goodgate:
His posts depicts Pride,Arrogance and WICKEDNESS. He is already feeling like a demi-god. I pity the Lady sha.

Of cos he is a demi God. N'a him be the elder for the household


Whatever he says will come to pass
Someone who is never interested in marriage
How do you think he will be happy seeing his 20somthing yr old cousin buying "car" for his fiancee.

This kin people no dey like happiness for others.
The strength he is using in plotting evil should be channeled into getting the aunt a proper care

So many women would cross ther legs and have their mother serve them food, finish eating and give the mother in law the plate to wash.

These same sets will scream to high heavens if their daughter in law do same to them.

I wish una husband well o.
Kai!

Chillisauce:


No adios me jor. enter market and help these women recovering from sickness.

Have you even bought diapers for the baby sef.

Even if na baby powder sef.
Chai
N'a wah for you o.
You no only wicked. You Come stingy on top.
Your case N'a deliverance for mountain of fire and brimstone

chilli, I ve been laughing so hard like one who is high on Columbia weeds. Abeg leave Op alone ooo.

Lol @ comments...continue reading

ismart:
she is not involved... SHE ISN'T. Her visit is more like a force so as not seem like no human.

How is she involved? You tell me.

I knew people, especially the ladies, wouldn't believe it because the story is just too heavy on the said girl.

Before child birth has she ever done anything worthwhile for her MIL? Is it her clothes she washed, did she ever cooked? Etc NO!

Sometimes you guys need to put your own mother in the picture.

In life I believe we all need to SHOW we have a heart. I don't need to have millions before I can help you. There are ways I can show you I care, countless ways.

Can same be said about this girl? NO!

Okay let's take just yesterday as a case study.

MIL calls DIL and informed her she has arrived home. A sensible girl could have said okay mummy... Who will cook for you. Okay i will be there by so and so time to check on you. Absolutely nothing! And I can bet you that she wont show up in more than a week! Yes, she is that predictable already.

Would she do same to her own mother?

She should help in little ways that's all I am saying. She is not helping at all and that's the problem.

This lady came from a different background so you can't expect her to do what you expect her to do without you telling her. Please talk to her and get a maid for your aunt because this lady can't do all what you listed here alone and don't expect too much from her, please.

Chillisauce:
Diary of an angry black man

The hustle is real. OP is probably a 45yr old man who is still eating from hand to mouth and is angry that the small girl is driving car even before marrying their money bank.

Girl had a surgery
MIL had a surgery

Girl still nursing a baby
MIL nursing no one but weak and old.

OP had no surgery
OP not nursing anyone .
OP is still young
OP couldn't arrange for a maid for his BLOOD relation who is sick

And he is here ranting like a $#/@ when he should be in the market cooking for his beloved aunty and helping their in law to be with her baby.

Wickedness in high places.

Nigerian men Change o.
Wickedness won't do you any good.

..... haha!!D ...no be small 'Diary of an angry Blackman'...you go fear ranting now ..lazy op

..@Chillisauce's comments here are so hilarious..i don laugh tire!

Shemmyglo:

This lady came from a different background so you can't expect her to do what you expect her to do without you telling her. Please talk to her and get a maid for your aunt because this lady can't do all what you listed here alone and don't expect too much from her, please.

I just had to comment because I realised that there are so few "wife" around here and it's just complete waste engaging folks.

There seem to be a misconception in my writeup.

I didn't imply that she should become house help automatically. What mean is that she seem to lack complete home maintenance... The like that won't even collect a broom from her MIL if she saw her sweeping.

Come on people, is this how you guys treat your MIL or would like to be treated by your DIL?

There is what is expected of a wife to show she has proper home training. This girl is lacking in that department completely.

But since people here don't see anything wrong with such attitude, I do hope their future DIL treat them in same manner and even give them plates to wash or clothes to wash and fall back on bed watching movie. By then they will understand better.

To those who have been defending her act, do you go to your MIL's house, wake up in the morning and do absolutely nothing? You people should know that someone is reading what is posted and you might passing wrong message.

Can you swear that you have NEVER done anything in anyway to show your mother in law that you are well brought up or where you came from they don't have elders there?

Jehovah!

I rest my case.

All i see is a hungry little guy envious of the material stuffs bought for the said girl
wetin come be dubai abi iphone again
i blame the girl sha...Marriage first before pikin

and who wants to kick her out?
dont you have sister
Please get a more tasking job,so you stop being petty

Seriously though, I don't understand how excuses can be made for the young lady's behaviour, it can't be fair.

Poor idle family
The cousin is the only one with a decent job
Eye dey pepper ismart
them buy car,prolly tokunbo sef
iphone na how much.Chei the trip to SA dey pepper you because you never even go ghana
Kpele may the Good Lord visit you soon,just as he visited your cousin

Kimoni:
hilarious

OP, has anybody spoken to the lady at any point in time to ask why she has not been helping out as expected? Do you realise she might not even be aware that you guys are not happy with her? Remember she is coming from a different family and not familiar with how you guys run your things...

It is this break down in communication that turn MILs against their DILs. Expectations needs to be expressly communicated and not assumed.

Kimoni, do you really mean this?

It's like findings excuse and getting one abi? I de laff!

Eeser:
Huurrr... This lady need to change her ways fast. The poster above me seems to think I am a man of many words.

Una no gada

ismart:
I remember saying having a child for me isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house.

People attacked me without understanding why I made such statement.

Some 4 months ago, my cousin had his first child. My aunt, being the mother in law to be made sure she (daughter in law to be) got the best care. She took care of the daughter in law to be, bathed her grandchild every morning, afternoon and night.

After a month plus, my aunt followed her son to his house and continued with the care for another 1 month plus.

However due to an accident she had in 2012, she had to undergo proper surgery to straighten her leg because after the accident, no surgery was done but just traditional treament which didn't do much as the leg, a few CM above the ankle was bent and you can see the protruding bone.

Being hardworking woman, she did a lot of works with the leg.

I travelled to Lagos and when I returned, I was informed that she was in the hospital. I had to move to her sisters house same day so I can check on her.

On gettting there I saw her on the hospital bed. Few weeks later she was discharged from hospital.

This daughter in law to be was rarely around. When she comes, she would barely spend up to an hour before leaving. She has NEVER washed my aunt's clothes. Through out the 2 months that my aunt was discharged from hospital, the girl NEVER bought anything for my aunt as a mother in law to her. She NEVER stayed to take care of her. Absolutely NOTHING can be accounted for as a gain she contributes to the family system.

My aunt's only daughter died early 2000s and this girl could have easily played that role.

Last time she visited I was told she was around I didn't bother to come out to see her cos I was just to displeased.

While we were away, robber buggled into my aunt's house. This girl came, she couldn't arrange her mother in law's clothes nor sweep the room she occupied when she delivered. The best she could do was brought out her iphone, one my cousin bought, and started taking pictures of the damages and calling my cousin on phone to even magnify and exaggerate what happened.

In that two months I have been the one who would lift my aunt, get her crunches, wash her clothes, follow her to the hospital etc.

Today my aunt finally returned to her home after doctor told her that she can start putting the leg on ground while she walks. She had to call her sister's daughter to come and cook for her. Though I had wanted to do the cooking.


While I was with her in her room. She told me that the daughter in law was feeling pompous. I said to her that I have noticed but wondered why she kept quiet all along. She said she was just taking her time. So I told her what I expected of her daughter in law to be and that this problem had better be nipped in the bud before it's too late. I asked her what if she was quite older than her current age such that she can't move around. We talked more at length and she told me her mind. She also told me that she called the girl and informed her that she has arrived home. The girl didn't even bother to ask about cooking or gave any hint if she would come.

The son is currently out of the country. He bought this girl a car, took her South Africa and Dubai on vacation.

My aunt told me that while I was away at one time, they were making plans for introduction. This girl, though not yet strong cos of child delivery, made a decision to start business. My aunt suggested that wait for you to heal and you know you had this child via CS. She flaired up and I learned earlier she said what right does my aunt have to dictate for her. There was a serious quarel between her and my cousin.

My aunt has resolved that once her son comes back, they will discuss and possibly put a stop to her madness.

I have seen this game played over and over again. A girl brings out her real colours after a child or after marriage. That's why I said to myself, a child isn't a guarantee that a woman will remain in my house but her manners.

This girl in question is completely nothing to write home about...

But u r writing to seun about her nah.

I haven't heard the girls side, so I can't conclude. But I can say from your story is that your family is getting unduly involved in the private lives of the couple to be.

KanwuliaJara:
After all this noise, is the husband-to-be complaining?
If not, abeg carry ya mouth go bury for evil forest!

Lessons learned: NEVER EXPECT FRIENDSHIP OR LOVE TO BE RECIPROCAL!!!!

Ok you can go and sit down now. you have been noticed.

cococandy:


Just listen to yourself.

How will your future wife give her all to the marriage when the house is all yours and she's a tenant.
Such high handedness.

.cococandy which one ibeg.

ismart:
I just had to comment because I realised that there are so few "wife" around here and it's just complete waste engaging folks.

There seem to be a misconception in my writeup.

I didn't imply that she should become house help automatically. What mean is that she seem to lack complete home maintenance... The like that won't even collect a broom from her MIL if she saw her sweeping.

Come on people, is this how you guys treat your MIL or would like to be treated by your DIL?

There is what is expected of a wife to show she has proper home training. This girl is lacking in that department completely.

But since people here don't see anything wrong with such attitude, I do hope their future DIL treat them in same manner and even give them plates to wash or clothes to wash and fall back on bed watching movie. By then they will understand better.

To those who have been defending her act, do you go to your MIL's house, wake up in the morning and do absolutely nothing? You people should know that someone is reading what is posted and you might passing wrong message.

Can you swear that you have NEVER done anything in anyway to show your mother in law that you are well brought up or where you came from they don't have elders there?

Jehovah!

I rest my case.

OP I totally get your angle, lmao@ "jehovah" but then you are going about it the wrong way.

The lady is not really a nice person but I don't think it's fair to demand that from her, kindness or niceness is something one decide on their own to give, if your cousin knows she's not kind and still decided he wants her, then that's his business, you have no place saying she is supposed to be kicked out.

Let your cousin make that decision on his own.

KanwuliaJara:


Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

sory 4 u babe

ismart:
bring your toto to confirm if I be Eunuch

lolzzz.

wat wud it cost to act nicely & accurate?.......women sumtimes act worst dat fishes

KanwuliaJara:


Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

so, if it happen to be her mother/husband was in dat condition, she will do d same? do u understand d meaning of LOVE? btw, hw old r u?

Due to experience I've heard from people likewise a close experience from relations, women need to start dropping some attitudes that shouldn't be found on them, honestly a lot is going wrong in every homes and its high time our women realize that our forefather's time, their wives are so respectful and very commited, u don't need to throw her out but she will definitely throw herself out soon, I'm sure there is a lot to be uncovered abt her, note my words..having a child for you they begin their stupid acts. Men we dey try o

Whose business is all these trash that makes FP. People should try as much as possible to keep their family, relationship and social life private.

Well in my own opinion, it seems you have a high expectation for her, you want her to wash, cook, sweep do all the house chores for her mother in law, which is not a bad thing tho but one thing have noticed with our society is that some family members see a wife as a "slave" or "maid" who must do all the cooking, cleaning etc for everybody. Just like some people have said I think what your your aunt needs is a maid, the lady cannot do all what you are saying it's not possible, she has a life of her own and she has a baby to take care and you and your aunt should stop gossiping about her and scheming to get her out.

okay! http://www.bummyla.com

KanwuliaJara:
After all this noise, is the husband-to-be complaining?
If not, abeg carry ya mouth go bury for evil forest!

Lessons learned: NEVER EXPECT FRIENDSHIP OR LOVE TO BE RECIPROCAL!!!!

Wow... I was about saying d husband to-be married Instagram babe, never know shallow minded like her even plenty for NL.
Well, ain't blame u though.. Buh am sure if ur brother falls on this trap, u gonna be the first person to shatter KEKE NAPEP to report him to ur family-head at village.

On the other hand, you will definitely reap what you sow.

Lessons learned: God will never forgive you if u ever complain about hardluck in ur relationship or marriage...cz u must "never expect friendship or love to be reciprocal."

You are a disgrace to womanhood

Chillisauce:


No adios me jor. enter market and help these women recovering from sickness.

Have you even bought diapers for the baby sef.

Even if na baby powder sef.
Chai
N'a wah for you o.
You no only wicked. You Come stingy on top.
Your case N'a deliverance for mountain of fire and brimstone

Hehehe

KanwuliaJara:


Meaning what?
To take care of young woman and to take care of A GRUMPY, OOOOOLD WOMAN na de same?

If you dey find "slave" to buy, una nor sabi wia "baby farm" dey?

The girl is smart o!
Never start what you can't finish!

you should had at least read the Op's point with some empathy, if na your mother a fellow treats like that would you be happy..... nobody talk of a making her a slave na you use your mouth talk.