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Knowing the signs that you’re dating someone
who has yet to grow up — or worse, someone
who refuses to grow up — is key in finding
happiness in dating.
Here are some signs he’s not mature enough for
a relationship....

1. A LITTLE OR NO RESPONSIBILITY FOR HIS ACTIONS


A guy who can’t own up to his actions is
definitely not mature. In the real world, we are
all responsible for what we do and say, as well
as what we don’t do or fail to do.

2. HE ONLY WORKS A SUMMER JOB



No, I don’t mean that he’s in school and works
a high-paying job and saves during the summer
to support himself (that’s a really good thing,
actually). The type of guy I’m referring to
works for only a few months a year and spends
all that he earns the other nine. He finds
himself broke every year, has no savings, and
then goes and works odd jobs or a summer job
to continue feeding his bad habits.
Even worse, he may not be able to hold a job
at all. This could be for many reasons, but see
item number one on this list.



3. HE HAS NO DIRECTION


He’s likely dropped out of school and has held
the same position at work for a long time. He
gets up, goes to work, comes home, eats,
sleeps, repeats. Maybe on the weekends he hits
up a party or two, or he sits around playing
video games with all of his spare time. Maybe
he travels a lot without ever really ending up
anywhere. Be careful of this man; if you are
with him long-term, he will drag you down with
him.


4. HE CAN'T MAKE DECISIONS


If there’s anything more indicative of a man
who doesn’t want responsibility, it’s this guy.
He’s wishy-washy; he changes his mind often.
He has missed lots of opportunities.
These types of guys are known to call off
engagements and get cold feet on their wedding
day. Even worse, they could leave after you
marry them. Not being able to make important
decisions is a serious lack of maturity.



5. EVERYTHING IS A COMPETITION TO HIM


This is perhaps one the most unnecessary things
a woman can consistently endure. If your man
has to always be better than you, is always
trying to be No. 1, and never congratulates or
appreciates your successes, watch out.
Competition’s companion is put-downs. If your
man can’t compliment you, tell you that you’re
beautiful and that he thinks you’re wonderful,
then he isn’t the right kind of person; at least
not yet.

Sometimes it can be hard to figure out if your
guy is actually an adult. He may be good at
covering up his immaturity for a time, but it
will come out eventually.

If you find yourself in a relationship with an
immature guy, it’s not the end of the world.
Carefully a$$ess the situation, talk to a close
friend, a mentor or even a professional about
the situation. If you’re not sure what an
emotionally mature man looks like, ask your
friends who seem happy and secure in their
relationships what they like most about their
boyfriend or husband.

A mature man will exhibit adult characteristics
on a consistent, day-to-day basis. Seeking out
and finding these men isn’t always easy, but
they’re out there, waiting for a strong, mature,
independent woman to come along and help them
feel complete.

jampacked

big turnoff

Now that's a load of bullshit ! A round of a plus for this idler

Jarizod:
jampacked

big turnoff

It shows that he is very disorganized and not mature enough to handle a relationship because he would scatter her life without direction just like his post. Smh

redcliff:
It shows that he is very disorganized and not mature enough to handle a relationship because he would scatter her life without direction just like his post. Smh

hahaha very funny....you just go ahead and insult people as you like..... without not thinking if it hurts them or not......rubbish talk....gerrout of my thread and never kum back....in fact you are banned

redcliff:
It shows that he is very disorganized and not mature enough to handle a relationship because he would scatter her life without direction just like his post. Smh

very very wicked

olarhtunji:
hahaha very funny....you just go ahead and insult people as you like..... without not thinking if it hurts them or not......rubbish talk....gerrout of my thread and never kum back....in fact you are banned

who go ban am..u?

Jarizod:
who go ban am..u?

you better do normal...am. not talking to you amebo

olarhtunji:
you better do normal...am. not talking to you amebo

or what

Jarizod:
or what

Abeg test me.....you will know why a fish cannot eat yam

olarhtunji:
Abeg test me.....you will know why a fish cannot eat yam

do ur worst

FUNNY ENOUGH,SOME LADIES SEE THESE IMMATURITIES AN OPPORTUNITY TO 'CONTROL' THE MAN! SINCE HE FINDS IT DIFFICULT TO MAKE DIRECTION AND DECISION FOR HIMSELF