mouth Gig?
You are crazy grin grin grin grin
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Bigseedorf(m): 9:09am On Sep 06, 2015
Hmmmm
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by spyg1(m): 9:17am On Sep 06, 2015
dust88:
Abeg wetin be masturbation ? I no go school !
then go to church
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by uzolexis(f): 9:18am On Sep 06, 2015
Tjayjosh:

The bible never mentions whether or not masturbation is a sin. However, we can infer from the gospel of Matthew 5:27-30. Where Jesus speaks against having lustful thoughts and then says,
“If your right hand causes you to
sin, cut it off and throw it away.”
While there are parallels between
this passage and masturbation, it
is unlikely that masturbation was
what Jesus was alluding to.
While the Bible nowhere explicitly
states that masturbation is a sin,
there is no question as to
whether the actions that lead to
masturbation are sinful.
Masturbation is nearly always the
result of lustful thoughts, sexual
stimulation, and/or pornographic
images. It is almost impossible to masturbate without having lustful thoughts or pornographic images picked out of your subconscious mind. It is these problems that
need to be dealt with. If the sins
of lust, immoral thoughts, and
pornography are forsaken and
overcome, masturbation will
become a non-issue. Many
people struggle with guilty
feelings concerning
masturbation, when in reality,
the things that led to the act are
far more worthy of repentance.
There are some biblical principles
that can be applied to the issue
of masturbation. Ephesians 5:3
declares, “Among you there must
not be even a hint of sexual
immorality, or of any kind of
impurity.” It is hard to see how
masturbating can pass that
particular test.

having sexual thoughts about ur spouse is totally okay. If you don't have sexual thoughts about your spouse who should you have it about and if you n ur spouse r fine with the masturbating thing it's no problem , it is within the confines of marriage. It is also your body and you should satisfy ur sexual urges cos it's perfectly healthy.... i know you'll say stuff like your body is the temple of the holy spirit but that does not stop you from having sex with your spouse so i see no difference here.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 9:48am On Sep 06, 2015
raayah:
It depends on your relationship, if your partner is comfortable with it, go for it.

For all of you metioning me... Guess what, I MASTURBATE and I dont give two flying pigs.

Let me be sad sad

For the ladies.. Lie down on your bed tonight and spread those legs (sorry if you are on your period tongue).
Use your fingers to find the spot.. (once you find it u will know).
Now stroke it in circular motions..
Keep going, it feels like you want to pee, just keep going.
You will get to that sweet sweet land....

You're welcome wink

...For been too open and straight forward, I like u raayah!
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by GodblessNig247(m): 10:00am On Sep 06, 2015
janefrancisca:
Well marriage is for better and for worse..she should decide for herself if she loves him as a person or his manhood only. Besides who says an impotent man cannot give his wife pleasure...I will advice her to stay close to God and not give in to temptation but be faithful to her marriage covenant, her husband and Christ.

Ur thought is ingrained with trick of the light. What I expected u to say is that God should not allow us to face such dilemma and quandary that is above our carrying capacity in the context to the aforementioned.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by janefrancisca(f): 10:29am On Sep 06, 2015
GodblessNig247:


Ur thought is ingrained with trick of the light. What I expected u to say is that God should not allow us to face such dilemma and quandary that is above our carrying capacity in the context to the aforementioned.
For every dilemma or trial we face be it big or small, the power to overcome has already been given to us the day we accepted Christ as our lord and personal saviour. If God doesn't allow you face trials as christains, then how can one say he is a true christian. Gold must pass through furnace for it to come out pure.

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by teemy(m): 10:56am On Sep 06, 2015
For those claiming masturbation is a sin please readup and I hope you get a thing or two.

ALL couples masturbate. I would like to depict illustrations.

Firstly let us get the defination correct. So if a young man/woman strokes himself or herself even if not to the point of orgasm it is still masturbation.

Illustration 1
Man and wife getting ready to do the do. Man strokes himself to attain rigidity, woman sensitizes herself so her body can produce necessary vagina lubrication to avoid abbrassion. If that is not masturbation I wonder what is. Every couple masturbate at the moment of intercourse. Sometimes done by oneself or one's partner.

So in case you say they are in the sex session let's continue

Illustration 2
While in the intimacy session baby cries and spoils the mood during the time it takes hubby to soothe it back to sleep or silence. In case the man's penis has deflated he strokes back to erection at the end of end of the bed before he climbs back to enter his wife. Still ok but what if he was stroking 2 feet from the bed, 1 metre from the bed, next room, next town. If one was ok by you and the other locations were not it is distance/location you are now using as a yardstick to measure masturbation sin which was not listed so in the bible.

As far as scripture is concerned sex is sex irrespective of the acts performed. Also christ admits sex is sex either imagined or physically acted out. Masturbation is a sexual act and if the bible has wanted us to not touch our members it would have explicitly said so. We all know it stating sex outside the area of marriage is outlawed as well as same sex unions. Within the concept of marriage sex is permitted including all activities okayed by both parties involved as each has a legal avenue of exibiting his/her lust desires under a God ordained covering.

Do not place an unnecessary self edifying unscriptured burden on the certified holy matrimonied. It is like saying eat don't swallow

This however is for those who rely on christure scripture for guidance (our atheist brethren do remember this is the religion section)

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 10:59am On Sep 06, 2015
iliyande:

Prayers takes away every temptation
shut up!!
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by teemy(m): 11:07am On Sep 06, 2015
iliyande:
Prayers takes away every temptation

markmira:

shut up!!

Everyone is open to make opinion known in this open forum without the need to resort to insults. You might want to apoligise markmira.

iliyande I do agree with you but I also believe you do not tell a hungry person "God bless you" and then goodbye without settling his pocket with food or coin. Paul says you see my faith by my works. Atimes extra aid is needed.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by raayah(f): 11:16am On Sep 06, 2015
KelvinC1:



99 Likes.?
That means in every 10 group of people or friends you see, 9 of them are addictive ma.sturbators..
"GOD" this is really bad.. People are Just dying gradually withOUT knowing.. No wonder, we hardly produce any good thing scientifically and technologically because MA.STURBATIOS has damaged the BRAIN PRODUCTIVE ORGANS.. #ADOYII..

You will thank me, whenever you STOP MA.STURBATING.. Believe me..

WHY will your LiFE be Just to sit, eat and ma.sturbate.. Haba you can do more than this na..

its 143 now.. undecided
how do you know how i live my life.

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Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by KelvinC1(m): 11:18am On Sep 06, 2015
raayah:


its 143 now.. undecided
how do you know how i live my life.


by their FRUITS (words)
we shall know them..
Happy Sunday
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Laee(m): 11:22am On Sep 06, 2015
strawb:
Yess masturbation is sinful. Its the work of the flesh.

"for a couple whose partner is hardly around" ?
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by GodblessNig247(m): 11:31am On Sep 06, 2015
janefrancisca:
For every dilemma or trial we face be it big or small, the power to overcome has already been given to us the day we accepted Christ as our lord and personal saviour. If God doesn't allow you face trials as christains, then how can one say he is a true christian. Gold must pass through furnace for it to come out pure.

I didnt say there will not be temptations, off course there should be but it should not be above ur ability to overcome them. I can not really place where it is written in the bible.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Tjayjosh(m): 11:33am On Sep 06, 2015
uzolexis:


having sexual thoughts about ur spouse is totally okay. If you don't have sexual thoughts about your spouse who should you have it about and if you n ur spouse r fine with the masturbating thing it's no problem , it is within the confines of marriage. It is also your body and you should satisfy ur sexual urges cos it's perfectly healthy.... i know you'll say stuff like your body is the temple of the holy spirit but that does not stop you from having sex with your spouse so i see no difference here.
The question is essentially this: if
a husband and wife are
separated for a long period of
time, and have each other’s
permission to do it, and can do it
without pornography or lustful/
immoral thoughts, would that
mean it is not a sin to
masturbate? The most common
situation in which this question
arises is that of spouses
separated due to service in the military or sent on official assignment. It is true that, if a person
is used to having sex and a
significant amount of time
passes without sex, sexual
tension increases. This
physiological sexual tension can
make it more difficult to resist
sexual temptation, whether in
the form of adultery or
pornography. Masturbation can
relieve this tension. So, what
about this situation? Would this
be an instance when it is not a
sin to masturbate?
The best answer to this is
“perhaps.” Having your spouse’s
permission would turn 1
Corinthians 7:4 into a non-issue.
There being absolutely no
pornography/lust or immoral
thoughts/desires would remove
the clearly sinful aspects that are
almost always linked with
masturbation. But, with this
situation, a very important
question is being overlooked.
What is the alternative? What
would happen if a person in this
situation did not masturbate? To
say that he/she would be
incapable of resisting temptation
is to neglect the power of the
indwelling Holy Spirit ( 1 John 4:4)
. The Bible instructs us to flee
sexual temptation ( 1 Corinthians
6:18, 10:13; 2 Timothy 2:22). The
Bible does not tell us to find ways
to make the temptation less
powerful.
So, while it might not be a sin for
a person in the above situation
to masturbate, the Bible tells us
to make decisions with more
certainty than “might,” “maybe,”
or “perhaps.” Romans 14:23
says, “Everything that does not
come from faith is sin.” Romans
14:5 indicates that we are to be
“fully convinced” before we do,
or do not do, something. The fact
that “is it still a sin?” is even
being asked is proof of a lack of
assurance and evidence of not
being fully convinced. Asking a
question like “Is ______ not a sin
IF…?” is dangerous at its core.
While “if something is a sin, it is
always a sin” is not universally
true, it is much more biblical than
trying to find situations in which
a sin is no longer sinful.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by joehis2013: 11:34am On Sep 06, 2015
LatestTrend:
That's bushhsiit baby. Masturbation is not good. tongue

Without having sexual thoughts, the feeling can't be developed into urge.

Control your mind before it starts controlling you. grin

What if its sexual thoughs of your partner, is it still sin
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by biggy1528: 11:34am On Sep 06, 2015
Pple lik pretending nd condeming tins. Slf service is beta dan visiting brothel nd get infected
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 11:42am On Sep 06, 2015
All u religious idiots plz shut d fuuuck up!! In diz world we all are sinners,during sexual intercouse do u remember God?? hell no! Pastor chris,tb joshua,oyedipo if any of dem dare deny this fact i will give him a crazy slap/ as long as u stay on earth u a sinner/ U watch too much tv#SIN!/ u re a pastor yet u log in fb the first tin u see is sister grace selfie exposing her breast..u liked it at first then u later realised its a sin? "BASTARD"#SIN/ ur mummy nd daddy goes to church 5 tyms a week yet last nyt they had marathon sex,who taught dem dat??# sin, u eat too much #sin/ u re using galaxy s5 nd planing to buy the s6edge why a guy at ur church dosent hav a phone #sin/ u like cronaldo more than messi yet u read the bible verse which say's "lov everyone equally"#sin. we all are sinners beta stop fooling urselfs.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Pamelayoung: 11:47am On Sep 06, 2015
emusmith:

Hmm yea...So, how do they cope?
An idle mind is d devil's workshop, they should be busy with smx n not allow d mind 2 strale.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by harry509: 11:49am On Sep 06, 2015
emusmith:
join them dey read, lol
ok.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Emy4u(m): 12:08pm On Sep 06, 2015
Hmmmmm....God of mercy!

quote author=raayah post=37482140]It depends on your relationship, if your partner is comfortable with it, go for it.

For all of you metioning me... Guess what, I MASTURBATE and I dont give two flying pigs.

Let me be sad sad

For the ladies.. Lie down on your bed
tonight and spread those legs (sorry if you are on your period tongue).
Use your fingers to find the spot.. (once you find it u will know).
Now stroke it in circular motions..
Keep going, it feels like you want to pee, just keep going.
You will get to that sweet sweet land....

You're welcome wink[/quote]
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by BrainnewsNg(f): 12:15pm On Sep 06, 2015
danduj:
you also masturbate
You mean your WIFE?
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 12:18pm On Sep 06, 2015
SIN: Any activity that can inflict harm on somebody else. Going by this standard definition, masturbation is not a sin.
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by femi4: 12:22pm On Sep 06, 2015
Atlantian:


How come you know all these. You have a history of masturbation ? By the way, I dont believe in sin. I believe every action has a reaction. There is no sin, i am no sinner.
There is no big deal in it, we ve all been there one time or the other.

I m not here to argue whether its sin or not but what I m sure of is that excessive masturbation can ruin your sex life
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 12:24pm On Sep 06, 2015
chichriso:
it is sin to do ''self service'' otherwise known as MASTURBATION, God frowns at it, therefore it is better that the couple stay together at all times to avoid the anger of God in such marriage .


.......And if let's say the husband or wife is often away for periods of time due to work or even missionary activities, what happens then??
Re: Is Self Servicing A "SIN" For A Couple Whose Partner Is Hardly Around? by Nobody: 12:25pm On Sep 06, 2015
Pamelayoung:

An idle mind is d devil's workshop, they should be busy with smx n not allow d mind 2 strale.


Are you trying to infer that sexual feelings are from the pit of hell First off, Are you married?

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