Idowuogbo:
@ damiso & kimoni

Ati e po ta wa anaemic.

Mehn I hate them iron tablets I swear. I find it difficult to swallow

Damiso,ndo ooo....na stress dey trigger my own.

Idowuogbo:
@ damiso & kimoni

Ati e po ta wa anaemic.

Mehn I hate them iron tablets I swear. I find it difficult to swallow

Damiso,ndo ooo....na stress dey trigger my own.

Kimoni:


My e-sisters, a bo n be by God's grace

Me I dey pack all the tablets throway as soon as I born finish ni o

It is well

Timbuktou:
BoboYekini; I have to admit, TV is right about honing one's skills in marriage. There's nothing you would learn having sex outside marriage that you couldn't learn after getting married. It isn't rocket science, and all it takes is two willing minds and participants and patience.

Firstly, how would the woman know she isn't being satisfied if she hadn't been satisfied before getting married? . So, she begins to get frustrated and impatient and might act out in resentment against him at best, or might even step out on the man or divorce him because he's lousy in bed. The irony however is that she has given what belongs to this man to other men and he's been short-changed both before and after marriage because she gave her best (her innocence and freshness) to other undeserving men and is angry at him for her indiscretions. And you should know that before the sexual revolution, the world was fine with relatively "unsatisfied" women. We went to the moon and space, raised healthier humans and homes were definitely happier. Most religions and cultures preach virginity till marriage for good reason; it makes sex in marriage less complicated, also Okafor's law doesn't come into play.

Furthermore, most of these complainers don't know how to do the thing sef. Speaking from experience, the ones who know how to do are more vocal and participatory and you can feed off that energy and openness and do what should be done. It's the ones that lie stiller than the bed that often come up with compaints of not being satisfied. So, I wouldn't pay too much mind to such. It's a matter of a self-analysis really. You should know if you're putting in the effort or not.

Ultimately, teach your daughters, and sons to wait till marriage. The world would be a happier place if they did.

Kimoni:


My e-sisters, a bo n be by God's grace

Me I dey pack all the tablets throway as soon as I born finish ni o

It is well

BoboYekini:
Much obliged boss. But I regret that I cannot agree with you.
True, the world would be a better place if we all married as virgins. But I am not one and chances of getting married to one are next to nil. Still the dynamics of sexual intercourse are such that the man has to put in all the work, and will be judged by often times a relatively more experienced female.

Not to drag out the issue, I think every single adult male should know his way to a respectable gentleman's club when he is between relationships or if his girl will not do(in which case he might want to chuck her to the curb - topic for another day)

bellong:


Na every year you dey born?

Reminds me of one of my secondary school mathematics teacher who was always pregnant every year. To us, she was the best invigilator we had during exams as she usually take a back seat for short nap after distributing exam questions and answer scripts. Any exam she invigilate, we usually don't record failure (collabo things )

Timbuktou:


No, the man doesn't have to put in all the work. I would find it hard marrying a more experienced female to be honest, that usually implies a high number of partners and sessions on her part. I'd advise you go for the relatively inexperienced as that's closest to virginity as you can get. Besides, the more partners an individual has had, the more likely they are to step out in the marriage. Best believe, there's nothing you'd learn before marriage that you can't learn afterwards with regard to sex and I'm talking even the freakiest of styles and positions.

When you say gentleman's club do you mean it in the real sense of the phrase or the more recent, corrupted forms of the expression? If the latter, then I'd disagree. A man should be able to close a deal in less than a week in our current sexually revolutionised climes if he's such a stud and can't go on a sabbatical.

BoboYekini:
Haha but that's the issue, Women expect(want) you to come ready. How you get the experience be damned.

BoboYekini:
Much obliged boss. But I regret that I cannot agree with you.
True, the world would be a better place if we all married as virgins. But I am not one and chances of getting married to one are next to nil. Still the dynamics of sexual intercourse are such that the man has to put in all the work, and will be judged by often times a relatively more experienced female.
Not to drag out the issue, I think every single adult male should know his way to a respectable gentleman's club when he is between relationships or if his girl will not do(in which case he might want to chuck her to the curb - topic for another day)

BoboYekini:
Haha well you got me there. I owe these call girls a lot of my skill set, hence my recommendation.
You sound like you would be happy with one partner for life. Is this your natural inclination or borne out of religious/moral sentiments?

TV01:
...Monogamy as a choice is clearly of greatest long-term good for society. And if it means some sublimating or control of inordinate or willfuly expressed libido, then so be it.

But back to your earlier assertions - most of which I consider somewhat suspect; what would you do, if with your skillset "well honed", you married a girl who was a virgin or relatively inexperienced/prudish?


TV

BoboYekini:
First, monogamy is only advised for females. Sounds sexist( isn't this a boys' thread anyway?) but the cost to society of a woman's indiscretions are graver than the man's. Think Sperm Wars, cuckoldry e.t.c.

BoboYekini:
As far back as civilization goes, the rites of passage of any young male into manhood include losing his virginity and being encouraged to continue having as much sex as possible.

BoboYekini:
Not so for women. Fact. And it worked out well for everyone.

BoboYekini:
Till today, the expectation is that the man should be more experienced in the ways of the world than his woman. All women especially hold this view. Which is the reason I raised the issue of honing one's skills prior to marriage.

BoboYekini:
And that leads to your question- if I married a virgin/inexperienced(prudish/frigid is out of the question as we would have examined the issue early in the relationship) woman, I would be happy to teach her. The learning curve for women is much less steep than as for men.

BoboYekini:


Haha well you got me there. I owe these call girls a lot of my skill set, hence my recommendation.

You sound like you would be happy with one partner for life. Is this your natural inclination or borne out of religious/moral sentiments?

Kimoni:




Bellong, won o kin ka omo folomo o I sha don born pass one.

Growing up, we were a football team in my house so I still have a long way to go sef

In every good thing, I must surpass my parent's records

afrobaby:
I thought this thread is for boys, girls don enter, shoo? We ladies, we dey like to always put our eyes and ears every where. I must say, that is why men can't do without US.

Ladies/girls in the house, I hail o.

Any woman here, no way, we are all still girls

TV01:
Way too many assertions for me here ;



Not sexist, true! One to many relationships will always suit and work better for males. That's biology as much as anything else.

It also means Alphas will build up harems and betas lose out. A whole heap of men won't have the problem of meeting womens sexual expectations in marriage as they will not be any women fo rthem to marry !


Nope, it was slaying a wild beast - typically barehanded ! Or being "blooded" in war or hunting. Pure acts of manliness.


Nope. Societies quickly become aware that sexuality - and yes, I agree, particularly female - had to be controlled for the common good. And while females typically bear most of the burden and stigma for this, the restraint must be on both sexes.

One rule for men and another for women does not work on a large scale. A few outliers notching up huge counts, should not unduly destabilise things, but most people making out with most everyone else will.


Nope. Whilst promiscuity is not stigmatised in men as it is in women - per above - it is not demanded or expected - especially in marriage. Sexual proficiency may well be considered a plus by some women, but upfront, it is not a main criteria for female mate selection.

Inexperience just means you are a learner, not a failure - I should trademark that


And likewise, she should be happy for you to learn, grow and develop. In as much as men are typically the more active partners, and even if I pass on disuting the relative "learning curves", most of that can be learnt within a year - and quite a lot during a decent length honeymoon .

I also note your "examined" point. You see as I always tell champions of testing; any examination or test can only provide a snapshot. There's even the possibility that the snapshot will be photoshopped - some women will do what they have to, in order to "seal the deal" .

Ho wmany of my clients complain that "she was like a rabbit when we were dating, but as soon as we married, it literally dried up". Some of these even before children 0!

There is no way of being certain how things will pan out - not just long-term, with all the influencing factors and possible situations - but even from immediately after marriage.


TV

Timbuktou:


Hehehe. I understand your bias. Fond memories

It's a moral thing. A contract has to be honoured right?

bellong:


Na every year you dey born?


Reminds me of one of my secondary school mathematics teacher who was always pregnant every year. To us, she was the best invigilator we had during exams as she usually take a back seat for short nap after distributing exam questions and answer scripts. Any exam she invigilate, we usually don't record failure (collabo things )

Kimoni:


Thank you for kindly taking the time to explain to Pickabeau.
Pick, you get it now?

Balance and equality - do these two words means the same in the home/marriage context? I don't think so.

My simple twisted layman's definition - equality is like sharing everything (finances et al.) in a 50:50 ratio eg we share the bills equally, contribute to projects equally, divide house chores equally etc Trying to find a balance is trying to ensure that whatever part of the job you are taking up, you are not taking up more portion in total than the other party. Everything do not have to be equally divided in arriving at a balanced, unskewed point. This is me thinking aloud oo

bellong:


Na every year you dey born?


Reminds me of one of my secondary school mathematics teacher who was always pregnant every year. To us, she was the best invigilator we had during exams as she usually take a back seat for short nap after distributing exam questions and answer scripts. Any exam she invigilate, we usually don't record failure (collabo things )

NashvilleTN:


Bro, that sounds like my maths teacher. Is her name Mrs Afam or was is Asam?

pickabeau1:

coogar:


your "ladies" are at it again.

coogar:


your "ladies" are at it again.

coogar:


your "ladies" are at it again.

coogar:


your "ladies" are at it again.

freecocoa:
Lmao, see the men hiding their 'bear beared' faces, like they haven't seen b00bz before, smh.

pickabeau1:

Free the Nip-ples!!!

RoyalRoy:


Chai... See as the funky mallams dey hide their faces from seeing a very "free show"!!!
Lmao.

lilmax:
they don't want to be submissive, so this is a way of showing it

coogar:








you guys should have seen what happened to the ladies after.....
never mess with muslim brothers.....the babes got thoroughly beaten.

freecocoa:
And you are laughing?

Those men are crazy.