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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by ApexTitan(m): 10:23pm On Sep 18, 2015 |
NashvilleTN: In an ideal situation the expected thing to do when one gets a promotion is to share the news with loved ones, share the happiness with one's spouse. That's the normal course of action but in this case it was different. Before we vilify the man in question here we also have to consider that perhaps there is an exigent condition that justifies his behaviour. Outsiders like us here are not in possession of all the factors that led him to make that decision so we'll just keep mum and carry on. On the issue of prenups I think they are a prudent course to ply but given the already skewed state of marriage laws even they are not entirely foolproof. Skilled lawyers can still enable a vengeful wife extract what her presumed due is even from men of means. I agree that life as a whole is a risk but does that mean that even the marriage institution should be reduced to the level of playing a game of Russian Roulette? I can well understand the reluctance in signing a prenup and I chuck it down to the fact that men are indeed the true romantics. Many of us keep expecting that women will love us the way we imagine. Many of us are in for a shocking surprise. 1 Like |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by 5minsmadness: 10:37am On Sep 20, 2015 |
NashvilleTN:Apologies Nashville. Are you married? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 11:21am On Sep 20, 2015 |
raumdeuter: It depends a lot on the person you married. I absolutely agree. My wife has her own job is not necessarily a spendthrift but then most women will want to show off. But it also depends on how you communicate and handle the issue. People always say communication is key - it's so cliche now, but how you communicate is even very key. You are the man of the house so you need to communicate clearly to her. If your get a 10 million naira salary increase, I think as a human you should build at least a 3 million increase in living standards. Now, if your wife is building a 10 million naira living adjustment, it is time you step in and explain to her. It is your responsibility to communicate to her why you must not spend all the money and how you need to save for the future - school fees, your own house, etc. But as I said earlier, you need to show her the projects at the end of the day. The salary increase is not for the guy to have more girlfriends or drink more Hennessey! (and this happens sometimes). If she disagrees with you and your logic, it is not the end of the world. There would always be disagreements in marriage, it's nothing new, how you handle the disagreement is what matters. The fact that you want to avoid disagreement does not mean you should do the wrong thing. A couple can always agree to disagree on an issue and still live happily ever after. She can't take the money outta your pocket. But what I feel is most important is trust. Love and trust go together. Once trust goes out of a marriage, then resentment begins to set it, because you stop believing the person. Besides, I think it is embarrasing to a couple for a husband to hear about his wife's promotion from outsiders and vice versa. I would rather tell my wife and even if we disagree on how the money should be spent, it's better than hiding the info. That trust must be upheld in my view. 5minsmadness: Almost ten years now! 6 Likes |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by edwife(f): 12:59pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Well said NashvilleTN. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Nobody: 2:11pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
Don't prenups take care of these kinda things? Why should a man still have to support the woman after they're separated? Especially when she's employed too. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by tpiander: 2:12pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
edwife: next topic, abi e remain for this one? They should free you nah, it's unbecoming someone having "wife" in her moniker yet slobering over male ass all over the place. If you no get shame, dem for get am on your behalf. 1 Like |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 2:28pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
edwife: Thanks ma'am 1 Like |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by edwife(f): 3:08pm On Sep 20, 2015 |
tpiander: Tpia na you get shame? Don't worry,i will continue praying for your case.It is well,trust me i read a lot about menopause. 7 Likes |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 7:37pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
Edwife NashvilleTN Timbuktou How market? |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Nobody: 7:43pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
pickabeau1:Relax, the season is still young . Just 7 games in, no shaking. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 7:50pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Okay oo |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by coogar: 7:54pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
pickabeau1: how's gomis doing now by the way? i told y'all.....united are back with a bang this season. catch me if you can. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 8:17pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
coogar: Hmmm Strange to see United at the top I see rooney jas kicked off his boots This Martial fellow has revved up the team Let's see |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Aminat508(f): 8:18pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 9:19am On Sep 27, 2015 |
Just seven games into the season and Chelsea are just eight points off the current leaders. Not worried at all. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by redgem(f): 9:58am On Sep 27, 2015 |
*Peeps in* this is day time so, I guess females are allowed |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Nobody: 11:34am On Sep 27, 2015 |
NashvilleTN: Very well said! I agree 100%. My parents always had a joint account and used to make EVERY decision on how the money was spent TOGETHER. We have never lacked anything in this home. However, my mother was a very economical and saving person. Therefore, trust is not only achieved by honest communication but also influenced by how reasonable and down-to-earth your spouse is. Trust must be developed and maintained by all parties involved. In this case, by the man's open communication and the woman's lack of greed and presence of economical thinking. When we were still very young and in primary school, my father travelled abroad to work for almost a year. He was sending MOST of the money he made home. His uncle asked him if he wasn't worried that my mother will spend or even waste the money. My father wasn't. When he returned home all the money was still there. My mother spent NOTHING. She was feeding us from what she made by herself. After my father's return, my parents set up a very profitable business. The rest is history |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by edwife(f): 12:03pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Not scared dear,very soon all these teams at the top will get tired and move to their respective places as usual.We all know this is between the top 4 best and Chelsea is among. While many of these teams will get comfortable,we on the other hand will be fighting harder and yesterday should tell you that we are not ready to lose or concede without fighting back.New castle thought they were done with us but we proved everybody wrong. So pick,market still fine-slow but solid. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by edwife(f): 12:11pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Mutaino7(m): 5:16pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
edwife:They won't like this.. thank God say nah here you post am or else your weavon for dey their mouth now 2 Likes |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Talon05: 6:56pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
edwife:Edwife Mourinho is chelsea's problem. He doesn't seem to be getting anything right at the moment. The only match he got it right was against Maccabi. Feminism has never been about gender equality but female equality. I won't take feminists serious until I see a feminist campaign trying to reduce the sentencing gaps between genders for the same crime. Until I see them campaigning for the things the girl mentioned and some other things, they will remain noisemakers. Feminists are just jokers anyways. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by RoyalRoy(m): 7:18pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
Mutaino7: weavon for mouth ke? Lmao. 1 Like |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by edwife(f): 8:38pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
Mutaino7: I am used to them and i don't care. Talon05: Yeah look who we have here? Been a while,trust you superb! Mou is just being naughty and mischievous as usual.My only beef with him is keeping Ivanovic , We will get it in no time,he is realising it now.We need new defenders,the centre back and full back is shit. 1 Like |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by NashvilleTN: 8:45pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
edwife: 100% agreed. The team needed some changes that didn't happen over the summer. But I am still confident we can win the EPL. Man Utd can't win, and City and Arsenal haven't been too impressive, so we are still in it. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by edwife(f): 8:50pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
NashvilleTN: Arsenal is not even in my worries...na today? City and Man U are the only contenders here for me,and City is just there.Their result will be overturned in no time,they are getting tired. Man U Depay and Martial still dey hungry them ,time will tell. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 6:31am On Sep 28, 2015 |
edwife: I hear you..lol |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Talon05: 7:47am On Sep 28, 2015 |
edwife:He's also been making shitty subs. Honestly, I can't believe Pedro completed the Newcastle game and as long as Ivanovic is in that defence, we will always be vulnerable at the back. Someone needs to speak some senses into Mou's head. |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by Kimoni: 10:49pm On Sep 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness: If you don't mind, can you shed more light on why she didn't touch the money even though they were both joint providers before he left? It's obviously not a case of "she didn't have any need to spend the money on". |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by ApexTitan(m): 4:16pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
Sensitivity by Ralph Tresvant. The anthem for Betas right there. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xhfhVSUCLY4 |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by digitsolution: 5:19pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
BoboYekini: Aptly stated!!!!
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Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 5:35pm On Oct 03, 2015 |
ApexTitan: Hahaha I see it more as a pouncer's anthem Its a nice r n b jam though |
Re: Boys Night Out Discussions by pickabeau1: 6:08pm On Oct 04, 2015 |
Edwife Must I write this after every match played by Chelsea |
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