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| What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 1:56pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
I'm presently going towards that part, After few months of dating i finally brought home my fiancee who is from another tribe, she's young and beautiful, everyone seems to like her, she was treated very well, my mum offered her lots of things, she gave her food, gifts and she was happy i was very happy too because I love the way she was accepted by everyone, i love her so much, she also said she likes my mum because shes young and looks simple, and after all that I took her back to her house and on getting back to my parents house still feeling very happy, my mum called me and said "what sort of rubbish is that, don't think you are going to marry that girl, can't you find someone from our place to marry" I was shocked and like, mum what do you mean? what about all those love and care you showed to her when she was here, and my mum replied that well I just did that to her being the first time she came here in order for her to feel good and not think bad of me but the next time you bring her here am going to deal with both of you and throw you out till you get sense, I was shocked and perplexed. My dad is late, my mum remains my only parent and i dont want to disobey her because of that, I have an elder brother who lives abroad and strongly support the family financially, and I know that my mum will call him to convince him of her unsupportiveness to my relationship and ask him to do the same, this is not the first time she has done it thou not on relationships but on some other matters. Now what should I do, call off the relationship/courtship or I should just go on with my girl and marry her whether my family like it or not even thou I know they won't support it. Am confuse, help me with your suggestions. VERY URGENT |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 1:59pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
 :Dbefore you take any decision,ask yourself these questionsare you actually ready to bear the consquences of your actions  If tables where to be turned round,would she have rejected her family because of you Is your mother obstinate Will marrying her be peaceful considering the fact that your mother dont seem to like her?? What if something unpleasant happens in the future,who would you run to knowing fully well marriage isnt al that blissful... Bross if you are not sure about your reply,sit her down and explain why you need to take a walk,marriage these days isnt about a would be man and woman but the whole family, you cant marry a woman when you know your mum would never support it but if you can talk to your mum,atleast to see reasons with you,eeehen  3 Likes |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Vinshu(f): 2:01pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Fuc!k your family man. What matters is your happiness. Those parents would die and leave you in this world. If you love the girl and she loves you too, go for it otherwise don't. In the long run, your parents would have no choice but to support the marriage (if it's successful after a year or two)  1 Like |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Dekatron(m): 2:07pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Nothing. So far I LOVE MY WIFE DEEPLY, Family can suck my Díck. If I had a disastrous marriage, they wnt suffer for me. Especially me that I consider IGBO girls and I am yoruba . . . Nothing Mr and Mrs Onigbinde fit do.  2 Likes |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by agarawu23(m): 2:10pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
My mum first before any other thing. I will not stop following her order because she knows the best and she had experience already. |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 2:11pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
agarawu23: |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 2:12pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Dekatron:family above all other things. |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by agarawu23(m): 2:13pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Cholls(m): 2:41pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Vinshu:my sister ah! In nigeria? E ma ma yaa were! 1 Like |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by IsaacBuchi(m): 2:46pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Jollyjoy: You got brains, girl. Love ur post. A part of me would strongly want to ditch my parents and go on but thinking about this matter quite lately made me realise that family is everything we have. Our greater happiness is determined by our relationship with our family. Our family can hardly desire things that would hurt or affect us negatively. Well, marrying is not an easy decision, requires lot of thought, compromises and mutual understanding. |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Omotayor123(f): 3:02pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Our parents are wrong sometimes especially on cases like this. Though to them, they think their decision is the best. Op just follow your heart, but consider the families too. Remember love always win and it exceed all things. 1 Like |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 3:10pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:you nailed it |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 3:21pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Op pray to God about it. If I were you, I would date the girl for some time if she doesn't give me any reason to doubt her loyalty, I mean no red flags then I would go ahead and marry her. This is because to me, your mum's reason is baseless and don't allow her preference deny you the chance of marital bliss. Once you are in you can never get out |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by tpiander: 3:27pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
few months of dating and you are already fighting your mum. good luck. so, when the lady was a girlfriend, you never introduced her to your family. why do some men just not have sense when it comes to women? |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 3:46pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Omotayor123:thanks. I really wants to follow my heart since I love the girl, but the fear of rejection I will face is troubling me, it will come massively if I continue with the girl and I may be like an alien in her family and a stranger in my own family. |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by emperorchedda(m): 4:09pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Ask your mum what exactly is the reason for her disapproval, if it's just because of her tribe, then your mum has no reason Spend some time with the girl, read and understand her, if she's loving and different from other girls, meets all your criteria then you have no reason to bail. You're the one spending the rest of your life in the marriage and not your mum, these days good girls are VERY RARE and diminishing by the hour you can't afford to lose one because of your mum's tribal bigotry Go ahead with your plans and as years goes by mumsy will have no other choice but to love her son's wifey |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by tpiander: 5:21pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Tosinex: love does not keep a marriage or relationship, however you seem like a woman wrapper, so na you sabi. Na only you waka come? Una plenty in such "quandary" nah. If you cant date someone you know your parents will approve of, why bringing the matter here, what should we do ? |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by IamLEGEND1: 6:04pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
if ur mom's only reason for rejecting the girl is because of her tribe then she is just an archaic tribalist and doesn't get to have a say in who you marry. forget that nónsense about "family first" ur mom's reasoning is already clouded by tribal sentiments. allow me to echo the words of my comrade above,if ur mom no get any concrete reason for rejecting ur girlfriend....... then to hell with her opinion. ur parents can only control ur life for so long. and if the rest of the family will side with her,then here is what you gon' tell them.... "ENVELOPE UR COLLECTIVE LIPS AROUND MY PHALLUS AND APPLY SUCTION" mrsphyno love,I hope say we no go experience diz wahala. |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Omotayor123(f): 7:04pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Tosinex:Trust me, it won't be easy. But your Determination (both of you) to make it work will help you scale through and your families will end up accepting your relationship. |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by tpiander: 7:24pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Dekatron: IamLEGEND1: do you folks regularly do that in your families, or why are the expressions so natural to you. see horseband material, na person go marry una. |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by IamLEGEND1: 7:37pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
tpiander:
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| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 7:43pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
IsaacBuchi:And a man's foes shall be they of his household. 1 Like |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by tunapius(m): 7:52pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Dekatron:mr man, u aint got probs atal, na ur yf life go tire..... |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by misspicy(f): 7:58pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Jollyjoy:@ tosinex....answer is here Madam joy,na like this u wise  |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 8:00pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
misspicy: ,but no call d joy in sulky vioce ooo,use super sexy vioce, |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by belindankem: 8:09pm On Oct 18, 2015 |
Family first sha but shine ur eyes very well so u wnt end up regretting |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by Nobody: 6:37pm On Oct 20, 2015 |
misspicy:thanks.. It's a good advice |
| Re: What Happens To A Marriage Not Supported By The Parents:: by quinox: 11:25pm On Jun 23, 2020 |
[center]greetings to you all, i am in a state of confusion right now i dont knw what to do.[color=#000099][/color] i meet this girl when i moved to another area and we started dating last year November i took her home to my parents december and everybody like her since i have intention to marry her she asked me to support her in her work which i agreed to get a shop for her but i insist to make a proper introduction with her people which her grandma she grew up with refuse saying, we should hold on and because of my love for her i rented the shop for her. and this is june her family has not called me and non of the family sees me as an in-law, she refuses me coming to her house, we dont relate the grandmum answers my greetings in a casual way and i am scared of marrying from a family i cant relate with because we cant really predict marriage even now if she does wrong i dont know who to talk to in order caution her when she ignores my caution even her aunt that gist with me is now changed in her attitude towards me and the girl loves me. please i need advice, thanks.[/center][left][/left] |
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