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tearoses:
Efe na wa o!
Can't people be "big" and happy?
You make it sound like its a crime
So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.

Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.

My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting.
My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.

Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.

I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance.
So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.

So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.

I come in peace . . .Its Sunday

Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done

tearoses:
Efe na wa o!
Can't people be "big" and happy?
You make it sound like its a crime
So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.

Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.

My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting.
My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.

Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.

I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance.
So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.

So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.

I come in peace . . .Its Sunday

Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done

tearoses:
Efe na wa o!
Can't people be "big" and happy?
You make it sound like its a crime
So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.

Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.

My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting.
My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.

Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.

I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance.
So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.

So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.

I come in peace . . .Its Sunday

Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done

Ewuro4:
Hmm

Happy Thanksgiving Day everyone.

Idowuogbo:
Egbon mi, no sikin ni?

tearoses:
Efe na wa o!
Can't people be "big" and happy?
You make it sound like its a crime
So long as their health is not affected and they are happy within themselves then they just need to get on with life.

SAMBARRY:
Haaa where the waist and yash wey go hold wrapper if you tie wrapper

no waist again no yash no brez.how you go shake ya bom bom.you go just be like letter I

no africanness at all in ya stature. Na chinko stature be that

tearoses:
Some people dont want to be skinny & some men dont even like skinny ladies. Everyome has a choice.

tearoses:
My mama is not a lepa . . however she is over 80 and as far as I can remember has never spent a night in a hospital and when I say remember I am talking at least 30 years. Very active physically and mentally. Tayour will confirm this. She flies by herself several times a year and still cooks & insists on baby sitting.
My pops on the other hand, very slim, tall & handsome bobo, my friends used to think he was my brother sadly passed away very young from illness.

tearoses:
Dont get me wrong, its important to live a healthy life and I am an advocate for that. Good healthy food and excercise is very important.

tearoses:
I read somewhere whaere you said that you have gone from 102kg to 60kg, which suggests to me that like me, you are not a naturally thin person or your metabolism would never allowed you reach that weight in the first instance.
So you have had to work hard at it to get the excess weight off and you will continue to work hard at it for the rest of your life. I work hard at it too so I speak from experience having lost 14kg in 3 months. Its def a lifestyle change.

tearoses:
So rather than make overweight people feel even more bad about themselves, you should be an encourager especially as you know how much hard work its been/is. Rather than criticize, help with tips, share a food and excercise diary and share information & experience.

EfemenaXY:

Babyosisi: I am trying o
I have even started praying about it sef for the Holy Spirit to decrease my appetite for these yummy things and increase the one for eating leaves.
Nne how can I buy icecream cake for a birthday and not eat it
I can't do it by my power o
I need supernatural strength to do it

Lol!

I do believe you're trying even though the tone of your posts might seem otherwise. Believe me, I've been exactly where you are now - countless times, where I start and then fall off track several times. It's not easy, my dear but if this is something you know deep within you, you want, then you'll just have to try and stay focused.

I think what you need to do is adopt a whole new perspective. But first of all, you need to decide if this is just about numbers for you (i.e: dropping the lbs) or a lifestyle change you intend to stick to for the long run. If the latter is the case (which I hope), then try not to look at this as one huge goal. I.e: don't say to yourself, "I need to lose xyz kg by December this year" because December might seem a long way, away and you will be tempted to cheat.

Rather, take this out in mini bits. Give yourself bite-size goals by saying, "I'd like to lose 8lbs in a month's time". Then in that case, to achieve it, you'll be looking at losing an average of 2lbs per week, which is a much more realistic and tangible goal (bearing in mind the recommended amount of weight to safely lose per week is 2-4 lbs). Also, draw up a weekly chart / table for yourself to monitor your progress and stick this on your refrigerator and on your kitchen food cupboards. For each week you hit your target, give yourself a huge green tick. Keep doing this every week and try to be as consistent as possible with this. The reason I'm suggesting this is because have a visual representation of your intended goals make it look a lot more real, rather than having this (vaguely) at the back of your mind. Also, the visual aids will help keep you focused and on the days / evenings you really feel those gnawing cravings, your chart / progress table will go a long way to making you think twice before reaching out for those high energy-little nutritional value foods / snacks. Also, when you see say for example 5 consecutive green tick evidencing your hardwork and success, you'll be less inclined to want to undo all that effort.

Secondly, food shopping. I touched on this in an earlier post - don't know if you saw it. I'd like to think you're the one most in charge of your household food shopping. When next you go to the supermarket, make concerted efforts to avoid even looking at the confectionery section. Avoid it at all costs. Treat that area as a serious health hazard and wheel your trolley to the fresh fruits and vegs section. Stock up on as many different kinds of fruit and vegs as possible. Frozen vegs are good as well. Your reason for doing this is because you want your entire household to come with you on this lifestyle change. Encourage everyone to snack on fresh fruits and veg inbetween meals, rather than on high salt / sugar / fatty oils based processed foods / snacks. Take me for example. Last time I went to the supermarket, I bought: Oranges, Clementines, Green Grapes, Purple Grapes, Pears, Avocados, Golden Melon, Strawberries, Bananas, Apples, Mangoes, Plums, Cucumber, Lettuce, Cress Salad, Carrots, Broccli, Green Peas, Sweet Corn, Mixed frozen veg (Cauliflower, Carrots, Broccoli), Lentils, and Mushrooms. Didn't get the Brussel Sprouts as the store had run out... The aim of having such a wide selection is to cater for everyone's different palattes at home. However, the point I'm trying to make here is that you should resist the temptation to buy the unhealthy stuff. If you don't have it at home, you won't it. Trust me, it's a lot easier to resist buying something than to buy it then try resisting eating it at home.

Thirdly, you will shed a lot of lbs simply by stopping certain foods. I've got three in mind here:

~ Foods with high sugar content. Processed sugars like fizzy drinks, cakes, sweets, chocolates, etc.
~ Foods with high fat content. For example your deep-fried foods, crisps, deep fried chips, things with lots of butter content, etc
~ Foods with high salt / sodium content, most of which you get from processed / ready made meals. Try and cook fresh and cut down on buying ready-made meals. Or better still, eliminate ready-made meals from your shopping list.

Fourth and most important, exercises. Try and find out which exercises you enjoy doing the most. They don't even have to be anything heavy. You can even opt for taking brisk walks. Anything. As long as it gets your heart pumping and you're burning those calories. It's important whatever exercise you chose is something you enjoy, that way, it won't feel like such a chore when doing it. Nonetheless, exercising is very important because you know we aren't spring chickens anymore. As women, when we get to a certain stage, we start losing muscle mass. Then we find out that activities we previously undertook without breaking a sweat, eg carrying your grocery shopping effortlessly up the stairs, suddenly becomes difficult and then next thing you know, a muscle has been pulled or sprained...
Sis, dieting alone won't cut it. As the fat is being lost, the muscles need to be tonned up, else you'll look sickly with lots of lose skin on your thighs, underarms, belly, and bum (I think!) And this was why I touched on drinking lots and lots of water daily. To hydrate your skin and to keep you looking younger. But most importantly, you need the water to replace the fat that's being lost (gradually) to aid your skin "snap" back into place.

I know this might seem a lot to take in, but if Efe could do it, I see no reason why Babyosisi can't. Take your time to go through this in detail and stay focused. Chin up dear and don't give up.

EfemenaXY:

Kayworld26:
Thanks to Efemenaxy...found myself eating raw tomatoes last night

You guys are going a great job here, its really helpful atleast to a silent reader like me...
Found myself exercising before bed yesterday ..and guess what, i felt really good after that and slept like a baby..
Even woke up late today

Although i am not trying to lose weight yet (less than 55kg) but i really want to start eating healthy...
I am also trying to do away with fizzle drinks, not been easy though
But i am gonna try....Water is beginning to taste really good to me these days too, i drink plenty of it now instead of coke

Thanks ladies...keep up the good work as there are some of us gaining from it...

Thanks Kayworld26. Glad to be of help...and good on you girl for choosing to eat clean and keep fit!

You know, once upon a time, I was that same 55kg that you are on now. That was shortly after I'd gotten married. Thing is, I didn't know much about eating right, exercising, and adopting a healthy lifestyle. Infact I wish I knew what I know now. Growing up in Naija, you get told (then) that the fatter you are, the better you look as it shows you're living the good life, and then being slender is not slender but thin and "suffering". Anyway, with each childbirth, I gradually increased in size over the years. At my heaviest (last pregnancy), I weighed a whooping 102kg!

I did at one point (a couple of years before then) tried to lose the weight but I went about it the completely wrong way. I crashed dieted and fasted. Was doing 6-to-6 with some high intensive cardio. Sure I was losing "weight". Came down from 70 something to 65 kg in a matter of weeks. 3 or 4 weeks I think. What I didn't realise at that time was that because I wasn't eating properly, I was losing muscle mass, in addition to fat. It wasn't sustainable and eventually when I stopped, I put the weight back on...and more. I was tipping the scales at 80 something kg. Then I took in with my last pregnancy and went up to 101kg (just before I gave birth).

Anyway, to cut a long story short, I had to do things the right way. Not just dieting, but dieting and exercising. At a slower, more sustainable pace. It's taken me three years to come down from that 102kg to 72kg. That a loss of 30kg in three years. I'm still not yet at my target weight which is to hit 65 kg but I've learnt my lesson. To go nice and easy and at a moderate, sustainable pace. It hasn't been all smiles and sunshine for me as I've fallen off the track a number of times, but the important thing to learn is when you fall off, you pick yourself up, dust yourself, and get on with it. No one's going to do it for you, but yourself.

tearoses:
I come in peace. . .Its Sunday

tearoses:
Lest I forget, a very big well done and thumbs up for your weight loss. Its not easy. Well done

Ewuro4:
Tearoses

Abeg Chillax.

You never wished me a happy thanksgiving abi no be same iya Charlie we dey worship?

tearoses:
Ewoooo ooooooooo
Sorry sis
Happy thanksgiving babes

ifyalways:
Make una two just chillax. Na now wey nld don half-dead finish una two want begin form fight? Ladies, not worth it abeg.

@Kayjasper, wrong timing for that speech. It's patronising and frankly, not needed NOW.

tearoses:
Okay ma'am, Its monday morning and they say what you do on Monday determines what happens the resf of the week
If she likes she can come and quote the whole of an encyclopedia to me
she is just forming and in her quiet time she will mull over what I am saying
Im done with her.
I Promise not to say another word.
How are you all?

ifyalways:
Make una two just chillax. Na now wey nld don half-dead finish una two want begin form fight? Ladies, not worth it abeg.

@Kayjasper, wrong timing for that speech. It's patronising and frankly, not needed NOW.

Ewuro4:
Thank you sis , May we Always have the cause to be thankful.

kayjasper:
Happy thanksgiving Sista Ewuro, wishing you many more ahead.

tearoses:
Ewoooo ooooooooo
Sorry sis
Happy thanksgiving babes
How are you and yours?


I am chill. You know me naw
I go my way you go your way
Why did I call her out?
Look at the way she lambasted that couple
A couple having a happy day out
We will be the ones to say Nigerian men this, Nigerian men that . . . .
Then a man took his wife out and they shared an affectionate pose
Look at that picture again and tell me how can such acid be spewed over such a lovely picture?
Why are people so mean?

babygirlfl:
Madam Ewuro4, happy thanksgiving. Abeg send me some of that food.

Ewuro4:
Ewo babygirl is playing a fast one on me.. What food? No be same iya Charlie county you dey? Abeg do quick jor.

Happy Thanksgiving sweetheart...

How far Ewuro, this one wey everybody just dey greet you happy Thanksgiving left and right since morning.......how far, any food for the boys?

Ewuro4:
Make we kuku settle for the KFC leftover together .. Take 2 , 1 is lots for moi.

[color=#000033] That's how some people will be making someone hungry now.....





Happy Thanksgiving Ewuro, hope u had fun? [/color]

RoyalRoy:
[color=#000033] That's how some people will be making someone hungry now.....





Happy Thanksgiving Ewuro, hope u had fun? [/color]

kayjasper:
@EfemanaXY,

Sincerely I think you are over reacting to a comment that was made in good faith!!!

All these quoting and referrals from past discussions is unwarranted.


To be honest Madame, you need to calm down really.

All your comments here in the past week has been a little bit harsh and unnecessary.
Starting from your comment to the young lady that just joined the room, it was really not a nice comment at all.

Is there any issue bordering you outside of here? Are you having a bad time with life at the moment?

You just need to relax and stay calm please, it will all pass by!!!

ifyalways:
Make una two just chillax. Na now wey nld don half-dead finish una two want begin form fight? Ladies, not worth it abeg.

@Kayjasper, wrong timing for that speech. It's patronising and frankly, not needed NOW.

Ewuro4:
Oh boy.

Idowuogbo @Goons and cronies wait oh , who are the cronies? Not me

tearoses:
It is well
Good morning house
Wishing us all a happy, favoured and fruitful week

Sis Idowu I went to the owambe
The gold and chocolate brown wasnt too bad afer all

Efe I stopped reading your post after the first few lines
Ive made a few points and its left for you to take what applys to you.
What you said about that couple was totlally uncalled for, whether you were talking to Sambarry or not. Do you know the couple? The irony is the woman doesnt even look 102 kg to me.

And for someone who has been persecuted herself on this forum and people stood shoulder to shoulder to support you, even though many of us knew the truth, I would have thought that you would show that same support to people in other situations. Lets just leave that there

And for the record dont you ever addtress me in that way again, I am not your walkover and you dont feed me. I can be quiet and peaceful but I wont take any nonsense from you.
You misyarned and I pointed it out to you. You are not a kid in the romance section and should know better. When adults talk, sense should come out of their mouth.
Its best that you just stay far far away from me but if you refuse to I will give it to you in any flavour you want.