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earthly pleasure....wat will be ur reaction had it bin d guy told u dt he is living fake life inorder to woo u?

menix:
Yes my sister in luv.. Hope we re seeing soon.

Sister in the Lord or luv bro in Christ are you inviting me for crusade

For crying out loud he is married nd av children even twins, re u gona destroy his home by coming in? Keep of go find ur own husband For crying out loud he is married nd av children even twins, re u gona destroy his home by coming in? Keep of go find ur own husband

baby you know what you are doing. out to destroy somebody's marriage and family. if I may ask where is your boyfriend ? you dumped him for gold digging.

Assuming you're married to him now and he decides to take the 3rd wife... How will you feel? I you think you won't feel a pinch, go ahead. Otherwise, ask God to send your own man and you will never regret taking the last decision in your lifetime.

honeygirl17:
That means you are in support of the love. OK menix I'll think about it

Chai...

Love is it but think about it very well. Would you pray for this if you were his first wife. You're encouraging him to divorce his wife, ehn?
If you go ahead, be well assured that that man will marry wives after you. Weigh the consequences and make the right decision.

Omotayor123:
Chai...

How are you doing ?

Young lady don't sweat it!

Yall abusing are no just follow for brain matter at all!

the christanic way: there will be a time it will be 7wives to a man, begging him just to bear his name that they don't mind raising their kids themselves.

The muslimic way : you can marry more than one wife so far you can satisfy them equally?

So what is there to be scared off? He's your dream man, loving caring rich tall and handsome! What more can you ask for? Don't let this man pass you by oooo!

NB: "after giving advise, I always end my word with I don't know though, so you can never say I ruined your life"

Peace be unto you!

VICTORIA91:
Dear NL,

I'm 25 years old, I met this guy online via chatting and before i knew, we met and we fell deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring, lovely and loving, not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly notice that he is loaded.

At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.

He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).

I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home, and i don't feel like losing this my sweet love, he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....

Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him, he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

wow, ur case is not palactable at all, to me wat u want to go into is wrong, u ave to forget dat man and pray to God 4 a single man nt a married man, ave u 4got ur bible wich says dat wat God has joined 2geda let no man put asunder. Be wise my sister, dont put urself into trouble.

ted1741:
Since you said abuse is allowed, I will go straight to it. You claim that you are not materialistic yet you shout aloud how "loaded" this man is, that makes you a materialistic girl my dear. You also said he was willing to settle you in another state and it seems you are also thinking about that option. He is able to settle you because he can afford to, again, a materialistic mind. He took you out of the shores of the country and you jumped for it. How is it that you have a good job, can afford these things and yet, extremely excited at the opportunities and doing all these things with a man you barely knew, someone you met online. You were blinded by the material things he is giving and so, failed to ask the basic questions good girls ask. It took you a while to know he is married because you never asked and you never asked because you were materialistic. How difficult is this for you to comprehend. Most girls ask right off the bat, are you married, do you have kids etc. Am sure there were times when you called and he didn't pick your calls because he was with his family. If you asked and he lied, how does that make him your dream man. He is your dream man becos he has money period. The only reason you're considering the idea of becoming his second wife is he is loaded according to you. You even belief he was forced to marry, lol, you are extremely naive and gullible young woman. Go and marry him and be prepared for a life of chaos, battle, name calling, headaches, regrets, a useless life. If you want to know whether he was forced to marry this woman, give her a call, chat her up. He is decent according to you, yet he wants to get you pregnant and jet out of the country. He took you out of the country and sampled you day in day out and hid such fundamental information of his background from you, yet you call him decent. Decent my foot. Arent you ashamed to call a con man decent. Some nigerian girls and money; you will never cease to amuse and amaze me. I say some because there are a lot of decent, good, God fearing Nigerian girls out there who will never compromise their principles and sociatla norms and values. Ask your mr. right to go and see your parents and ask for your hand in marriage and watch his reaction. Are you demented? By the way, if this man was poor, not loaded, will you be considering this marriage. If he really loves and wants to marry you, why the thought of sending you to a different state instead of keeping you in his family home so that you can bond with his other wife and children and your children bond with their siblings. Do you actually have such a low self esteem that you are willing to go on "exile" for a decent man. I wish I was near you, boil 360 degrees hot water, pour it and wake up your retarded brian from stupor, useless girl. Don't you feel bad that this man actually is using you for sexual satisfaction? Why do you believe his mumbo jumbo and cheap talks. You should be angry with him for hiding issues of his background from you just to get in between your legs instead of talking of been loaded.

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Omo wagbayii I understand the way u take enter FP continue with ur lie okay

HopeAtHand:
Theres something about Jehovahs Witnesses and brainwashing..im getting wary of them.

How that relates to this topic, i dunno, just that i didn't care to read this peice of shiit.

nw this is funny

hahahaha

galantjoe:
as for my advice. follow ur heart desire
I don't why our people perish because of they lack knowledge. our people emulate white man in bad thing. many people are condemning ur action on no just ground.

polygamy is a way and culture for Africans. if ur tradition and his allow him marrying second wife. please go ahead. even likes of many notable Nigerians married many wives. once ur husband can be able to take care and have equal love for all his wife.

equal love?what of equal heart?............for your mind naa

VICTORIA91:
Dear NL,

I'm 25 years old, I met this guy online via chatting and before i knew, we met and we fell deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring, lovely and loving, not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly notice that he is loaded.

At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.

He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).

I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home, and i don't feel like losing this my sweet love, he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....

Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him, he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

You are simply irrational and a thief,just wait and see the fire you are playing with after you married him.imagine if he can do that to a woman like you and you think all is well for now.

It will dawn on you soon

shamless idiot.no single atom of sham again.u re bleeped

Gurl, If u dont want to regret your what you have done for yourself, Just move on with your life. You will get someone better tomorrow. All the few good men have not been taken.

Dont be the other woman because, if you think u will be the last love, then you have failed. after you there will be another woman and the cycle continues.

Jah bless.

VICTORIA91:
Dear NL,

I'm 25 years old, I met this guy online via chatting and before i knew, we met and we fell deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring, lovely and loving, not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly notice that he is loaded.

At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.

He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).

I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home, and i don't feel like losing this my sweet love, he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....

Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him, he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

Note that you will not be the last. He would go ahead and get another woman and start telling her how you forced yourself to him.

He never loved the woman and he fathered 3 lovely kinds to same woman he was forced to marry?

Wake up and get out of that so called relationship as whatever you sow with this relationship, you reap as he would one day, see you as another person.

Note also that if you end up marrying this guy, your children cannot be older than the first woman's children and they will deal with you and your children in the future.

In love with a married man ke? Your behind needs serious koboko

honeygirl17:
Sister in the Lord or luv bro in Christ are you inviting me for crusade

Psalm 122 vs. 1..
I was glad when they said unto me, Let us go into the house of the LORD.

Sista do not hesitate, cous today, u shall dine with me in the temple..

VICTORIA91:
Dear NL,

I'm 25 years old, I met this guy online via chatting and before i knew, we met and we fell deeply in love.This guy is irresistible when we met and i never prayed for something more, because he was so caring, lovely and loving, not only that he is so tall and handsome as i have always prayed for. After a month we knew each other better and every minute i rang him up, he later told me and revealed to me everything about him, because he is not the flamboyant type of guy, i hardly notice that he is loaded.

At age 33 he has a lot of properties and work with a Ministry in Lagos, seconded employment with one int'l institution, he got me int'l passport and took me out of Nigeria shore for the first time in my life. I am from an average family and I'm not easily moved with material things, I'm a working class lady earning moderate salary and living well, i had a relationship before him but not a stable one.

He later revealed to me that he has something to tell me that might tear us apart, i made up my mind since it would not lead to my death, i bet i have reached my bus stop, because he is also in love with me. What a perfect match!. Until the day he bursted it out that he is married with kids and he was sweating and breathing so restlessly, waiting for me to breakup with him, i reassured him i will still love him at that, he explained he impregnated the girl and his family forced him to marry the girl...in short, three kids, two boys and a girl from the woman,(first boy and a twins).

I almost fainted, but pretended as if all is well, at least he still managed to tell me to let me decide to continue or not. We both continued and this month make our 6th month and he is already talking about our marriage, he tried divorcing the first wife, but get warned to let her be to make peace reign, i noticed he loves me so much and also loves his children too well too. He is traveling out soon to study for his PH.D. He wants me to get pregnant for him and do the needful with my family and declare his intentions of taking me as his second wife to his first wife and family...But at this stage i have doubting mind maybe i'm ready to go on or not..i don't feel like ruining the woman's home, and i don't feel like losing this my sweet love, he is not forcing me and he wants me to decide for myself....

Please help me dearies, abuse are allowed at least maybe it will straighten my brain..but i sincerely love him, he promised to settle me down in another state and assured me that all will be well.The issue is i'm so CONFUSED.

You are certainly possessed with an evil spirit, because a normal human being wouldn't say she is in love with a married man. You need serious deliverance home breaker in advance.

menix:
Psalm 122 vs. 1.. I was glad when they said unto me, Let us go into the house of the LORD.
Sista do not hesitate, cous today, u shall dine with me in the temple..

You are funny, I'm a Muslim

Princecalm:
sometimes I ask if Love and stupidity have anything in common

lmao. Seriously I fink it does

You are not in love but in lust so to say..A man told you he mistakenly impregnated a woman to have three children,yet you took that scrap as a mistake ? He did once & went back again and said it was a mistake...Very soon,he will equally lament you as a mistake in his life . He may even say his grandma imposed you on him ..never open your eyes & behave like a blind woman..your future is full of opportunities why allowing one Casanova to truncate it..Detach yourself without blinking an eye..

Truckpusher:
Freecocoa ,are you seeing what ayam seeing?

I saw it but I'm blaming the man.

In "LOVE" with a "MARRIED MAN", where existed the LOVE in this abeg?? Do Nigerian ladies love??

If the man loves you too, men are entitled to more than one wife. But dont love him because of money.

honeygirl17:
You are funny, I'm a Muslim

Chisos!!!
Today I shall dine wiv u in the mosque..

Pls sweet, give mii a muslim name cous I ve backslide already...

U don't feel like ruining d woman's home? For d fact u are aware he's married that's wat u are doing. Pheewww! Gerrara here mehn! Anyways find your way out of dat ur love

freecocoa:
I saw it but I'm blaming the man.

What are you blaming the man for ?

Truckpusher:
What are you blaming the man for ?

For not keeping his vows na.