rhymz:
what exactly is your definition of self-esteem, a woman being equal to a man in a marriage..... Let me ask you this one question, how much success are marriages where both husband and wife are assumed equal in responsibility and ability to lead and make decisions for the relationship-have been recorded with such models. A woman can never be equal to a man no matter what any feminist tell herself in a marriage. The man is the leader and the woman is his companion and is there to complement him.... All that crap about women being equal and should be left to make decisions only lead to uneccessary strife and competition that eventually leads to the high baby momma and baby daddy models we now see creeping into our society from the the West.
No man will stay in a relationship where his decisions have to always be first vetted by his wife before it passes, that's not low-self esteem, it is common sense, it calls to question his ability to lead or be trusted to lead.. .

see what I'm saying,the mentality of a Nigerian man is that the woman she always be lesser than him in everything.so even if he marries a very submissive but wealthier wife,he will still be unsatisfied just because she is above him in terms of cash.This is what wealthy women are trying to avoid

Nnemuka:
Cant you guys let Nigerian girls be?
Honestly we dont care what you guys say, if it isnt working out the way you want with nigerian girls pls let them be.

Abi naw

NaijaHulk:


Even though she might have meant no harm, subtle reminders like that especially in public can weigh a man down meeeen...

Even generally exposed men who are working up their way on their career ladders are not good enough for very rich naija women most of the time because ...

The bitter truth is that women (even the rich ones) always generally want to better their lot in life by the choice of their husbands and feel like marrying someone that is poor is settling for less so they keep waiting or searching not understanding that when you are in the 90th percentile already, your range of options is very limited (only 10% are richer than you in the first place).
The best way to explain this is that 80 or 90% of women would effect a change in attitude if suddenly they became the predominant breadwinner in the home by some means whatever it is... Only few women can keep a level head when they are in power financially... and most men cannot stand that change in attitude which belittling... Chikena

Gold diggers tend not to care, but some men can also genuinely love the rich woman sha and live with the awkwardness and slight wash that the woman will subject them to occasionally coz women will be women and that is inevitable.

So OP, my answer to your question is in the bold ooo...

Sire uv'e spoken very well, I concur with all you wrote, much respect.

obaty:
see what I'm saying,the mentality of a Nigerian man is that the woman she always be lesser than him in everything.so even if he marries a very submissive but wealthier wife,he will still be unsatisfied just because she is above him in terms of cash.This is what wealthy women are trying to avoid

How old are you? Don't use your childish assumptions if what you think I am saying or from some bullshit psychoanalysis of a person you don't know to twist what I am trying to say. The simple fact is this; a man=woman in a relationship.... Be it marriage or mere friendship, that some people or men are OK with trading roles does not make it the norm in even in western societies. What is the percentage of men who are comfortable being stay home dads and nannies as opposed to the ones that would rather do the hustle of keeping the family comfortable even in the West, the reality is that majority of the men there both white and black would rather the traditional role of a man in the relationship-the provider.

You can seat in your armchair and feign ignorance of the general realities of life but the fact remains that a man is not equal to a woman in a relationship, everybody has their roles to play, earning more salary does not make a woman head of the family that is the truth. If my wife is going to be Fronting about how she is the one buying everything in the house and feeding me and the children, I don't see how that's being submissive or me not having an ego, it is just me being lazy and taking advantage of her. Keep dreaming and thinking you live in Pluto.... Until you can advise your sister to marry a man who she can intimidate with her wealth and connection then all you are doing here is talking like a kid.

winnieberry:
Op i think d'problem comes from d'guys and our myopic,archaic societal vaalues whose states dat A man must d'wealty one.Most naija guys are intimidated by rich ladies,even on threads here,some guys feel guys should not go after rich ladies.When a man goes after rich ladies,he is a either a gold digger or gigolo,Naija guys got alot of problems wit them:date a rich babe no ,then they go fter broke ladies and start complainig she is only after my money ,for crying out wat do u wat her to be after wen she is a broke bitch?We need change in our beliefs on relationship

yea and Religion too , love your unique perception

udmbat:
I am 100% certain that I would soon be among the list of rich elites in Nigeria. I swear, any woman/lady/girl that comes my way pretending to have one nonsense like/love, I will gun you down. The only women i owe much love and affection are my mum & sisters. Peace

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